what to do????????????

XXX · Senior Member

RE: what to do????????????

El Representante · Guru

McOSIRIS wrote:

the next step is that she's gonna tell you that she was born a boy and her name is Rodolfo... please keep you composure, tell her ur her brother and walk away.... never loose ur cool though...very important...

This Is Funny . . .

dj_nash · Guru

El Duro wrote:

dj_nash wrote: NO GOOD .......................ALL IM SAYING IS CHANGES ARE NO GOOD UNLESS THERE FOR THE BEST IF SHES CHANGING THE NEGATIVE WAY THEN LET HER GO .................. I FEEL YOUR PAIN NIGGA ................KEEP YOUR HEAD UP u sound like 2 pac

DO I REALLY...................NO GOOD

-- Edited by dj_nash at 11:42, 2006-05-26

El Duro · Foro Master

dj_nash wrote:

NO GOOD .......................ALL IM SAYING IS CHANGES ARE NO GOOD UNLESS THERE FOR THE BEST IF SHES CHANGING THE NEGATIVE WAY THEN LET HER GO .................. I FEEL YOUR PAIN NIGGA ................KEEP YOUR HEAD UP

u sound like 2 pac

dj_nash · Guru

NO GOOD .......................ALL IM SAYING IS CHANGES ARE NO GOOD UNLESS THERE FOR THE BEST IF SHES CHANGING THE NEGATIVE WAY THEN LET HER GO .................. I FEEL YOUR PAIN NIGGA ................KEEP YOUR HEAD UP

Gitana · Foro Master

I'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR SITUATION....

THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS ASK HER STRAIGHT UP WHAT HER PROBLEM IS.... IF SHE ISN'T FEELING YOU LIKE SHE DID AT ONE POINT THEN PERHAPS YOU'RE BETTER OFF GOING YOUR SEPARATE WAY!!! IT'S NOT FAIR FOR YOU TO BE GETTING THE COLD SHOULDER AND TRYING TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP IF SHE SIMPLY ISN'T TRYING!!!

I HOPE EVERYTHING TURNS OUT FOR THE BEST!!!

el_pitbull · Regular

thank you to all of you foro members for giving me your advises thanks alot and ill do whats right thank you once again

Pelon` · Guru

"Asi es...y asi SERA" Damn I wonder who says that lol....damn Dona Juana (Alborada)

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

el_pitbull wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote: el_pitbull wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: You know what, they`re not gonna believe you porque no les conviene. They would rather blame everything and anyone else than see the wrong they did. i don't understand what you meen by that? Meaning that when it is the case of a man that has not been the greatest and has screwed up a lot with his wife/girlfriend, all of a sudden when the girl becomes withdrawn, they automatically assume that the girl is cheating. I guess they see it as karma coming back to bite them in the butt, although it may not always be the case. Les conviene mas to blame the girl`s change on an external factor and take the blame away from themselves. Im speaking from my experiences and those of people close to me. i understand on what you are saying all i came and post her is to ask for everyones oppinion thats all . ive talk to her last night and all she says is tha nothing is wrong but i could feel something wrong. no one changes just from one day to another there is always a reason . dont you think? in your point of view colombiana what you think is happening?

Please dont take it as if Im attacking or anything.

Im actually a nice girl. LMAO

Like I said earlier on. You can keep trying to talk to her to see if she tells you what`s wrong. Some people are the type that they keep quiet until something makes them explode, whereas some people (me), when something bugs them you know right away. All Im saying is dont automatically assume she`s cheating, and if she is, try to figure out what may have driven her to those actions. And then again, there is a lot of fish in the sea so I dont see the need of people putting up with crap that they dont need tol

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

Honey, I think deep down you know what's going on. Are you trying to convince yourself otherwise???

If you didn't love her, clearly you'd have no problem, but you do, and I can totally relate to what you're going through.

Perhaps taking a break would be a good idea. See how she reacts. Perhaps she'll realize she had a good man while you two take a break and you two can get back together, stronger and even better than before. If not, then you know it's what she wanted and everything happens for a reason. I'm sure you won't have a problem finding a good woman.

el_pitbull · Regular

Colombiana4Life wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: You know what, they`re not gonna believe you porque no les conviene. They would rather blame everything and anyone else than see the wrong they did. i don't understand what you meen by that? Meaning that when it is the case of a man that has not been the greatest and has screwed up a lot with his wife/girlfriend, all of a sudden when the girl becomes withdrawn, they automatically assume that the girl is cheating. I guess they see it as karma coming back to bite them in the butt, although it may not always be the case. Les conviene mas to blame the girl`s change on an external factor and take the blame away from themselves. Im speaking from my experiences and those of people close to me.

i understand on what you are saying all i came and post her is to ask for everyones oppinion thats all .

ive talk to her last night and all she says is tha nothing is wrong but i could feel something wrong.

no one changes just from one day to another there is always a reason . dont you think?

in your point of view colombiana what you think is happening?

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

el_pitbull wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote: You know what, they`re not gonna believe you porque no les conviene. They would rather blame everything and anyone else than see the wrong they did. i don't understand what you meen by that?

Meaning that when it is the case of a man that has not been the greatest and has screwed up a lot with his wife/girlfriend, all of a sudden when the girl becomes withdrawn, they automatically assume that the girl is cheating. I guess they see it as karma coming back to bite them in the butt, although it may not always be the case. Les conviene mas to blame the girl`s change on an external factor and take the blame away from themselves. Im speaking from my experiences and those of people close to me.

el_pitbull · Regular

Colombiana4Life wrote:

You know what, they`re not gonna believe you porque no les conviene. They would rather blame everything and anyone else than see the wrong they did.

i don't understand what you meen by that?

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

AD wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote: Ok, i dont necessarily think she`s cheating. Women become withdrawn when their needs are not being met, especially EMOTIONAL needs. Have you been neglecting her? Do you respect her and make her be respected by others? Think about these things. And it`s funny how a lot of men automatically assume that when a woman becomes withdrawn she`s automatically cheating. I'm not saying that never happens, but majority of the time I think the men resort to that way of thinking out of insecurity and maybe stuff catching up to them. El que nada debe nada teme. I agree! Why do they do that! And how the heck do you get them to believe you? I've seen it happen to some friends!

You know what, they`re not gonna believe you porque no les conviene. They would rather blame everything and anyone else than see the wrong they did.

AD · Regular Plus

Colombiana4Life wrote:

Ok, i dont necessarily think she`s cheating. Women become withdrawn when their needs are not being met, especially EMOTIONAL needs. Have you been neglecting her? Do you respect her and make her be respected by others? Think about these things. And it`s funny how a lot of men automatically assume that when a woman becomes withdrawn she`s automatically cheating. I'm not saying that never happens, but majority of the time I think the men resort to that way of thinking out of insecurity and maybe stuff catching up to them. El que nada debe nada teme.

I agree! Why do they do that! And how the heck do you get them to believe you? I've seen it happen to some friends!

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

Ok, i dont necessarily think she`s cheating. Women become withdrawn when their needs are not being met, especially EMOTIONAL needs. Have you been neglecting her? Do you respect her and make her be respected by others? Think about these things. And it`s funny how a lot of men automatically assume that when a woman becomes withdrawn she`s automatically cheating. I'm not saying that never happens, but majority of the time I think the men resort to that way of thinking out of insecurity and maybe stuff catching up to them. El que nada debe nada teme.

AD · Regular Plus

Marky Mark wrote:

I know a lawyer he can contact... ...umm wait... ... nevermind he's gone.

SOWY

Marky Mark · Foro Master

I know a lawyer he can contact...

...umm wait...

... nevermind he's gone.

DulceGalletita · Foro Master

El Duro wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ???? SHE FOUND SOME ONE ELSE BTW WELCOME TO EL FORO-- Edited by El Duro at 13:53, 2006-05-25

Ay dio mio naño!!!

Ummm, talk to her and find out ...

WELCOME TO FOROLANDIA Pitbull!!!

AD · Regular Plus

McOSIRIS wrote:

AD wrote: There is lack of communication! You both need to talk about your situation. Honestly, i hate talking, but it's the only way to get through things. Also, make sure you listen to her and there might be a reason why she is reacting the way she does. Don't assume things, because it can only make things worse. Just listen to her. If she really loves you, then it might not be something major. since when women talk????? all they know how to say whne we ask what's wrong is "NOTHING".... WTF "nothing" means in the women language???

LMAO!! You know what....you are right! We do tend to do that. I don't know, it's nature i guess. But seriously, men should know what's wrong with us after they have done something to upset us!

But i think with El Pitbull, i think it's more then something small, so he really needs to talk about his current situation. That's the only way to get through things.

El Mismo · Guru

miguel wrote:

people start acting cold and distant when they are gearing up to dump someone

very true miguel....little stuff that never before bother them starts to.like the way you walk, the way you drink water, the way you blink, everything annoys thems.

-- Edited by El Mismo at 16:38, 2006-05-25

McOSIRIS · Comandante

AD wrote:

There is lack of communication! You both need to talk about your situation. Honestly, i hate talking, but it's the only way to get through things. Also, make sure you listen to her and there might be a reason why she is reacting the way she does. Don't assume things, because it can only make things worse. Just listen to her. If she really loves you, then it might not be something major.

since when women talk?????

all they know how to say whne we ask what's wrong is "NOTHING"....

WTF "nothing" means in the women language???

miguel · TOP Guru

people start acting cold and distant when they are gearing up to dump someone

AD · Regular Plus

el_pitbull wrote:

Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ????

There is lack of communication! You both need to talk about your situation. Honestly, i hate talking, but it's the only way to get through things. Also, make sure you listen to her and there might be a reason why she is reacting the way she does. Don't assume things, because it can only make things worse. Just listen to her. If she really loves you, then it might not be something major.

Chilenita · Comandante

Okay so why is everyone assuming she is cheating???

She could be bored of you

she could have some sort of personal problem

she could be depressed

If you have been with her for a year then be mature and ask her instead of assuming

XXX · Senior Member

Chale Tanga wrote:

XXX wrote: no se talvez puede ser lo mas seguro es quien sabe and who do i sound like ? thats abstract

so you still didnt tell me who i sound/write like

El Mismo · Guru

1. she does not love you anymore, the fire is gone.
2.She's probably has her eye on someone else
3.she doesn't know how to tell you that the love is gone
4.she is hopping you get the point and end the relationship your self

5. how old are you.......

no disrespect.....perrito

Chale Tanga · TOP Guru

XXX wrote:

no se talvez puede ser lo mas seguro es quien sabe and who do i sound like ?

thats abstract

XXX · Senior Member

Chale Tanga wrote:

XXX wrote: el_pitbull wrote: i wanna talk to her first and then see from there. you think thats a good idea? actually i think id a good idea talk to her and be str8 up and from there you make your desition but for real think twice before you decide anything hmmmmmmmmmmm..... you sound/write oddly familiar

no se talvez

puede ser

lo mas seguro es quien sabe

and who do i sound like ?

Pelon` · Guru

el_pitbull wrote:

i wanna talk to her first and then see from there. you think thats a good idea?

I know you'd want to do everything in your will to return how you both were back then. But play it strong man! If you still want to remain friends (not sure why you would but...if you do) don't make out with any of her friends and just dump her...ni modo

But if you wanna get her back make out with good friend of hers or even date the other girl.

She played you for a fool do it back!

Chale Tanga · TOP Guru

XXX wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: i wanna talk to her first and then see from there. you think thats a good idea? actually i think id a good idea talk to her and be str8 up and from there you make your desition but for real think twice before you decide anything

hmmmmmmmmmmm..... you sound/write oddly familiar

Pelon` · Guru

Dulce wrote:

that's f@cked up, don't go down her level. Just dump her and that will be it.

You could but then again if she can do it why can't he? At this level I wouldn't really worry about "dont go down her level". Play it like you give a shiet I know it must hurt but you gotta play it strong. Date her girlfriend or sister. That should get her good!

LGigolo · Comandante

bistor wrote:

Better yet, keep her, and get a new one.

yeah, and DO tell her too... I don't see ANY problem - that's how open relationships work... THE BEST!

XXX · Senior Member

el_pitbull wrote:

i wanna talk to her first and then see from there. you think thats a good idea?

actually i think id a good idea

talk to her and be str8 up

and from there you make your desition

but for real think twice before you decide anything

el_pitbull · Regular

Dulce wrote:

Pelon` wrote: el_pitbull wrote: Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ???? That can be quite a problem. If she's cold with you bro. Just start looking for another girl. If I were you I'd still be with her until you find another girl. Then dump her Sucks to be in a position like that man, I feel for ya! that's f@cked up, don't go down her level. Just dump her and that will be it.

i wanna talk to her first and then see from there.

you think thats a good idea?

JR · Guru

Dulce wrote:

Pelon` wrote: el_pitbull wrote: Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ???? That can be quite a problem. If she's cold with you bro. Just start looking for another girl. If I were you I'd still be with her until you find another girl. Then dump her Sucks to be in a position like that man, I feel for ya! that's f@cked up, don't go down her level. Just dump her and that will be it.

YES

El Duro · Foro Master

Dulce wrote:

Pelon` wrote: el_pitbull wrote: Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ???? That can be quite a problem. If she's cold with you bro. Just start looking for another girl. If I were you I'd still be with her until you find another girl. Then dump her Sucks to be in a position like that man, I feel for ya! that's f@cked up, don't go down her level. Just dump her and that will be it.

THAT'S EXCATLY WHAT I'VE BEEN TELLING HIM

Dulce · Regular

Pelon` wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ???? That can be quite a problem. If she's cold with you bro. Just start looking for another girl. If I were you I'd still be with her until you find another girl. Then dump her Sucks to be in a position like that man, I feel for ya!

that's f@cked up, don't go down her level. Just dump her and that will be it.

El Duro · Foro Master

JR wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: JR wrote: El Duro wrote: el_pitbull wrote: NeNa wrote: El Duro wrote: Dump her butt and get a new one That's not nice... they've been going out for a year.. maybe this "pitbull" guy does have feelings for her....!!! You know what nena i do have strong feelings for her and i thought she had the same feelings for me, she use to tell me that she loves me all the time and now she doent. If she does is once in the blue moon or when i ask her if she does YUP SHE'S CHEATING.. I HAVE SEEN IT IN YOUR LIFE no but seriously she probably changed and is not that into u anymore so i say go out and enjoy single life i think ill do that ya man why stuck with someone thats not into u so just enjoy life and have fun single life is the best ohhhhh yaaaa believe u me

I KNOW BRO

el_pitbull · Regular

Pelon` wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ???? That can be quite a problem. If she's cold with you bro. Just start looking for another girl. If I were you I'd still be with her until you find another girl. Then dump her Sucks to be in a position like that man, I feel for ya!

ill keep it in mind bro thank you

Pelon` · Guru

el_pitbull wrote:

Ive been going out with my girl for al most a year , everything was good untill like a month ago when she started changing she doesnt tell me that she loves me like she use to and shes so cold. we don't even talk as much as we use to. why you think the change ????

That can be quite a problem. If she's cold with you bro. Just start looking for another girl. If I were you I'd still be with her until you find another girl. Then dump her

Sucks to be in a position like that man, I feel for ya!

el_pitbull · Regular

Bonita wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: Bonita wrote: a sudden change in attitude could mean a lot of things...from cheating to just needing space. i dont know how your relationship is or was but i think the only person that you need to talk to is her. only she knows the reasonoinh behind her change. you never know...perhaps she doesnt even know she is being different. best advise...TALK TO HER!!! I did talk to her and she says that is nothin wrong and that she wants to be with me but shes still acting different i have been faced with a similar situation before. after talking to him he said nothing was wrong and that he still loved me and wanted to be with me...and i let that go for a while...however im the type of perso that needs her man around her, holding her and kissing her (not all the time, but enough to feel loved in our own way). i told him i needed that and that i was an affectionate person that liked that reciprocated. he understood and everything was great after that...its all in the communication...that the most important part of any relationship.

then what ill do is meet with her after work and have a long conversation and figuer it out from there

Bonita · Guru

el_pitbull wrote:

Bonita wrote: a sudden change in attitude could mean a lot of things...from cheating to just needing space. i dont know how your relationship is or was but i think the only person that you need to talk to is her. only she knows the reasonoinh behind her change. you never know...perhaps she doesnt even know she is being different. best advise...TALK TO HER!!! I did talk to her and she says that is nothin wrong and that she wants to be with me but shes still acting different

i have been faced with a similar situation before. after talking to him he said nothing was wrong and that he still loved me and wanted to be with me...and i let that go for a while...however im the type of perso that needs her man around her, holding her and kissing her (not all the time, but enough to feel loved in our own way). i told him i needed that and that i was an affectionate person that liked that reciprocated. he understood and everything was great after that...its all in the communication...that the most important part of any relationship.

JR · Guru

el_pitbull wrote:

JR wrote: El Duro wrote: el_pitbull wrote: NeNa wrote: El Duro wrote: Dump her butt and get a new one That's not nice... they've been going out for a year.. maybe this "pitbull" guy does have feelings for her....!!! You know what nena i do have strong feelings for her and i thought she had the same feelings for me, she use to tell me that she loves me all the time and now she doent. If she does is once in the blue moon or when i ask her if she does YUP SHE'S CHEATING.. I HAVE SEEN IT IN YOUR LIFE no but seriously she probably changed and is not that into u anymore so i say go out and enjoy single life i think ill do that

ya man why stuck with someone thats not into u so just enjoy life and have fun

single life is the best ohhhhh yaaaa believe u me

El Duro · Foro Master

JR wrote:

El Duro wrote: el_pitbull wrote: NeNa wrote: El Duro wrote: Dump her butt and get a new one That's not nice... they've been going out for a year.. maybe this "pitbull" guy does have feelings for her....!!! You know what nena i do have strong feelings for her and i thought she had the same feelings for me, she use to tell me that she loves me all the time and now she doent. If she does is once in the blue moon or when i ask her if she does YUP SHE'S CHEATING.. I HAVE SEEN IT IN YOUR LIFE no but seriously she probably changed and is not that into u anymore so i say go out and enjoy single life

THAT IS WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT

el_pitbull · Regular

JR wrote:

El Duro wrote: el_pitbull wrote: NeNa wrote: El Duro wrote: Dump her butt and get a new one That's not nice... they've been going out for a year.. maybe this "pitbull" guy does have feelings for her....!!! You know what nena i do have strong feelings for her and i thought she had the same feelings for me, she use to tell me that she loves me all the time and now she doent. If she does is once in the blue moon or when i ask her if she does YUP SHE'S CHEATING.. I HAVE SEEN IT IN YOUR LIFE no but seriously she probably changed and is not that into u anymore so i say go out and enjoy single life

i think ill do that

JR · Guru

El Duro wrote:

el_pitbull wrote: NeNa wrote: El Duro wrote: Dump her butt and get a new one That's not nice... they've been going out for a year.. maybe this "pitbull" guy does have feelings for her....!!! You know what nena i do have strong feelings for her and i thought she had the same feelings for me, she use to tell me that she loves me all the time and now she doent. If she does is once in the blue moon or when i ask her if she does YUP SHE'S CHEATING.. I HAVE SEEN IT IN YOUR LIFE

no but seriously she probably changed and is not that into u anymore so i say go out and enjoy single life

NeNa · Guru

el_pitbull wrote:

NeNa wrote: El Duro wrote: Dump her butt and get a new one That's not nice... they've been going out for a year.. maybe this "pitbull" guy does have feelings for her....!!! You know what nena i do have strong feelings for her and i thought she had the same feelings for me, she use to tell me that she loves me all the time and now she doent. If she does is once in the blue moon or when i ask her if she does

.. ohh crap.. then probably she doesn't have the same feelings as u have... .. the only thing for u to do.. is confront her.. ask her straight up, be FIRM....then u'll know what to do...

el_pitbull · Regular

Bonita wrote:

a sudden change in attitude could mean a lot of things...from cheating to just needing space. i dont know how your relationship is or was but i think the only person that you need to talk to is her. only she knows the reasonoinh behind her change. you never know...perhaps she doesnt even know she is being different. best advise...TALK TO HER!!!
I did talk to her and she says that is nothin wrong and that she wants to be with me but shes still acting different

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

el_pitbull wrote:

You know what nena i do have strong feelings for her and i thought she had the same feelings for me, she use to tell me that she loves me all the time and now she doent. If she does is once in the blue moon or when i ask her if she does

Oh god u sound like ur so into her .

Hey give her the same treatment & she'll react to it.

If she's acting strange/****y whatever, give it back to her. Don't let her step all over you & treat u like sh_t. REACT be tough.