Me personally is not the kind to give up anything for anyone. But if I loved the guy that much & it meant a lot to him, then I would. He would have to take half of the maternity leave, so I would do six months & he would do the other six months. That way I get back to work faster.
Hey, I would do the whole year @ home with my lil one… lil babies poo is not THAT stinky… LOL… REALLY, I would love to spend the first year @ home taking care of my lil “retoño”!
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Me personally is not the kind to give up anything for anyone.
But if I loved the guy that much & it meant a lot to him, then I would. He would have to take half of the maternity leave, so I would do six months & he would do the other six months. That way I get back to work faster.
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Would you take the decision to have a baby if You’re a women over 35 with a successful career and no previous child ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. Ummm, no why should I give up my career ... I think career and children can be juggled ... So in my case I would have the baby and if he were to say to me i told you to give up your career nomas le digo yeah 1 year baby LOL! y si luego me dice lo mismo me hago la sorda and keep raising my baby ....
You’re a women over 35 with a successful and are already a mother from a previous or same partner ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. Umm, give up my child from a previous relationship ah NO WAY JOSE!! .. but I think u mean the career again and once more NO ... I will do my best to have more time yes ... and here where I work during the day my boss is ALWAYS working from home so I want this to be a PERMANENT job for me
Salsera de Corazon wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: sure anytime, any place Tonite, Maybe undecided or want to be begged? your place! cheap ass ok -you name the place!
O.K now you are talking, you don't need to beg, nad regarding about the place well, I'll think about it
Salsera de Corazon wrote: LGigolo wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: LGigolo wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Yeap, my number I thought you had it already lol Nohhh, all I have is your ADDRESS! ohhhhh yeah sorry confused you with the other one lol LOL – Must be… good thing, I don’t mind sharing. me neither Wanna share your… with me?
LGigolo wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: LGigolo wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Yeap, my number I thought you had it already lol Nohhh, all I have is your ADDRESS! ohhhhh yeah sorry confused you with the other one lol LOL – Must be… good thing, I don’t mind sharing. me neither
Wanna share your… with me?
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Salsera de Corazon wrote: LGigolo wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Yeap, my number I thought you had it already lol Nohhh, all I have is your ADDRESS! ohhhhh yeah sorry confused you with the other one lol LOL – Must be… good thing, I don’t mind sharing.
LGigolo wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: Yeap, my number I thought you had it already lol Nohhh, all I have is your ADDRESS! ohhhhh yeah sorry confused you with the other one lol
LOL – Must be… good thing, I don’t mind sharing.
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Salsera de Corazon wrote: You’re a women over 35 with a successful career and no previous child ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. Nop I wouldn't it give it up, I think as a couple we should compromise. You’re a women over 35 with a successful and are already a mother from a previous or same partner ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. Nop, again I wouldn't I have a kid now, and I used date a guy that he wanted it to have kids with me and I already made it up my mind about no more, so I told him very straight forward, I gave him the chance either to stay with me even though I would not change my mind or to move on with somebody else because if that was his dream of having kids, it wasn't going to happen with me. I might sound selfish but right now my kid is 8 years old and I am going back to school and do a lot of things that I couldn't because I dedicated myself to him. SO you would be having SEX strictly for entertainment purposes only… no reproductive plans! LOL… What’s your number?
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DOS PREGUNTAS PREGUNTA 1 Si conocieras a una mujer embarazada, que padece sífilis y tiene 8 hijos. 3 de ellos son sordos, 2 ciegos y uno con retraso Le recomendarías practicarse un aborto ???
PREGUNTA 2 Se va a elegir a un nuevo líder mundial, tú tienes la oportunidad de votar por él. Hay 3 candidatos, a continuación te presento algunos hechos conocidos en la vida de los mismos:
CANDIDATO 1
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CANDIDATO 2 Ha sido despedido en 2 ocasiones de su trabajo. Duerme hasta el mediodía. Consumía opio en la universidad y todas las nochesse toma una botella de whisky. >>Padece >> > > >>de obesidad y es conocido por su mal temperamento y >>agresividad.
CANDIDATO 3 Es un héroe de guerra condecorado, es vegetariano, no fuma y toma cerveza ocasionalmente. No se le conocen >>relaciones extramaritales. Respeta a las mujeres. >>Ama a los animales, muy reservado. ¿Por cual de >los 3 candidatos votarías ?? Elige tu respuesta.... Piensa detenidamente.... El candidato 1 es : Franklin D. Roosevelt El candidato 2 es : Wiston Churchill. El candidato 3 es : Adolph Hitler. Por cierto, la respuesta a la pregunta: Recomendarías que esta mujer se practicase un
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You’re a women over 35 with a successful career and no previous child ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. Nop I wouldn't it give it up, I think as a couple we should compromise. You’re a women over 35 with a successful and are already a mother from a previous or same partner ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. Nop, again I wouldn't I have a kid now, and I used date a guy that he wanted it to have kids with me and I already made it up my mind about no more, so I told him very straight forward, I gave him the chance either to stay with me even though I would not change my mind or to move on with somebody else because if that was his dream of having kids, it wasn't going to happen with me. I might sound selfish but right now my kid is 8 years old and I am going back to school and do a lot of things that I couldn't because I dedicated myself to him.
SO you would be having SEX strictly for entertainment purposes only… no reproductive plans! LOL… What’s your number?
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This is kind of a hard subject to think about. Because it's either your career or having children. But you can definately have both, you just have to compromise!
My parents worked a way around, working and having children. My dad worked i the day shift and my mother worked the morning shift. In between my mom leaving for work and my dad coming back from work, they would leave us at a day care for an hour! We grew up just fine. They were always there for us. And somehow my father always found time to take my brother to his soccer games and practices. As well as doing other things for us.
I wouldn't give up my career. Right now i work Full time and go to night school every night! I'm working hard for what i want. I'm doing it for my son and myself. So if i ever have the chance to be with someone else and have more children, then i would work my way around in being a mother and a career woman!
Julie i dont think age matters and i am a strong believer that the older you are the more patients you have for the little people! I have seen it with my own eyes my mother and step father got married four years ago and after two years decided to have a baby and now i have the cutest little brother and its a 25 year age gap! so to me age doenst matter. And my mother works morning and my step dad works afternoons so it works out perfect they are both raising the child. I mean thats not for everyone but atleast its an option As for the stay at home mom well now all women get one year of maternity leave so she can experiment with that and see how she likes it and not only that but it gives them a year to discuss the situation, who knows maybe she will want to be a stay at home mom? I know many people who have had children and prefer to stay home with htem and what they have done is a home based office and go in to the company when needed but i dont know what you guys do but that maybe an option and many employers are ok with it
I have a brother 25 years older than me form one of my dad previous marriage as well. Both of my parents worked, Mom kind of 8 to 5 shcedule and Dad, always on call but I remember that I had all the quality time I need and that they were always there for me
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You’re a women over 35 with a successful career and no previous child ? and your partner is asking you to give it up.
Nop I wouldn't it give it up, I think as a couple we should compromise.
You’re a women over 35 with a successful and are already a mother from a previous or same partner ? and your partner is asking you to give it up.
Nop, again I wouldn't I have a kid now, and I used date a guy that he wanted it to have kids with me and I already made it up my mind about no more, so I told him very straight forward, I gave him the chance either to stay with me even though I would not change my mind or to move on with somebody else because if that was his dream of having kids, it wasn't going to happen with me. I might sound selfish but right now my kid is 8 years old and I am going back to school and do a lot of things that I couldn't because I dedicated myself to him.
Well since yesterday, I've been talking about babies with one of my co-worker ! She's 37 and already have a daughter, 16. My co-worker is going to marry her prince charming next summer, he is a bit younger and have no kids of his own. They’re thinking of having a baby but he would like her to give up her career to raise their child because he thinks it is the right thing to do. So she will love to have a baby but she does not want to give up the career she worked so hard for. So of course we started to extrapolate the subject and here are some the questions that came out ? Would you take the decision to have a baby if You’re a women over 35 with a successful career and no previous child ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. You’re a women over 35 with a successful and are already a mother from a previous or same partner ? and your partner is asking you to give it up. Being a men over 35 and never experiment fatherhood ? and would you give up your career to raise you child ? Being a men over 35 and already being a dad from a previous or same partner ? and would you give up your career to raise you child ? To answer my own questions, you know that I am not a mother yet but definitively want to be. I also love to work so I surely not see myself giving up my professional life to stay home and raise my kid(s), not that there is anything wrong with that but this is just not for me. Both of my parents worked and I don’t think it affected the way I was raised. They were always there for me and took very go care of me. They gave me a good education and strong bases to be able to find my way during my journey through life. So, NO, I would not give up my career to stay home, for the baby that anyway will soon enough go to school and by then, it might be too late for me to get back to my professional career due to my age and/or the lack of practice. -- Edited by Julie at 00:02, 2006-01-20
Julie i dont think age matters and i am a strong believer that the older you are the more patients you have for the little people! I have seen it with my own eyes my mother and step father got married four years ago and after two years decided to have a baby and now i have the cutest little brother and its a 25 year age gap! so to me age doenst matter. And my mother works morning and my step dad works afternoons so it works out perfect they are both raising the child. I mean thats not for everyone but atleast its an option
As for the stay at home mom well now all women get one year of maternity leave so she can experiment with that and see how she likes it and not only that but it gives them a year to discuss the situation, who knows maybe she will want to be a stay at home mom?
I know many people who have had children and prefer to stay home with htem and what they have done is a home based office and go in to the company when needed but i dont know what you guys do but that maybe an option and many employers are ok with it
I am new to this whole thing so please bear with me........ There are a few things to consider here... mainly... were these things not discussed before the decision to marry was made? Children are a main topic when people make a choice to marry one another. Having a child just to keep you man is absolutely wrong. Why is the assumption being made that when you have a child as a successful career person it automatically means you have to give it up? There are plenty of people out there that are successful with not only 1 child but more than one. It all boils down to how badly you want to succeed. It's a new term called work like balance. In my books.. marriage is a balancing act. Sometimes you give in to your partners needs/want and other times... your partner gives in to your needs/want. In order for things to work, there has to be a middle ground to meet.
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Well, that's what I think ! You don't need to give it up. I mean, you can still raise your kid (s) and do a very good job at it and continue on with your profesional career !
I think it is also important for your well being and will give you some balance in your life.
@ LaDyBug. He is not telling her "I want a kid, no matter what it takes" but more like "if wee decide to have on, or more and I really should think you should stay home raising him/her" that's more what bother her. Plus she already raised her duaghter all by herself and did a pretty good job at it. The kid is a good student, never been in trouble so far, not doing drugs, polite, responsable (she decided to get a part time job by herself) etc.... she's just being a bit lazy around the house but who wouldn't if you had the opportunity
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I am new to this whole thing so please bear with me........
There are a few things to consider here... mainly... were these things not discussed before the decision to marry was made? Children are a main topic when people make a choice to marry one another. Having a child just to keep you man is absolutely wrong.
Why is the assumption being made that when you have a child as a successful career person it automatically means you have to give it up? There are plenty of people out there that are successful with not only 1 child but more than one. It all boils down to how badly you want to succeed. It's a new term called work like balance.
In my books.. marriage is a balancing act. Sometimes you give in to your partners needs/want and other times... your partner gives in to your needs/want. In order for things to work, there has to be a middle ground to meet.
THE FIRST FEW YEARS IT'S IMPORTANT FOR A MOTHER TO STAY HOME BUT IF SHE CAN'T IT'S OK.....THAT'S LIFE!
NOW, A WOMAN OVER 35 HAVING KIDS CUZ HER PARTNER WANTS HER TO......JUST BECUASE HE HAS NEVER EXPERIENCED FATHERHOOD, SOUNDS A BIT SELFISH TO ME BUT EQUALLY UNDERSTANDING ON HIS BEHALF.....IT JUST PUTS HER IN A POSITION TO CHOOSE THAT SHE THOUGHT WAS BEYOND HER.....
SO DOES IT DEPEND ON "TRUE LOVE"...."LOVE FOR THE CAREER" .....OR DOING WHATEVER TO KEEP YOUR MAN THERE?
I WOULDNT HAVE KIDS OVER 35.....(I DONT EVEN WANT KIDS NOW) LOL......AND I WOULDNT DO WHATEVER MY PARTNER ASKED ME TO......JUST BECUASE HE WANTS TO EXPERIENCE FATHER-HOOD.....I WOULD TELL HIM TO "RENT A KID" LOL
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Well since yesterday, I've been talking about babies with one of my co-worker ! She's 37 and already have a daughter, 16. My co-worker is going to marry her prince charming next summer, he is a bit younger and have no kids of his own.
They’re thinking of having a baby but he would like her to give up her career to raise their child because he thinks it is the right thing to do. So she will love to have a baby but she does not want to give up the career she worked so hard for. So of course we started to extrapolate the subject and here are some the questions that came out ?
Would you take the decision to have a baby if
You’re a women over 35 with a successful career and no previous child ? and your partner is asking you to give it up.
You’re a women over 35 with a successful and are already a mother from a previous or same partner ? and your partner is asking you to give it up.
Being a men over 35 and never experiment fatherhood ? and would you give up your career to raise you child ?
Being a men over 35 and already being a dad from a previous or same partner ? and would you give up your career to raise you child ?
To answer my own questions, you know that I am not a mother yet but definitively want to be. I also love to work so I surely not see myself giving up my professional life to stay home and raise my kid(s), not that there is anything wrong with that but this is just not for me.
Both of my parents worked and I don’t think it affected the way I was raised. They were always there for me and took very go care of me. They gave me a good education and strong bases to be able to find my way during my journey through life.
So, NO, I would not give up my career to stay home, for the baby that anyway will soon enough go to school and by then, it might be too late for me to get back to my professional career due to my age and/or the lack of practice.
-- Edited by Julie at 00:02, 2006-01-20
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