BAINA, BUFFY AND AFRO ARE RIGHT..... It really sucks to have to give explanations to your siblings on top of your parents. It's like you get in trouble with sooo many people. YOUR BRO WILL MATURE WITH AGE..... AND YOUR SIBLINGS ARE NOT YOUR RESPONSIBLITY..... Guide him and advise him the best that u can...nada mas! if all else fails.... TELL HIM TO JOIN FORO..... WE'LL SET HIM STRAIGHT
I LOVE GETTING EXPLINATIONS FROM MY BROTHERS LOL LOL CUZ THEN I GET TO SAY OH MOMS GONNA KICK UR ASS!!! OR I GET TO SAY OK I WONT SAY ANYTHING BUT U GOTTA DO THIS FOR ME FOR THIS LONG!!! LOL LOL BLACKMAIL I LOVE IT!!! AND THEY CANT DO IT TO ME CUZ IM THE OLDEST!!
I'm pretty sure he would like someone to talk to in his family!!!
Yeah, I think my other brother had that honour ... but since he is now married things changed ... so I will have the honour
Nomas que aveces me desconcierta (is that how you say it ) he does his stuff and I understand I mean his 16 and I always tell him do what you want but let me know just in case ...
** Not going to be parent as it's not my time yet .. cool
There is like a 4 year difference between my bro and I, and I sometimes don't get were he is comming from...is like he tries to see my point of view but he does not get it.....now my other bro and me...well we are really tight....he is like my closest friend....we talk about evrything...well not any more since he got maried....but now he has become like my parents.....well I guess what everyone is saying is try to undestand and guide him more than educating him...be his friend......good luck, cause 16 is a very rough age.....is the time were you still young not to get in serious trouble but old enough to cause it....just keep an eye out for him, and talk to him....I'm pretty sure he would like someone to talk to in his family!!!
I'm the youngest of 7 (with age differences of 20 and 18 with my older sisters) and I love it! By the time my mom had me, she was so tired from the others that the poor thing just gave up and I got to have all the freedom in the world. Mind you, my sisters had kids that are closer to my age, so it turned out that I'm more of an older sister than ayoungest sibling type, and at this point in my life, even my older sisters come to me for advice. As for your younger brother, you can just be an older sister type, not a mother, and that gives you the freedom to get away with things like explain stuff that your mother wouldn't. Plus it gives you the freedom of not take any responsibility if your little brother turns out to be screwed up, because in the end, it's your parents' responsibility, not yours. You will have time to do that when you have your own kids. This is a very important lesson in life: your siblings are NOT your responsibility.
I'm the youngest of 7 (with age differences of 20 and 18 with my older sisters) and I love it! By the time my mom had me, she was so tired from the others that the poor thing just gave up and I got to have all the freedom in the world. Mind you, my sisters had kids that are closer to my age, so it turned out that I'm more of an older sister than ayoungest sibling type, and at this point in my life, even my older sisters come to me for advice.
As for your younger brother, you can just be an older sister type, not a mother, and that gives you the freedom to get away with things like explain stuff that your mother wouldn't. Plus it gives you the freedom of not take any responsibility if your little brother turns out to be screwed up, because in the end, it's your parents' responsibility, not yours. You will have time to do that when you have your own kids. This is a very important lesson in life: your siblings are NOT your responsibility.
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Well......thankfully I had things my brothers nor my sister were able to have. Yes, that was an advantage of being the youngest, also i could count on their support anytime I needed them. However, I'm also a girl sooo i did not have it easier when it came to going out or having boyfriends or anything like that.....
Ahhh the gender issue ... that part I understand really well ...
But I guess in the long run, everything works out ok...
NO! Your brother is still 16....... In another time....he would be married, taking care of the farm with 2 kids, a mule and a wife........ But now a day.....16 year olds can barely wipe their own a$$.......Sad really...........But just give him time........ For some reason....this reminds me of the mangos...eh Zipote?? Toquese pa' ver si esta maduro!!!!
Hey why did the mule, come before the wife
Yes that's true, or even if we were somewhere else ... I he doesn't come and tell me any time soon he will be a daddy ... Yeah, I'm giving him until he's 18 by then he should have both feet well grounded (I hope) ...
DulceGalletita wrote: Thanks Afrodita, it's good to read the other side of the story ... maybe my brother feels he needs to meet expectations in terms of going to University ... but do you feel that as being the youngest you did get away with things that ther oldest didn't ...
Well......thankfully I had things my brothers nor my sister were able to have. Yes, that was an advantage of being the youngest, also i could count on their support anytime I needed them. However, I'm also a girl sooo i did not have it easier when it came to going out or having boyfriends or anything like that.....
I'm the youngest of five....between the oldest and myself there are 26 years of difference. Let me tell you, is not easy to be the youngest either...I was expected to be like my oldest brother, I had to follow his footsteps specially when it came to education. In the long run it has been good to me because that pushed me to be better and look up to him as a professional. But when there are soo many expectations from you it can be quite hard.
Thanks Afrodita, it's good to read the other side of the story ... maybe my brother feels he needs to meet expectations in terms of going to University ... but do you feel that as being the youngest you did get away with things that ther oldest didn't ...
I mean since I only have 2 brothers, I was raised with the following:
"Ellos son hombres pueden hacer lo que quieran" Ummm ... sorry I don't agree with this but I had to and am living with that .... Just to go to the corner store I had to sneak out LOL (and still do ) ... One day my brother came home close to midnight, and it was a school night ... he said he was studying with his friend who lives in Woodbridge and what did he get when he got home a warm welcome, the LOOK and that's it ...
DulceGalletita wrote: Daeveed wrote: Why do you want to change him?
Well, for one thing I don't know if her TRULY is racist or whatever or it's just the kids he hangs with... but he is always making these remarks in regards to race ... eso no me gusta para nada!!! Secondly, he's always negative ... osea if something good happens to him or anyone siempre trae la contraria ... I personally think, he is extremely anti-social at least from what I see but that I'm not sure of Thirdly, es conteston with my mom!! Never with my dad, 'cause he knows he would get la correa on him ... I know that is not right, but sometimes I think he needs it ... but nunca lo han pegado a el ... I guess my parents got tired after my other brother and I But all in all I KNOW he has a GOOD HEART!! Maybe it's just the age thing
I think he'll act differently with maturity.
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Well, for one thing I don't know if her TRULY is racist or whatever or it's just the kids he hangs with... but he is always making these remarks in regards to race ... eso no me gusta para nada!!!
Secondly, he's always negative ... osea if something good happens to him or anyone siempre trae la contraria ... I personally think, he is extremely anti-social at least from what I see but that I'm not sure of
Thirdly, es conteston with my mom!! Never with my dad, 'cause he knows he would get la correa on him ... I know that is not right, but sometimes I think he needs it ... but nunca lo han pegado a el ... I guess my parents got tired after my other brother and I
But all in all I KNOW he has a GOOD HEART!! Maybe it's just the age thing
I'm the youngest of five....between the oldest and myself there are 26 years of difference. Let me tell you, is not easy to be the youngest either...I was expected to be like my oldest brother, I had to follow his footsteps specially when it came to education. In the long run it has been good to me because that pushed me to be better and look up to him as a professional. But when there are soo many expectations from you it can be quite hard.
My borther is 25 years older than me ! So I guess it makes me the baby, LOL
But I ahve been raised with my 2 cousins, she is 6months younger and he is 5 years younger. Let me tell youthat it was hard more than once because I always had toset the example and was always the one punished even if it was not my fault. My cousin, she was very mean sometimes and the boy, of course, was able to get away with everything, still work for him today, which is very sad !
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I just finished talking to my little brother (well, ummm he's not that little as he is taller than me and 16) but will always be my little brother To my suprise he told me he got me a Motorola phone with camera and all ... and that he will get whatever ringtone I want ... Ok, so now I know something is up LOL!! He did something or is planning to do something and needs Big Sister's help
So all this got me thinking ... there is a 14 year age difference between my little brother and I (note: he was planned out jajajaja) ... I'm wondering if any of you have siblings with a huge age difference. Don't you feel like they can get away with murder??? ... That sometimes parents expect you to be a role model but yet your were like raised differently (apunto chancletas, el cinturon, y la escoba ) ... And not only that you also notice that these kids are at a much higher level then you were at their age (not necessarily a maturity level)!!!
I don't know, I'm just like ke hago con mi hermano if now he has gotten it in his head the following:
what is school for if people with diplomas and degrees can't even get jobs???
what should I think of the future if in the long run, we die??
then at one point I didn't know where he was getting all these new shoes, caps, clothes and found out the miracle world of the computer (btw he is a genius on the computer and anything to do with programming )
I just feel at times he's been pampered alot by my parents and when he does something BAD .. my other brother and I are blamed for it ... and when we put him in his place or tell him how things are things get worse ... for example: one day in elementary school my brother found a condom (what was it doing there I don't know ) ... and he comes home asking me what is a condominium LOL!!! I was like well it's an apartment .. but then we got to the point of it and I explained it to him as well as other questions he had ... when my mother overheard and me regañoooo!!! Ay dio mio ... telling me he's TOO YOUNG for this, and this was only 3 years ago ...
How can I change him? Should I? or should I just let him take his own course and be there when need be ... the age difference I tell you, I can only imagine what parent's feel like at times
) he does his stuff and I understand I mean his 16 and I always tell him do what you want but let me know just in case ... 
he doesn't come and tell me any time soon he will be a daddy ... Yeah, I'm giving him until he's 18 by then he should have both feet well grounded (I hope) ...
.. should I ask? 
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"Most of us fall short much more by omission than by commission."
... That sometimes parents expect you to be a role model but yet your were like raised differently (apunto chancletas, el cinturon, y la escoba 
