@ Cookie....it all depends on the level of friendship, the trust and respect.....a good friend would NEVER want to make her friend look stupid in front of others by knowing and not telling....
True LB! I posted this because I watched an episode in DECISIONES and what weird episodes they have ... and in this case the guy did tell his friend and his friend didn't believe him but like TT said when they find out through other parties they will and pues la amistad por poco se pierde ...
But I would tell my friend solo por respeto y por que no me gustaria que le tomen el pelo aunque pierda la amistad ...
what i think happend here was, when a coulple first start dating there is always someone lingering around his/her life, an ex for example but when their relationship starts to grow he/she usually leaves behind those other peolpe.
Lahtina wrote: I dunno, Cookie. I once told my best friend about her guy cheating on her. They had just started going out, so it's not ike they were serious. She did believe me, of course, but she ended up getting mad at me, stayed with the guy and now they have a kid. I haven't talked to her in years.
Lahtina wrote: I dunno, Cookie. I once told my best friend about her guy cheating on her. They had just started going out, so it's not ike they were serious. She did believe me, of course, but she ended up getting mad at me, stayed with the guy and now they have a kid. I haven't talked to her in years. She DID believe you but got mad at you?? why? I don't get it! @ Cookie....it all depends on the level of friendship, the trust and respect.....a good friend would NEVER want to make her friend look stupid in front of others by knowing and not telling....
I have always had that mentality, but I`ve also had experiences like Lahtina's, where I do get involved and then a la final the person ends up believe their man y uno queda como un C U L O Not only that, but I`ve also had the experience that I`ve tried to warn my friends about cases like this, yet when I have needed to be warned and they knew something, no one ever even gave me as much as a subtle hint y le ven a uno la cara de pendeja, so I figured I wasnt gonna go out of my way like that anymore
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Yes, honey I think if your relationship with your friend is sincere and for many years you should tell her, she might get upset with you or maybe not, if she really knows you she will believe you, but a truly good friend le dice la verdad
I dunno, Cookie. I once told my best friend about her guy cheating on her. They had just started going out, so it's not ike they were serious. She did believe me, of course, but she ended up getting mad at me, stayed with the guy and now they have a kid. I haven't talked to her in years.
She DID believe you but got mad at you?? why? I don't get it!
@ Cookie....it all depends on the level of friendship, the trust and respect.....a good friend would NEVER want to make her friend look stupid in front of others by knowing and not telling....
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I dunno, Cookie. I once told my best friend about her guy cheating on her. They had just started going out, so it's not ike they were serious. She did believe me, of course, but she ended up getting mad at me, stayed with the guy and now they have a kid. I haven't talked to her in years.
Chances are she won't want to believe you and she'll see you as an enemy, the guy will deny everything of course.
When She finally knows it through third parties she'll realize you were rigth but it will be too late cause she would have probably hurt your feelings very strongly and the friendship would be dead by then.
If you decide you must tell her, then do it annonimously. I think that should be a better approach.
I know many people come and go in your life ... but true friendships may last a lifetime ...
HOWEVER, let's say your best best best friend is married and you catch their husband/wife cheating. You know for a fact that your best best best friend is TOTALLY IN LOVE with their partner and that he/she has your friend wrapped around their little finger. So you know that your friendship is on the line.
Do you risk losing the friendship??
** I say yes and then I say no ... I'm on the fence ... Why? First of all YES 'cause I wouldn't want my friend taken as a fool ... then I say NO 'cause I don't want to hurt them ... but if I don't say anything I know I could not live with it and may end up alejandome de la amistad anyways **
I haven't talked to her in years. 
Not only that, but I`ve also had the experience that I`ve tried to warn my friends about cases like this, yet when I have needed to be warned and they knew something, no one ever even gave me as much as a subtle hint y le ven a uno la cara de pendeja, so I figured I wasnt gonna go out of my way like that anymore
... then I say NO 'cause I don't want to hurt them 
... but if I don't say anything I know I could not live with it and may end up alejandome de la amistad anyways 
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