hummmm.....hummmmm lots of intresting points on this matter..........but you really don't know how will you react to a situation untill you are in one. For YES I have done it, and YES it was hard I think on the two of us.

The bottom line is:

If you TRUST - RESPECT and LOVE a person....you will not find it necessary to cheat on them.....

People who cheat haven't grasped the concept of those 3 words yet....and some never will....but most importantly, they have been hurt badly in the past.....I can almost guarantee it......

Cheating is NOT so much about the actual sex.....it's about the Engaño to the 3 rd party, making that person feel stupid, going behind their back.....and cowardly for not trying to resolve whatever problems they are having in the marriage or relationship.....(including problems in bed)

Also.....many people say that it's not cheating until someone finds out and you get into trouble.....so what you don't know won't hurt you kinda thing.....I truly believe that this is Confu's way of thinking and by practicing it, it has become "OK" in her mind.....when in reality it's not OK.....

Karma does not hit one directly....it can hit your child or family as well.....but it will hit you where it hurts the most.....THATS A FACT......so the next time you do something "wrong" and assume that it's not......just stop and think to yourself "Why am i so miserable?...or why am I not fulfilled in life?....why don't I have a partner beside me who loves me and respects me".........that's Karma for you.....

The sad thing is.....people who cheat and have no remedy.....are people who don;t know the difference between right and wrong.....they just cant understand it.....it's not logical to them.......

Experiencing it (like in the case of Genie).......it can either turn you revengeful.....or you learn from it like she did......

Ke Te Pika wrote:

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NEVER DATED A MARRIED WOMAN.... I'VE DATED OLDER WOMEN THOUGH.... WAT ABOUT DATING WOMEN WHO ARE GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE???

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If they are going through a divorce it means that their relationship is over and everybody onvolves knows about it, so I think it would be understood that they both are free to start a new life. I guess it should be ok in that case, you would actually be doing somekind of social services to human kind.

Daeveed wrote:

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LGigolo wrote: Now if this world was full of women who could understand this theory, the world would be such a happier place!  and there'll be less restaurants...fancy ones at least. 

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and (cheating) men would even have MORE $ dough to spend on their wives and kids! WIN-WIN situation!

Chilenita wrote:

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Ummm this is going to sound strange but I would be much more upset to hear my man spend quality time with a woman like dinner....romantic walks blah blah blah then if he actually banged her!!!!  Not that I would be thrilled to hear he banged some other chick I would just understand it more than some romantic encounter.

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Now if this world was full of women who could understand this theory, the world would be such a happier place! 

I think painting with oil based paint is harder than painting with yogurth.

 

confundida wrote:

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WAT I HAVE LEARNED IS DAT SOMETIMES CHEATING HAS DA ANSWER TO SOME ISSUES DAT A COUPLE ARE HAVING..WHAT DOES IT ANSWER??? WHY BE WITH A PERSON IF U QUESTION CERTAIN THINGS IN THE RELATIONSHIP IN NOT SAYING EVERYTING HAS TO BE PEACHY AND PINK I AM HOWEVER SAYING THAT CHEATING ANSWERS NADA!!!!..   OR EVEN IT HAS DA ANSWER, WELL CUZ MOST OF DA TIME WHEN U TELL UR OTHER HALF DAT YOU HAVE CHEATED THEY WILL LEAVE YOU,WELL OF COURSE SOME PPL JUST DONT WANT TO DEAL WITH IT AND IF U DID IT ONCE WHAT WOULD STOP U FROM DOING IT AGAIN AND ALSO U DIDNT HAVE THE GUTS TO SAY SOMETHING BEFORE CHEATING TO FIX THE PROBLEM NOW U HAVE TO FIX TWO PROBLEMS FORGET IT BUT U DO HAVE THOSE ODD ONES DAT WIL SAY LETS TRY TO WORK THINGS OUT.THESE ARE PPL WHO TRULY LOVE THE OTHER PERSON AND ARE WILLING TO WORK AT SOEMTHING THEY WANT!......   I NEVA SD CHEATING WAS OK, BUT GUESS WAT WHEN IT HAPPENS YOU HAVE TO FIND OUT WHY AND NOT TRY TO COME OUT WITH A SOLTUION..I HOPE THATS A TYPO????....   OUR MORALS WILL NEVA BE DA SAME, NOR WILL BE EVA THINK DA SAME..NO AND IM NOT SAYING MINE ARE TOTALLY RIGHT OR THAT URS ARE WRONG EVERYONE HAS THERE OWN VIEWS AND WAYS IM JUST SAYING COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS EXPEREINCED THIS IN THE HOME FIRST HAND YOU WOULD THINK THAT OUR MORALS ON THIS ISSUE WERE SOMEWHAT THE SAME!! WE ARE SO QUICK TO JUDGE OUR PARENTS BUT YET WE TURN AROUND AND DO THE SAME DOES THAT MAKE SENSE??? ....   I COULD SAY I CHEATED WITH A MARRIED MAN CUZ HE HAD SEX APPEAL, DAT IT..NOT LIKE WE WERE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP.....WE WOULD JUST GET TOGETHER AND HAVE SEX.OH WELL IF ITS LIKE THAT THEN ITS OK..... NO NOT REALLY ITS STILL CHEATING CUZ EVENTUALLY FEELINGS WILL GET INVOLVED AND ONE OR MORE WILL BE HURT!!! .

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IM NOT ATTACKING U JUST MAKING U SEE WHAT UR TYPING JUST DOESNT IN MY OWN MIND MAKE SENSE U SAY ITS OK BUT IF ITS DONE TO U THEN WHAT?? JUST WALK??

ME AND U BEEN THRU ALOT AND KNOW ALOT SO I DONT GET WHY U WOULD CHOOSE TO SEE THIS SO PLAIN AND SIMPLE LIKE EATING BREAKFAST???

-- Edited by GENIE at 14:17, 2005-10-04

confundida wrote:

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GENIE wrote: confundida wrote:    OK SORRY NEXT TIME ILL BE MORE EXPLICIT OR DETAILED,  LET SAY WE TRIED TO FIX IT, AND WERE BOTH JUST HOLDING ON FOR SOMETHING MAYBE OUR MORALS OR WAT PPL WOULD THINK, THEN IF CHEATING HAPPENS IT HAPPENS.....            OK SORRY BUT STAYING TOGETHER FOR SOMETHING MAYBE OUR MORALS!?!??!?!?! WHAT KIND OF MORALS DO U HAVE IF U GO AND CHEAT ON UR SPOUSE NONE!!! REGARDLESS WHAT PPL THINK THATS JUST ANOTHER STUPID REASON!! IM SORRY I JUST UNDERSTAND IN WHAT POINT U FIND CHEATING OK?? I DONT UNDERSTAND AND UR NOT BEING DETAILED UR BEING CONFUSED BY UR OWN MORALS!     FORGET IT, I HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO SAY......   ONCE AGAIN GENIE UR RITE.....YOULL ALWAYS BE RITE..... THERE IS NO ARGUING WITH YOU....     IM OUT LATTA!!!!!

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come on get a back bone!!!  If you think she is wrong tell her why!

 

Confu I am NOT down with OPP but if you are stick up for yourself....geezzzzzzz

confundida wrote:

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   OK SORRY NEXT TIME ILL BE MORE EXPLICIT OR DETAILED,  LET SAY WE TRIED TO FIX IT, AND WERE BOTH JUST HOLDING ON FOR SOMETHING MAYBE OUR MORALS OR WAT PPL WOULD THINK, THEN IF CHEATING HAPPENS IT HAPPENS.....

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           OK SORRY BUT STAYING TOGETHER FOR SOMETHING MAYBE OUR MORALS!?!??!?!?! WHAT KIND OF MORALS DO U HAVE IF U GO AND CHEAT ON UR SPOUSE NONE!!! REGARDLESS WHAT PPL THINK THATS JUST ANOTHER STUPID REASON!! IM SORRY I JUST UNDERSTAND IN WHAT POINT U FIND CHEATING OK?? I DONT UNDERSTAND AND UR NOT BEING DETAILED UR BEING CONFUSED BY UR OWN MORALS!

 

Confu..it's all about what is wrong in YOUR books!  If you think Sex is just Sex and there is no emotions involved than I can see why you would think having sex with a married man is okay.  Just know that MANY MANY times what goes around comes around so keep it in your head that everything is cool with  cheating that way when your hubby does it to you it won't be hard.

GENIE wrote:

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confundida wrote: OK, I HAVE DONE IT....IM I ASHAMED OF IT....HMMMMM....NO NOT REALLY.....DA WAY I SEE IT AS LONG AS KIDS ARE NOT INVOLVED OR THERE NOT COMING IN DA PICTURES, GUESS WAT IT HAPPENS.........   THERE MUST BE REASON WHY PPL CHEAT........             OK SORRY CONFU BUT UR SO OUT OF IT THATS JUST WRONG!!! REGARDLESS UR STILL BREAKING UP A MARRIAGE AT LEAST CONTRIBUTING TO IT AND THAT MY FRIEND IS THE WORST THING U COULD DO!!! LOOK PPL CHEAT FINE BUT WHEN U TAKE THAT COMMITTMENT TO THE NEXT LEVEL YOU SHOULD HAVE SOME MORAL STANDARD AND SAY OMG THATS WRONG!!         pUT UR SELF IN THAT POSITION!        LET ME ASK U SOMETHING SO IF UR FUTURE HUSBAND CHEATS ON U ITS OK???  

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IF HE IS CHEATING THEN THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG IN OUR MARRIAGE, THERE COULD BE THOUSAND OF REASON YOU WOULD HAVE TO ASK HIM.......

Chilenita wrote:

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Would you ever get involved with someone who is married?  Have you?

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No never have & I would hope that I Never do.

I can't imagine how low of a strike it is to be SOLO UNA AMANTE !!!!!!!!

We had a thread like this before if I'm not wrong...but whatever.
no I never had the experience,
but I do know a coward who wanted to have something with someone I know, (HE)"THOUGHT" that "based on their past relationship" "something" could've happened. But i guess he picked on the wrong person. There was a kid in the picture too, i guess he didn't care. she respected him and explained to him with from "a-z" that she didn't want to be involved, and stop talking to him for many reasons.

whoever gets involved with a married person is just a f@cking loser, or a coward whatever you want to call it.
but whoever did it, is THEIR CHOICE.

Your life is less complicated if you "chose" NO TO.

TV Buff wrote:

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GENIE wrote: I have never been involved with a married person!! Im sorry but i saw infedelity break up my mother and father and that to me is the WORST THING A PERSON CAN DO is break up another persons household!!          wITH SO MANy men out there why pick someone whos involved i mean so true be it at frist u dont know but when u find out why stick around cuz ur in love he lied to u or she lied to u come thats bs!!         i hate ppl that do this to me its nasty wrong and karma karma!!!   This sounds like Angelina Jolie. Are you Angelina Jolie? How's Brad doing, you homewrecker?

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         NO LMAO!! BUFFY THAT WAS MY PARENTS SITUATION IM TOTALLY AGAINST IT

 

GENIE wrote:

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I have never been involved with a married person!! Im sorry but i saw infedelity break up my mother and father and that to me is the WORST THING A PERSON CAN DO is break up another persons household!!          wITH SO MANy men out there why pick someone whos involved i mean so true be it at frist u dont know but when u find out why stick around cuz ur in love he lied to u or she lied to u come thats bs!!         i hate ppl that do this to me its nasty wrong and karma karma!!!  

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This sounds like Angelina Jolie. Are you Angelina Jolie? How's Brad doing, you homewrecker?

D_Lo wrote:

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Personally, I would never date a married man.  If a man would do that to his wife, than obviously he would do it to anyone else.  Also, what goes around comes around, and I would not want that to happen to me.

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I have to agree with you. It'll come bk in 3's. If i were in that situatiuon, in an unhappy marriage, why cheat? leave his ass and then I'll do my business not a younger guy, but older(i know young is in, but it's not for me). Why live with someone that u don't care about? or treats u like ****.

Daeveed wrote:

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I'm seeing lots of answers like this one. Could you girls answer this?
If you were married, would you have an affair with a younger, single guy??

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Sure, just if he doesn't ask me for money.....

:Daeveed wrote:

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Ladyhawk wrote:  I would never get involved with a married Man .  I am a woman who respect herself  who has standard's and never would I lower myself to be second to anyone .  "Nunca ser plato de segunda mesa "   I'm seeing lots of answers like this one. Could you girls answer this? If you were married, would you have an affair with a younger, single guy??

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I would like to think I would never do anything to anyone that I wouldn't want done to myself.

 

Plus I am not into younger guys

Daeveed wrote:

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Ladyhawk wrote:
 I would never get involved with a married Man .  I am a woman who respect herself  who has standard's and never would I lower myself to be second to anyone .  "Nunca ser plato de segunda mesa "  

I'm seeing lots of answers like this one. Could you girls answer this?
If you were married, would you have an affair with a younger, single guy??

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You don't need to be a Girl....and the answer is YES.....they do it....come with me a Saturday night....lol

Ladyhawk wrote:

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 I would never get involved with a married Man .  I am a woman who respect herself  who has standard's and never would I lower myself to be second to anyone .  "Nunca ser plato de segunda mesa "  

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I'm seeing lots of answers like this one. Could you girls answer this?

If you were married, would you have an affair with a younger, single guy??

 I would never get involved with a married Man .

 I am a woman who respect herself  who has standard's

and never would I lower myself to be second to anyone .

 "Nunca ser plato de segunda mesa "

 

Miel wrote:

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"No hagas a otro lo que no quieren que te hagan a ti",.. If u don't respect urself just go ahead and do it,. personally I think if ur with a married person,. u just reciving the left overs,. nos vas ha ser mas que la otra / o,.. y si te llegas a enamorar el lastimado/a vas ha ser tu y unicamente tu,.. @LB,. I think both are the sick,. and cowards,.. f there is something wrong in ur marriage,.. having an affair won't solve it,..

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U talking like a true person that has never experience this situation, getting involved with a married woman is a big time trill, your adrenaline pums really high, have u aver heard el dicho que lo peligro es lo mas rico que existe well is true.... in this is a situation if u fall in love with this person u are mess up, u have 2 take like a game cause that's what it is a game....

Como dice un Amigo

Cual es la mujer mas Buena..........La Ajena !

"No hagas a otro lo que no quieren que te hagan a ti",.. If u don't respect urself just go ahead and do it,. personally I think if ur with a married person,. u just reciving the left overs,. nos vas ha ser mas que la otra / o,.. y si te llegas a enamorar el lastimado/a vas ha ser tu y unicamente tu,..

@LB,. I think both are the sick,. and cowards,.. f there is something wrong in ur marriage,.. having an affair won't solve it,..