thank you angelita ! you said the whole truth

it all depends on the girl and the feelings towards the two

im not a fan of dating girls with babys but i that doesnt mean i wont stop dating them

and the girl is always gonna put there lil guy/girl first no matter what 

my mom is single mother and i grew up without knowing my dad for all my life and let me tell u it was the hardest part of my life  couse i didnt hve that male rolemodel to look up to

most single moms should feel lucky couse they keep a relationship between there son/daughters dad

but ya danny it all depends on the individual and if there willing to be in that kind of relationship

Here's my thoughts!! I read your thread before critising you! I somewhat understand what you mean. I am a single mother of a three year old. I didn't choose this, but i don't regret my child either. I am enjoying my life!! I got married at 22, got pregnant at 23 yrs. We didn't wait too long to have a family! We were young and thought we were ready for this whole marriage/family life!

What do i think of you! Nothing! You are just be straight up and this is your personal choice. If you don't want to be with someone who has a child, then don't. A child is a big responsibility. If you like the mother, but don't want to be part of the their life, then walk away. If your mother had been a single mother, i'm pretty sure that you wouldn't want any man playing around with both of you. Unfortunately some girls got pregnant for the wrongs reasons and some don't take care of the child like a mother should. I don't respect girls like those. But other woman are amazing mothers. You should't judge cause of their marital status, because you never know their story.

You mention a decline in pure down to earth girls! Well there are many of them still around, but some do have baggage, as you put it. But there are also a lot of MEN who at that moment, who so call "LOVE" the girl don't think with their mind and when they become fathers they are not MAN enough to take care and leave. Some of those men will never grow up. So Danny, it goes both ways. You shouldn't judge until you hear the story.

When you do meet a girl, they should be upfront with you. I know of some girls who won't mention their child until a few dates later, simply because they are afraid to scare the guy away. I'm always upfront, if the guy doesn't accept it, then they are not worth my time. I don't want anyone judging me and my son. Thank God i haven't had any problems because of my situation. Altough, i only deal with mature men who understand. My son is my life and i wouldn't want to bring just any man around him. I have never brought anyone around my child. Until i meet the right person, then i will introduce him, until then, i don't want anyone playing with us. If some guys have met my son, it's because i always take him with me to places, for example festivals. Danny, you have met my son and the only reason was because i happen to go on St.Clair that day to celebrate ECUADOR with my little man! I take him almost everywhere i go. You were nice to him and you even liked his Ecua jersey.

It's also unfortunate that some girls have that "baby daddy drama". It's hard for those girls to get into a relationship. But some are lucky and have a good Parent relationhip with their ex and it stays at that.

Once again Danny, if you like the girl and that girl has a child(ren), then move on if you are not ready to be with them.

BTW, a club is not the best choice to meet a 'girlfriend', especially Privilege. Altough, not every girl that goes there is skanky, but some are. I've seen some of the girls that go up to you and they....well let's just say they are not girlfriend material. But there are many good girls that go to a club and who knows you might just find one at the clubs that you go to.

don_plyero wrote:

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yo danny i know what u mean but you cant just put the blaim on the guys or the ladies

they both are to blame and i know couse i dated a single mother and it didnt workout cuz she had the baby daddy in her life and im the type that luvs the attention from my girl O.K you huys think that just because us as single moms could not be able to give you attention, what is wrong with the baby's father being in the picture if there is nothing going on, all it is is that the father as long as he wants to see thew kid there is nothing worng, I mean what you guys are saying just becuase you date a single mom, you feel uncomfortable because the babay's father comes to pick them up?

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good opinions!!!

lets keep it at that level!

luna chiquitita wrote:

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wow danny I don't quite know what to say.  (I could say that you made many spelling and grammatical errors but whatever, I'm probably going to make a few myself).  I'm almost positive that you're going to receive a "Danny you're ignorant" line but I see your point and I see where you're coming from.
 

So before everyone starts hating on Danny.  I think we should hear the perspective from the single young moms.

I WAS a young single mom, many many years ago before I met hubby.  I hated dating for the very same reason you hate it now, the awkwardness, the baby daddy drama and my conflicting principals on the matter. SO, I always made it clear to let everyone know that I had a daughter and anyone that took issue with that could keep walking.  Well most guys won't flat out tell you they have a problem with it, so I made sure I didn't introduce them to my daughter until I was sure. Well I am glad to hear that, becuase I am the same way about showing anybody to my kid So when I met hubby and we started dating, I made it very clear to him.  I didn’t want a my daughter to see a million different men and be confused… either he was man enough to step up or he could just keep on walking.  Almost 10 years later and a son and I’m very happy. Good for you

ANYHOOO… There isn’t a “decline in young pure down to earth girls”, as you put it.  Quite possibly there is an increase in egotistical, arrogant, selfish men.  That love you, screw you and leave you. Yes, thats all they want, not all of the men out there but most of them   Women do you agree?  YES  It’s not even about either of those two things Danny.  It’s a matter of who you are and who you are with at that time.  My daughter’s father and I were “in love”, we got married and had a daughter but he turned out to want other things.  He wanted to be free, screw around and not have the baggage of his own family.

 

So the question really is, are WOMEN asking too much of the men they choose to marry and have families with?  It’s not about being a slut and having all these babies (which is the case for some women but I can’t speak for them), it’s about thinking that at the time you’re with THE ONE but life doesn’t work out that way.

 

So what I suggest to you, Danny, is that if you are sure you don’t want to deal with someone’s baggage, then don’t get involved AT ALL.  Don’t take them out on a date, don’t screw them, don’t bother. Cheers to that You seem like someone who knows what he wants right now.  So, don’t F**K with a single mom ‘cause you’d just be added baggage for her.  When it’s your time to get married, have kids, be a man and stick around ‘cause most of the young single moms out there are single moms ‘cause the men they were with weren’t MAN enough. YES I AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS PART

So, no, you’re not being picky.  You just know what you want and that’s great for you.  Just be smart about your choices and don’t judge every single woman with a kid ‘cause you don’t know their story.

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