AN EX....

rick · Guru

RE: AN EX....

GITANA · Guru

poli069 wrote:

oohh just forget it .....if he calls and u r not doing nothing...well just give it to him one more time...use him as your boy toy kinda thing...human dildo....etc,etc...use him only when u r in need....and see how fast he will stop calling....

HELL NO!!! IT'S QUITE OKAY... I DON'T NEED HIM FOR ANYTHING!!!

poli069 · Senior Member

oohh just forget it .....if he calls and u r not doing nothing...well just give it to him one more time...use him as your boy toy kinda thing...human dildo....etc,etc...use him only when u r in need....and see how fast he will stop calling....

Chale Tanga · TOP Guru

@ confu:

Drama free girl.... DRAMA FREE

confundida · Foro Master

GENIE wrote:

confundida wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

confundida wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Julie wrote:

confundida wrote:

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Most likely

Yup, soon time ladies

WHY I'VE BEEN GOOD, REAL GOOD!!!!!

No mija, intervention for me. Starbuks????

OH YEAH...NOT UNTIL NEXT WEEK IM NOT IN SKEWL !!!!!! AND CHESS I JUST WOKE UP .........

if u have been good then im a fawken NUN!!! but i agree with chale an a$$ kicking is in the works!!! right in time for her to start the new year fresh and free and .......

THAT A LITTLE EXTREME!!! FREE LIKE7 A BIRD?? OR FREE LIKE JAIL FREE???

GENIE · Foro Master

confundida wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

confundida wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Julie wrote:

confundida wrote:

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Most likely

Yup, soon time ladies

WHY I'VE BEEN GOOD, REAL GOOD!!!!!

No mija, intervention for me. Starbuks????

OH YEAH...NOT UNTIL NEXT WEEK IM NOT IN SKEWL !!!!!! AND CHESS I JUST WOKE UP .........

if u have been good then im a fawken NUN!!! but i agree with chale an a$$ kicking is in the works!!! right in time for her to start the new year fresh and free and .......

confundida · Foro Master

Colombiana4Life wrote:

confundida wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Julie wrote:

confundida wrote:

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Most likely

Yup, soon time ladies

WHY I'VE BEEN GOOD, REAL GOOD!!!!!

No mija, intervention for me. Starbuks????

OH YEAH...NOT UNTIL NEXT WEEK IM NOT IN SKEWL !!!!!! AND CHESS I JUST WOKE UP .........

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

confundida wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Julie wrote:

confundida wrote:

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Most likely

Yup, soon time ladies

WHY I'VE BEEN GOOD, REAL GOOD!!!!!

No mija, intervention for me. Starbuks????

confundida · Foro Master

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Julie wrote:

confundida wrote:

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Most likely

Yup, soon time ladies

WHY I'VE BEEN GOOD, REAL GOOD!!!!!

LGigolo · Comandante

@Colo, Gitana & Angelita: SEEEEEEEEEEEEE – My good looks is not all that I have – I do have some brains that come along with it!

Quixote · Guru

Colombiana4Life wrote:

It could be taken as constructive criticism it is an ex that you have a civil relationship with. But if it's someone who is just "sour" because the relationship is over, I think that any "criticism" that they have will just be a way to lash out at the person and to get under their skin.

That's true. If that is the situation I would say that jealousy, bitterness, anger would apply. In which case it's best to minimize communication as much as possible. The ex should not be given the opportunity to lash out in the first place.

angelita · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

I think a LOT of the drama that may happen depends on how much one is willing to put up with – regardless of whether kids are involved or not. But I think people, for some reason, allow themselves to put up with a lot more when there are kids involved. Keeping your private life private from your ex’s ears may be impossible, specially if he/she wants to find out and people are informing them. But the ex has not place to demand explanations or tell you how YOU should be living YOUR life… so ignore and avoid topics that are none of their business and be CONSISTENT at doing that – Eventually he will get the point and give up!

This should be highlighted!! This is something ex's should keep in mind! No one should be giving anyone explanations! and AVOID and CONSISTENT are the keywords in this post!!

GITANA · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

I think a LOT of the drama that may happen depends on how much one is willing to put up with – regardless of whether kids are involved or not. But I think people, for some reason, allow themselves to put up with a lot more when there are kids involved. Keeping your private life private from your ex’s ears may be impossible, specially if he/she wants to find out and people are informing them. point But the ex has not place to demand explanations or tell you how YOU should be living YOUR life… so ignore and avoid topics that are none of their business and be CONSISTENT at doing that – Eventually he will get the and give up!

THAT'S WHY I LOVE YA SO MUCH!!

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

LGigolo wrote:

I think a LOT of the drama that may happen depends on how much one is willing to put up with – regardless of whether kids are involved or not. But I think people, for some reason, allow themselves to put up with a lot more when there are kids involved. Keeping your private life private from your ex’s ears may be impossible, specially if he/she wants to find out and people are informing them. But the ex has not place to demand explanations or tell you how YOU should be living YOUR life… so ignore and avoid topics that are none of their business and be CONSISTENT at doing that – Eventually he will get the point and give up!

Well said

LGigolo · Comandante

I think a LOT of the drama that may happen depends on how much one is willing to put up with – regardless of whether kids are involved or not. But I think people, for some reason, allow themselves to put up with a lot more when there are kids involved. Keeping your private life private from your ex’s ears may be impossible, specially if he/she wants to find out and people are informing them. But the ex has not place to demand explanations or tell you how YOU should be living YOUR life… so ignore and avoid topics that are none of their business and be CONSISTENT at doing that – Eventually he will get the point and give up!

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

Quixote wrote:

There were some good replies from Phantasma and LadyBug.

If you sense jealousy then it is best to eliminate or reduce communication as much as possible.

If you sense someone is trying to give you constructive criticism then hear them out. After all, if you can accept constructive criticisms from other friends, why not from your ex who you decided to be friends with? Just be prepared to hear things you may not want to hear.

It could be taken as constructive criticism it is an ex that you have a civil relationship with. But if it's someone who is just "sour" because the relationship is over, I think that any "criticism" that they have will just be a way to lash out at the person and to get under their skin.

poli069 · Senior Member

GITANA wrote:

poli069 wrote:

gitana..you know I'm here for you...!! when are we gonna meet and make that "ex" jealous....!!!

HAVE WE MET??

not yet..but I feel like a know u...!! so email me your msn or ph nbr...and we can get to know each other better..!!

Quixote · Guru

There were some good replies from Phantasma and LadyBug.

If you sense jealousy then it is best to eliminate or reduce communication as much as possible.

If you sense someone is trying to give you constructive criticism then hear them out. After all, if you can accept constructive criticisms from other friends, why not from your ex who you decided to be friends with? Just be prepared to hear things you may not want to hear.

Chale Tanga · TOP Guru

@ Colo: Its cuz we're cut from the same drama-hating cloth

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

Chale Tanga wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Yup, soon time ladies

An intervention AND an a$$ kick

Oh girl, u understand me so well.

Chale Tanga · TOP Guru

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Yup, soon time ladies

An intervention AND an a$$ kick

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

Julie wrote:

confundida wrote:

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Most likely

Yup, soon time ladies

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

Dogo wrote:

I think, also, a lot of people don’t know how to deal with breakups

It doesn’t ALWAYS have to be hostile. Most people think that because you’re no longer involved romantically, that there’s absolutely no room for any other type of relationship, and that for some reason you both have the right to lash out at each other for the stupidest reasons, and don’t really make an effort to have a decent, non romantic, civil relationship.
SPECIALLY if there are children involved BOTH have to make an effort

More times than not, if ONE complains about the OTHER or and the OTHER complains about THIS one, you’re very likely BOTH at fault for not putting up with trivial crap. Sorry, but that’s been my experience

I’ve managed to stay friends with pretty much all my Xs (except for psycho b*tch) or at the very least I try. Keeps me stress free

-- Edited by Dogo at 20:58, 2006-11-22

-- Edited by Dogo at 21:00, 2006-11-22

I totally agree with you Dogo. But it's true, some people just cant deal with these situations and then they think it's either all or nothing. If the relationship doesent go the way they want it to then there is no room for being civil and respecting the other person's wishes. But I can understand Gitana's frustration in the sense that why is all this coming about now. Never before did this individual care and now that there is nothing to be gained, this attitude comes out. Trust me, it's very annoying.

angelita · Guru

GITANA wrote:

I ACTUALLY DO USE IT.. THATS WHY I IGNORE HIS CALLS!!

If that's what you have been doing, then keep it up and you'll be stress free. There's no need to complain, because you are not giving into his drama. I was stressed at one point, but it didn't last long. All i did was get my message through and ignore.

BTW, has anyone ever thought of how girls can be. I have seen girls go crazy on their ex's, so it actually goes both ways!! I know of one girl, who after their breakup, she would use thier daughter in order to get to him. For example, they bumped into eachother at a club once and she told him that if he didn't go home with her, then he was not allowed to see their daughter!! I hate people that do this. My gawd if your ex does not want you, then leave your ex alone!!!!

So really, it's not just men that can get persistant and become possesive!!

Salsera de Corazon · TOP Guru

I know Gitana who that f*ck cares of what he thinks, ignored him,don't pay attention

Julie · Comandante

confundida wrote:

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Most likely

confundida · Foro Master

IM NOT EVEN GOING TO REPLY TO THIS THREAD CUZ AT THE END IM GOING TO END WITH AN INTERVENTION!!!!!!

Dogo · Comandante

GITANA wrote:

PRECIOSA wrote:

@ GITANA...
GIRL I NEVER KNEW YOUR LIFE IS SO COMPLICATED...

FORGET IT...IGNORE IT...PAY NO ATTENTION...TAKE NO NOTICE...CLOSE THE EYES...PAY NO HEED TO...DISREGARD...DO NOT TAKE INTO ACCOUNT...OVER LOOK...DISCOUNT...DISPENSE WITH...TURN YOUR BACK...NOTICE...

WELL I HOPE THAT HELPED...!!!

WELL THAT IS WHAT I HAVE BEN DOING ... YET HE ALL OF A SUDDEN STARTED TO GIVE A S***!!

Ok, but how does HIM giving a sh*t, affect YOU though?

What I'm trying to say is: why do you care if he gives a sh*t or not?

-- Edited by Dogo at 23:35, 2006-11-22

GITANA · Guru

PRECIOSA wrote:

@ GITANA...
GIRL I NEVER KNEW YOUR LIFE IS SO COMPLICATED...

FORGET IT...IGNORE IT...PAY NO ATTENTION...TAKE NO NOTICE...CLOSE THE EYES...PAY NO HEED TO...DISREGARD...DO NOT TAKE INTO ACCOUNT...OVER LOOK...DISCOUNT...DISPENSE WITH...TURN YOUR BACK...NOTICE...

WELL I HOPE THAT HELPED...!!!

WELL THAT IS WHAT I HAVE BEN DOING ... YET HE ALL OF A SUDDEN STARTED TO GIVE A S***!!

PRECIOSA · Guru

Dogo wrote:

I think, also, a lot of people don’t know how to deal with breakups

It doesn’t ALWAYS have to be hostile. Most people think that because you’re no longer involved romantically, that there’s absolutely no room for any other type of relationship, and that for some reason you both have the right to lash out at each other for the stupidest reasons, and don’t really make an effort to have a decent, non romantic, civil relationship.
SPECIALLY if there are children involved BOTH have to make an effort

More times than not, if ONE complains about the OTHER or and the OTHER complains about THIS one, you’re very likely BOTH at fault for not putting up with trivial crap. Sorry, but that’s been my experience

I’ve managed to stay friends with pretty much all my Xs (except for psycho b*tch) or at the very least I try. Keeps me stress free

-- Edited by Dogo at 20:58, 2006-11-22

-- Edited by Dogo at 21:00, 2006-11-22

AND ONCE AGAIN...HE STATES A VALID POINT...

DOGO...THE MASTER OF ROMANCE...

@ GITANA...

GIRL I NEVER KNEW YOUR LIFE IS SO COMPLICATED...

FORGET IT...IGNORE IT...PAY NO ATTENTION...TAKE NO NOTICE...CLOSE THE EYES...PAY NO HEED TO...DISREGARD...DO NOT TAKE INTO ACCOUNT...OVER LOOK...DISCOUNT...DISPENSE WITH...TURN YOUR BACK...NOTICE...

WELL I HOPE THAT HELPED...!!!

Dogo · Comandante

I think, also, a lot of people don’t know how to deal with breakups

It doesn’t ALWAYS have to be hostile. Most people think that because you’re no longer involved romantically, that there’s absolutely no room for any other type of relationship, and that for some reason you both have the right to lash out at each other for the stupidest reasons, and don’t really make an effort to have a decent, non romantic, civil relationship.
SPECIALLY if there are children involved BOTH have to make an effort

More times than not, if ONE complains about the OTHER or and the OTHER complains about THIS one, you’re very likely BOTH at fault for not putting up with trivial crap. Sorry, but that’s been my experience

I’ve managed to stay friends with pretty much all my Xs (except for psycho b*tch) or at the very least I try. Keeps me stress free

-- Edited by Dogo at 20:58, 2006-11-22

-- Edited by Dogo at 21:00, 2006-11-22

GITANA · Guru

McOSIRIS wrote:

I'm sorry, but ur such a novelas freak...

if u have call display USE IT!!!!

I ACTUALLY DO USE IT.. THATS WHY I IGNORE HIS CALLS!!

GITANA · Guru

poli069 wrote:

gitana..you know I'm here for you...!! when are we gonna meet and make that "ex" jealous....!!!

HAVE WE MET??

caliche · Guru

thank God i dont go on foro nomore... this same bull sh!!t happening again?? good it has nothing to do w me.

y seguis con lo mismo.

poli069 · Senior Member

GITANA wrote:

Chale Tanga wrote:

Boys suck. Throw rocks at them.

ROCKS??? GIRL I'D BE THROWING PUNCHES!!

I HATE PEOPLE THAT LOVE TO TALK S***!!!

gitana..you know I'm here for you...!! when are we gonna meet and make that "ex" jealous....!!!

Salsera de Corazon · TOP Guru

Well sorry to read all of this from the single moms, thank god I don't go through this situation my ex never bothers me about my personal life and we have a great communication

LaDyBuG · Comandante

Phantasma wrote:

SHAAAAAAA right..... fat chance! it will all be back to its normal drama filled way next friday/saturday at a night club near you!

We all know women have a more Curious nature to them than men and we looove attention....so yep....probably....LOL

Phantasma · TOP Guru

angelita wrote:

You are right! I agree! Hopefully some of the foros girls can read this and follow through!

SHAAAAAAA right..... fat chance! it will all be back to its normal drama filled way next friday/saturday at a night club near you!

Guadalupana · Foro Master

You are right! I agree! Hopefully some of the foros girls can read this and follow through!

N/A

angelita · Guru

LaDyBuG wrote:

How many of you single moms have baby daddy drama?

Do you think those men consider you guys as "baby mamma dramma" also? why?

If you have both moved on "emotionally"......why do you think this drama continues? Because I'm sure only a percentage of the "drama" revolves around the children.....the rest is about being jelaous, possessive, annoying....and I bet it all starts with "throwing unnecessary remarks" to each other......and don't forget that NO MAN wants his babies' mamma at some club, drunk, dancing with some other guy.....because if they no longer see you as a life partner...to them you are still the mother of HIS kids.....and for that it might come across as controlling to you....but this is a TIE neither of you will ever break....you're in it for life.....so you have to aguantar unless it's law breaking.....(stalking, trespassing...etc)

I'm sure none of these guys are HORRIBLE people either.....they can feel hurt....feel jelaous for whom they still consider THEIR woman....and that's how they react or lash out.....If you as a woman put up with this.....then I'm sorry but "te lo mereces".....and by putting up I mean actually picking up the phone and listening to his non-kids related BS...

If you have to talk about the kids....then just talk about that.....when he says "I saw you at some club....bla bla.....you say So what time you picking up the kids"......and do that 2 times.....if he doesnt get the point....hang up on him until he does.....

I Know it's not easy....and it's easier said than done...I KNOW THIS.......but at the same time....where is your self control and discipline? You will flake once, twice...but c'mon...ALL THE TIME!!! Then I can assume you are really enjoying it....

Like I told a certain foro member....KEEP THE CONVERSATION TO THE POINT AND IGNORE THE REST otherwise you become an acomplice to your own life's drama.....

You are right! I agree! Hopefully some of the foros girls can read this and follow through!

MzHercules · Senior Member

its tru i wouldnt listen if i were u id be like ok blah blah blah.... i got more important things 2 do then here u **** about things that dont concern u later

McOSIRIS · Comandante

GITANA wrote:

I FIND THIS TO BE VERY FUNNY... YOU DATE SOMEONE FOR MONTHS/YRS...THINGS DON'T WORK OUT, YOU EACH GO YOUR OWN SEPRATE WAYS AND THEY REPLACE YOU IN A HEART BEAT... BUT THE MOMENT THEY HEAR THAT YOU ARE GOING OUT AND HAVING FUN .... THEY'RE BACK TO TELL YOU WHAT THEY THINK.... WTF IS THAT ALL ABOUT?? AN EX IS AN EX FOR A REASON!!!

I'm sorry, but ur such a novelas freak...

if u have call display USE IT!!!!

LaDyBuG · Comandante

How many of you single moms have baby daddy drama?

Do you think those men consider you guys as "baby mamma dramma" also? why?

If you have both moved on "emotionally"......why do you think this drama continues? Because I'm sure only a percentage of the "drama" revolves around the children.....the rest is about being jelaous, possessive, annoying....and I bet it all starts with "throwing unnecessary remarks" to each other......and don't forget that NO MAN wants his babies' mamma at some club, drunk, dancing with some other guy.....because if they no longer see you as a life partner...to them you are still the mother of HIS kids.....and for that it might come across as controlling to you....but this is a TIE neither of you will ever break....you're in it for life.....so you have to aguantar unless it's law breaking.....(stalking, trespassing...etc)

I'm sure none of these guys are HORRIBLE people either.....they can feel hurt....feel jelaous for whom they still consider THEIR woman....and that's how they react or lash out.....If you as a woman put up with this.....then I'm sorry but "te lo mereces".....and by putting up I mean actually picking up the phone and listening to his non-kids related BS...

If you have to talk about the kids....then just talk about that.....when he says "I saw you at some club....bla bla.....you say So what time you picking up the kids"......and do that 2 times.....if he doesnt get the point....hang up on him until he does.....

I Know it's not easy....and it's easier said than done...I KNOW THIS.......but at the same time....where is your self control and discipline? You will flake once, twice...but c'mon...ALL THE TIME!!! Then I can assume you are really enjoying it....

Like I told a certain foro member....KEEP THE CONVERSATION TO THE POINT AND IGNORE THE REST otherwise you become an acomplice to your own life's drama.....

Phantasma · TOP Guru

angelita wrote:

These topics are too funny!!

Girl, can't you just stop answering phone calls and just Ignore? Unless of course you want to let the drama around!!

ding, ding, ding, ding!!!!

angelita · Guru

GITANA wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Funny you should mention this, I totally agree with this sentiment. You know my drama

GUESS NOW IT'S MY TURN...

SEEMS HE HAS A "CERTAIN SOMEONE" WHO READS FORO AND TELLS HIM WHAT I POST AND WHERE I GO PARTY!! LMAO! THAT'S PATHETIC...

These topics are too funny!!

Girl, can't you just stop answering phone calls and just Ignore? Unless of course you want to let the drama around!!

TV Buff · TOP Guru

Phantasma wrote:

Lets be real ladies,

Aint nobody forcing you to hear nothin your ex man has to say to you. If you really wanted them out of your life you'd cut em off like they did kuntakinte's foot. Only reason why they're still in your life is cause YOU allow them to be.

Fact is you probably enjoy the attention they bring forth and with the attention comes the drama. Some people love drama in their lives. Its the sad reality of things.

OMG!!!!

DID THEY REALLY HAVE TO CUT OFF POOR KUNTA'S FOOT?! Damn those yankees!!!

throw rocks at them!!!

Phantasma · TOP Guru

God wrote:

For that, I'm going to apply the VISA commercial...

"If life were like that you wouldn't need a Lawyer"

Breakups are nasty and more when theres assets and kids involved.

-- Edited by God at 13:47, 2006-11-22

Isnt that what I said? Unless there are lawyers and/or kids involved than it should be as simple as cuttin them off your life.

If you CHOOSE to keep them around, either cause ur a dramadict or you still have feelings for them like in Angelita's case... then you are not allowed to complain... el que por su gusto es guey, dicen por ay...

angelita · Guru

Phantasma wrote:

Please refer to my original post and get over yourself.

Thanks.

Bah!! heehee I just read this, please refer to my last post!! I totally agree with you. But there will be stress for a moment until the person actually "understands" (keyword). Once you've been clear, then you cannot complain anymore!! Unless of course the guy is pyscho, then that's when a restraining order must come into place!

-- Edited by angelita at 13:51, 2006-11-22

angelita · Guru

LaDyBuG wrote:

Phantasma wrote:

Lets be real ladies,

Aint nobody forcing you to hear nothin your ex man has to say to you. If you really wanted them out of your life you'd cut em off like they did kuntakinte's foot. Only reason why they're still in your life is cause YOU allow them to be.

Fact is you probably enjoy the attention they bring forth and with the attention comes the drama. Some people love drama in their lives. Its the sad reality of things.

SORRY LADIES...BUT THIS MAN MAKES A LOT OF SENSE.....THIS IS TRUE.....I AGREE 100%....AND MOST OF YOU WOMEN ARE "ADDICTED" TO BF DRAMA......YOU MUST ENJOY THE ATTENTION IF YOU'RE PUTTING UP WITH IT......

WHEN HE CALLS....DON'T PICK UP.....WHEN HE APPROACHES YOU WALK AWAY.....IF HE IS FORCING YOU TO LISTEN TO HIM.....CALL THE COPS!! TA-DA!!

I agree with you both. If you don't have "ties" with that person, just let them know that you don't want him to call you or approach you. It's easy as that. Unless you still have feelings for that person and he happens to do what Gitana said, then that's a different story. That's when there's drama and headaches, cause you really don't want him to disappear

God · Foro Master

Phantasma wrote:

GITANA wrote:

Phantasma wrote:

Lets be real ladies,

Aint nobody forcing you to hear nothin your ex man has to say to you. If you really wanted them out of your life you'd cut em off like they did kuntakinte's foot. Only reason why they're still in your life is cause YOU allow them to be.

I WISH IT WAS THAT EASY FOR ME... BUT I HAVE NO CHOICE!!

why? u married? are their lawyers involved? do ya'll got some kids together or something? cause if so I could understand why you would still have to see each other every other weekend and on holidays but other than that... This is how the conversation would play out:

EX MAN: Yo..... I seen you at (insert club name here) pissed drunk dancing with some dude, wtf?
YOU: and? is there a point to this conversation?
EX MAN: BLAH BLAH BLAH
YOU: Dude, I got ish to do. lates, son.

For that, I'm going to apply the VISA commercial...

"If life were like that you wouldn't need a Lawyer"

Breakups are nasty and more when theres assets and kids involved.

-- Edited by God at 13:47, 2006-11-22