Eeesh! if my hubby were a lazy a$$ i'd give him the third degree! Specially if i don't see him at least trying to go out and find a job.

I for one, even if his income could support us both, i'd hate the thought of staying home, i'd die of boredom!
When i have kids, the most i plan to stay home is 6 months.
Staying home for a week is too much for me if i'm just sitting there doing 'domestic' things!

YUK!

@GENIE....I totally get where LUna is coming from and I know why you don't....your life is like a open book....you don't mind talking about yourself and things that happen in your life at all.  I don't think you would really reveal THIS MUCH info on your mom though...I could be wrong.....

@CRAZY I think Luna means that saying your mom brought someone home after just two months and so on and so on and so on is a little to much info to be reavealing about your momma!  If it is your way to be open like that then that's cool....I'll just make a mental note not to EVER TELL YOU ANYTHING AS LONG AS I LIVE

 

 

 

  KIDDING ....whatever is your pleasure I guess

Luna Chiquitita wrote:

---

CrazyBeautiful wrote: small....would u like to know my bra size as well?? you know Crazy, I dont mean to be rude but what you wrote seriously bothered me.  I'm sorry but you've completely just disrespected your mom.  I dont know you or your mom from a can of paint but wow, show some restraint. -- Edited by Luna Chiquitita at 16:38, 2005-12-05

---

         DONT ALL BE DOGGING HER AS SOMEONE WHO COMES ON HERE AND EXPRESSES EVERYTHING I THINK ITS COOL THAT SHE CAN OPENLY VENT OR TELL HER SIDE. sHE WAS JUSST TELLING A STORY. IF you DONT AGREE WITH IT FINE BUT THE SARCASAM IS OFFTEN NOT NEEDED U FEEL ME!! I MEAN SHE WAS JUST STATING I GUESS A SITUATION

JUST LIKE MARA SHE TOTALLY DISRESPECTED HER FRIEND BY COMEING ON HERE AND TELLING US!!! THATS JUST WRONG! I MEAN SHES OBVIOUSLY NOT THAT GREAT OF FRIENDS IF SHE DOESNT KNOW THE WHOLE STORY BEHIND IT!! SO I SAY CRAZY U WANNA COME ON HERE AND STATE THAT UR WEARING BLUE BRA AND BLUE PANTIES THAT DONT MATCH AND GREEN SOCK THEN SO BE IT!!!! (THATS WHAT IM WEARING LOL LOL)

 

TV Buff wrote:

---

Chilenita wrote: I would want my man to work no doubt about that!  I would also like to continue working even after having had children.  A woman should always have her independance and a job gives you that. I have to completely disagree with you on that one (I think this is a historic moment, a first for the two of us). I think a woman or a man should choose whatever makes them happy (and sets them free, like AlterEgo... err... sorry, Goby would say). If they choose to stay home and be fulfilled raising the children, then that's totally fine. Not everyone was born to be in the workforce, although the financial situation nowadays forces you to do that. You do need to have two incomes, although I do believe some people could survive on one, but you'd have to make some sacrifices.

---

Good news BUFFY we do agree!!!!  No historic moment here!!  I said I would want MY man to work and I would like to work....I dont think that ALL men and women need to do the same.  You are right it's whatever makes you happy.  I just think that you can be more independant as a woman if you have your own cash flow as opposed to depending on your husbands.

 

@CRAZy...love doesn't pay the bills!!!  Love doesn't make for a nice retirement either

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

---

small....would u like to know my bra size as well??

---

you know Crazy, I dont mean to be rude but what you wrote seriously bothered me.  I'm sorry but you've completely just disrespected your mom.  I dont know you or your mom from a can of paint but wow, show some restraint.

-- Edited by Luna Chiquitita at 16:38, 2005-12-05

Luna Chiquitita wrote:

---

 Wow Crazy.. Why don't you tell us your underwear size too...

---

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

---

OMG ..this reminds me of my moms boyfriend, not financially stable at all...doesnt have a steady job (he does trade shows here and there)....no car...pays rent in a tiny little basement..he is 45 yrs old and has nothing to show....My mom has tried to leave him varies times because he doesnt make any effort to change and better himself...but they are both very much in love....He even lived with my mom and i for about 6 months...(which i thought was totally crazy because when he moved in with us she had only known him for about 2 months...!!!!)....The whole family disagrees on their relationship so my mom feels like she has to keep him a secret...I dont even think she is planning on bringing him to our family christmas dinner...which i think is rude....and would be very offended if i was him. I know he is very much in love with her...so i just tell my mom who cares if he doesnt have money...as long as you both love each other...thats all that matters.

---

Wow Crazy.. Why don't you tell us your underwear size too...

OMG ..this reminds me of my moms boyfriend, not financially stable at all...doesnt have a steady job (he does trade shows here and there)....no car...pays rent in a tiny little basement..he is 45 yrs old and has nothing to show....My mom has tried to leave him varies times because he doesnt make any effort to change and better himself...but they are both very much in love....He even lived with my mom and i for about 6 months...(which i thought was totally crazy because when he moved in with us she had only known him for about 2 months...!!!!)....The whole family disagrees on their relationship so my mom feels like she has to keep him a secret...I dont even think she is planning on bringing him to our family christmas dinner...which i think is rude....and would be very offended if i was him. I know he is very much in love with her...so i just tell my mom who cares if he doesnt have money...as long as you both love each other...thats all that matters.

TV Buff wrote:

---

Chilenita wrote: I would want my man to work no doubt about that!  I would also like to continue working even after having had children.  A woman should always have her independance and a job gives you that. I have to completely disagree with you on that one (I think this is a historic moment, a first for the two of us). I think a woman or a man should choose whatever makes them happy (and sets them free, like AlterEgo... err... sorry, Goby would say). If they choose to stay home and be fulfilled raising the children, then that's totally fine. Not everyone was born to be in the workforce, although the financial situation nowadays forces you to do that. You do need to have two incomes, although I do believe some people could survive on one, but you'd have to make some sacrifices.

---

And some of those sacrifices would likely be well worth it to stay home and parent a child… like I heard some people say back home: *Nadie va a cuidar a un hijo o hija igual que su propia madre (padre)*  Heck, if we could all be rich and not need the dough, would be great if both parents could stay home and raise the little buggers become good men / women!

Chilenita wrote:

---

I would want my man to work no doubt about that!  I would also like to continue working even after having had children.  A woman should always have her independance and a job gives you that.

---

 

This is true!

Again....I'm not against women working if they so choose.

 

I would want my man to work no doubt about that!  I would also like to continue working even after having had children.  A woman should always have her independance and a job gives you that.

PRECIOSA wrote:

---

miguel wrote:
i want my partner to be a professional and work.. i don't want a stay at home wife.. not even when there's kids involved

YOU SAY THAT NOW...BUT YOU NEVER KNOW HOW IT WILL BE IN A COUPLE YEARS FROM NOW...WHEN YOU MIGHT BE PUT IN THAT SITUATION...
LIFE IS FULL OF SURPRISES...WITH ALL SORTS OF TURNS...

---

i agree, you never know what can happen. but ideally i'd want to marry someone who believes in double incomes. but hey, that's just me.

i want my partner to be a professional and work.. i don't want a stay at home wife.. not even when there's kids involved

Afrodita wrote:

---

Bainaman wrote: If I'm working...and I'm doing well.....enough for the both of us to live comfortably.....I don't mind if my wife stays home....works on a hobby or something....but at least a warm meal when I get home is not unreasonable to expect....   Really??? You wouldn't mind her staying at home even if you don't have kids? Not many guys think that way. I see it this way, i would like my husband to succeed as a professional. Because that's what i want to do myself. Having a career is very important for me and I would like to be with someone that thinks the same way. I think to go home and see the person you love be proud of what he/she does is also a good asset in a relationship.

---

 

I don't think that I'd mind...........I tend to like the whole provider thing....I don't know....I'm old school like that.....Don't get me wrong.....If she wants to work......by all means.......but if I can do it for the two of us......I don't mind.

As long as she maintains the house and cooks at least........

If I come home and she's flopped on the couch with a bon bon in her mouth and the dishes ain't washed...the laundry ain't done, etc..........Asi tampoco.........

 

X4v13r wrote:

---

Daeveed wrote: As an extension of DR J's post, I also would not marry a woman that's going to stay at home and not work. funny how no girls replies to this anyways, I'm with u guys, I would not marry some1 like that X@vier

---

I don't think it has to do with who stays at home....I think it's mostly about how you function as a couple and the decisions you make as a couple.

I would not stay at home if I'm able to work, even if I had a rich husband.

Seriously, como diria mi madre, cada loco con su tema. If they're happy in that unconventional situation, let them be.

 

But just for fun, you should bring this couple to the next foro gathering. Just for fun. And say, "this is the couple I told you guys about!"

-- Edited by TV Buff at 13:31, 2005-12-05

DR J wrote:

---

would you girls be cool if it was the wife staying at home?

---

I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE COUPLE AND THEIR FINANCIAL SITUATION....

I KNOW THAT IF I HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO STAY AT HOME WHILE MY HUSBAND WORKED, I WOULD MAKE SURE THE HOUSE WAS CLEAN AND HE HAD A MEAL WAITING FOR HIM WHEN HE GOT HOME FROM WORK.... YOU CAN'T BE SELFISH AND MAKE HIM WORK ALL DAY WHILE YOU SIT AROUND AND DO NOTHING....

 

Depends on the situation.....

If I'm with someone......and we're tight financialy.....then I would hope that my wife would work and help our situation out.....

If I'm working...and I'm doing well.....enough for the both of us to live comfortably.....I don't mind if my wife stays home....works on a hobby or something....but at least a warm meal when I get home is not unreasonable to expect....

 

Umm I think thats their own business , also I think you may be a bit jealous of your friend gettin married and u r tryin de ver algo malo en su relacion , there could be many reasons of why  he doesn t work .. he could be on unemployment , injured(disability), no papers , or he could be doing something under the cable that you may not know about ...

@ MARA

I HAVE A FRIEND THE IS IN THE SAME SITUATION...WELL WHAT I TELL HER IS THAT YOU MADE YOUR BED SO LIE IN IT...I KNOW THAT THOSE ARE HARSH WORDS BUT WHEN YOU KNOW THAT YOUR MAN IS LAZY AND YOU KNEW THAT BEFORE YOU MARRIED HIM...

WELL...THEN WHY ARE YOU COMPLAINING...YOU CHOOSE THAT LIFESTYLE...

YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE A PERSON...A PERSON WILL CHANGE ONLY IF THEY WANT TO...

 

 

As an extension of DR J's post, I also would not marry a woman that's going to stay at home and not work.

WHATEVER THE CASE MAY BE....

IF THEY ARE HAPPY THAT WAY.... THEN WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE....

I know. I totally believe that in a marriage both parts have to work together to prosper in life. But to have a man that's just a lazy a$$ and doesn't want to do anything good for himself nor for his wife is just WRONG!!!
And now I think she's going to lose her job, so they are both going to stay at home....

mara wrote:

---

A good girlfriend of mine just got married a few weeks ago...and i just found out that her husband does not work, he doesn't go to school...in fact i don't think he does anything. So, it made me wonder how would i feel about marrying a man like that. And I don't think I would. It would kill me to know that I am at work busting my ass and he's at home watching t.v. what do you guys think?

---

       BEFORE U JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS MAYBE THERES A REASON AND U JUST DONT KNOW IT MAYBE SHE HASNT TOLD U THE FULL STORY PARA KE NO TE METAS! I MEAN THERES ALWAYS MORE THEN MEETS THE EYE