Daeveed wrote:

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Chilenita wrote: are you trying to get this girl to slit her wrists in the bathroom?   Hey, either if it's by blood or fat, she'll lose weight.

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ohhhh que malo

Chilenita wrote:

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are you trying to get this girl to slit her wrists in the bathroom?

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Hey, either if it's by blood or fat, she'll lose weight.

Chilenita wrote:

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Daeveed wrote: I've got it!!!   It has nothing to do with honesty though.   Here's the deal. Tell your friend to take her to see his family (if he doesn't have family here, then friends), but beforehand, your friend must tell his family/friends to dicretely mention to her that she's gained a lot weight, and that she should lose some...one by one. It is very important that when this happens, your friend is not part of the conversation. Ideally she should be told at least 3 times during the "visit". Once she gets convinced (a second visit might be necessary), she will most likely mention it to your friend. At this point, we must rely on your friend's diplomacy to lure...err...invite her to join him on physical activities, with the excuse that he is, coincidentally, also gaining weight. are you trying to get this girl to slit her wrists in the bathroom?

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I was just going to say the same thing, what is wrong with you Daeveed

I've got it!!!

 

It has nothing to do with honesty though.

 

Here's the deal. Tell your friend to take her to see his family (if he doesn't have family here, then friends), but beforehand, your friend must tell his family/friends to dicretely mention to her that she's gained a lot weight, and that she should lose some...one by one. It is very important that when this happens, your friend is not part of the conversation. Ideally she should be told at least 3 times during the "visit". Once she gets convinced (a second visit might be necessary), she will most likely mention it to your friend. At this point, we must rely on your friend's diplomacy to lure...err...invite her to join him on physical activities, with the excuse that he is, coincidentally, also gaining weight.

Daeveed wrote:

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I think HE should start gaining weight, until one day she tell him..."hey, you're getting fat"..then he should promptly respond "what a beautiful coincidence my dear, I was thinking the same".     In all seriousness, I believe honesty is the best way to go.   "Honey, you're a fat pig."

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Daeveed wrote:

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I think HE should start gaining weight, until one day she tell him..."hey, you're getting fat"..then he should promptly respond "what a beautiful coincidence my dear, I was thinking the same".     In all seriousness, I believe honesty is the best way to go.   "Honey, you're a fat pig."

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I'm with Mr. Güerra on this one. Honesty is the best answer. But instead of concentrating on the weight gain, maybe your friend should dig deeper (not like that, you pervs... ) Weight issues are usually rooted in something else. Maybe it's self-esteem, maybe she's so comfortable in the marriage, the routine. It usually happens, that once you get married, you settle and let certain priorities go. But it's also true that instead of telling her, "honey, you should lose weight" he should encourage her to do things together, especially if he is active himself. That'll not only bring them closer together, but it'll help her as well. Unless she just flat out doesn't see it as a problem. Who knows? What do you care, anyway, Neruda? Just leave 'em alone!

I think HE should start gaining weight, until one day she tell him..."hey, you're getting fat"..then he should promptly respond "what a beautiful coincidence my dear, I was thinking the same".

 

 

In all seriousness, I believe honesty is the best way to go.

 

"Honey, you're a fat pig."

neruda wrote:

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I don't think my friend's wife is pregnant nor would I be friends with someone who complained his wife was fat while she was carrying his child. Normal weight gain (a few pounds) happens to almost everyone who doesn't watch their weight. But I think the issue resolves around the fact that my friend is very active and is encouraging her to do more physical stuff together. But it seems it not her priority anymore or she is secure in her marriage and doesn't care if she gets fat (30-40+ pounds). I have taken more than a casual interest in his delima because (1) he is a good friend and he is wondering if he made a mistake (especailly in the future when she does become pregnant), and (2) he is a lot like me (very health conscious and very active). I admitted to him that I was always afraid that my future wife one day would become so overweight that I would loose all attraction to her.

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        I AGREE with chilentia if he and her are married he should be able to say something but he has to approach it very carefuly kinda like walking on glass!!

 

neruda wrote:

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I don't think my friend's wife is pregnant nor would I be friends with someone who complained his wife was fat while she was carrying his child. Normal weight gain (a few pounds) happens to almost everyone who doesn't watch their weight. But I think the issue resolves around the fact that my friend is very active and is encouraging her to do more physical stuff together. But it seems it not her priority anymore or she is secure in her marriage and doesn't care if she gets fat (30-40+ pounds). I have taken more than a casual interest in his delima because (1) he is a good friend and he is wondering if he made a mistake (especailly in the future when she does become pregnant), and (2) he is a lot like me (very health conscious and very active). I admitted to him that I was always afraid that my future wife one day would become so overweight that I would loose all attraction to her.

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30 - 40 pounds is alot of wieght to gain.  That is not just a few pounds that is a big change in apperance.  I think he should say something to her.  In as nice of a way as he can.  He should try his best not to hurt her but he should say something if it's bothering him that much.  You should be able to talk to your husband/wife about anything including wieght!

Lahtina wrote:

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Chale Tanga wrote: Motown Junkie wrote: lves What if......like in my case or Chale's case........we DON'T feel good about ourselves?  What??? HUH?I feel wicked about myself... lol!HELLO!!! Have you not seen my msn title??? It says "I LOVE MYSELF" Yah Im not conceited... I just love me... I love myself cuz i have no one to love me... Okay Im cold and lonely now... Excuse me, I'm going to go cry for a bit... Hahaha, when I read this I was like: shouldn't Chale speak for herself? Ok, so that's cleared up. Chale rocks!

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Oh chut up!!!!!!! 

I made a mistake!!!!  Pardon me, your highness!!!   

Chale Tanga wrote:

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Lahtina wrote:
Hahaha, when I read this I was like: shouldn't Chale speak for herself? Ok, so that's cleared up. Chale rocks!
I do! Yah me! Vote for me! Vote for Chale!@Motown: Yah no... i really do heart myself.  Even with the extra bit of pounds on my azz... its still a fine azz none the less mmmm hmmmmm thats right hunny!

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thats all i have to say about this.

and i voted for CHALE!!!

X@vier

Motown Junkie wrote:

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Salsera de Corazon wrote: Motown Junkie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Motown Junkie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: What is it with everybody about weight, listen it doesn't matter how a person looks, it should be about feelings and how the person is, now I am not saying that a girl/guy should gain like 300 pounds, but if the guy/girsl gains a couple pounds is o.k  as long as the person feels good about themselves What if......like in my case or Chale's case........we DON'T feel good about ourselves?  Then it's ok, no??? Well like I said if YOU don't feel good about it then do something, like go the gym, eat properly, see Myself I used to be skinny and then out of nowhere I gained like a lot, and I didn't care I was O.K. with it, but then I decided it to loose some weight but becuase I wanted it  I know I'm not massive but health wise I'd like to start eating better and cut down on the pounds!!  It's seriously a self-esteem crusher! *handsonhipstappingmyfoot*  WELL THAT'S WHY I DECIDED TO START ROLLERBLADING AND LAUNCHING MYSELF INTO BUSHES, OK???????????!!!! Thanks for the advice!  oh honey I"ll give you a good diet for the next two weeks you'll lose more than five pounds, eating properly, don't have any carbs, no pops, no junk food, everything on the grill and a lots of salads, and soup, and do a lot of walking But I can't cook    My world revolves around carbs and pop!  Although, I have started to drink more water though.  And walking..........*sigh*...........I can't STAND walking!!  It's so boring but I'm going shopping today so that'll be enough walking for me!!! @Chale.........F@CK, who the hell am I talking about???  Ummm....is it Luna???  Hold on, I'm gonna check the other thread.

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@ Motown Junkie: well hon then we have a problemif you can't cook, but still even if you eat outside just asked them to make it how you want it, I do that when I go out and eat, not all the time but sometimes LOL

Miel wrote:

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neruda wrote: I have a friend whose significant other is starting to put on the pounds. And he is not happy about it. He asked me what was the best way to convey to her that he thinks she's getting to fat. Is there anyway to do so? Would any woman take it as helpful criticism? -- Edited by neruda at 15:36, 2006-05-18 I think that FAT is not the right word to use,. but a  healthier life style,.. both should start doing something about it,. like excersing together ,. chosing the right food,. etc,. but always being honest,. Listen to Salsera ,. she knows what she is talking about,. she is my idol,. but I love chocolate :(:(:(:( I can't do what she does,. but soon,. soon,. i hope i will becaome slimer,.. I hope anyway

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@miel too bad aun no tengo el plaser de conserte so I can see the be4 and the after.............pero de cual quier manera se nota q eres una linda persona

I would not mind if my girl puts on some pounds....its normal as time goes by.

But if she starts to eat all sorts of junk knowing that its going to make her really heavy than normal....i see there a problem......and then listening to her whine about her weight and why she is gaining weight??.....no no no....

Motown Junkie wrote:

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Salsera de Corazon wrote: Motown Junkie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: What is it with everybody about weight, listen it doesn't matter how a person looks, it should be about feelings and how the person is, now I am not saying that a girl/guy should gain like 300 pounds, but if the guy/girsl gains a couple pounds is o.k  as long as the person feels good about themselves What if......like in my case or Chale's case........we DON'T feel good about ourselves?  Then it's ok, no??? Well like I said if YOU don't feel good about it then do something, like go the gym, eat properly, see Myself I used to be skinny and then out of nowhere I gained like a lot, and I didn't care I was O.K. with it, but then I decided it to loose some weight but becuase I wanted it  I know I'm not massive but health wise I'd like to start eating better and cut down on the pounds!!  It's seriously a self-esteem crusher! *handsonhipstappingmyfoot*  WELL THAT'S WHY I DECIDED TO START ROLLERBLADING AND LAUNCHING MYSELF INTO BUSHES, OK???????????!!!! Thanks for the advice! 

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oh honey I"ll give you a good diet for the next two weeks you'll lose more than five pounds, eating properly, don't have any carbs, no pops, no junk food, everything on the grill and a lots of salads, and soup, and do a lot of walking

Salsera de Corazon wrote:

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Miel wrote: neruda wrote: I have a friend whose significant other is starting to put on the pounds. And he is not happy about it. He asked me what was the best way to convey to her that he thinks she's getting to fat. Is there anyway to do so? Would any woman take it as helpful criticism? -- Edited by neruda at 15:36, 2006-05-18 I think that FAT is not the right word to use,. but a  healthier life style,.. both should start doing something about it,. like excersing together ,. chosing the right food,. etc,. but always being honest,. Listen to Salsera ,. she knows what she is talking about,. she is my idol,. but I love chocolate :(:(:(:( I can't do what she does,. but soon,. soon,. i hope i will becaome slimer,.. I hope anyway come on prima as long as you are happy, don't forget I used to be haapy on those times LOL

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Ur happier now,. lier,.. tu obsecionada,.. but u look better ,..

Salsera de Corazon wrote:

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Motown Junkie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: What is it with everybody about weight, listen it doesn't matter how a person looks, it should be about feelings and how the person is, now I am not saying that a girl/guy should gain like 300 pounds, but if the guy/girsl gains a couple pounds is o.k  as long as the person feels good about themselves What if......like in my case or Chale's case........we DON'T feel good about ourselves?  Then it's ok, no??? Well like I said if YOU don't feel good about it then do something, like go the gym, eat properly, see Myself I used to be skinny and then out of nowhere I gained like a lot, and I didn't care I was O.K. with it, but then I decided it to loose some weight but becuase I wanted it  I know I'm not massive but health wise I'd like to start eating better and cut down on the pounds!!  It's seriously a self-esteem crusher!

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*handsonhipstappingmyfoot*  WELL THAT'S WHY I DECIDED TO START ROLLERBLADING AND LAUNCHING MYSELF INTO BUSHES, OK???????????!!!!

Thanks for the advice! 

Your friend should take his wife's extra pounds as proof of her fidelity.  

GENIE wrote:

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neruda wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: What is it with everybody about weight, listen it doesn't matter how a person looks, it should be about feelings and how the person is, now I am not saying that a girl/guy should gain like 300 pounds, but if the guy/girsl gains a couple pounds is o.k  as long as the person feels good about themselves They are now married. Before the wedding she watching her weight, going to the gym, etc. Now apparently she doesn't do that much. My friends feels like her weight/health consciousness before their marriage was all a sham. She really didn't like watching her weight or doing all those activities. He feels she's a bit of a fraud (in that matter only).            MAYBE SHES PREGNANT AND DOESNT KNOW IT!!!! OR MAYBE JUST MAYBE SHES NOT HAPPY!!! AND GETS DEPRESSED AND EATS!!! OR SHES UR TYPICAL (ENTER A RACE HERE) AND NOW THAT SHES MARRIED ITS LIKE OH WELL FUCK IT WERE TOGHTHER FOR LIFE LET ME JUST LET MYSELF GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

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When I'm super super happy, I eat!  When I'm super super depressed, I eat!!!  It's a lose lose situation but GENIE IS RIGHT!!!!!!!!  Your friend's girl has him on lockdown with that wedding ring so WHO CARES IF THE GUT IS BANGIN', now???!!!!!

HAHAHA!!!  That's perfect!!!  When and IF I get married, I'm gonna be walking around like Fat Bastard rubbin' my tummy, "GET IN MY BELLY!!!!!!!!"

Motown Junkie wrote:

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Salsera de Corazon wrote: What is it with everybody about weight, listen it doesn't matter how a person looks, it should be about feelings and how the person is, now I am not saying that a girl/guy should gain like 300 pounds, but if the guy/girsl gains a couple pounds is o.k  as long as the person feels good about themselves What if......like in my case or Chale's case........we DON'T feel good about ourselves?  Then it's ok, no??? Well like I said if YOU don't feel good about it then do something, like go the gym, eat properly, see Myself I used to be skinny and then out of nowhere I gained like a lot, and I didn't care I was O.K. with it, but then I decided it to loose some weight but becuase I wanted it  I know I'm not massive but health wise I'd like to start eating better and cut down on the pounds!!  It's seriously a self-esteem crusher!

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neruda wrote:

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Salsera de Corazon wrote: What is it with everybody about weight, listen it doesn't matter how a person looks, it should be about feelings and how the person is, now I am not saying that a girl/guy should gain like 300 pounds, but if the guy/girsl gains a couple pounds is o.k  as long as the person feels good about themselves They are now married. Before the wedding she watching her weight, going to the gym, etc. Now apparently she doesn't do that much. My friends feels like her weight/health consciousness before their marriage was all a sham. She really didn't like watching her weight or doing all those activities. He feels she's a bit of a fraud (in that matter only).

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           MAYBE SHES PREGNANT AND DOESNT KNOW IT!!!! OR MAYBE JUST MAYBE SHES NOT HAPPY!!! AND GETS DEPRESSED AND EATS!!! OR SHES UR TYPICAL (ENTER A RACE HERE) AND NOW THAT SHES MARRIED ITS LIKE OH WELL FUCK IT WERE TOGHTHER FOR LIFE LET ME JUST LET MYSELF GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

LMAOOOO.. you gotta love the difference btwn the male perspective and the female perspective.. honestly.. i agree w/ MJ on this one.. tell him that instead of inviting her out to see a movie w/ popcorn to say "hey babes, let's go rollarblading today or let's go for a hike" 

*NOTE TO ALL MEN* NEVER EVER EVER TELL YOUR GIRL YOU THINK SHE IS GETTING FAT OR PUTTING ON WEIGHT... it was have the opposite affect and she'll end up resenting you for it...

Now... all together now..

FORO MEN: No hunny, you do not look fat in that dress.. hey wanna go bike riding this weekend.. should be fun!

GFs of FORO MEN: You suck and your winkie is very small!

SEEE... we're all happy!

What is it with everybody about weight, listen it doesn't matter how a person looks, it should be about feelings and how the person is, now I am not saying that a girl/guy should gain like 300 pounds, but if the guy/girsl gains a couple pounds is o.k  as long as the person feels good about themselves

neruda wrote:

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I have a friend whose significant other is starting to put on the pounds. And he is not happy about it. He asked me what was the best way to convey to her that he thinks she's getting to fat. Is there anyway to do so? Would any woman take it as helpful criticism? -- Edited by neruda at 15:36, 2006-05-18

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I think they should both join the gym encourage her to get off her arse and start working out.  Typically both tend to gain weight in the relationship but if she's at the point where she gained like 30 in a yr or two then shes gotta start pumping iron. 

-- Edited by Pelon` at 15:47, 2006-05-18