WOMEN!!!!!

Dogo · Comandante

RE: WOMEN!!!!!

Lahtina · Guru

So... attractiveness is definitely not the issue. It's something else, something that inspires mistrust that makes women be biotchy towards others. Proof is that there is no discrimination for being b*tchy, one could easily be as biotchy to an ugly ass biotch than to a beauty queen and appearence has little to do with it.

Lahtina · Guru

(Dogo's)

Hmmm, hmmm, hmmm... very interesting. Does it apply to all of us though? I mean, it's not a generalized rule now, is it? What about those of us who have no desire to procrate?

I can see this also being a factor in isolated, small communities but in large cities? It's not a "pool" anymore, it's an ocean! Woohoo!! So many desireable males/females to choose from!

I dunno about this theory at this day and age. I think we all have different ideas of what is a desireable male and what is a desireable female. What inspires biotchiness? I don't think it's beauty - really. The other day in class I was looking at this girl who was sitting in front of me off to the right. I could get a good look of her face and I was just captivated by it. She is so freaking beautiful, young and very nice body. Was my immediate thought: that b*tch! No. Did I feel "threatened"? No. A lot of times, actually, I find that beautiful women have the same alluring effect on other women than they do on men, we're naturally attracted to beauty.

If beauty or a more attractive physical appearance in people of the same sex always inspired envy or ill feelings, then I would have to say that I would hate Shoe Lee and probably every other woman would. She's got brains, beauty and elegance air about her - a real classy chick; she could be a better kitty mommy but

just goes to show you that no one is perfect. Anyway, with all this going for her, she certainly has a different effect on women other than biotchiness.

-- Edited by Lahtina at 16:24, 2006-09-23

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

Dogo wrote:

Lahtina wrote:

Dogo wrote:

Oh oh oh!! go tell MJ!!!

I still think it's the alpha male thing.. or whatever I said... but whatever

Qué alpha male? (I miss Bainaman!)

But really? You think so many years of evolution have hardly made a dent? Where is this stupid alpha male theory anyway... discuss.

Maybe not as much of a dent on females because of motherhood
And I might end up saying something really stupid, I was blabbing before, joking, sort of
But it might not be so far fetched

How about this?:

Females compete from a pool of women, to be the "alpha female" (the most DESIRED by the alpha male, that’s all)

Alpha male gets to that position through oppression of other males, to be the "mating" male with any female he desires. The "best" male
Females want to mate with the alpha male because they want their offspring to be from a "strong" gene pool.
So I think, innately there’s a constant "tug" to want to be the better "choice" for an alpha male to mate with, instinctively

Alpha males could mate with any female he chooses, but females can’t mate with the alpha male if they choose to, thus they covet the position of the "better" female. Females couldn’t rise to alpha female status via oppression or submission or fighting other females (just not the way it worked/works) so what’s the next best choice? bi-otchismo! I disagree, la mujer cuando quiere y el hombre cuando puede.

Pretty similar to the way machismo works in men, but men aren’t mothers, so evolution has probably made more of a dent on us than on women, so women are probably still,partly, in that mode

Don’t females act biotchier when they are in presence of women they’re not familiar with, when they are accompanied by their male partner/alpha male? Are they not even catty-er to other women in those instances ? I think the majority of women that take on this attitude its not because other women are around per se, I think it has to do more with bad experiences with their partner around other women.

Or, as you said, when they are in a group? They seem to be fine when they don’t feel threatened by other "competing" females. And are lass biotchy to males. It might be why some build stronger friendships with males

When 2 women want the same male, do they not turn into demons towards each other? While amongst men, we would say something like: "you take her -nah, you take her - no no, I insist, you take her..." Maybe instinctively we feel we have a bigger "pool" to choose from (we’re so wrong) Not really, I've seen guys duke each other out over girls, lose friendships over girls, and half the times its girls that im like "QEF"???

So, yeah.....That’s my alpha male/biotch theory

Doesn’t make sense? Ok

This is also interesting about "alpha males" not about women: "why men like lesbians"

Dogo · Comandante

Lahtina wrote:

Dogo wrote:

Oh oh oh!! go tell MJ!!!

I still think it's the alpha male thing.. or whatever I said... but whatever

Qué alpha male? (I miss Bainaman!)

But really? You think so many years of evolution have hardly made a dent? Where is this stupid alpha male theory anyway... discuss.

Maybe not as much of a dent on females because of motherhood
And I might end up saying something really stupid, I was blabbing before, joking, sort of
But it might not be so far fetched

How about this?:

Females compete from a pool of women, to be the "alpha female" (the most DESIRED by the alpha male, that’s all)

Alpha male gets to that position through oppression of other males, to be the "mating" male with any female he desires. The "best" male
Females want to mate with the alpha male because they want their offspring to be from a "strong" gene pool.
So I think, innately there’s a constant "tug" to want to be the better "choice" for an alpha male to mate with, instinctively

Alpha males could mate with any female he chooses, but females can’t mate with the alpha male if they choose to, thus they covet the position of the "better" female. Females couldn’t rise to alpha female status via oppression or submission or fighting other females (just not the way it worked/works) so what’s the next best choice? bi-otchismo!

Pretty similar to the way machismo works in men, but men aren’t mothers, so evolution has probably made more of a dent on us than on women, so women are probably still,partly, in that mode

Don’t females act biotchier when they are in presence of women they’re not familiar with, when they are accompanied by their male partner/alpha male? Are they not even catty-er to other women in those instances ?

Or, as you said, when they are in a group? They seem to be fine when they don’t feel threatened by other "competing" females. And are lass biotchy to males. It might be why some build stronger friendships with males

When 2 women want the same male, do they not turn into demons towards each other? While amongst men, we would say something like: "you take her -nah, you take her - no no, I insist, you take her..." Maybe instinctively we feel we have a bigger "pool" to choose from (we’re so wrong)

So, yeah.....That’s my alpha male/biotch theory

Doesn’t make sense? Ok

This is also interesting about "alpha males" not about women: "why men like lesbians"

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

LaDyBuG wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

What's the point of being a **** towards a woman that you don't even know???!! For all you know, you can be missing out on a great friendship!!!

What does a **** get out of pointing out some girls hair, shoes, boyfriend, whatever???!!! Does it play any factor in her life??? Dear GOD, I hope not!!!

I just don't understand.

I walk with confidence and some people find that threatning!!!! Gimme a break!!!!

Girl, what you consider confidence...can come across differently to others......EX: they see you as being snobbish, beeotchy, even mean looking.....

I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.....as far as women feeling "threatened"......and those women are just insecure.....you don't need to get all worked up or upset, it's not worth it.....and NOT all of us are like that......you don't wanna be friends with those women anyway......so KE TE them! lol

BUT, A lot of factors play in how other women perceive you the first time.....

#1. If their man starts eye-ing you....(she's insecure, he's a dog and you were the innocent party that triggered that insecurity)

#2. If you proyect an aura of flirtyness (but in your head it's all innocent)

#3. If you're all giggly and super happy to meet them (that can come across as fake)

#4. Some people just have an aura about them that others don't like.....from the get go, people can hate you.....not everyone will like you...especially women...

This is not the first time you have ranted and been upset about this.....it's seems to happen a lot to you........so next time analyze why these women are how they are with you....and better yet....WHO are these women anyway......because that would make a great difference.....(co-workers, friends of your bf, friends of your female friends, fulanas....etc)

I'll tell you something ....and I'm sure all the women here can relate......we all have a "6th sense"......we sense when a women who meets us for the first time is being fake and we can tell if we like her right away or not from the vibe she gives out....IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW GOOD LOOKING SHE IS, WHAT SHOES SHE'S WEARING OR NADA........those are superficial factors that don't come in to play.....

Could it be that these women just don't like you......and they sense YOUR insecurity......(as confident as you might come across)......insecurity is something you can smell a mile away.....

If you give us a better scenario......we can even help you fix this "issue" you have with women.....(at least I can).......

I mean.....for example....GENIE...DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......CONFU....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM? ....... JULIE.....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......

And I know for a fact all 3 of them have MANY male friends.....and have no such constant issues with females......

ENVY is everywhere.....and if you constantly have this problem......maybe you need to do something about it on YOUR end......and not assume ALL women are Bee-otches......

(that's my friendly advise to you......sorry for the harshness girl)

I'm just being realistic.......and I won't tell you what you want to hear......

-- Edited by LaDyBuG at 20:44, 2006-09-20

I agree with all these points, but mostly with the ones that I highlighted.

1. It is very true that overconfidence can sometimes come out as being conceited and superficial. This even goes for guys. But majority of the times, I find that these people are just "putting on face", when in reality they dont have the best aspect of themselves.

3. Point #4 and the "6th sense" comment go hand in hand. And I will tell you, I am one of those people that feeds off auras and people's vibes. And I can tell you that majority of the time when I have a certain perception about someone, it ends up being true. I dont necessarily start hating people from the get go cause I dont get a "good vibe" from them, but I just observe from the sidelines.

As for girls hating me, Im not really aware of it, maybe cause I dont care to be aware of it. I know we all care what others think at one point or another, but the people whose opinions I actually take into account are very few.

You got a lot going for you girl, and dont let some stupid biatches get the better of you. We all luv u

Lahtina · Guru

PRINCESSA wrote:

too funny
It's NOT all women.

MJ don't let them get to u, if they give u Attitude just give it back, if they look at u dirty then u give back a dirty look.

The more u look uncomfortable, insecure, etc. infront of any girl being mean or stupid towards you, the more they will want to intimidate you.

So Never let anyone get that far.

I'm bored so I was reading the thread. I lie, I lie... I'm procrastinating, I have to study!!

Anyway, this doesn't make any sense. This is attempting to put out a flame by throwing gasoline on it.

Lahtina · Guru

Dogo wrote:

Oh oh oh!! go tell MJ!!!

I still think it's the alpha male thing.. or whatever I said... but whatever

Qué alpha male? (I miss Bainaman!)

But really? You think so many years of evolution have hardly made a dent? Where is this stupid alpha male theory anyway... discuss.

Dogo · Comandante

Lahtina wrote:

Oh oh oh!! :sudden realization:

Ok, while chatting with Gastone, I suddenly had a clear vision of biatchiness. It's groups of women who are biatches, not women alone. When you interact with another woman one on one, that's when all the walls come down and you realize that the other woman is pretty cool after all. But in a group? Holy beware! They'll tear you to shreds, the biatches.

Oh oh oh!! go tell MJ!!!

I still think it's the alpha male thing.. or whatever I said... but whatever

Lahtina · Guru

Oh oh oh!! :sudden realization:

Ok, while chatting with Gastone, I suddenly had a clear vision of biatchiness. It's groups of women who are biatches, not women alone. When you interact with another woman one on one, that's when all the walls come down and you realize that the other woman is pretty cool after all. But in a group? Holy beware! They'll tear you to shreds, the biatches.

BELLINI · Guru

Dogo wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

I've been told that I have too much "sex appeal". QEF??? I know how I walk. I walk straight and I don't look around. I have hips!!! What am I supposed to do???

Oh MAN! finally someone who understands!!
Welcome to my world! it's a curse, I tellz YA!:no:

HaHaHa

BELLINI · Guru

Lahtina wrote:

September 21, 2006 (one day before Julieta's birthday - the countdown begins)

Dawgo
123 Mother Ship
LaLa Land
Somewhere Lost in Space

Dear Dawgo:

Quoiever! For some reason I am now feeling too lazy to write. I hate laptops!

Sincerely,

Lahtina

LMAO!!! So DOGO is communicating through foro members and getting us to post!! Heehee

What is this foro coming to

Lahtina · Guru

September 21, 2006 (one day before Julieta's birthday - the countdown begins)

Dawgo
123 Mother Ship
LaLa Land
Somewhere Lost in Space

Dear Dawgo:

Quoiever! For some reason I am now feeling too lazy to write. I hate laptops!

Sincerely,

Lahtina

Julie · Comandante

Lahtina wrote:

@ Dawgo:

Competition for the alpha male thingy? Good lord! Ugh, gimme a freaking break! News flash: A women's life does not revolve around you males! And that, of course, includes how we feel towards other women.

Who knows why we can be ande will be biotches or asses to others in one point or another. I'm gonna have to agree with LadyBug and tell MJ that if this is the rule rather than the exception then yes, maybe she should look within herself for the answer as opposed to lashing out on women in general.

Attention Attention.......From innersapceship "Dogo"

In some mammal herds, doesn’t ONLY the alpha male get to mate (osea, bang!) the females?
And the females ONLY mate with the alpha male? Hence they become protective of him, hence they are catty and suspecting of each other?
Maybe human females haven’t lost that instinct
I dunno, just saying

I mean, I saw it on “Discovery Kids”

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

Lahtina wrote:

@ Dawgo:

Competition for the alpha male thingy? Good lord! Ugh, gimme a freaking break! News flash: A women's life does not revolve around you males! And that, of course, includes how we feel towards other women.

Who knows why we can be ande will be biotches or asses to others in one point or another. NOTE FROM MJ: QEF???? I'm gonna have to agree with LadyBug and tell MJ that if this is the rule rather than the exception then yes, maybe she should look within herself for the answer as opposed to lashing out on women in general.

@ MJ: On a good day? Just because I don't always agree with you doesn't mean I'm a biotch, does it? This is funny, actually. Why can you be ass to a guy and he won't take it seriously yet a woman will or hold a grudge for life? Ugh, we suck! It must be the whole competition for the alpha male thingy.

Ah shut up!!!

I was so intimidated by you because your eyes were so DEADLY they could pierce metal!!! You hated me!!!!!

But now I'm your bestest friend in the whole wide world!!!!!!!

TV Buff · TOP Guru

Lahtina wrote:

Why can you be ass to a guy and he won't take it seriously yet a woman will or hold a grudge for life? Ugh, we suck! It must be the whole competition for the alpha male thingy.

What in the world is the alpha male thingy? Is Puppy here talking about a penis? Please essplain. It's happened to me that I've joked around or been an ass the way I would with a friend that knows me (male or female) and the girl/woman will get all offended or look at me like

So I'm used to that reaction.

Lahtina · Guru

Q

JOKER_ESCO · Foro Master

RE: WOMEN!!!!!

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

Dogo wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

I've been told that I have too much "sex appeal". QEF??? I know how I walk. I walk straight and I don't look around. I have hips!!! What am I supposed to do???

Oh MAN! finally someone who understands!!
Welcome to my world! it's a curse, I tellz YA!

Seriously though, it might just be innate in women to be that way
The competition for the "alpha male" thingy, and they carry it with them ALL the time
I dunno, just a thought

I thought you were banned!!!!

@Joker: Your postings annoyed me, what can I say??? But do you think the actions of someone who was helping you apply for a job, are those of a b*tch???

@DC: Thank you!!!

LaDyBuG · Comandante

BELLINI wrote:

Talk about getting off topic! Heehee

Looks like No one wants "CONFU"!

Hey...make your own "noone wants Confu thread".....this one is about MONITO and our legal rights over him.....before and after Confu....lol

BELLINI · Guru

Talk about getting off topic! Heehee

Looks like No one wants "CONFU"!

LaDyBuG · Comandante

GENIE wrote:

ok every other weekend is fine with me and every other holiday!!! oh Confu no this is if we ever pull the plug!! u can keep her i just want the kid!!!!

heyyyy....get your own kid....I want this one! LOL

I need him to travel with me so I can show him off.....

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

GENIE wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

What I mean is someone ESPECIALLY a woman who will judge you without even knowing you. It's a woman who talks $hit about another woman as if it was SO important, for example, the women that found it so important to talk about the other woman's panty lines!!!

I like meeting women who act as if they've known you for years and who don't look up and down at you. You remember the first time I met you? It was for the empanada challenge! Well, without even knowing you, I went to pick you up and you invited me in to your house and we talked all the way downtown and back to your house like nothing!!!

Genie and I, without knowing each other, worked out together until she bailed on my a$$ and realized that El Pibe is a nazi trainer!!!! DON'T LIE GENIE!!!!!!!! :nana:

When I first met Miel, even after a little "tift", I gave her a ride home.

I'm just that type of person. I don't care whether you're prettier than me, whether you have more money, as long as you're a good hearted person and you can make me laugh, then you're awesome in my eyes!!!!!

Understand woman?????!!!!!

YEAH IT WASNT EL PIBE IT WAS U! I JUST DIDNT FEEL GOOD AROUND U!! U HAVE TOO MUCH SEX APPEAL!! LMAO LMAO

YEAH IT WAS THE NAZI!! LOL LOL DONT TELL HIM THAT

HI PIBE!!!!! LOL LOL

LOL NAW GIRL YOU KNOW WORK TILL LONG ASS HOURS RIGHT NOW SO NO TIME I WORK OUT AT HOME!! BUT THE POOL MAYBE ON A WEEKEND ILL COME BY HANG OUT AND GO FOR A SWIM WHAT U THINK??? BUT NO ORALE JR OK

YES ORALE JR!!!!

NO DEAL!!!!!!

GENIE · Foro Master

LaDyBuG wrote:

GENIE wrote:

AND PERSONAL FRIENDS CHESS GIRLS THAT ARE CAN TRUST WITH MY LIFE EVEN IF IT MEANS THEM PULLING THE PLUG FOR ME IF THEY EVER HAVE TO.....

LADYBUG I GOT DIBBS ON THIS!!!! OH AND I GET MONITO AS PER OUR GODMOTHER CONTRACT!

I'll take you to court.....I want Monito every other weekend as per the TIA/MANAGER contract.....or every weekend if possible....so we can play dump truck....lol....you can have Confu.....lol

ok every other weekend is fine with me and every other holiday!!! oh Confu no this is if we ever pull the plug!! u can keep her i just want the kid!!!!

LaDyBuG · Comandante

GENIE wrote:

confundida wrote:

HOW THE HELL DID I GET INVOLVED IN THIS THREAD....I DIDNT EVEN POST ANYTHING....

CONFU HAVE ISSUES YEA SHE HAS ALOT OF THOSE BUT CONFU PROBLEMS CAN HAVE THERE OWN THREAD.....

AS FOR THIS THREAD.....I DONT KNOW WAT I WANNA SAY BUT I THINK WHEN IT COMES TO HAVING GIRLS AS FRIEND YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW FROM YOURSELF WHAT KIND OF FRIENDSHIP YOU WANT FROM THEM....HAVING A FRIENDSHIP WITH A WOMAN IS LIKE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY....

FOR EXAMPLE I HAVE MY PARTY FRIENDS, MY BUM FRIENDS, MY FRIENDS THAT I CAN CALL AT ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT....AND PERSONAL FRIENDS CHESS GIRLS THAT ARE CAN TRUST WITH MY LIFE EVEN IF IT MEANS THEM PULLING THE PLUG FOR ME IF THEY EVER HAVE TO.....

LADYBUG I GOT DIBBS ON THIS!!!! OH AND I GET MONITO AS PER OUR GODMOTHER CONTRACT!

I'll take you to court.....I want Monito every other weekend as per the TIA/MANAGER contract.....or every weekend if possible....so we can play dump truck....lol....you can have Confu.....lol

GENIE · Foro Master

Motown Junkie wrote:

What I mean is someone ESPECIALLY a woman who will judge you without even knowing you. It's a woman who talks $hit about another woman as if it was SO important, for example, the women that found it so important to talk about the other woman's panty lines!!!

I like meeting women who act as if they've known you for years and who don't look up and down at you. You remember the first time I met you? It was for the empanada challenge! Well, without even knowing you, I went to pick you up and you invited me in to your house and we talked all the way downtown and back to your house like nothing!!!

Genie and I, without knowing each other, worked out together until she bailed on my a$$ and realized that El Pibe is a nazi trainer!!!! DON'T LIE GENIE!!!!!!!! :nana:

When I first met Miel, even after a little "tift", I gave her a ride home.

I'm just that type of person. I don't care whether you're prettier than me, whether you have more money, as long as you're a good hearted person and you can make me laugh, then you're awesome in my eyes!!!!!

Understand woman?????!!!!!

YEAH IT WASNT EL PIBE IT WAS U! I JUST DIDNT FEEL GOOD AROUND U!! U HAVE TOO MUCH SEX APPEAL!! LMAO LMAO

YEAH IT WAS THE NAZI!! LOL LOL DONT TELL HIM THAT

HI PIBE!!!!! LOL LOL

LOL NAW GIRL YOU KNOW WORK TILL LONG ASS HOURS RIGHT NOW SO NO TIME I WORK OUT AT HOME!! BUT THE POOL MAYBE ON A WEEKEND ILL COME BY HANG OUT AND GO FOR A SWIM WHAT U THINK??? BUT NO ORALE JR OK

GENIE · Foro Master

confundida wrote:

HOW THE HELL DID I GET INVOLVED IN THIS THREAD....I DIDNT EVEN POST ANYTHING....

CONFU HAVE ISSUES YEA SHE HAS ALOT OF THOSE BUT CONFU PROBLEMS CAN HAVE THERE OWN THREAD.....

AS FOR THIS THREAD.....I DONT KNOW WAT I WANNA SAY BUT I THINK WHEN IT COMES TO HAVING GIRLS AS FRIEND YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW FROM YOURSELF WHAT KIND OF FRIENDSHIP YOU WANT FROM THEM....HAVING A FRIENDSHIP WITH A WOMAN IS LIKE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY....

FOR EXAMPLE I HAVE MY PARTY FRIENDS, MY BUM FRIENDS, MY FRIENDS THAT I CAN CALL AT ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT....AND PERSONAL FRIENDS CHESS GIRLS THAT ARE CAN TRUST WITH MY LIFE EVEN IF IT MEANS THEM PULLING THE PLUG FOR ME IF THEY EVER HAVE TO.....

LADYBUG I GOT DIBBS ON THIS!!!! OH AND I GET MONITO AS PER OUR GODMOTHER CONTRACT!

BELLINI · Guru

I have never had that problem with girls. I have never made anyone feel bad or insecure around me. I'm actually very outgoing and make friends easily. Because of this, i have a lot of male and female friends. But there are those odd times that girls will act like they are better then you. But i never let it bother me, most likely that's the only thing they got going.

I agree with what LB said. It makes sense. MJ i have never met you and i can't really judge you on your style of posting because most of the time, we are different in person. Just don't let other girls bother you. You are who you are and it's too bad that some girls won't give you a chance to see who you really are. They might be missing out on a great friendship

TV Buff · TOP Guru

LaDyBuG wrote:

Girl, what you consider confidence...can come across differently to others......EX: they see you as being snobbish, beeotchy, even mean looking.....

I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.....as far as women feeling "threatened"......and those women are just insecure.....you don't need to get all worked up or upset, it's not worth it.....and NOT all of us are like that......you don't wanna be friends with those women anyway......so KE TE them! lol

BUT, A lot of factors play in how other women perceive you the first time.....

#1. If their man starts eye-ing you....(she's insecure, he's a dog and you were the innocent party that triggered that insecurity)

#2. If you proyect an aura of flirtyness (but in your head it's all innocent)

#3. If you're all giggly and super happy to meet them (that can come across as fake)

#4. Some people just have an aura about them that others don't like.....from the get go, people can hate you.....not everyone will like you...especially women...

This is not the first time you have ranted and been upset about this.....it's seems to happen a lot to you........so next time analyze why these women are how they are with you....and better yet....WHO are these women anyway......because that would make a great difference.....(co-workers, friends of your bf, friends of your female friends, fulanas....etc)

I'll tell you something ....and I'm sure all the women here can relate......we all have a "6th sense"......we sense when a women who meets us for the first time is being fake and we can tell if we like her right away or not from the vibe she gives out....IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW GOOD LOOKING SHE IS, WHAT SHOES SHE'S WEARING OR NADA........those are superficial factors that don't come in to play.....

Could it be that these women just don't like you......and they sense YOUR insecurity......(as confident as you might come across)......insecurity is something you can smell a mile away.....

If you give us a better scenario......we can even help you fix this "issue" you have with women.....(at least I can).......

I mean.....for example....GENIE...DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......CONFU....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM? ....... JULIE.....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......

And I know for a fact all 3 of them have MANY male friends.....and have no such constant issues with females......

ENVY is everywhere.....and if you constantly have this problem......maybe you need to do something about it on YOUR end......and not assume ALL women are Bee-otches......

(that's my friendly advise to you......sorry for the harshness girl)

I'm just being realistic.......and I won't tell you what you want to hear......

-- Edited by LaDyBuG at 20:44, 2006-09-20

Oh LaDyBuG......you always make me think. You know me. You've known me for years now. Do I come across as b*tchy? I don't think I do.

I've been told that I have too much "sex appeal". QEF??? I know how I walk. I walk straight and I don't look around. I have hips!!! What am I supposed to do???

I don't know. I give up. I've seen too many stupid women around. Like I mentioned the other day about the older lady who came in and you could see her underwear but these two bee-otches behind her found it SO IMPORTANT and life altering to start whispering about that woman!!!! UGH!!!! Get real!!!

Highschool was a nightmare for me!!! According to the lovely "ladies", I came from an all girl school so that I could all the guys there!!! They threw french fries and pennies at me in the cafeteria!!!!!

All I know is I just don't understand, there are women like you, Julie, and on a good day, like Lahtina (bah) where you can really hit it off and then there are times where you honestly have to look at yourself and question, "Dear God, do I smell??? Are my boobs hanging out???!!!!"

TO BEE-OTCHES!!!!

@ Ladybug: One of your best posts (and answers) to date. I agree 100% with everything you said.

@ MJ: Women, unlike men, are very, very hard to break the ice with. Men have this thing, they just bond immediately. We women are so defensive when it comes to other women. In your case, you're a very pretty girl, so it's even harder for you to "break the ice". And it's probably happened to you so many times that right off the bat, you probably give out the vibe of "I know you're not gonna like me, so there." And I know it's hard to give other women a chance to get to know you. We're very visual, and that's how initially we form our opinions-- sadly. But you yourself are much more than just what you look like from the outside. I bet you that if a lot of us hadn't read you and liked you from the beginning, we probably would've had the same reaction when we met you. It's just the way women are, and that's why it's just easier sometimes to have guy friends.

HOWEVER, it's so important to find-- out of the 100 girls that probably won't like you no matter how hard you try-- those two or three female friends that won't judge you, won't be insecure around you and will understand how you feel. 'Cause without those three or four female friends, who are you going to discuss tampons and PMS with? Who are you gonna bi-tch about "what ass-holes men are" with? Who are you gonna go shopping with? Who are you gonna have ice cream and tequila with on those days that you need it the most. I tell you, it is worth it.

DON CHELO · Guru

Motown Junkie wrote:

WHY ARE WOMEN SUCH BEE-OTCHES???!!!

SERIOUSLY, IS IT GENETICS??? IS IT WRITTEN IN STONE THAT WOMEN HAVE TO GIVE EACH OTHER THE UP AND DOWN LOOK AND GRADE US???

WHY IS THAT MEN CAN GET ALONG WITH OTHER PEOPLE SO MUCH EASIER THAN WOMEN???

WHY???!!!! I HATE SOME WOMEN SOMETIMES BECAUSE THEY'RE SUCH B*TCHES!!!! I SHAKE THEIR HAND WHEN I'M INTRODUCED AND IT'S THE MOST DISGUSTING HANDSHAKE EVER!!!! YOU'D THINK I HAVE EBOLA!!!

WOMEN........... GOD HELP ME FOR BEING ONE BUT I'M NOT A BEE-OTCH!!!! I LOVE MEETING PEOPLE AND I'LL NEVER MAKE ANYONE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE LIKE SOME WOMEN DO TO ME SOMETIMES!!!!

MISS, U SHOULD BE PROUD DAT THEY GIV U DIRTY LOOKS AND THEY ACT THAT WAY TOWARDS YOU. IT MEANS ONE THING AND ONE THING ONLY. YOU'RE HOT!!!! AND OBVIOUSLY YOU HAVE SOMETHING THEY DON'T. SO THEY CAN HATE ALL THEY WANT CAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU'RE STILL HOT!!!

JOKER_ESCO · Foro Master

Motown Junkie wrote:

WHY ARE WOMEN SUCH BEE-OTCHES???!!!

SERIOUSLY, IS IT GENETICS??? IS IT WRITTEN IN STONE THAT WOMEN HAVE TO GIVE EACH OTHER THE UP AND DOWN LOOK AND GRADE US???

WHY IS THAT MEN CAN GET ALONG WITH OTHER PEOPLE SO MUCH EASIER THAN WOMEN???

WHY???!!!! I HATE SOME WOMEN SOMETIMES BECAUSE THEY'RE SUCH B*TCHES!!!! I SHAKE THEIR HAND WHEN I'M INTRODUCED AND IT'S THE MOST DISGUSTING HANDSHAKE EVER!!!! YOU'D THINK I HAVE EBOLA!!!

WOMEN........... GOD HELP ME FOR BEING ONE BUT I'M NOT A BEE-OTCH!!!! I LOVE MEETING PEOPLE AND I'LL NEVER MAKE ANYONE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE LIKE SOME WOMEN DO TO ME SOMETIMES!!!!

YEAH RIGHT LoL I REMEMBER NOT LONG AGO WHEN U WERE GIVING ME A HARD TIME SO IS NOT TRUE LoL U ACT LIKE THAT 2

Dogo · Comandante

Motown Junkie wrote:

I've been told that I have too much "sex appeal". QEF??? I know how I walk. I walk straight and I don't look around. I have hips!!! What am I supposed to do???

Oh MAN! finally someone who understands!!
Welcome to my world! it's a curse, I tellz YA!

Seriously though, it might just be innate in women to be that way
The competition for the "alpha male" thingy, and they carry it with them ALL the time
I dunno, just a thought

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

confundida wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

confundida wrote:

@MJ

DEFINE B!T CHY IN UR WORDS..... FROM WHAT I READ IN THIS THREAD CUZ LB SD TO....IS THAT YOU PAY TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO A WOMAN FIRST REACTION WHEN THEY MEET YOU.... AND YOU STRESS ABOUT OMG WHAT ARE THEY THINKING OF ME..... LIVE A LITTLE WHO CARES..... THE WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE ARE THE ONES THAT WILL RESPECT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE NOT WHAT U ARE EVEN IF IT MEANS HAVING A STONER CAT!!!

What I mean is someone ESPECIALLY a woman who will judge you without even knowing you. It's a woman who talks $hit about another woman as if it was SO important, for example, the women that found it so important to talk about the other woman's panty lines!!!

I like meeting women who act as if they've known you for years and who don't look up and down at you. You remember the first time I met you? It was for the empanada challenge! Well, without even knowing you, I went to pick you up and you invited me in to your house and we talked all the way downtown and back to your house like nothing!!!

Genie and I, without knowing each other, worked out together until she bailed on my a$$ and realized that El Pibe is a nazi trainer!!!! DON'T LIE GENIE!!!!!!!!

When I first met Miel, even after a little "tift", I gave her a ride home.

I'm just that type of person. I don't care whether you're prettier than me, whether you have more money, as long as you're a good hearted person and you can make me laugh, then you're awesome in my eyes!!!!!

Understand woman?????!!!!!

YEA YEA...... BUT I THINK IS THE OLDER WE GET THE MORE WE EXPECT OF OTHER WOMAN FOR EXAMPLE....NOT MANY WOMAN OUT THERE ARE IMPRESSED THAT IM A SINGLE MOTHER AND THAT IN SCHOOL, THEY THINK THAT BY NOW I SHOULD BE MARRIED OR HAVING A CAREER.....BUT I COULD CARE LESS WAT THOSE WOMAN THINK I JUST TELL THEM TO KE TE AND MOVE ALONG.......... I PERSONALLY THINK THAT OLDER WOMAN ARE JSUT MORE CRITICAL OF US YOUNGER WOMAN......

Really?? I find age has nothing to do with it!!!!

confundida · Foro Master

Motown Junkie wrote:

confundida wrote:

@MJ

DEFINE B!T CHY IN UR WORDS..... FROM WHAT I READ IN THIS THREAD CUZ LB SD TO....IS THAT YOU PAY TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO A WOMAN FIRST REACTION WHEN THEY MEET YOU.... AND YOU STRESS ABOUT OMG WHAT ARE THEY THINKING OF ME..... LIVE A LITTLE WHO CARES..... THE WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE ARE THE ONES THAT WILL RESPECT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE NOT WHAT U ARE EVEN IF IT MEANS HAVING A STONER CAT!!!

What I mean is someone ESPECIALLY a woman who will judge you without even knowing you. It's a woman who talks $hit about another woman as if it was SO important, for example, the women that found it so important to talk about the other woman's panty lines!!!

I like meeting women who act as if they've known you for years and who don't look up and down at you. You remember the first time I met you? It was for the empanada challenge! Well, without even knowing you, I went to pick you up and you invited me in to your house and we talked all the way downtown and back to your house like nothing!!!

Genie and I, without knowing each other, worked out together until she bailed on my a$$ and realized that El Pibe is a nazi trainer!!!! DON'T LIE GENIE!!!!!!!!

When I first met Miel, even after a little "tift", I gave her a ride home.

I'm just that type of person. I don't care whether you're prettier than me, whether you have more money, as long as you're a good hearted person and you can make me laugh, then you're awesome in my eyes!!!!!

Understand woman?????!!!!!

YEA YEA...... BUT I THINK IS THE OLDER WE GET THE MORE WE EXPECT OF OTHER WOMAN FOR EXAMPLE....NOT MANY WOMAN OUT THERE ARE IMPRESSED THAT IM A SINGLE MOTHER AND THAT IN SCHOOL, THEY THINK THAT BY NOW I SHOULD BE MARRIED OR HAVING A CAREER.....BUT I COULD CARE LESS WAT THOSE WOMAN THINK I JUST TELL THEM TO KE TE AND MOVE ALONG.......... I PERSONALLY THINK THAT OLDER WOMAN ARE JSUT MORE CRITICAL OF US YOUNGER WOMAN......

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

confundida wrote:

@MJ

DEFINE B!T CHY IN UR WORDS..... FROM WHAT I READ IN THIS THREAD CUZ LB SD TO....IS THAT YOU PAY TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO A WOMAN FIRST REACTION WHEN THEY MEET YOU.... AND YOU STRESS ABOUT OMG WHAT ARE THEY THINKING OF ME..... LIVE A LITTLE WHO CARES..... THE WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE ARE THE ONES THAT WILL RESPECT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE NOT WHAT U ARE EVEN IF IT MEANS HAVING A STONER CAT!!!

What I mean is someone ESPECIALLY a woman who will judge you without even knowing you. It's a woman who talks $hit about another woman as if it was SO important, for example, the women that found it so important to talk about the other woman's panty lines!!!

I like meeting women who act as if they've known you for years and who don't look up and down at you. You remember the first time I met you? It was for the empanada challenge! Well, without even knowing you, I went to pick you up and you invited me in to your house and we talked all the way downtown and back to your house like nothing!!!

Genie and I, without knowing each other, worked out together until she bailed on my a$$ and realized that El Pibe is a nazi trainer!!!! DON'T LIE GENIE!!!!!!!!

When I first met Miel, even after a little "tift", I gave her a ride home.

I'm just that type of person. I don't care whether you're prettier than me, whether you have more money, as long as you're a good hearted person and you can make me laugh, then you're awesome in my eyes!!!!!

Understand woman?????!!!!!

confundida · Foro Master

@MJ

DEFINE B!T CHY IN UR WORDS..... FROM WHAT I READ IN THIS THREAD CUZ LB SD TO....IS THAT YOU PAY TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO A WOMAN FIRST REACTION WHEN THEY MEET YOU.... AND YOU STRESS ABOUT OMG WHAT ARE THEY THINKING OF ME..... LIVE A LITTLE WHO CARES..... THE WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE ARE THE ONES THAT WILL RESPECT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE NOT WHAT U ARE EVEN IF IT MEANS HAVING A STONER CAT!!!

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

LaDyBuG wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

Girl, what you consider confidence...can come across differently to others......EX: they see you as being snobbish, beeotchy, even mean looking.....

I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.....as far as women feeling "threatened"......and those women are just insecure.....you don't need to get all worked up or upset, it's not worth it.....and NOT all of us are like that......you don't wanna be friends with those women anyway......so KE TE them! lol

BUT, A lot of factors play in how other women perceive you the first time.....

#1. If their man starts eye-ing you....(she's insecure, he's a dog and you were the innocent party that triggered that insecurity)

#2. If you proyect an aura of flirtyness (but in your head it's all innocent)

#3. If you're all giggly and super happy to meet them (that can come across as fake)

#4. Some people just have an aura about them that others don't like.....from the get go, people can hate you.....not everyone will like you...especially women...

This is not the first time you have ranted and been upset about this.....it's seems to happen a lot to you........so next time analyze why these women are how they are with you....and better yet....WHO are these women anyway......because that would make a great difference.....(co-workers, friends of your bf, friends of your female friends, fulanas....etc)

I'll tell you something ....and I'm sure all the women here can relate......we all have a "6th sense"......we sense when a women who meets us for the first time is being fake and we can tell if we like her right away or not from the vibe she gives out....IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW GOOD LOOKING SHE IS, WHAT SHOES SHE'S WEARING OR NADA........those are superficial factors that don't come in to play.....

Could it be that these women just don't like you......and they sense YOUR insecurity......(as confident as you might come across)......insecurity is something you can smell a mile away.....

If you give us a better scenario......we can even help you fix this "issue" you have with women.....(at least I can).......

I mean.....for example....GENIE...DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......CONFU....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM? ....... JULIE.....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......

And I know for a fact all 3 of them have MANY male friends.....and have no such constant issues with females......

ENVY is everywhere.....and if you constantly have this problem......maybe you need to do something about it on YOUR end......and not assume ALL women are Bee-otches......

(that's my friendly advise to you......sorry for the harshness girl)

I'm just being realistic.......and I won't tell you what you want to hear......

-- Edited by LaDyBuG at 20:44, 2006-09-20

Oh LaDyBuG......you always make me think. You know me. You've known me for years now. Do I come across as b*tchy? I don't think I do.

I've been told that I have too much "sex appeal". QEF??? I know how I walk. I walk straight and I don't look around. I have hips!!! What am I supposed to do???

I don't know. I give up. I've seen too many stupid women around. Like I mentioned the other day about the older lady who came in and you could see her underwear but these two bee-otches behind her found it SO IMPORTANT and life altering to start whispering about that woman!!!! UGH!!!! Get real!!!

Highschool was a nightmare for me!!! According to the lovely "ladies", I came from an all girl school so that I could all the guys there!!! They threw french fries and pennies at me in the cafeteria!!!!!

All I know is I just don't understand, there are women like you, Julie, and on a good day, like Lahtina (bah) where you can really hit it off and then there are times where you honestly have to look at yourself and question, "Dear God, do I smell??? Are my boobs hanging out???!!!!"

TO BEE-OTCHES!!!!

confundida · Foro Master

LaDyBuG wrote:

confundida wrote:

HOW THE HELL DID I GET INVOLVED IN THIS THREAD....I DIDNT EVEN POST ANYTHING....

CONFU HAVE ISSUES YEA SHE HAS ALOT OF THOSE BUT CONFU PROBLEMS CAN HAVE THERE OWN THREAD.....

AS FOR THIS THREAD.....I DONT KNOW WAT I WANNA SAY BUT I THINK WHEN IT COMES TO HAVING GIRLS AS FRIEND YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW FROM YOURSELF WHAT KIND OF FRIENDSHIP YOU WANT FROM THEM....HAVING A FRIENDSHIP WITH A WOMAN IS LIKE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY....

FOR EXAMPLE I HAVE MY PARTY FRIENDS, MY BUM FRIENDS, MY FRIENDS THAT I CAN CALL AT ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT....AND PERSONAL FRIENDS CHESS GIRLS THAT ARE CAN TRUST WITH MY LIFE EVEN IF IT MEANS THEM PULLING THE PLUG FOR ME IF THEY EVER HAVE TO.....

Ke tiene que ver esto con el thread........

Can we stay on topic please....

The thread is not about friendship.......

:omgthereisaroyalketeontheway:

KE TE RECONTRA!!!

NO BUT SHE IS SAYING THAT ALL WOMAN ARE B!TCHES.... MAYBE CUZ SHE WONT GIVE THEM A CHANCE..... BUT WATEVER IM NOT SAYING NADA MORE....PLUS IM THE LEAST PERSON THAT SHOULD SAY SOMETHING.....

LaDyBuG · Comandante

confundida wrote:

HOW THE HELL DID I GET INVOLVED IN THIS THREAD....I DIDNT EVEN POST ANYTHING....

CONFU HAVE ISSUES YEA SHE HAS ALOT OF THOSE BUT CONFU PROBLEMS CAN HAVE THERE OWN THREAD.....

AS FOR THIS THREAD.....I DONT KNOW WAT I WANNA SAY BUT I THINK WHEN IT COMES TO HAVING GIRLS AS FRIEND YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW FROM YOURSELF WHAT KIND OF FRIENDSHIP YOU WANT FROM THEM....HAVING A FRIENDSHIP WITH A WOMAN IS LIKE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY....

FOR EXAMPLE I HAVE MY PARTY FRIENDS, MY BUM FRIENDS, MY FRIENDS THAT I CAN CALL AT ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT....AND PERSONAL FRIENDS CHESS GIRLS THAT ARE CAN TRUST WITH MY LIFE EVEN IF IT MEANS THEM PULLING THE PLUG FOR ME IF THEY EVER HAVE TO.....

Ke tiene que ver esto con el thread........

Can we stay on topic please....

The thread is not about friendship.......

:omgthereisaroyalketeontheway:

confundida · Foro Master

HOW THE HELL DID I GET INVOLVED IN THIS THREAD....I DIDNT EVEN POST ANYTHING....

CONFU HAVE ISSUES YEA SHE HAS ALOT OF THOSE BUT CONFU PROBLEMS CAN HAVE THERE OWN THREAD.....

AS FOR THIS THREAD.....I DONT KNOW WAT I WANNA SAY BUT I THINK WHEN IT COMES TO HAVING GIRLS AS FRIEND YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW FROM YOURSELF WHAT KIND OF FRIENDSHIP YOU WANT FROM THEM....HAVING A FRIENDSHIP WITH A WOMAN IS LIKE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY....

FOR EXAMPLE I HAVE MY PARTY FRIENDS, MY BUM FRIENDS, MY FRIENDS THAT I CAN CALL AT ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT....AND PERSONAL FRIENDS CHESS GIRLS THAT ARE CAN TRUST WITH MY LIFE EVEN IF IT MEANS THEM PULLING THE PLUG FOR ME IF THEY EVER HAVE TO.....

Danny416 · TOP Guru

honestly i think alot of you women have some sort of envy in you..i dunno..maybe its just in a womens nature

LaDyBuG · Comandante

Lahtina wrote:

Bah, don't worry, MJ. Bee-otches are generally, if not always, the most insecure women with the lowest self esteem... in other words: loo-hoo-sah-hers! I just can't imagine someone with a healthy self esteem treating others like crap.

YOU'D BE SURPRISED!

Lahtina · Guru

Bah, don't worry, MJ. Bee-otches are generally, if not always, the most insecure women with the lowest self esteem... in other words: loo-hoo-sah-hers! I just can't imagine someone with a healthy self esteem treating others like crap.

Danny416 · TOP Guru

GENIE wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

Yeah, I'm good. It's just recently I've met four girls that have the greatest personality ever and El Pibe knows I have like NO female friends whatsoever so it means a lot to me. I've met a lot of women that for stupid reasons, like Danny said, right away hate!!! I just don't understand it.

Tyra Banks did a whole episode on how women are so f@cked up and she's all for "sisterhood". She asked people to send in their stories and I so e-mailed my story on how women have made my life a living hell!!! Don't even get me started on my highschool years!!!!

-- Edited by Motown Junkie at 15:50, 2006-09-20

Yeah i knwo what u mean! Poor Orale has to hear me biatch about everything that has to do with females! from my mother to my friends!

@Danny seems to me like a lot of girls confide in u way to much kinda like the gay friend we women all have and go to!

lol hell nooooo...

i just notice all this cuz its pretty obvious......any guy can notice it..doesnt take a brainer...

its good to anazlye these things...then you can distinguish who is the chicken head **** from the head on her shoulders girl

-- Edited by Danny416 at 23:48, 2006-09-20

Quixote · Guru

LadyBug - I like what you wrote and I am in agreement with you. Sometimes we get used to instant attention and approval so when other people don't readily offer it, the easiest solution is to shut them out and seek comfort in those who do. In this case, men will surely offer instant attention and approval - hence the emphasis on male friends.

LAB_ · Guru

LaDyBuG wrote:

@ LAB

Sori ah! Pero que tiene que ver lo que pusiste con lo que MJ esta hablando?

er.... yo..... hmmm..... esteee....

Nada?

I guess I got carried away.

and the pic thingie is no irony. that kicked a$$ up there.

LAB_ · Guru

LaDyBuG wrote:

Motown Junkie wrote:

What's the point of being a **** towards a woman that you don't even know???!! For all you know, you can be missing out on a great friendship!!!

What does a **** get out of pointing out some girls hair, shoes, boyfriend, whatever???!!! Does it play any factor in her life??? Dear GOD, I hope not!!!

I just don't understand.

I walk with confidence and some people find that threatning!!!! Gimme a break!!!!

Girl, what you consider confidence...can come across differently to others......EX: they see you as being snobbish, beeotchy, even mean looking.....

I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.....as far as women feeling "threatened"......and those women are just insecure.....you don't need to get all worked up or upset, it's not worth it.....and NOT all of us are like that......you don't wanna be friends with those women anyway......so KE TE them! lol

BUT, A lot of factors play in how other women perceive you the first time.....

#1. If their man starts eye-ing you....(she's insecure, he's a dog and you were the innocent party that triggered that insecurity)

#2. If you proyect an aura of flirtyness (but in your head it's all innocent)

#3. If you're all giggly and super happy to meet them (that can come across as fake)

#4. Some people just have an aura about them that others don't like.....from the get go, people can hate you.....not everyone will like you...especially women...

This is not the first time you have ranted and been upset about this.....it's seems to happen a lot to you........so next time analyze why these women are how they are with you....and better yet....WHO are these women anyway......because that would make a great difference.....(co-workers, friends of your bf, friends of your female friends, fulanas....etc)

I'll tell you something ....and I'm sure all the women here can relate......we all have a "6th sense"......we sense when a women who meets us for the first time is being fake and we can tell if we like her right away or not from the vibe she gives out....IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW GOOD LOOKING SHE IS, WHAT SHOES SHE'S WEARING OR NADA........those are superficial factors that don't come in to play.....

Could it be that these women just don't like you......and they sense YOUR insecurity......(as confident as you might come across)......insecurity is something you can smell a mile away.....

If you give us a better scenario......we can even help you fix this "issue" you have with women.....(at least I can).......

I mean.....for example....GENIE...DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......CONFU....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM? ....... JULIE.....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......

And I know for a fact all 3 of them have MANY male friends.....and have no such constant issues with females......

ENVY is everywhere.....and if you constantly have this problem......maybe you need to do something about it on YOUR end......and not assume ALL women are Bee-otches......

(that's my friendly advise to you......sorry for the harshness girl)

I'm just being realistic.......and I won't tell you what you want to hear......

-- Edited by LaDyBuG at 20:44, 2006-09-20

Aaaaand that's how LadyBug made it into ...

"Dear Girlfriend".... An antology.

LaDyBuG · Comandante

@ LAB

Sori ah! Pero que tiene que ver lo que pusiste con lo que MJ esta hablando?

LAB_ · Guru

Motown Junkie wrote:

What's the point of being a **** towards a woman that you don't even know???!! For all you know, you can be missing out on a great friendship!!!

What does a **** get out of pointing out some girls hair, shoes, boyfriend, whatever???!!! Does it play any factor in her life??? Dear GOD, I hope not!!!

I just don't understand.

I walk with confidence and some people find that threatning!!!! Gimme a break!!!!

I have found that I tend to respect women. Like, naturally. Women don't do for any of the phobias I do have.

One way or another, I have even bought, for real, I think, into the whole hold-open-door-for-her thing, and I don't mind it at all.

But if a woman's first assumption upon being approached with a friendly attitude, is that, THAT SAME HALF HOUR, one's gonna try to get in her pants, hell no, there's no way I am gonna risk being ripped over some strange ultra-self-preservationist instinct that is certainly not helped by the fact that I don't seem to fulfill some kind of derailed male beauty pattern or, even worse, that I don't seem to carry enough dough.

So, honestly, I don't mind going through life being particularly deferential toward women. Call it veiled machismo, patronizing chavelry or whatever, but I do enjoy it. However, having the energy to go, over and over again, through the almost-more-than-predictable drama queen drill is not something I feel I'll be able to.

What do I do? Enjoy those short moments of sharing and conversation and, most of the times, contemplation I get to have during the day. Being a resident doctoral student in an undergrad inundated college, believe me ye, does not help.

LaDyBuG · Comandante

Motown Junkie wrote:

What's the point of being a **** towards a woman that you don't even know???!! For all you know, you can be missing out on a great friendship!!!

What does a **** get out of pointing out some girls hair, shoes, boyfriend, whatever???!!! Does it play any factor in her life??? Dear GOD, I hope not!!!

I just don't understand.

I walk with confidence and some people find that threatning!!!! Gimme a break!!!!

Girl, what you consider confidence...can come across differently to others......EX: they see you as being snobbish, beeotchy, even mean looking.....

I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.....as far as women feeling "threatened"......and those women are just insecure.....you don't need to get all worked up or upset, it's not worth it.....and NOT all of us are like that......you don't wanna be friends with those women anyway......so KE TE them! lol

BUT, A lot of factors play in how other women perceive you the first time.....

#1. If their man starts eye-ing you....(she's insecure, he's a dog and you were the innocent party that triggered that insecurity)

#2. If you proyect an aura of flirtyness (but in your head it's all innocent)

#3. If you're all giggly and super happy to meet them (that can come across as fake)

#4. Some people just have an aura about them that others don't like.....from the get go, people can hate you.....not everyone will like you...especially women...

This is not the first time you have ranted and been upset about this.....it's seems to happen a lot to you........so next time analyze why these women are how they are with you....and better yet....WHO are these women anyway......because that would make a great difference.....(co-workers, friends of your bf, friends of your female friends, fulanas....etc)

I'll tell you something ....and I'm sure all the women here can relate......we all have a "6th sense"......we sense when a women who meets us for the first time is being fake and we can tell if we like her right away or not from the vibe she gives out....IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW GOOD LOOKING SHE IS, WHAT SHOES SHE'S WEARING OR NADA........those are superficial factors that don't come in to play.....

Could it be that these women just don't like you......and they sense YOUR insecurity......(as confident as you might come across)......insecurity is something you can smell a mile away.....

If you give us a better scenario......we can even help you fix this "issue" you have with women.....(at least I can).......

I mean.....for example....GENIE...DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......CONFU....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM? ....... JULIE.....DO YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM??......

And I know for a fact all 3 of them have MANY male friends.....and have no such constant issues with females......

ENVY is everywhere.....and if you constantly have this problem......maybe you need to do something about it on YOUR end......and not assume ALL women are Bee-otches......

(that's my friendly advise to you......sorry for the harshness girl)

I'm just being realistic.......and I won't tell you what you want to hear......

-- Edited by LaDyBuG at 20:44, 2006-09-20