¿Confiarias en tu pareja si el o ella aun cultivara su amistad con ex-es?

Shei · Guru

RE: ¿Confiarias en tu pareja si el o ella aun cultivara su amistad con ex-es?

God · Foro Master

angelita dulce wrote:

God wrote:
angelita dulce wrote: God wrote: angelita dulce wrote: God wrote: I have a very good relationship with my Ex...Still paying for her car Insurance ..LMAO Now that's the kind of 'EX' i want!! LOL!!! You should give my 'EX' some tips!!!LOL!! If you only knew....lol she walked away with almost 60k in her pocket...50% of pension plan, 50% rrsp's, Car, etc , etc. That's it??? LOL!!! J/K....................so i assume you were married huh!!! Too bad i couldn't get anything off me ex-hubby, no tenia ni donde quedarse muerto!! LOL!!! Noooooo I wish ..My house is for sale, if it sales at the price is up...Im going to make 80K she will get 50% of it. I'm not getting Married NEVER AGAIN !
Ah, don't say that!! I felt the same thing two years ago. Just get a pre-nup next time!!

Now do you understand why I do believe on a Pre-Nup. She took me to the cleaners!

angelita dulce · Foro Master

God wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: God wrote: angelita dulce wrote: God wrote: I have a very good relationship with my Ex...Still paying for her car Insurance ..LMAO Now that's the kind of 'EX' i want!! LOL!!! You should give my 'EX' some tips!!!LOL!! If you only knew....lol she walked away with almost 60k in her pocket...50% of pension plan, 50% rrsp's, Car, etc , etc. That's it??? LOL!!! J/K....................so i assume you were married huh!!! Too bad i couldn't get anything off me ex-hubby, no tenia ni donde quedarse muerto!! LOL!!! Noooooo I wish ..My house is for sale, if it sales at the price is up...Im going to make 80K she will get 50% of it. I'm not getting Married NEVER AGAIN !

Ah, don't say that!! I felt the same thing two years ago. Just get a pre-nup next time!!

God · Foro Master

angelita dulce wrote:

God wrote:
angelita dulce wrote: God wrote: I have a very good relationship with my Ex...Still paying for her car Insurance ..LMAO Now that's the kind of 'EX' i want!! LOL!!! You should give my 'EX' some tips!!!LOL!! If you only knew....lol she walked away with almost 60k in her pocket...50% of pension plan, 50% rrsp's, Car, etc , etc.

That's it??? LOL!!! J/K....................so i assume you were married huh!!!
Too bad i couldn't get anything off me ex-hubby, no tenia ni donde quedarse muerto!! LOL!!!

Noooooo I wish ..My house is for sale, if it sales at the price is up...Im going to make 80K she's going to get 50% of it.

I'm not getting Married NEVER AGAIN !

-- Edited by God at 14:55, 2005-11-30

angelita dulce · Foro Master

God wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: God wrote: I have a very good relationship with my Ex...Still paying for her car Insurance ..LMAO Now that's the kind of 'EX' i want!! LOL!!! You should give my 'EX' some tips!!!LOL!! If you only knew....lol she walked away with almost 60k in her pocket...50% of pension plan, 50% rrsp's, Car, etc , etc.

That's it??? LOL!!! J/K....................so i assume you were married huh!!!

Too bad i couldn't get anything off me ex-hubby, no tenia ni donde quedarse muerto!! LOL!!!

God · Foro Master

angelita dulce wrote:

God wrote:
I have a very good relationship with my Ex...Still paying for her car Insurance ..LMAO
Now that's the kind of 'EX' i want!! LOL!!! You should give my 'EX' some tips!!!LOL!!

If you only knew....lol
she walked away with almost 60k in her pocket...50% of pension plan, 50% rrsp's, Car, etc , etc.

angelita dulce · Foro Master

God wrote:

I have a very good relationship with my Ex...Still paying for her car Insurance ..LMAO

Now that's the kind of 'EX' i want!! LOL!!! You should give my 'EX' some tips!!!LOL!!

God · Foro Master

I have a very good relationship with my Ex...Still paying for her car Insurance ..LMAO

Jinx · TOP Guru

HELL NO..."donde hubo llamas, cenizas quedan"...

JOKER_ESCO · Foro Master

Shei wrote:

McOSIRIS wrote: angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! por eso es mejor apagar el fuego con agua...para evitar todo tipo de "quemaduras' accidentales... McO.. Cuidado!!!.. porque el fuego no se apaga con agua.!! el agua tiene Oxigeno y........ aviva mas al fuego..!!!!!!

Yep this is so true what u are saying shei...

Chale_Tanga · TOP Guru

Theres a reason why an ex is an ex.
If both of you can maintain a mature and honest relationship, then sure why not.
But chances are, that there are still lingering feelings on either side, especially of the 'dumped' one.

To each his own really, but for me, once Im done with someone, Im done.... no need for a second round of friendship, no matter how superficial it could be.

Charlie Moet · Guru

Straight up and down helllllll no i would not trusted, to me lo pasado pisado, so no frienship with ex.

Lahtina · Foro Master

Charlie Moet wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! Oh really huh, wow.

I hear ya, CM, that is intriguing. Angelita, what's the deal, girl?

Charlie Moet · Guru

angelita dulce wrote:

Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part.
But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!!

Oh really huh, wow.

Dogo · Comandante

Bainaman wrote:

Yeah right! All of you saying "yes I don't mind"......I don't know... I mean....You could be 100% open to the idea......but depending on the situation...... I have a funny case.... I dated a girl for 5 years......and we had an amicable split..... Now she sings in the same band I sing with We're cool and all......but I would need a very strong partner to understand that situation............and even then............I would need a strong partner to understand the situation...............and even then...............LOL......you get my point...LOL LOL LOL....

You know what would solve ALL your problems man???

If say, you hooked her up with a very cool friend, like saaaaaayyy..... ME!.. in exchange your partner would feel more secure, I would get to kick your Ass every once in a while and everybody would be happy....... specially me!!! LOL!!

chica wow · Guru

JOKER_ESCO wrote:

Would u trust your girlfriend/boyfriend hold a friendship with his/her ex-man/woman??? I was talking about this subject with a friend over the weekend and I have no idea how would I feel about it, but I don't think I would like it, even if I trust my girl I think I still will have doubts, is not a questions about trust pero como alli disen donde huvo fuego siempre queda senisas..

I think that when you are in a realationship is because you trust your partner. I would like to think that is just friendship but there would always be a doubt in my mind and at times this may cause problems. It all comes down what kind of relationship you have with your partner.

Shei · Guru

McOSIRIS wrote:

Shei wrote: McO.. Cuidado!!!.. porque el fuego no se apaga con agua.!! el agua tiene Oxigeno y........ aviva mas al fuego..!!!!!! adonde salio miss discovery channel.... con ke se apaga entonces????? con suero???

hehehhe nooo, muy lejos de ser eso..

....se suele apagar con arena.. pero bueno, yo te lo avisé, después si te "quemas"..no llores..!!! lol

McOSIRIS · Comandante

Shei wrote:

McO.. Cuidado!!!.. porque el fuego no se apaga con agua.!! el agua tiene Oxigeno y........ aviva mas al fuego..!!!!!!

adonde salio miss discovery channel....

con ke se apaga entonces????? con suero???

Shei · Guru

McOSIRIS wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! por eso es mejor apagar el fuego con agua...para evitar todo tipo de "quemaduras' accidentales...

McO.. Cuidado!!!.. porque el fuego no se apaga con agua.!! el agua tiene Oxigeno y........ aviva mas al fuego..!!!!!!

Ke Te Pika · Guru

SI HUBO FUEGO, WHAT MAKES U THINK SHE/HE WONT GO BACK???

I WOULDNT MIND ONLY IF I KNOW I CASTRATED HIM.

Gitana · Foro Master

It's only human nature to be uncomfortable around your partner's EXes....BUT.....it all depends on how confident you are in yourself......

I AGREE....

PRECIOSA · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

PRECIOSA wrote: LGigolo wrote: Could it also depend on HOW GOOD INTIMACY WAS? I mean, if the love making department was like no other you ever had – one may be tempted!!! LIKE THE WAY I'M TEMPTED WITH YOUR AVATAR... I'll give you Mr. Bean's number... lol what about it TEMPTS you?

THE WHOLE MOTION THING...!!!

IT JUST LOOKS SO HAPPY...

God · Foro Master

LaDyBuG wrote:

It is a TRUST, CONFIDENCE and MATURITY issue......

That's all....no more !

LGigolo · Comandante

PRECIOSA wrote:

LGigolo wrote: Could it also depend on HOW GOOD INTIMACY WAS? I mean, if the love making department was like no other you ever had – one may be tempted!!! LIKE THE WAY I'M TEMPTED WITH YOUR AVATAR...

I'll give you Mr. Bean's number... lol

what about it TEMPTS you?

JOKER_ESCO · Foro Master

I THINK ALSO IT DEPENDS IN CULTURE, CAUSE I HAVE SEEN THIS ALOT WITH WHITE PPL..

angelita dulce · Foro Master

Bainaman wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: Bainaman wrote: angelita dulce wrote: Gitana wrote: angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED.... That's a good point!! That's retarded! What does it matter how the previous relationship ended? IT ENDED. The question is whether or not you'll be ok if your current talks to his/her ex. So if they ended bad...you'd be ok with it.....but if they ended as friends....you're not???? Like i said it was a good point because in my case me and my ex ended things a few months back, but not in a bad way. I'm not going to disclose everything that happend, but we knew we still cared for eachother. We saw eachother again this weekend and knew that the feelings between us are the same!! So if he had a girlfriend right now, then let's just say that our situation is one of those. But no he does not have a girlfriend!! Do you get me?? I don't agree. But sure.

I don't know how to explain it on this foro. But i think i know what you mean. But whatever!!

Like i said it depends on the situation and trust!! But i still would mind if my BF would have a friendly relationship with his ex. By friendly, i mean as in calling up eachother and going out!! Stuff like that. Saying hi if you see eachother like in a club, then that's different.

K, this is my last post for this topic. I don't want to get to into it anymore!!

LaDyBuG · Comandante

It is a TRUST, CONFIDENCE and MATURITY issue......

Some people accept it....some people don't......and this all depends on many factors already mentioned....

Gitana brought up a good point......it CAN depend on how it all ended....how you left things off......if the break up was mutual, friendly, or violent and infidelity was involved......

LOVE is also a major factor......one that can't be shut off as easy......and restored in someone else......

It's only human nature to be uncomfortable around your partner's EXes....BUT.....it all depends on how confident you are in yourself......

EX: Once after a party......I had no problem telling my man at the time to drive his ex home so she wouldnt take the bus so late at night......its the gentleman thing to do.......he didnt offer out of respect for me.....and I got mad at him cuz he didnt....LOL......it showed his character......I appreciated the respected and I waited and waited for him to offer the ride and he didnt......so I was like "what are u doing??? take her home"......

CONFIDENCE in oneself is soooooo important in this matter!

Bainaman · Foro Master

angelita dulce wrote:

Bainaman wrote: angelita dulce wrote: Gitana wrote: angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED.... That's a good point!! That's retarded! What does it matter how the previous relationship ended? IT ENDED. The question is whether or not you'll be ok if your current talks to his/her ex. So if they ended bad...you'd be ok with it.....but if they ended as friends....you're not???? Like i said it was a good point because in my case me and my ex ended things a few months back, but not in a bad way. I'm not going to disclose everything that happend, but we knew we still cared for eachother. We saw eachother again this weekend and knew that the feelings between us are the same!! So if he had a girlfriend right now, then let's just say that our situation is one of those. But no he does not have a girlfriend!! Do you get me??

I don't agree.

But sure.

angelita dulce · Foro Master

Bainaman wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: Gitana wrote: angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED.... That's a good point!! That's retarded! What does it matter how the previous relationship ended? IT ENDED. The question is whether or not you'll be ok if your current talks to his/her ex. So if they ended bad...you'd be ok with it.....but if they ended as friends....you're not????

Like i said it was a good point because in my case me and my ex ended things a few months back, but not in a bad way. I'm not going to disclose everything that happend, but we knew we still cared for eachother. We saw eachother again this weekend and knew that the feelings between us are the same!! So if he had a girlfriend right now, then let's just say that our situation is one of those. But no he does not have a girlfriend!!

Do you get me??

PRECIOSA · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

Could it also depend on HOW GOOD INTIMACY WAS? I mean, if the love making department was like no other you ever had – one may be tempted!!!

LIKE THE WAY I'M TEMPTED WITH YOUR AVATAR...

TV Buff · TOP Guru

LGigolo wrote:

I think it depends on each separate case – depending how much you trust your partner and how much the other EX wants him/her back and if the EX is desperately trying to get back together... Thankfully, I have not had to deal it with this.

It also depends a lot on whether X is to Z what Y was to X, because if X and Z were non-polygamous, then Y, and then Z and then X must've been trigonometrically opposite and then X=Z+Y minus Z/y to the X. That's what I really think.

Bainaman · Foro Master

angelita dulce wrote:

Gitana wrote: angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED.... That's a good point!!

That's retarded!

What does it matter how the previous relationship ended? IT ENDED.

The question is whether or not you'll be ok if your current talks to his/her ex.

So if they ended bad...you'd be ok with it.....but if they ended as friends....you're not????

JOKER_ESCO · Foro Master

Gitana wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED....

Well yeah sometimes u end up a relationship in good terms but u still have feelings 4 this person

LGigolo · Comandante

Could it also depend on HOW GOOD INTIMACY WAS? I mean, if the love making department was like no other you ever had – one may be tempted!!!

angelita dulce · Foro Master

Gitana wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!! I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED....

That's a good point!!

Gitana · Foro Master

angelita dulce wrote:

Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!!

I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED....

LGigolo · Comandante

angelita dulce wrote:

Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!!

Sounds like there were sparkles on the weekend…

I think it depends on each separate case – depending how much you trust your partner and how much the other EX wants him/her back and if the EX is desperately trying to get back together... Thankfully, I have not had to deal it with this.

McOSIRIS · Comandante

angelita dulce wrote:

Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part. But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!!

por eso es mejor apagar el fuego con agua...para evitar todo tipo de "quemaduras' accidentales...

God · Foro Master

no no

Donde hubo amor...Alimony queda !

jajajajajajaja

TV Buff · TOP Guru

JOKER_ESCO wrote:

Would u trust your girlfriend/boyfriend hold a friendship with his/her ex-man/woman???

Nevah!

And I know hubby would say the same thing.

We're both freaks that way.

angelita dulce · Foro Master

Also, ese dicho DONDE HUVO FUEGO SENISAS QUEDA, Well it does not apply in every case. Cause for my first ex, there is definately no senisas on my part.
But i know there still is between me and my last ex. WE both realized this, this weekend!!

angelita dulce · Foro Master

GENIE wrote:

angelita dulce wrote: I never share my private life, but i have been part of this topic this weekend and it's still in my mind!! I would so mind if my boyfriend would talk to his ex!! Two reason i feel this way........... First reason is because it's happened in my first ex's(hubby) case. We could NEVER be friends, reason being is because till this day he wants me back! (Phone calls every day!!) This is why his current girldfriend does not want him calling me! Though he does it behind her back!! So in her case, i agree why she does not want him calling me!! Second reason is, por ese dicho...donde huvo fuego senisas queda!! Well in my case i saw my last ex (the one after my hubby) and well.............let's just say todavia queda senisas!!! OK LET ME ASK U THIS WHAT IF UR BF AND HIS EX HAD A CHILD INVOLVED AND IT ALL ENDED ON OK TERMS HOW WOULD U FEEL THEN?? OR WHAT IF U AND UR EX HUBBY ENDED ON GOOD TERMS DO U THINK ITS FAIR FOR UR NEW BEAU TO ASK U TO STOP TALKING THIM EVEN THOUGHT LITTLE "ORALE" IS INVOLVED

Ok, now if children are invloved that's a different story. My ex-husband has an older daughter, so i didn't mind him talking to his ex, because of their little girl. I loved that little girl, but i tried not to be a mommy type firgure, because her mother was just crazy like that. (girl, u know what i'm talking about) I HAD trust in him.

And my BF, well he knew that i was still talking to my son's father becuase of my son, it may have bothered him, but he understood and knew what he was getting into knowing that i have a son! If it bothered him, then i think i would have left him, simply because i would not want the stress on me and my son!

So the answer i guess is, it all depends on the situation. It all comes down to trust. But i know i would mind if my BF would talk to his ex.

JOKER_ESCO · Foro Master

I agree with angelita donde huvo fuego queda senisas, I am telling u cause it has happend 2 me, personaly I had little flames with Ex after we were finish..

GENIE · Foro Master

angelita dulce wrote:

I never share my private life, but i have been part of this topic this weekend and it's still in my mind!! I would so mind if my boyfriend would talk to his ex!! Two reason i feel this way........... First reason is because it's happened in my first ex's(hubby) case. We could NEVER be friends, reason being is because till this day he wants me back! (Phone calls every day!!) This is why his current girldfriend does not want him calling me! Though he does it behind her back!! So in her case, i agree why she does not want him calling me!! Second reason is, por ese dicho...donde huvo fuego senisas queda!! Well in my case i saw my last ex (the one after my hubby) and well.............let's just say todavia queda senisas!!!

OK LET ME ASK U THIS WHAT IF UR BF AND HIS EX HAD A CHILD INVOLVED AND IT ALL ENDED ON OK TERMS HOW WOULD U FEEL THEN??

OR WHAT IF U AND UR EX HUBBY ENDED ON GOOD TERMS DO U THINK ITS FAIR FOR UR NEW BEAU TO ASK U TO STOP TALKING THIM EVEN THOUGHT LITTLE "ORALE" IS INVOLVED

angelita dulce · Foro Master

I never share my private life, but i have been part of this topic this weekend and it's still in my mind!!

I would so mind if my boyfriend would talk to his ex!! Two reason i feel this way........... First reason is because it's happened in my first ex's(hubby) case. We could NEVER be friends, reason being is because till this day he wants me back! (Phone calls every day!!) This is why his current girldfriend does not want him calling me! Though he does it behind her back!! So in her case, i agree why she does not want him calling me!!

Second reason is, por ese dicho...donde huvo fuego senisas queda!! Well in my case i saw my last ex (the one after my hubby) and well.............let's just say todavia queda senisas!!!

GENIE · Foro Master

I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON UR RELATIONSHIP!

R STILL TALKS TO HIS EX BUT THATS BECAUSE THEY HAVE A LITTLE PERSON INVOLVED AND THE DIVORCE PAPERS TO BE FINIALZED THIS MONTH ALONG WITH CUSTODY PAPERS SO I MEAN IT ALL DEPENDS IM VERY UNDERSTANDING AND HES VERY OPEN TO ME ABOUT ALL HIS PROBLEMS. SO IT DEPENDS ON UR RELATIONSHIP AND IF U TRULY TRUST THE PERSON!

McOSIRIS · Comandante

I don't seek friendship in a person that hurt me in the past.... what's the point of doing that??? they already helped by teaching you not to trust that kind of ppl.....

Paradox · Regular Plus

JOKER_ESCO wrote:

Would u trust your girlfriend/boyfriend hold a friendship with his/her ex-man/woman??? I was talking about this subject with a friend over the weekend and I have no idea how would I feel about it, but I don't think I would like it, even if I trust my girl I think I still will have doubts, is not a questions about trust pero como alli disen donde huvo fuego siempre queda senisas..

Hi everyone, this is my second post.

I wouldn't give much thought to that saying. There's a reason why a couple isn't a couple anymore. Sometimes people find out that they get along better as friends. I think that if you can't trust a person, then why be with them in the first place? Also, when you are with someone, it doesn't mean you own them so why can't they continue keeping their friends?

Julie · Comandante

Bainaman wrote:

Yeah right! All of you saying "yes I don't mind"......I don't know... I mean....You could be 100% open to the idea......but depending on the situation...... I have a funny case.... I dated a girl for 5 years......and we had an amicable split..... Now she sings in the same band I sing with We're cool and all......but I would need a very strong partner to understand that situation............and even then............I would need a strong partner to understand the situation...............and even then...............LOL......you get my point...LOL LOL LOL....

I get your point. I don't mind because it happened to me already. It was strange though at first but then, I guess, trust worked fine and know, we are all good friends

Bainaman · Foro Master

Yeah right!

All of you saying "yes I don't mind"......I don't know...

I mean....You could be 100% open to the idea......but depending on the situation......

I have a funny case....

I dated a girl for 5 years......and we had an amicable split.....

Now she sings in the same band I sing with

We're cool and all......but I would need a very strong partner to understand that situation............and even then............I would need a strong partner to understand the situation...............and even then...............LOL......you get my point...LOL LOL LOL....