I used to think that you should just settle down once you've found the "one". but people change and everything changes. So i say that as long as the person that i am with makes me happy and i know that he feels the same, i say stick with it. Obviously there will always be hard times and you need to decide if the good out number the bad. If you talk to any couple taht have been together 40-50 years, of course they have some really bad stories to tell, but there are also plenty of good memories. Wasting your time with someone doesn't make sense to me. the point of a relationship is to bring happiness, not eternal happiness, that just doesn't exist.
I agree with you Salsagal. It is true that all relationships have their hard times, but when the bad outweighs the good that's when it can become a problem. Also, relationships are not 50-50, they should be 100-100, meaning both parties give it their all. At different times there may always be one person that puts more effort, but sometimes when ur always the giver or always the one putting up with stuff, that's when it eventually wears you down. As for Dogo's comment, I dont think 2-3 months is enough time to figure out where the relationship may go, unless for example you discover drastic things (e.g. person is a compulsive liar, cheater, double life, etc).
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I used to think that you should just settle down once you've found the "one". but people change and everything changes. So i say that as long as the person that i am with makes me happy and i know that he feels the same, i say stick with it. Obviously there will always be hard times and you need to decide if the good out number the bad. If you talk to any couple taht have been together 40-50 years, of course they have some really bad stories to tell, but there are also plenty of good memories. Wasting your time with someone doesn't make sense to me. the point of a relationship is to bring happiness, not eternal happiness, that just doesn't exist.
Let me see if i undestood,. u r all saying that u need to settle with somebody,. that is a neeed,. or something tha tu must do,. because at the end u'll be alone,.. ?????
In my opinion the age has nothing to do ,. if u want to settle or not,.. probably as person we change perspectives ,. but that can happen at any stage,.. personally i think ,. i just wasn't born to live with someone,. and settle,.. just my opinion,.. but for those who want ,. i beleive that u'll know what is gonna be better not only for u but for the other person as well,. and of course ur kids if u have ,..
Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself?
PERSONALLY I THINK IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS YOUR KIDS COME FIRST.... WHAT'S THE POINT OF BEING WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T GET ALONG WITH YOUR KIDS OR FEELS ANNOYED HAVING YOUR KIDS AROUND.... ONCE YOU HAVE KIDS AND YOU START TO DATE SOMEONE, THAT PERSON HAS TO ACCEPT YOU AND YOUR LITTLE ONES.... IT'S A MUCH HARDER RELATIONSHIP TO MAINTAIN.....
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: Well, there is no right age either but I think that 25 a still a bit young to jump into marriage, specially if you haven't been with the person for so long. Shop around and find someone that suits you the best, try it for a while and if it works out, well go for the extra mile. Personally, I would suggest you 2 live together first, becasue it is not that same thing, at all, to spend an over night here and there that sharing the daily running of a home. Remember that being in a long term realtionship comes with commitements and sometimes sacrifices. Do you think you're ready for this ?
mmmmm dunno that yet.. .by the way I am not marrying anybody or thinking about it I was speaking in general terms! But thanks for the advise girls!
Julie wrote: No offense taken girl Well, there is no right age either but I think that 25 a still a bit young to jump into marriage, specially if you haven't been with the person for so long. Shop around and find someone that suits you the best, try it for a while and if it works out, well go for the extra mile. Personally, I would suggest you 2 live together first, becasue it is not that same thing, at all, to spend an over night here and there that sharing the daily running of a home. Remember that being in a long term realtionship comes with commitements and sometimes sacrifices. Do you think you're ready for this ? I'm still shopping....LOL!! I agree with Julie, you must live together before then you can decide if you want to get married and be together forever........but then again, nothing is forever.I kind of agree with you here, nothing is forever, so the best is to live the person and if it doesn' work, well just doesn't work, a piece of paper is nothing
No offense taken girl Well, there is no right age either but I think that 25 a still a bit young to jump into marriage, specially if you haven't been with the person for so long. Shop around and find someone that suits you the best, try it for a while and if it works out, well go for the extra mile. Personally, I would suggest you 2 live together first, becasue it is not that same thing, at all, to spend an over night here and there that sharing the daily running of a home. Remember that being in a long term realtionship comes with commitements and sometimes sacrifices. Do you think you're ready for this ?
I'm still shopping....LOL!!
I agree with Julie, you must live together before then you can decide if you want to get married and be together forever........but then again, nothing is forever.
REALLY!!?!?!?! I feel like I need too...Like I am so much closer to 30.. NO OFFENCE TO ANYBODY...but since I ve turned 25 I ve started sorta freaking out ..LOL I guess you can say....I mean I dont wanna do it RIGHT NOW but yes in the next few years up to 30 I do want to start settling down...You guys really think I am still to young???
No offense taken girl
Well, there is no right age either but I think that 25 a still a bit young to jump into marriage, specially if you haven't been with the person for so long. Shop around and find someone that suits you the best, try it for a while and if it works out, well go for the extra mile.
Personally, I would suggest you 2 live together first, becasue it is not that same thing, at all, to spend an over night here and there that sharing the daily running of a home.
Remember that being in a long term realtionship comes with commitements and sometimes sacrifices. Do you think you're ready for this ?
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Jade wrote: I have been struggling with this issue myself personally...I recently turned 25 and feel like I need to begin settling down..I have decided to keep in mind that I shouldnt date for fun anymore but for serious..I have decided that when I begin to date I will TELL IT HOW IT IS...simply "I am not looking to play around I am looking to settle down so pls dont waste my time and I wont waste yours"...Its funny how we get to this point eh?! when we being to date in our teen years we get excited because we have someone we can call our gf/bf but at our age the game changes drasticaly and you begin to think about the near the future....yeah and I have cuttoff dates..I mean if by the 6th month it dont feel right its better to cut off....sad reality but true..cuz you could possibly enjoy being with someone but if you dont think they are fit to be your wifey or hubbie then its hard when you gotta cut them off... *caugh *caugh Sorry Jade, this is for the only young member amongs us Wowww, at you age, marriage was a BIG NO NO for me ! I should have listen to me more. Girl there is no hurry, just try to get a better understanding of what you are really looking for, being realistic of course. REALLY!!?!?!?! I feel like I need too...Like I am so much closer to 30.. NO OFFENCE TO ANYBODY...but since I ve turned 25 I ve started sorta freaking out ..LOL I guess you can say....I mean I dont wanna do it RIGHT NOW but yes in the next few years up to 30 I do want to start settling down...You guys really think I am still to young???
I have been struggling with this issue myself personally...I recently turned 25 and feel like I need to begin settling down..I have decided to keep in mind that I shouldnt date for fun anymore but for serious..I have decided that when I begin to date I will TELL IT HOW IT IS...simply "I am not looking to play around I am looking to settle down so pls dont waste my time and I wont waste yours"...Its funny how we get to this point eh?! when we being to date in our teen years we get excited because we have someone we can call our gf/bf but at our age the game changes drasticaly and you begin to think about the near the future....yeah and I have cuttoff dates..I mean if by the 6th month it dont feel right its better to cut off....sad reality but true..cuz you could possibly enjoy being with someone but if you dont think they are fit to be your wifey or hubbie then its hard when you gotta cut them off...
Oh honey, you are only 25 you are still young enjoy your life while you can and don't settle yet, just make sure that the day you decided to that you had already enjoy your life to the MAX
I have been struggling with this issue myself personally...I recently turned 25 and feel like I need to begin settling down..I have decided to keep in mind that I shouldnt date for fun anymore but for serious..I have decided that when I begin to date I will TELL IT HOW IT IS...simply "I am not looking to play around I am looking to settle down so pls dont waste my time and I wont waste yours"...Its funny how we get to this point eh?! when we being to date in our teen years we get excited because we have someone we can call our gf/bf but at our age the game changes drasticaly and you begin to think about the near the future....yeah and I have cuttoff dates..I mean if by the 6th month it dont feel right its better to cut off....sad reality but true..cuz you could possibly enjoy being with someone but if you dont think they are fit to be your wifey or hubbie then its hard when you gotta cut them off...
*caugh *caugh Sorry Jade, this is for the only young member amongs us
Wowww, at you age, marriage was a BIG NO NO for me ! I should have listen to me more. Girl there is no hurry, just try to get a better understanding of what you are really looking for, being realistic of course.
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I have been struggling with this issue myself personally...I recently turned 25 and feel like I need to begin settling down..I have decided to keep in mind that I shouldnt date for fun anymore but for serious..I have decided that when I begin to date I will TELL IT HOW IT IS...simply "I am not looking to play around I am looking to settle down so pls dont waste my time and I wont waste yours"...Its funny how we get to this point eh?! when we being to date in our teen years we get excited because we have someone we can call our gf/bf but at our age the game changes drasticaly and you begin to think about the near the future....yeah and I have cuttoff dates..I mean if by the 6th month it dont feel right its better to cut off....sad reality but true..cuz you could possibly enjoy being with someone but if you dont think they are fit to be your wifey or hubbie then its hard when you gotta cut them off...
Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? I'm Not In Your Shoes But I Would Have To Say . . . You Should Always Put Your Children First . . . AGREE WITH YOU 100% - But Only Until They Reach A Certain Age -
Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself?
I'm Not In Your Shoes But I Would Have To Say . . .
yea ok let me see , it all depends on the person , some people want to have someone when they go home , someone they can talk to , go out , laught , share times . however some people don t like to be in relationships because they like their freedom . i find myself in the middle of this , i m in a relationship but sometimes i want my freedom back , go out with the boys have fun .. but i guess you can t have it all .. you gotta make a decision to see what s more important in your life
Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself?
Sure it's harder, one because you are very limited in time..... another (and not so much because you're a single mom or dad) because now your potential partner has 2 people (in my case) to get along with!!
The answer to your second question is obvious... my kid first..... I don't think I would be with someone that didn't get along with my kid/s
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Salsera de Corazon wrote: rick wrote: Julie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me I loved my parents but I remember telling my dad, since an early age (12 +/-) "Dad, you know, it's ok with me if you see other women. One day I'll be gone and you will be all by yourself. Of course, it will be a bit strange seing another woman than Mom going out of your bedroom but IT'S YOUR LIFE" So it is surely not easy but I think that with good communication you won't have any problem. After all, you kid probalbly saw you going up and down the hill few times and just want his Mom to be happy i need a tissue Come over and I'll give you more than one con tal que no sea papel higinieco paracas o periodico , i ll come !!
peruano tenias que ser y si like Julie said what is your opinion?
Julie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me I loved my parents but I remember telling my dad, since an early age (12 +/-) "Dad, you know, it's ok with me if you see other women. One day I'll be gone and you will be all by yourself. Of course, it will be a bit strange seing another woman than Mom going out of your bedroom but IT'S YOUR LIFE" So it is surely not easy but I think that with good communication you won't have any problem. After all, you kid probalbly saw you going up and down the hill few times and just want his Mom to be happy i need a tissue
So Smarty, what is your opinion ?
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rick wrote: Julie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me I loved my parents but I remember telling my dad, since an early age (12 +/-) "Dad, you know, it's ok with me if you see other women. One day I'll be gone and you will be all by yourself. Of course, it will be a bit strange seing another woman than Mom going out of your bedroom but IT'S YOUR LIFE" So it is surely not easy but I think that with good communication you won't have any problem. After all, you kid probalbly saw you going up and down the hill few times and just want his Mom to be happy i need a tissue Come over and I'll give you more than one
con tal que no sea papel higinieco paracas o periodico , i ll come !!
Julie wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me I loved my parents but I remember telling my dad, since an early age (12 +/-) "Dad, you know, it's ok with me if you see other women. One day I'll be gone and you will be all by yourself. Of course, it will be a bit strange seing another woman than Mom going out of your bedroom but IT'S YOUR LIFE" So it is surely not easy but I think that with good communication you won't have any problem. After all, you kid probalbly saw you going up and down the hill few times and just want his Mom to be happy i need a tissue Come over and I'll give you more than one
Salsera de Corazon wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me I loved my parents but I remember telling my dad, since an early age (12 +/-) "Dad, you know, it's ok with me if you see other women. One day I'll be gone and you will be all by yourself. Of course, it will be a bit strange seing another woman than Mom going out of your bedroom but IT'S YOUR LIFE" So it is surely not easy but I think that with good communication you won't have any problem. After all, you kid probalbly saw you going up and down the hill few times and just want his Mom to be happy
yes, I think that one day, once he is a little bit older he will be able to understand that no matter what I will always love him, but on the other hand have you ever heard that comment que los hijos hombres son mas posesivos con sus mamas que las hijas mujeres, when my parents got divorce I said to my mom you should meet other people, so you could be happy, but yo creo que si hubriese tenido un hermano el no le hubriese dicho lo mismo
Muy cierto. Grrr, que chocante ! Hombres, had to hombres
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Salsera de Corazon wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me I loved my parents but I remember telling my dad, since an early age (12 +/-) "Dad, you know, it's ok with me if you see other women. One day I'll be gone and you will be all by yourself. Of course, it will be a bit strange seing another woman than Mom going out of your bedroom but IT'S YOUR LIFE" So it is surely not easy but I think that with good communication you won't have any problem. After all, you kid probalbly saw you going up and down the hill few times and just want his Mom to be happy
yes, I think that one day, once he is a little bit older he will be able to understand that no matter what I will always love him, but on the other hand have you ever heard that comment que los hijos hombres son mas posesivos con sus mamas que las hijas mujeres, when my parents got divorce I said to my mom you should meet other people, so you could be happy, but yo creo que si hubriese tenido un hermano el no le hubriese dicho lo mismo
Salsera de Corazon wrote: Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself? Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me
I loved my parents but I remember telling my dad, since an early age (12 +/-) "Dad, you know, it's ok with me if you see other women. One day I'll be gone and you will be all by yourself. Of course, it will be a bit strange seing another woman than Mom going out of your bedroom but IT'S YOUR LIFE"
So it is surely not easy but I think that with good communication you won't have any problem. After all, you kid probalbly saw you going up and down the hill few times and just want his Mom to be happy
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Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself?
Well to answer my own question I agree with you Julie, it is harder for a single parent to date someone, and specially I think when you are a single mom, it is harder, some guys don't want to commit and it is understandable, some think that they are going to be their father or more responsabilities for a kid that it is not even theirs, and also for example my kid is to attach to me, very protective and that makes it harder for me
Now I have a question since this topic is about settling, this question is for the single parents or anybody that wants to give their opinion. Is it harder to date someone when you have your own kids? Do you think about your kids first or yourself?
Well I am not a mother but I think that ,yes, it is probably more difficult for a single parent, specially women, to find a date that will turn into a long term relationship.I think that the barrier is falling and that men are not ask scared as they were before (dating a woman with child) but there is still work to do.
Think about my child or myself ? Well, at that point, one is obviously linked to the other so yes, I would be much more careful of who I choose to date and for the same reason, I won't get involved with someone that won't do the trick for the long run. Does mean that I won't have fun from time to time on the side but it will never be considered as serious and not introduced to my child as the B/f.
It's hard for me to word it the way I want but I know for sure that I will be very cautious and at the end of the day, my child will come first.
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Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
Well I think that there is no point on waisting each others time, I wouldn't be with someone just to say I have someone, but you are right Dogo a lot of younger people do that, they are just with somebody just for that heck of it, as I get Older(not much ofcourse LOL) I tend to see if I am dating someone and 2 or 3 months go by and you see that it is not going to work I think you should just tell the person and move on
Julie wrote: TV Buff wrote: Julie wrote: It's all about maturity (not sure if you say it like that "madurez") and age I suppose La Maturité... pardon my Frenché. Exactement ! Julie, your french is so rusty: Exactementé...
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TV Buff wrote: Julie wrote: It's all about maturity (not sure if you say it like that "madurez") and age I suppose La Maturité... pardon my Frenché. Exactement !
Julie, your french is so rusty: Exactementé...
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Let's see, isn't the first 2 months normally filled with "color de rosas"??? Most relationships tend to start all great, sweet, and nothing goes wrong... so isn't that stage too early to tell if the relationship will go the distance??? If you have serious concerns, doubts, problems about the relationship, aboutthings that just can't be worked out within that time span, then it probably is a good idea to call it quits after 2 months. But if its just small things that can be worked on, why end something so soon, that could be potentially the greatest thing that can happen to you??? "To achieve greatness, great risk needs to be taken" anonymous.
Not always. It can start nicely but slowly, taking your time to discover the other. You know, you don't want to rush in and after that finding yourself in a delicate situation if you realise that it's a no no. Well, specially when you get older.
It's all about maturity (not sure if you say it like that "madurez") and age I suppose
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Let's see, isn't the first 2 months normally filled with "color de rosas"??? Most relationships tend to start all great, sweet, and nothing goes wrong... so isn't that stage too early to tell if the relationship will go the distance??? If you have serious concerns, doubts, problems about the relationship, aboutthings that just can't be worked out within that time span, then it probably is a good idea to call it quits after 2 months. But if its just small things that can be worked on, why end something so soon, that could be potentially the greatest thing that can happen to you???
"To achieve greatness, great risk needs to be taken" anonymous.
Dogo wrote: Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one If you are in your early 20's just play around until you see something else come your way. Otherwise if your in the 30's then no time to waste, clock is ticking!
What about 9...........something
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Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
If you are in your early 20's just play around until you see something else come your way. Otherwise if your in the 30's then no time to waste, clock is ticking!
I think it all depends on the stage that your life is currently at. Some people are still at the 'i wanna bang bang bang' stage, whereas others are at the 'I wanna bang bang bang, but see if this could go further' stage.
If your at the second stage, then dont bother with the non-commited flings, wait till the right person comes along. Sometimes its better to be single than to be with the wrong person... feelings just end up getting hurt.
@ Dogo: If youre looking for a 'bang bang bang' deal... you know my digits...
Dogo wrote: Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one I need a thread like this.....I'm just about to move in with my Girl....but not sure not sure...something inside me tells me "Don't do it"
Haven't you learned from your paast experienced
Listen to yourself !!!!!!!
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God wrote: Dogo wrote: Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
I need a thread like this.....I'm just about to move in with my Girl....but not sure not sure...something inside me tells me "Don't do it"
Dogo wrote: Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
I need a thread like this.....I'm just about to move in with my Girl....but not sure not sure...something inside me tells me "Don't do it"
Dogo wrote: hahaha!......... yes Buffy, more rumors, please! Actually no, the question just popped in my head... although, now that you mention it, I should've saved it for such a situation -- Edited by Dogo at 08:10, 2006-05-04 Baina's mature enough. I'm sure he'll understand how you feel about MiMi (and by MiMi I don't mean Mariah Carey).
Don't we have a "Chismes" thread
You're right, actually we have more than one ...... lol
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hahaha!......... yes Buffy, more rumors, please! Actually no, the question just popped in my head... although, now that you mention it, I should've saved it for such a situation -- Edited by Dogo at 08:10, 2006-05-04
Baina's mature enough. I'm sure he'll understand how you feel about MiMi (and by MiMi I don't mean Mariah Carey).
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Dogo wrote: Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one Are you trying to dump someone from foro in a very subtle mature non-committed way? Smooth...
hahaha!......... yes Buffy, more rumors, please!
Actually no, the question just popped in my head... although, now that you mention it, I should've saved it for such a situation
-- Edited by Dogo at 08:10, 2006-05-04
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Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
Are you trying to dump someone from foro in a very subtle mature non-committed way?
Smooth...
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Dogo wrote: Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one THE FIRST COUPLE OF MONTHS ARE ALWAYS A CRUCIAL TIME... AND... ISN'T IT ALWAYS A GOOGOO GA GA SITUATION IN THE BEGINNING...???
Well, no, not really
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Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
Holy ......, QEF, OMG and all the others !
I just had that conversation with a g/f yesterday and we agreed that there is no point is "waisting" you time, and the other person's time either, if you don't think this relationship can go all the way (as you said). We're not 20 anymore and even if we still enjoy a layed back life style, we do have other goals and responsabilities which make us think more ahead that the first few months of googoo ga ga since it is in most of the case when you start dating someone.
So no, I don't think I will settle with this person if I don't see a real potential down the road. I guess this is why we would tend to stay single longer but I hope that won't mean forever and that the right person will finaly pop up from nowhere. Because I do think and still believe that it is a great thing to be able to share you life with someone even if right now I would have some trouble commiting, no matter what.
Oughhh, I don't know if all that make sense and I am sure I forgot to explore some more points so I probably come back later on this
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Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY? I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age) If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
THE FIRST COUPLE OF MONTHS ARE ALWAYS A CRUCIAL TIME...
AND...
ISN'T IT ALWAYS A GOOGOO GA GA SITUATION IN THE BEGINNING...???
Are you, or would you, be in a committed relationship that you KNOW there’s no way in hell it will go ALL the way, as in marriage or a very long committed relationship? WHY?
I’m sure there are many that are.... I used to But as I get older I realize there is no time to waste in those types of relationships, just for the sake of saying "I have someone"
That may explain my extended "singleness"lol... but really, why would anybody do that (as I see it at this age)
If I’m not googoo ga ga over you in the first month or two then it isn’t going anywhere and there’s no longer a relationship... at least not a committed one
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.by the way I am not marrying anybody or thinking about it I was speaking in general terms! But thanks for the advise girls! 
Well, there is no right age either but I think that 25 a still a bit young to jump into marriage, specially if you haven't been with the person for so long. Shop around and find someone that suits you the best, try it for a while and if it works out, well go for the extra mile. Personally, I would suggest you 2 live together first, becasue it is not that same thing, at all, to spend an over night here and there that sharing the daily running of a home. Remember that being in a long term realtionship comes with commitements and sometimes sacrifices. Do you think you're ready for this ? I'm still shopping....LOL!! I agree with Julie, you must live together before then you can decide if you want to get married and be together forever........but then again, nothing is forever. I kind of agree with you here, nothing is forever, so the best is to live the person and if it doesn' work, well just doesn't work, a piece of paper is nothing 
*caugh *caugh Sorry Jade, this is for the only young member amongs us 
- But Only Until They Reach A Certain Age - 
i need a tissue 
Julie, your french is so rusty: Exactementé... 
Actually no, the question just popped in my head... although, now that you mention it, I should've saved it for such a situation 
since it is in most of the case when you start dating someone.
