Engagement ring-how much?

Dogo · Comandante

RE: Engagement ring-how much?

angelita dulce · Foro Master

Like i said before, i don't want my Fiance spending thousands of dollars on my ring! I would kick his ass if he did, that money can be used to put a down payment on a house!! Don't get me wrong, i want a ring, but i don't want him to spend thousands of dollars on it!! The ring should come from the heart and not from the wallet!!

Dogo · Comandante

@ buffy & C wow

I agree with you both.... I actually find it kind of sad that the "norm" seems to be "the more you spend = the more you love"

If I were a girl, I would almost be happier with something intangible but meaningful, an amazing memory that you would never be able to forget.... maybe a poem, a serenade or just simply a real meaningful act

-- Edited by Dogo at 22:23, 2005-12-20

chica wow · Guru

Dogo wrote:

I can’t believe I’m replying to your thread Asshole LOL!! But anyway I wouldn’t go on any kind of rule, just buy her what seems nice to you, within a reasonable price (I’d say a reasonable price is under 5000, then agian, that's relative) frankly I find huge rocks awful, they look ridiculously out of proportion, and as if a wort were sticking out of their finger.... expensive, maybe.... but real tacky, IMO I find it ridiculous to spend an exorbitant amount of money on something that isn’t really going to benefit either one of you, other than a little sentiment... I know, cliche... but it truly is the thought that counts..... I’m with Jinx on this one.... if she’s the "acquisitive" type....... dump her-- Edited by Dogo at 19:34, 2005-12-20

I would have to agree with Dogo....I'm a very practical person, as long as I know that he loves me I don't need an expensive ring.

McOSIRIS · Comandante

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

i like this topic....wat do u guys think about breaking up...should the ring be given bak...or should the gurl have the rite to keep it?????

An engagement ring is a "compromise"....if you brake up with that person the compromise is broken as well....so the ring should be return....

I had to "steal" the ring from my ex fiance (cuz the "lady" wouldn't want to return it even though she f**ed up)

TV Buff · TOP Guru

Dogo wrote:

I can’t believe I’m replying to your thread Asshole LOL!! But anyway I wouldn’t go on any kind of rule, just buy her what seems nice to you, within a reasonable price (I’d say a reasonable price is under 5000, then agian, that's relative) frankly I find huge rocks awful, they look ridiculously out of proportion, and as if a wort were sticking out of their finger.... expensive, maybe.... but real tacky, IMO I find it ridiculous to spend an exorbitant amount of money on something that isn’t really going to benefit either one of you, other than a little sentiment... I know, cliche... but it truly is the thought that counts..... I’m with Jinx on this one.... if she’s the "acquisitive" type....... dump her-- Edited by Dogo at 19:34, 2005-12-20

Even as a woman, I'm on the practical side as well. I'd settle for a fruit loop, if I really love the person, and use the engagement ring money to put the down payment on a house or something more practical like that. But most women like their bling, and the bigger/more expensive, the better (just don't ask Chale... ).

Why don't you just ask your gf what she things of the subject, would she like to choose, what her expectations are, etc. As a woman, I'd also like to know that.

Dogo · Comandante

I can’t believe I’m replying to your thread Asshole LOL!! But anyway

I wouldn’t go by any kind of rule, just buy her what seems nice to you, within a reasonable price (I’d say a reasonable price is under 5000, then agian, that's relative) frankly I find huge rocks awful, they look ridiculously out of proportion, and as if a wort were sticking out of their finger.... expensive, maybe.... but real tacky, IMO

I find it ridiculous to spend an exorbitant amount of money on something that isn’t really going to benefit either one of you, other than a little sentiment... I know, cliche... but it truly is the thought that counts.....

I’m with Jinx on this one.... if she’s the "acquisitive" type....... dump her

-- Edited by Dogo at 21:21, 2005-12-20

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

i like this topic....wat do u guys think about breaking up...should the ring be given bak...or should the gurl have the rite to keep it?????

GENIE · Foro Master

Chilenita wrote:

GENIE wrote: Chilenita wrote: GENIE wrote: neruda wrote: Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend? 1500 - 2500 IS GOOD!!! I don't think you can find a really good diamond for that price. They are much more expensive. WANT ME TO PROVE U WRONG????? http://www.diamondexchange.com.au/catalog/default.php?cPath=1_3&osCsid=5b03a0784d4122ceb55c4a1db3ec692a Rule number one NEVER BUY A DIAMOND ON THE NET!!! I have shopped for engagement rings....researched....been to okay stores and the excellent stores and a decent ring with a good cut....excellent color and good clarity costs much more than that. Of course they sell stuff at Peoples and other stores that are diamonds and they are not that expensive but it's not good quality stuff.

NO I HIT THE WRONG SITE I WAS LOOKING FOR THE PLACE WHERE MY BROTHE RBOUGH HIS HOLD ON PPL!!! SHIAT NOBODY CAN MAKE MISTAKES CAN THEY!!!!

Chilenita · Comandante

miguel wrote:

also, don't be like everyone else and go to tiffany's to get her the same ring everyone else gets...

I know it's been done over and over but some women have a thing about little blue boxes from Tiffany's......plus they have excellent diamonds.......oh and they are not all super expensive

Cartier.....the one on bloor has gourges stuff but it's just out of this world expensive

neruda · Guru

GENIE wrote:

WANT ME TO PROVE U WRONG????? WRONG SITE LOL SORYR -- Edited by GENIE at 16:32, 2005-12-20

Those are some awfully inexpensive (cheap) diamonds . I'm not sure I would trust them.

Chilenita · Comandante

GENIE wrote:

Chilenita wrote: GENIE wrote: neruda wrote: Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend? 1500 - 2500 IS GOOD!!! I don't think you can find a really good diamond for that price. They are much more expensive. WANT ME TO PROVE U WRONG????? http://www.diamondexchange.com.au/catalog/default.php?cPath=1_3&osCsid=5b03a0784d4122ceb55c4a1db3ec692a

Rule number one NEVER BUY A DIAMOND ON THE NET!!!

I have shopped for engagement rings....researched....been to okay stores and the excellent stores and a decent ring with a good cut....excellent color and good clarity costs much more than that. Of course they sell stuff at Peoples and other stores that are diamonds and they are not that expensive but it's not good quality stuff.

miguel · TOP Guru

also, don't be like everyone else and go to tiffany's to get her the same ring everyone else gets...

miguel · TOP Guru

neruda wrote:

miguel wrote:

if you make good money, i wouldn't follow the two month rule!

Exactly... If you're a professional- which I am, and have been doing rather well... two months salary seems a bit ridiculous. -- Edited by neruda at 16:26, 2005-12-20

i wouldn't follow the two month's salary rule myself

a friend of mine spent 15 grand on his (now EX wife's) engagement ring, which is completely ridiculous.. not to mention the fact that the ring was very tacky.

GENIE · Foro Master

Chilenita wrote:

GENIE wrote: neruda wrote: Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend? 1500 - 2500 IS GOOD!!! I don't think you can find a really good diamond for that price. They are much more expensive.

WANT ME TO PROVE U WRONG?????

WRONG SITE LOL SORYR

-- Edited by GENIE at 16:32, 2005-12-20

GENIE · Foro Master

Luna Chiquitita wrote:

GENIE wrote: neruda wrote: Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend? 1500 - 2500 IS GOOD!!! agreed.

YEP BUT IF UR GONNA GO AND BUY THE MATCHING BAND TO HER ENGAGEMENT RING I THINK 3000-4000 IS GOOD BUT KEEP IN MIND THIS IS IF U GET A FANCY BAND A PLAIN BAND WITH NO DIAMONDS ON IT STAY WITH IN THE 3000 DOLLAR RANGE!

Chilenita · Comandante

GENIE wrote:

neruda wrote: Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend? 1500 - 2500 IS GOOD!!!

I don't think you can find a really good diamond for that price. They are much more expensive.

Luna Chiquitita · Guru

GENIE wrote:

neruda wrote: Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend? 1500 - 2500 IS GOOD!!!

agreed.

neruda · Guru

miguel wrote:

if you make good money, i wouldn't follow the two month rule!

Exactly... If you're a professional- which I am, and have been doing rather well... two months salary seems a bit ridiculous.

-- Edited by neruda at 16:26, 2005-12-20

GENIE · Foro Master

neruda wrote:

Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend?

1500 - 2500 IS GOOD!!!

angelita dulce · Foro Master

When my ex bought me my eng ring, i know he did monthly payments for a while to pay it off. I would think that $5000 is crazy to spend on a ring. I would rather put it on a down payment for a house!

neruda · Guru

Of course I've done the research on clarity, cut, weight, and colour. But it still begs the question -how much should a guy spend?

McOSIRIS · Comandante

go for simple elegance....1 diamond and platinum.... (I'd replace the platinum for titanium)

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

After the engagement comes the wedding band, the wedding, invitations, limos, cakes...and so on. Personally I would spend $1500 to $2000 at the most. If I was rich I would spend more, but I'm not. With all the other things that have to be paid I would not want all my money to go into a ring. However you can get a good ring for that price range. I've done my own shopping for engament rings and asian markets like pacific mall and the mall at china town are dirt cheap compared to Peoples Jewellers and all the other big companies. For rings it's not always that size that your looking for, but the colour,cut and clarity. Check Pacific Mall if you can. You'll be suprised at what you can get if your on a budget. If you wanna splurge though Peoples is the place to go.

Jade · Guru

Never heard of this "De Beers" rule.... Is this a canadian thing or a American thing, Irish thing? French?? where did this come from ? Call me naive but yeah never heard of this rule...

If I were to get engaged I would like for the ring to have an average sized rock; not too small nor too big..so i mean it really depends on the size for me...

Chilenita · Comandante

miguel wrote:

if you make good money, i wouldn't follow the two month rule!

yeah but if you make wicked money than two months salary is a lot of money

I get you though spend as much as you can without being stupid

Jinx · TOP Guru

Si tu pareja te AMA tanto no le importaria cuanto cuesta el bendito anillo! (Has un test, compra un anillito bien cheapy cheapy y se lo entregas antes de regalarle el anillon mas carito...Solo pa que veas su reaccion.)

Luna Chiquitita · Guru

neruda wrote:

Some recent threads have got me thinking. Some of you know that I am considering (I repeat, considering!) asking the big question soon. I do know of the so called debeers marketing rule that a man should spend at least the equivelance of two months salary on an engagemnet ring. But does anyone ever do so? I would prefer to put some of that money towards a honeymoon or a house but I feel compelled to abide by the De Beers rule. Am I being manipulated by a slick marketing campaign? Even if I resist, my prospective fiance may not. Although I doubt it, she may be expecting a compliance with the "rule" So the question is .. How much should a person spend on an engagement ring? If you find dollar values too personal you can refer to it in terms of monthly salary (i.e 1 month, two months, etc)

I think you are being extremely sensible thinking about the future expenses as well. I've noticed that "Canadians" usually take their significant others with them to choose the ring but I think it takes away from the surprise.

I don't think you should fall into the "marketing campaign", I think you should go out, look for a ring and find one that you think it best suitable for both of you (no cracker jack box rings allowed).

I think in the long run she would appreciate more having a nice wedding, honeymoon or even a roof over her head than an eye piercing rock.

I know I'm going to be shot down by every woman in foro but you really do need to be practical and if Neruda is seriously thinking about all the other expenses that are about to come up, then I say don't go for a two month salary but rather one.

Chilenita · Comandante

Neruda,

You must keep in mind that the ring you give her is the ring she will wear the rest of her life or as long as the marriage lasts. Keeping that in mind you want to get something high quality....if you are getting a diamond get a really nice one that has excellent clarity and color. Any great quality diamond will cost you at least two months salary....I think you should follow the rule and that is what they cost anyway. Do research on diamonds....cut...clarity and color and you will be sure to find something amazing.

GENIE · Foro Master

neruda wrote:

Some recent threads have got me thinking. Some of you know that I am considering (I repeat, considering!) asking the big question soon. I do know of the so called debeers marketing rule that a man should spend at least the equivelance of two months salary on an engagemnet ring. But does anyone ever do so? I would prefer to put some of that money towards a honeymoon or a house but I feel compelled to abide by the De Beers rule. Am I being manipulated by a slick marketing campaign? Even if I resist, my prospective fiance may not. Although I doubt it, she may be expecting a compliance with the "rule" So the question is .. How much should a person spend on an engagement ring? If you find dollar values too personal you can refer to it in terms of monthly salary (i.e 1 month, two months, etc)

To be perfectly honest with u. I think it truly depends on ur girl!

i for one dont want a diamond i want a pink stone or a sapphire but thats just me! Maybe shes not that bling bling kinda girl or even big on rings

i think u should buy something according to her personality something that u know she will wear proudly. I think its crazy two months salary

My brother bought his fiance her ring but it came iwht the wedding band as well at Mappins or someother big fancy one it also came with a 10yr warranty for about 4-5 grand so i mean its all up to u or her

miguel · TOP Guru

if you make good money, i wouldn't follow the two month rule!

angelita dulce · Foro Master

YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND??? WHO'S THE UNLUCKY PERSON???

Doesn't matter how much, as long as it's nice!! I wouldn't mind if it were a big rock. As long as it's from my man and a nice resonable ring.

neruda · Guru

Some recent threads have got me thinking.

Some of you know that I am considering (I repeat, considering!) asking the big question soon.

I do know of the so called debeers marketing rule that a man should spend at least the equivelance of two months salary on an engagemnet ring. But does anyone ever do so?

I would prefer to put some of that money towards a honeymoon or a house but I feel compelled to abide by the De Beers rule. Am I being manipulated by a slick marketing campaign? Even if I resist, my prospective fiance may not. Although I doubt it, she may be expecting a compliance with the "rule"

So the question is .. How much should a person spend on an engagement ring? If you find dollar values too personal you can refer to it in terms of monthly salary (i.e 1 month, two months, etc)