Long distance relationships

Adriana22 · Senior Member

RE: Long distance relationships

Miel · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

hey, in my defence, you never said I was not to tell anyone or that it was supposed to be secretive... lol

ok,.. i guess i need to be more explicit with u,. u belong to the men specie,..Hombres tan lentos,..

Maracuya · Guru

I admit I am sooooo relieved you brought up this topic. I thought I was alone in this Pendejos business.

I too met someone in NJ and I don't know what kind of love we fell in but it was the kind that said, look, we'll never know if we don't try. He wanted to pursue it b/c of my personality, I wanted to b/c of our compatibility.

After we realized the phone bills and phone cards were costing a lot we were talking less and less, and I'd hear less of him, worse so on the weekends, but he'd have great excuses, so due to different work schedules (day shift vs night shift) we couldn't even MSN around the same time, but the phone calls after midnite would mostly compromise me cuz i'd have to wake up at 6am the next day.

It all depends on the 'environment' around each of you guys. Mine was a supportive circle of girlfriends except for 3 skeptics, and a confused but understanding family. His was a partying bunch of guys and a family that didnt' approve of the LD thing b/c he had his life going.

So its not just love - its personality, character, reaction to proaction, and If it gets to the point where you or he is working too hard to make it work then don't feel sorry for each other and just move on.

I was so enthused with the LD relationship that I was pendeja and didn't see 'the end' coming. I think the guy felt sorry for me so he didn't break it off in thime and I lost a bit of my shining personality in the process. Not worth it.

Prevent LD relationshios. just use the friendship / email excuse. It must kind of be like online dating or something.

Maracuya · Guru

IT CAN WORK IF U BOTH TRULY STAY FAITHFUL BUT TO BE HONEST NOPE!! WONT WORK I DID IT FOR A YEAR AND A HALF AND WE WERE MARRIED!! BUT NOPE WONT WORK TRUST ME!! SO NOW IM HAPPIER THEN EVER WITH MY BF WHICH MANY OF U KNOW! LOL
BUT NO HUN ITS A WASTE OF TIME ENERGY AND HARD HARD ON THE HEART!

ouch! omigod! I'm about to put my two cents in but this must have really hurt you!!!

TV Buff · TOP Guru

I think the longest distance relationship I've ever had was when I lived in downtown Toronto and he lived in Scarborough. Long distance never works! It's hard enough when we live in the same house!

Daeveed · Foro Master

McOSIRIS wrote:

wa****a...le zapatea la araña???

hahahaha!!

McOSIRIS · Comandante

Daeveed wrote:

Mijita, suelte el mono.

hahahahahahahahaha que romantico!!!

wa****a...le zapatea la araña???

Daeveed · Foro Master

Mijita, suelte el mono.

chicka_BRAZIL · Nuevo

Long distance can work if you make them work me and my boyfriend been going out for a long time, and we make it work and he lives in new york and im in brazil it is very hard when seeing each other. but the love that we share makes up fort ten times it wtorth

SUGAR · Regular Plus

I think it could work out as long as the bond is strong and it not like permanent or its a long term situation. Two of my girls had long distance relationships. One had her man in new york they went back and forth for about two years visiting each other. Then finally she moved there she had a baby and is now engaged, and she is extremely happy. The other friend of mine met her boyfriend while he was on vacation here from mexico he went back after a few months. She went to visit and stay with him for awhile and now he came back and has been here for about 7 months but he has to leave again and as much as they love each other i dont think its gonna work cause its so hard to be with someone everyday for like 7 months and then wake up one day not knowing if your ever gonna see the person again, how long could u stay in a relationship like that. I cant even begin to imagine how they feel everytime they goodbye........But like she says u only live once and she loves him so shes willing to wait and see what happens no matter how painful it gets.
I also had a long distance relationship, i went to new york met a guy and we started dating after i came back we kept in touch. But he would get mad if he called and i wasnt home and he didnt want me to go out! like whatta hell was he expecting me to stay home and scratch while on the phone with him????? I knew i wasnt gonna back to new york any time soon and he couldnt come see me cause he was broke and had now papers! We obviously didnt end up in good terms BUT WHATEVER!

SO i dont know bout along distance relationships if u want it to work then u can make it work "where theres a will theres a way" RIGHT?

gatita fiera · Regular Plus

Shy_Latina wrote:

So what do guys think about this??? does it work?? has any of you ever been on one and how long were you apart from your other half??? did it work??? Oh como dicen por ahi... "amor de lejos, amor de pendejos".

SHY_LATINA I BELIEVE IN AMOR DE LEJOS PARA LOS PENDEJOS PORQUE LOS QUE TUS OJOS NO MIRAN NUNCA VAS A SABER WHAT YOUR OTHER HALF IS DOING....... BUT IF U TRUST YOUR HALF POWER TO YOU ONLY U KNOW WHAT U HAVE AND I ALSO BELIEVE UNTIL U DON'T SEE IT WITH YOUR EYES YOU CAN'T BELIEVE WHAT U HEARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR HOPE THAT HELPS U

-- Edited by gatita fiera at 12:19, 2005-10-20

-- Edited by gatita fiera at 14:02, 2005-10-20

JOKER_ESCO · Foro Master

GENIE wrote:

Shy_Latina wrote: So what do guys think about this??? does it work?? has any of you ever been on one and how long were you apart from your other half??? did it work??? Oh como dicen por ahi... "amor de lejos, amor de pendejos". IT CAN WORK IF U BOTH TRULY STAY FAITHFUL BUT TO BE HONEST NOPE!! WONT WORK I DID IT FOR A YEAR AND A HALF AND WE WERE MARRIED!! BUT NOPE WONT WORK TRUST ME!! SO NOW IM HAPPIER THEN EVER WITH MY BF WHICH MANY OF U KNOW! LOL BUT NO HUN ITS A WASTE OF TIME ENERGY AND HARD HARD ON THE HEART!

I don't think so it will never work.

GENIE · Foro Master

Shy_Latina wrote:

So what do guys think about this??? does it work?? has any of you ever been on one and how long were you apart from your other half??? did it work??? Oh como dicen por ahi... "amor de lejos, amor de pendejos".

IT CAN WORK IF U BOTH TRULY STAY FAITHFUL BUT TO BE HONEST NOPE!! WONT WORK I DID IT FOR A YEAR AND A HALF AND WE WERE MARRIED!! BUT NOPE WONT WORK TRUST ME!! SO NOW IM HAPPIER THEN EVER WITH MY BF WHICH MANY OF U KNOW! LOL

BUT NO HUN ITS A WASTE OF TIME ENERGY AND HARD HARD ON THE HEART!

LGigolo · Comandante

Miel wrote:

LG said:I" agree with Miel – as long as they are committed and as long as it is NOT for too long a period of time! Amor de lejos don’t work cuase cyber sex just don’t feel like the real thing! LOL (ALSO heard THAT from Miel!) " I won't tell u anything else,.. Sapo

hey, in my defence, you never said I was not to tell anyone or that it was supposed to be secretive... lol

Miel · Guru

LG said:I" agree with Miel – as long as they are committed and as long as it is NOT for too long a period of time!
Amor de lejos don’t work cuase cyber sex just don’t feel like the real thing! LOL (ALSO heard THAT from Miel!) "

I won't tell u anything else,.. Sapo

Pancho Cachondo · Guru

Shy_Latina wrote:

So what do guys think about this??? does it work?? has any of you ever been on one and how long were you apart from your other half??? did it work??? Oh como dicen por ahi... "amor de lejos, amor de pendejos".

Actually "Amor de Lejos ...Felices los 4"

Shy_Latina · Guru

Like chica wow says... I think it all depends on the reason why it became a long distance relationship. Sometimes someone has to leave because they have to, not because they want to. As long as they still talk and know they will see eachother again... who knows... may be all the feeling could still be there y el amor entre ellos puede renaces...

Chilenita · Comandante

I went to Chile when I was like 19 for three months! Fell in love....WOW like crazy love....actually my first TRUE love.....we started this long distance relationship.....tortured ourselves by crying on the phone all the time (oh and this was before the wonderful phone cards so imagine the bills) wrote letters, send gifts....he even came here a couple of times and I went to Chile a bunch of times....lasted about two years. He was about 5 yrs older than me and eventually he was kind of like move here and let's get married or forget it cuz it just got too hard....I was not ready to move to Chile and not ready for marriage so we broke up. HARD VERY HARD!!!! I couldn't do it again.

chica wow · Guru

I think it all depends on the situation...why did it become a long distance relationship and if there was enough time spent together to build trust and love. If this is the case, then I think it could work as long as you know that you'll see eachother again....

Daeveed · Foro Master

I agree with my colega Chepe.

ChepeCaster · Regular Plus

nope... they don't work, the relationship slowly fades away with time and someone always get hurt a little

angelita dulce · Foro Master

I NEVER HAD ONE, BUT I DON'T THINK IT WORKS ANYWAYS!!! Why have a long distance relationship, when you can even spend time together!!!

LGigolo · Comandante

I agree with Miel – as long as they are committed and as long as it is NOT for too long a period of time!

Amor de lejos don’t work cuase cyber sex just don’t feel like the real thing! LOL (ALSO heard THAT from Miel!)

Miel · Guru

I have a better one,. "amor de lejos felices los cuatro",... Todo dependera del amor y respeto que se tengan,,. y el tipo de relacion,.. I think it could work if both are commited to work things out and it s not going to be for a long period of time,..

McOSIRIS · Comandante

Shy_Latina wrote:

So what do guys think about this??? does it work?? has any of you ever been on one and how long were you apart from your other half??? did it work??? Oh como dicen por ahi... "amor de lejos, amor de pendejos".

It used to work perfectly in the 1700's but not so much right now....

Shy_Latina · Guru

So what do guys think about this??? does it work?? has any of you ever been on one and how long were you apart from your other half??? did it work??? Oh como dicen por ahi... "amor de lejos, amor de pendejos".