I honestly just feel that she misses going out with him and the rest of their group like they did back in the day. I think that she's taking it more like I came in the picture and squashed their fun, rather then look at it as me joining in on their fun. I over stand how she feels, because I kind of went through it with my best friend as well at one point. I was also b*tching that she spent more time with her man then with her friends, but guess why I was like that? Well simple at that time she had a man, I did not. So I was just looking at it from a single person's perspective, and not from a committed person's perspective. I guess I felt left out and like she didn't care about our friendship, because she was neglecting it for her man. Well my point is that my bf's friend might feel this way, because she is single, and never really had a serious relationship like my bf and I have. I know that she is only looking at it from her point of view and not from our point of view. Anyway I am putting this behind me, and I will not hold it against her, because after all she is human and isn't perfect. She also deserves a second chance, and I'm willing to give her that chance as long as she doesn't bad mouth me anymore.
Funny you mention this 'cause it's a huge pet peeve of mine I don't think his friend is completely wrong in thinking that he doesn't go out because he now has a woman. Not your fault, but If anything I think your BF is to blame. My guess is that if he were still single he would still go out with his friend, no matter how tired he was from work I've had this done to me many times with old friends. They get a woman/man and they're out of the picture. As soon as they become single again, they're back in and calling you to see what's going on this weekend, pfffft! None of us are immune to this, but I hope I never become this type of person (at least I hope I haven't) I think a good balance is ideal but it doesn't look like your BF is giving his friends any time
As far as my previous comment goes....... well, I doubt us, "typical guys" (LB, lol) and women will ever see eye to eye on that issue I probably would've brushed/laughed it off and not lost a second of sleep on it, and it would've never come up, I think
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Why wouldn't you have tried to patch things up with her "woman to woman"....and make an effort for everyone's sake.....especially your BF......meaning, you take the first step.....and be-friend her.....HE is what the 2 of you have in common and in a way HE is stuck in between.....because I'm also sure she didn't do it intentionally and if she really liked you, all this would not be happening right? So you might not have made yourself "likeable" to her and the group.....and your man not going out with them anymore made them hate you more.....it just added to it...... I did try to patch things up with her before. I talked to her and explained everything to her one on one. I told her that I had nothing against her, and that I wanted to get along with her, and that if she had a problem with me or something that I did, that she should come talk to me, rather then start to bash me. I guess our talk did not help, because just when I thought things were squashed she brought it all back up again. This situation right now is just a continuation from the last problem. When we first met we were cool. She liked me (so I thought) and I liked her. There was no problem, until she started to complain that my man didn't go out as often. Then she had to go and make the comment that I never let him out, and that when he did go out he brought me along. I mean come on what kind of comment is that? "When he does come out he brings her along" of course he's going to bring me along I'm his girl and soon to be wife for crying out loud. What does she expect...that's just how I took that statement.
I believe everything you have said is true.....BUT I have also seen many scenarios like this one.....and most of the time it happens when the "group" doesn't like their friend's new girlfriend.....I think if they actually liked you....all this "tension" would not have happened....Yeah you're right, but it's not the group that I have an issue with. The issue is just with this one female, and no one else. I get along just fine with the rest of them. In fact I'm good friends with many of them.
Why wouldn't you have tried to patch things up with her "woman to woman"....and make an effort for everyone's sake.....especially your BF......meaning, you take the first step.....and be-friend her.....HE is what the 2 of you have in common and in a way HE is stuck in between.....because I'm also sure she didn't do it intentionally and if she really liked you, all this would not be happening right? So you might not have made yourself "likeable" to her and the group.....and your man not going out with them anymore made them hate you more.....it just added to it......
I believe everything you have said is true.....BUT I have also seen many scenarios like this one.....and most of the time it happens when the "group" doesn't like their friend's new girlfriend.....I think if they actually liked you....all this "tension" would not have happened....
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Well I didn't have to say much. She messed her story up, and now my bf knows her true feelings towards me. He made it clear that I'm not going anywhere, and if she doesn't like it she can take a hike. He also made it clear to her for the 100th time that the reason he does not go out often is not because of me, but because he is really tired from work. He doesn't sit around all day in front of a computer like she does (no offence to anyone) lol. His job is a physical one, and that tires him out a lot, so on the weekends he prefers to stay home and relax with me. Of course she did not understand this, and continued to b*tch, and say that he could make an effort, and since he got a girl he doesn't come out (that was her slip up) she denied saying that at first when he had asked her if she said that, and in her rage it came out, but she quickly added that she wasn't blaming it on me. Lol (yeah sure lol) it was too late by then, because he already knew what she meant. In the end I got what I wanted, and no it wasn't to get her out of his life, but to make him see how she was and how she felt about me. (Mostly how she felt about me, because he didn't really believe it at first) They're still friends, but she's on a short leash at the moment until she starts to act like an adult, and not like a little b*tch. I'm fine with this as long as she doesn't start up any more drama. There's more to it, but we'll be here forever...anyway that's the overall look at the situation right now.
I honestly just feel that she misses going out with him and the rest of their group like they did back in the day. I think that she's taking it more like I came in the picture and squashed their fun, rather then look at it as me joining in on their fun. I over stand how she feels, because I kind of went through it with my best friend as well at one point. I was also b*tching that she spent more time with her man then with her friends, but guess why I was like that? Well simple at that time she had a man, I did not. So I was just looking at it from a single person's perspective, and not from a committed person's perspective. I guess I felt left out and like she didn't care about our friendship, because she was neglecting it for her man. Well my point is that my bf's friend might feel this way, because she is single, and never really had a serious relationship like my bf and I have. I know that she is only looking at it from her point of view and not from our point of view. Anyway I am putting this behind me, and I will not hold it against her, because after all she is human and isn't perfect. She also deserves a second chance, and I'm willing to give her that chance as long as she doesn't bad mouth me anymore.
Dogo wrote: I do all the time...trust me. I don't give him sh*t when he does either. I even tell him to go out, but he's the one who doesn't want to go out, because he says he's tired from work. In the end his friend finds it easier to blame it on me.
Sometimes women's messages are very subtle, like for example saying "Yes! go out!" while raising an eyebrow We pick up on such subtleties it's different to say it than it is to mean it A friends GF would always say "yes go" but really meant "go, and when you get home I'll kick your a$$, and no sex for a week!"
Question: do YOU also go out by yourself? Yup, but most of the time we go out in a big group. (His friends and my friends) I ask because I had an idiot once tell me that he wouldn't go out by himself 'cause then his girl would ALSO have the right to go out by herself....... healthy couples, I tell ya
I really have no problem with him going out on his own, and when he does trust me I do not call him down all night. I trust my man. There's no need for me to be checking up on him when he goes out on his own with his friends. He's a big man he knows how to take care of himself.
I think you’re just jealous and trying to find an excuse to get her out of your BF’s life I'm sorry but you're dead wrong on that one. There's nothing to be jealous about, and I'm not the type of person that goes around starting drama for no reason at all. If I do start something with someone, it's because I have good reason to do so.
And SHE’s probably jealous of you as well ("typical girls", a la LB, lol) I agree. Only, because I know that before I was even in the picture my bf, her, and two other friends of theirs (one male, one female) always use to go to clubs together. People always use to think that this girl that is giving me problems and my bf were a couple, and that the other two were a couple...but since my bf and I are together now...things are not that way anymore...so I do believe that she may be upset at this...but oh well... I have also caught all the dirty looks that she has thrown my way.
I don’t really think there’s much wrong with this What is there to unmask? The fact that she doesn't really like me, that she's putting up a front, talks sh*t about me, is trying to make me look bad in front of my bf's friends, and is nothing but a two face. Do you need any more reasons? I'm sorry if you may feel that it's ok for your friends to be this way, but I do not, and I most certainly do not want my bf hanging around people like that, because all they do is start drama. That she THINKS you don’t let your BF go out? Is that IT?! (that’s all you really accused her of) big deal And actually, that may very well be true (I mean, you haven’t denied it) Actually I did in a way. I put "lol" beside that comment, because I found it to be funny due to the fact that it is not true. I have never ever told my bf not to go out whenever he wanted to go out with his friends only. He is the one who decides whether if he wants to go out or not. I have never given him a hard time for going out with his friends either...why should I...if I go out with my girls all the time. And how is that so deserving of "unmasking" someone?... It’s probably not even a secret between them two Your BF’s reaction to you unmasking her would likely be: "ok, so?" What makes you say that? Just for your information, that's not how he reacted.
And her, stating that her opinion is that you don’t let your BF out, doesn’t exactly qualify as "talking sh*t" Umm I don't know what world you come from, but to me it does, because she was assuming that this is the case, when in fact that is not the truth. She wants to believe that I'm the one keeping him from going out, when in fact he is the one who does not want to go out all the time. He has even told her this, but she's so dumb that she can't understand this, so she blames me. Get it now? Perhaps not...after all you are a man...lol j/ks I don't know what "talking sh*t" means to you, but to me "talking ****" is when you make statements about a person or persons that are false, but if the statement is true then it wouldn't be "talking sh*t", it would be telling the truth. In this case it's nothing but sh*t talk on her part. It’s not like she’s going around saying you’re a slut! If that’s what she thinks you DO, well.... that is just what she THINKS you do. Since when is that "talking sh*t"? No she's not saying I'm a slut, but she is making false statements. Blaming me for something that I have not done. She's trying to make me look bad in front of my bf's other friends as well, and I will not put up with that. She's known to spread lies. She has also spread lies about my friends, which are not true. She's the type of girl who wants to be the centre of everything, and if she's not she does whatever it takes to get there, even if it means making others look bad. Including her own friends. And of course this person is going to be "sweet" around you. No hun you got it wrong. She only acts sweet in front of my man, but when he's not around it's a whole different story. You’re her friend’s girlfriend! She probably feels she owes her friend (your BF) that much No, I know that she only acts nice in front of my man because she wants to look good in front of him. That's all plain and simple.
I’d think twice about trying to "unmask" your BF’s friend, unless it’s really deserving. Well it's too late for that, because she already did that on her own. Or your BF may very well choose his good old friend over you I doubt that very much.
If your other half had a friend that you know for a fact was talking sh*t about you, and is nothing but a two face...and you have stated this to your other half, but they don't see it that way, because they have been friends longer then you have been together and feels that this person is not capable of such things ...What would you do to get your other half to open their eyes and see this person for who they really are?
I'm asking, because I am in this situation. It's not really my priority to unmask this person, but I want my bf to know how this person really is. You see, This person acts completely different in front of him all sweet and innocent and is really friendly with me, but when he's not around this person talks sh*t about me. Also, I know that this person has accused me of not letting my bf go out or do anything for that matter lol, and has also stated that when my bf does go out he brings me along. I believe that anyone who talks crap and acts a different way behind their friends back is really not a friend at all, because they are not showing their true self. It's obvious that this person has something against me. What do you guys suggest I do?
I suggest you let your bf go out on his own, unsupervised once in a while and let him do some things once in a while!
I do all the time...trust me. I don't give him sh*t when he does either. I even tell him to go out, but he's the one who doesn't want to go out, because he says he's tired from work. In the end his friend finds it easier to blame it on me.
Sometimes women's messages are very subtle, like for example saying "Yes! go out!" while raising an eyebrow We pick up on such subtleties it's different to say it than it is to mean it A friends GF would always say "yes go" but really meant "go, and when you get home I'll kick your a$$, and no sex for a week!"
Question: do YOU also go out by yourself? I ask because I had an idiot once tell me that he wouldn't go out by himself 'cause then his girl would ALSO have the right to go out by herself....... healthy couples, I tell ya
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I'VE BEEN IN THIS SITUATION AND LET ME TELL YOU THERE IS NOTHING MORE ANNOYING THAN A MAN WHO LOVES TO TALK S***!! ... WHETHER IT'S ABOUT YOU, OR YOUR MAN!!
WHAT DO YOU GAIN FROM IT ALL???
PATHETIC I TELL YA!!!
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If your other half had a friend that you know for a fact was talking sh*t about you, and is nothing but a two face...and you have stated this to your other half, but they don't see it that way, because they have been friends longer then you have been together and feels that this person is not capable of such things ...What would you do to get your other half to open their eyes and see this person for who they really are?
I'm asking, because I am in this situation. It's not really my priority to unmask this person, but I want my bf to know how this person really is. You see, This person acts completely different in front of him all sweet and innocent and is really friendly with me, but when he's not around this person talks sh*t about me. Also, I know that this person has accused me of not letting my bf go out or do anything for that matter lol, and has also stated that when my bf does go out he brings me along. I believe that anyone who talks crap and acts a different way behind their friends back is really not a friend at all, because they are not showing their true self. It's obvious that this person has something against me. What do you guys suggest I do?
I suggest you let your bf go out on his own, unsupervised once in a while and let him do some things once in a while!
I do all the time...trust me. I don't give him sh*t when he does either. I even tell him to go out, but he's the one who doesn't want to go out, because he says he's tired from work. In the end his friend finds it easier to blame it on me.
If your other half had a friend that you know for a fact was talking sh*t about you, and is nothing but a two face...and you have stated this to your other half, but they don't see it that way, because they have been friends longer then you have been together and feels that this person is not capable of such things ...What would you do to get your other half to open their eyes and see this person for who they really are?
I'm asking, because I am in this situation. It's not really my priority to unmask this person, but I want my bf to know how this person really is. You see, This person acts completely different in front of him all sweet and innocent and is really friendly with me, but when he's not around this person talks sh*t about me. Also, I know that this person has accused me of not letting my bf go out or do anything for that matter lol, and has also stated that when my bf does go out he brings me along. I believe that anyone who talks crap and acts a different way behind their friends back is really not a friend at all, because they are not showing their true self. It's obvious that this person has something against me. What do you guys suggest I do?
And I thought that you typing "(typical guy)" was kinda cute/funny so I copied you by typing "typical girl" I meant that I was saying it "a la LB" NOT that you were a "typical girl" (although, that wouldn't necesarily a bad thing)
YOU'RE SUCH A TYPICAL GUY!! LOL
I DO AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAID....I ALSO HAD TO BREAK THINGS DOWN FOR SWEETNESS FROM A FEMALE POINT OF VIEW.....SHOWING HER THAT I UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE MEANS.....BY SIMPLY PUTTING MYSELF IN HER SHOES....
AS A FEMALE IT'S FRUSTRATING BECAUSE WE SEE, FEEL AND ANALYZE THINGS MORE THAN YOU GUYS......IT'S NOT A BAD THING UNLESS TAKEN TO AN EXTREME OF COURSE...."DRAMA" I MEAN....LOL
@ SWEETENESS......TALK TO YOU MAN, TELL HIM YOU DON'T LIKE WHAT SHE'S DOING, BE SINCERE, I TAKE IT BACK, DON'T TRY TO PROVE NADA....AND LISTEN TO WHAT HE SAYS.....CHANCES ARE THAT NO MATTER WHAT HE THINKS, HE WILL NOT CUT OFF HIS FRIEND....AND WILL NOT WANT TO LOSE YOU EITHER OVER THIS "SILLYNESS" AS ANY TYPICAL GUY WOULD PUT IT....LOL.....IF YOU TRY TO CONFRONT THEM AGAINST EACH OTHER, SHE WILL BE MORE BITTER AGAINST YOU.....AND THEN YOU WILL HAVE SERIOUS PROBLEMS.....
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I think you’re just jealous and trying to find an excuse to get her out of your BF’s life And SHE’s probably jealous of you as well ("typical girls", a la LB, lol)
I’d think twice about trying to "unmask" your BF’s friend, unless it’s really deserving. Or your BF may very well choose his good old friend over you
ISN'T THIS WHAT I SAID AS WELL?
AND WHAT'S WITH THE "A LA LB" COMMENT
Well, sort of... so we agree
And I thought that you typing "(typical guy)" was kinda cute/funny so I copied you by typing "typical girl" I meant that I was saying it "a la LB" NOT that you were a "typical girl" (although, that wouldn't necesarily a bad thing)
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I think you’re just jealous and trying to find an excuse to get her out of your BF’s life And SHE’s probably jealous of you as well ("typical girls", a la LB, lol)
I’d think twice about trying to "unmask" your BF’s friend, unless it’s really deserving. Or your BF may very well choose his good old friend over you
ISN'T THIS WHAT I SAID AS WELL?
AND WHAT'S WITH THE "A LA LB" COMMENT
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If your other half had a friend that you know for a fact was talking sh*t about you, and is nothing but a two face...and you have stated this to your other half, but they don't see it that way, because they have been friends longer then you have been together and feels that this person is not capable of such things ...What would you do to get your other half to open their eyes and see this person for who they really are?
I'm asking, because I am in this situation. It's not really my priority to unmask this person, but I want my bf to know how this person really is. You see, This person acts completely different in front of him all sweet and innocent and is really friendly with me, but when he's not around this person talks sh*t about me. Also, I know that this person has accused me of not letting my bf go out or do anything for that matter lol, and has also stated that when my bf does go out he brings me along. I believe that anyone who talks crap and acts a different way behind their friends back is really not a friend at all, because they are not showing their true self. It's obvious that this person has something against me. What do you guys suggest I do?
I think you’re just jealous and trying to find an excuse to get her out of your BF’s life And SHE’s probably jealous of you as well ("typical girls", a la LB, lol)
I don’t really think there’s much wrong with this What is there to unmask? That she THINKS you don’t let your BF go out? Is that IT?! (that’s all you really accused her of) big deal And actually, that may very well be true (I mean, you haven’t denied it) And how is that so deserving of "unmasking" someone?... It’s probably not even a secret between them two Your BF’s reaction to you unmasking her would likely be: "ok, so?"
And her, stating that her opinion is that you don’t let your BF out, doesn’t exactly qualify as "talking sh*t" It’s not like she’s going around saying you’re a slut! If that’s what she thinks you DO, well.... that is just what she THINKS you do. Since when is that "talking sh*t"? And of course this person is going to be "sweet" around you. You’re her friend’s girlfriend! She probably feels she owes her friend (your BF) that much
I’d think twice about trying to "unmask" your BF’s friend, unless it’s really deserving. Or your BF may very well choose his good old friend over you
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I agree with LB men aren't as "duhhhhhhhhhhhh" as they may seem
No unmasking for what, put up with it as much as u can and just be SWEETER to that person you will annoy them that is for sure if they see it isn't bothering you at all ...
Now if they talk sh*t about you to your man and he isn't saying anything then there is a problem
I get the feeling this other person is also a female.....and like Quixote said, I'm sure your boyfriend knows how this person is....but does not want to get involved in drama....(typical guy)
To unmask anyone the best way to do it is with VISIBLE/AUDIO PROOF......record her and show your man.....BUT you might risk looking stupid, because even then he might not cut her off....since he's been friends with her all this time and I'm sure he knows how she is.....as "duhhhh" as men look or seem sometimes....they are really not.....LOL
This chick is obviosuly envious of you and your relationship with your man.....
BUT...one thing I have noticed with other couples as well is this: If at any point, someone hints that the GF does not allow the BF to go out with out her.....chances are it's 90% true! LOL....not because the GF might tell him straight up.....but because she probably hints things to her man....and in return he feels like he's on lock down.....and hints THAT to his friends.....meaning....no one is doing it intentionally but it's being done......I know many chicks like this....they say "ohh I give him freedom...etc...etc".....but when he's out doing him stuf...they call like crazy and give him a hard time for going out......women are KRAZY that way! ....because we need attention....and the second his attention goes elsewhere, we feel replaced.....and some even psychotically jelaous....
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there must be a reason he doesn't say anything when ur b/f is around......maybe he appreciates ur b/f friendship a lot but only puts up with u because of that reason.......if u don't want problems i say u do the same.
There is a lot of people out there that don't like the person their friend/brother/sister etc are with but put up with it because they don't want to lose some1 as a friend because of sh*t like that.
some times is better to stay quiet and put up with it than to lose a good friend.
Is this person male or female? I am guessing it is a female.
I am sure this person makes statements about you during private conversations with your boyfriend so don't think your boyfriend is oblivious to how this person feels about you.
This person is obviously resentful towards you and it really is none of their business what you and your boyfriend do.
I suggest, while in the company of this person and your boyfriend, ask your boyfriend how he feels about people who critique their friends' relationships and ask him why he thinks people would do that. Then start a food fight.
If your other half had a friend that you know for a fact was talking sh*t about you, and is nothing but a two face...and you have stated this to your other half, but they don't see it that way, because they have been friends longer then you have been together and feels that this person is not capable of such things ...What would you do to get your other half to open their eyes and see this person for who they really are?
I'm asking, because I am in this situation. It's not really my priority to unmask this person, but I want my bf to know how this person really is. You see, This person acts completely different in front of him all sweet and innocent and is really friendly with me, but when he's not around this person talks sh*t about me. Also, I know that this person has accused me of not letting my bf go out or do anything for that matter lol, and has also stated that when my bf does go out he brings me along. I believe that anyone who talks crap and acts a different way behind their friends back is really not a friend at all, because they are not showing their true self. It's obvious that this person has something against me. What do you guys suggest I do?
I suggest you let your bf go out on his own, unsupervised once in a while and let him do some things once in a while!
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If your other half had a friend that you know for a fact was talking sh*t about you, and is nothing but a two face...and you have stated this to your other half, but they don't see it that way, because they have been friends longer then you have been together and feels that this person is not capable of such things ...What would you do to get your other half to open their eyes and see this person for who they really are?
I'm asking, because I am in this situation. It's not really my priority to unmask this person, but I want my bf to know how this person really is. You see, This person acts completely different in front of him all sweet and innocent and is really friendly with me, but when he's not around this person talks sh*t about me. Also, I know that this person has accused me of not letting my bf go out or do anything for that matter lol, and has also stated that when my bf does go out he brings me along. I believe that anyone who talks crap and acts a different way behind their friends back is really not a friend at all, because they are not showing their true self. It's obvious that this person has something against me. What do you guys suggest I do?
LB, lol) and women will ever see eye to eye on that issue
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