FOR THOSE WHO SAID THAT THEY ARE AFRAID OF GETTING A DIVORCE!! I DON'T BLAME THEM. A DIVORCE CAN START AT A 1 OR 2 GRAND. WE HAD A CLIENT THAT GOT FOR SPOUSAL AND CHILD SUPPORT ($40,000.00 PER MONTH). WITH 2 CHILDREN!! WHAT WILL SHE DO WITH ALL THAT MONEY??
$40,000.00 a month!!!!!!!!!!! Did your company help the man pick out a casket and burial site
FOR THOSE WHO SAID THAT THEY ARE AFRAID OF GETTING A DIVORCE!! I DON'T BLAME THEM.
A DIVORCE CAN START AT A 1 OR 2 GRAND. WE HAD A CLIENT THAT GOT FOR SPOUSAL AND CHILD SUPPORT ($40,000.00 PER MONTH). WITH 2 CHILDREN!! WHAT WILL SHE DO WITH ALL THAT MONEY??
COLO i totally agree w/ you. Hubby and I were at a point once where we said, this is it, gloves off, put a fork in me i'm done... but we talked it out. we thought 'bout the kids, we thought 'bout the future and what would happen. granted there is still a lot of love btwn us and it was that that made us work it out in the end but the kids were our number one priority and our kids helped us get to that point where we said, we've invested so much of our lives into each other, into our family, we can't simply turn and walk away because we've hit a rough patch.
Marriage is about sacrifices and compromise. It's hard ... oh man is it ever hard but somehow, someway, you get thru it.
You know what scares me though, because sometimes I watch his show as well. More out of curiosity than anything else really, is that in many cases, pple knows what to do but just stay there and wait instead of reacting to the problem. I find it sad that many have to go to this kind of public humiliation (en el sentido de que no ha de ser facil tener su vida expuesta ahi) to find to courage to do something about the probkem(s) they are facing. Some don't even try to dfind a solution before going there . What I meant by not being a Genius is that D. Phil don't do miracle and if pple are not willing fight for what they have or dig deep enough into their problems to find a solution, there is really nothing he can do for them and it's a waste of time for everyone.
When I studied Psychology as my Major...I learned something very interesting..which probably some of you may aleady know...a person like DR. PHIL...or a psychologist in general who help people with their problems DONT REALLY HELP PEOPLE... they are there basically to be SOUND BOARDS or MIRRORS to people with problems...ALL OF US KNOW DEEP INSIDE WHAT OUR PROBLEMS ARE AND WE KNOW EXACTLY HOW TO SOLVE THEM..but like Julie says we just dont try..so then its like we have to go hear it from some else and thats the only way we will even attempt to fix our problems...we pay a dude to sit infront of us...we tell them our problmes and they literrally repeat everything back to us..if you pay attention thats what the doc does. WHY..because hes just a sound board...we tell him our problems..we tell him our answers and he throws it right back at one.. then it just sounds lke they know what they are talking about....(and they get paid the big bucks! )
Psychologist are useful that way...cuz i mean You could do it with a friend..But then it would all be biased.....
Ok, ok, u guys dont have to take it so literal. I guess because I really like his work and his way of thinking I refer to him as that, but that`s my opinion about him, and because he tells it like it is. And yes people with common sense know that but also, some people because of circumstances, may not be able to act on it so easily.
You know what scares me though, because sometimes I watch his show as well. More out of curiosity than anything else really, is that in many cases, pple knows what to do but just stay there and wait instead of reacting to the problem. I find it sad that many have to go to this kind of public humiliation (en el sentido de que no ha de ser facil tener su vida expuesta ahi) to find to courage to do something about the probkem(s) they are facing. Some don't even try to dfind a solution before going there .
What I meant by not being a Genius is that D. Phil don't do miracle and if pple are not willing fight for what they have or dig deep enough into their problems to find a solution, there is really nothing he can do for them and it's a waste of time for everyone.
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JOKER_ESCO wrote: Jaime Cruz wrote: Which of the 2 worry you more? Good question never thought about it this way, I guess it would be Getting Married N loosing my freedom.... don't look at it so NEGATIVELY, Joker... you could see it as... GAINING a ball and chain!
Colombiana4Life wrote: LaDyBuG wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: luna chiquitita wrote: Divorce... hands down. Not necessarily for myself because I know I could get up and move on but mainly for my kids. I would NEVER want them to experience the loss of their family unit. But what if it`s a family unit that is just for show? What if you and your husband are miserable and unhappy. To quote Dr. Phil (God that man is a Genius): "Children would much rather come from a broken home then live in one" and "I'd rather be alone then sick with someone else". oh oh sis....I think we have come to our first Disagreement..... I`m surprised you would disagree with these comments. Why? His comments are more than accurate but I don't think he is a genuis either. I mean this is not rocket science, pple with commun sense already knew that.
Ok, ok, u guys dont have to take it so literal. I guess because I really like his work and his way of thinking I refer to him as that, but that`s my opinion about him, and because he tells it like it is. And yes people with common sense know that but also, some people because of circumstances, may not be able to act on it so easily.
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I truly believe that the key to a successfull marriage (so to also help avoid divorce) is to BEFORE SETTLING DOWN you as a person experience and accomplish everything in life by your self...gain your confidence so that by the time you settle down you will be ready to give you life to your other half wholy..because you have done what you need to do with yourself...for the most part...so theres no chance to be selfish really..
I guess I can sorta understand guys from this point of view..I understand why they are afraid of committment and go around from girl to gir (some not all )l...and its just simply for the reason that they want to get everything outta their system...I mean thats my opinion...
My parents have separate/divorced...and its primarily for the reason that they had me real young and they never had the chance to experience things in life as independent people..now that I am able to take care of myself ..and that they are able to do their own things..GUESS WHAT they want to do different things..and they just dont get a long...so why stay together and be unhappy...
LaDyBuG wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: luna chiquitita wrote: Divorce... hands down. Not necessarily for myself because I know I could get up and move on but mainly for my kids. I would NEVER want them to experience the loss of their family unit. But what if it`s a family unit that is just for show? What if you and your husband are miserable and unhappy. To quote Dr. Phil (God that man is a Genius): "Children would much rather come from a broken home then live in one" and "I'd rather be alone then sick with someone else". oh oh sis....I think we have come to our first Disagreement..... I`m surprised you would disagree with these comments. Why?
His comments are more than accurate but I don't think he is a genuis either. I mean this is not rocket science, pple with commun sense already knew that.
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Colombiana4Life wrote: luna chiquitita wrote: Divorce... hands down. Not necessarily for myself because I know I could get up and move on but mainly for my kids. I would NEVER want them to experience the loss of their family unit. But what if it`s a family unit that is just for show? What if you and your husband are miserable and unhappy. To quote Dr. Phil (God that man is a Genius): "Children would much rather come from a broken home then live in one" and "I'd rather be alone then sick with someone else". oh oh sis....I think we have come to our first Disagreement.....
I`m surprised you would disagree with these comments. Why?
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luna chiquitita wrote: Divorce... hands down. Not necessarily for myself because I know I could get up and move on but mainly for my kids. I would NEVER want them to experience the loss of their family unit. But what if it`s a family unit that is just for show? What if you and your husband are miserable and unhappy. To quote Dr. Phil (God that man is a Genius): "Children would much rather come from a broken home then live in one" and "I'd rather be alone then sick with someone else".
oh oh sis....I think we have come to our first Disagreement.....
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Divorce... hands down. Not necessarily for myself because I know I could get up and move on but mainly for my kids. I would NEVER want them to experience the loss of their family unit.
But what if it`s a family unit that is just for show? What if you and your husband are miserable and unhappy. To quote Dr. Phil (God that man is a Genius): "Children would much rather come from a broken home then live in one" and "I'd rather be alone then sick with someone else".
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I used to be afraid of marriage, i think in some ways i still am, Divorce is toooooo expensive. But the older i get i realize its not fear, its just that i really don't know what the significance of marriage is. If im with someone whom i love, i don't think that i need a piece of paper, or someone to hold there hands out in front of me to bless me. I believe in God and i know that he helped me find the one that i am with. He's with me when i have thoughts of leaving and with me when i look into my mans eyes. I don't think that i need to validate that with a ceremony. I think that the ceremony is more for the family, friends and community to witness more than anything.
i think im scared of both...but i know i do not wana get divorce...espeically if kids are involved...but u jus never know these days,....never say never
Jaime Cruz wrote: Which of the 2 worry you more? Good question never thought about it this way, I guess it would be Getting Married N loosing my freedom....
don't look at it so NEGATIVELY, Joker... you could see it as...
GAINING a ball and chain!
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Divorce... hands down. Not necessarily for myself because I know I could get up and move on but mainly for my kids. I would NEVER want them to experience the loss of their family unit.
I don't find any of it scary really. I got married and I am glad I did. I am having a child and I am happy about that. I hope I don't ever get divorced but If I do then I am sure life will go on.
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LGigolo wrote: LaDyBuG wrote: Jaime Cruz wrote: I would say divorcing because we recently purchased a home and I would hate to lose half So you don't care if you lose her...it's the house you'd hate to loose? OF COURSE - She came for freee - The house cost a few hundred grand! @Genie: delivering them may be tought;DONE THAT TWICE ALREADY!!! raising them even toughter,.HAVENT HAD THE PLEASURE OF DOING THAT .. but making them is FUN! OH I KNOW I HAVE DONE THAT AND IM STILL PRACTICING!!!
Wait a minute and a few seconds - you've delivered TWICE? you are/were a mom?
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LaDyBuG wrote: Jaime Cruz wrote: I would say divorcing because we recently purchased a home and I would hate to lose half So you don't care if you lose her...it's the house you'd hate to loose? OF COURSE - She came for freee - The house cost a few hundred grand! @Genie: delivering them may be tought; raising them even toughter,... but making them is FUN!
LaDyBuG wrote: Jaime Cruz wrote: I would say divorcing because we recently purchased a home and I would hate to lose half So you don't care if you lose her...it's the house you'd hate to loose? OF COURSE - She came for freee - The house cost a few hundred grand! @Genie: delivering them may be tought;DONE THAT TWICE ALREADY!!!
raising them even toughter,.HAVENT HAD THE PLEASURE OF DOING THAT
.. but making them is FUN! OH I KNOW I HAVE DONE THAT AND IM STILL PRACTICING!!!
Jaime Cruz wrote: I would say divorcing because we recently purchased a home and I would hate to lose half So you don't care if you lose her...it's the house you'd hate to loose?
OF COURSE - She came for freee - The house cost a few hundred grand!
@Genie: delivering them may be tought; raising them even toughter,... but making them is FUN!
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Not everything I post or say on foro are necesarily true facts. <- THAT is a fact! :blankstare:
. What I meant by not being a Genius is that D. Phil don't do miracle and if pple are not willing fight for what they have or dig deep enough into their problems to find a solution, there is really nothing he can do for them and it's a waste of time for everyone. 
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don't look at it so NEGATIVELY, Joker... you could see it as... GAINING a ball and chain! 
Roses are red violets are korny, when I think of you Ohh baby I get horny...
So you don't care if you lose her...it's the house you'd hate to loose? OF COURSE - She came for freee - The house cost a few hundred grand! 
@Genie: delivering them may be tought;DONE THAT TWICE ALREADY!!! raising them even toughter,.HAVENT HAD THE PLEASURE OF DOING THAT .. but making them is FUN! OH I KNOW I HAVE DONE THAT AND IM STILL PRACTICING!!!
