Daeveed wrote:

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Lahtina wrote: Daeveed wrote: Lahtina wrote:  Bienaventurados los que no esperan nada, porque nunca serán defraudados. damn straight! That though, I was expecting, you're so predictable! LOL Siento decepcionarte.

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It's not the first...and I'm guessing it won't be the last either.

Daeveed wrote:

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Lahtina wrote:  Bienaventurados los que no esperan nada, porque nunca serán defraudados. damn straight!

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That though, I was expecting, you're so predictable! LOL

Milf Hunter wrote:

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I dont think gifts are important unless it's an aniversary, christmas or something special. Maybe flowers or something small as a suprise or an apology. If you are not serious with the person, then you shouldnt expect anything. I dont think you should expect anything from ANYONE anyways.

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I agree with this, actually. Bienaventurados los que no esperan nada, porque nunca serán defraudados.

@ BUFFY: that was so well put....I couldn't have said it better myself.....excellent choice of words....

I wander where MARA went? hmmmmmm......she aksed and she left.....did we scare her?? lol

I dont think gifts are important unless it's an aniversary, christmas or something special. Maybe flowers or something small as a suprise or an apology. If you are not serious with the person, then you shouldnt expect anything. I dont think you should expect anything from ANYONE anyways.

JOKER_ESCO wrote:

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GIRL U NEED 2 GET YOUR SELF A MAN THAT KNOW HOW U TAKE CARE OF A GIRL, SEND HIS A$$ 2 HELL.........

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 ASI SIMPLE A LA MIRCOLES CON ESE BATO NO..........NEXT

mara wrote:

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I'VE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR A WHILE HE TREATS ME OK I WOULD SAY BUT HE HAS NEVER A HAD A DETAIL WITH ME. NO FLOWERS, NO DINNERS, NO LITTLE GIFT. I MEAN I DON'T EXPECT A BIG GIFT, JUST A LITTLE DETAIL AND IT SEEMS LIKE HE’S NEVER GOING TO DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT. IT’S NOT LIKE HE’S BROKE OR ANYTHING HE HAS AN OK JOB AND SOME MONEY TO SPARE. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK, IS HE A CHEAP ASS? OR MAYBE HE THINKS I’M NOT WORTH SPENDING MONEY ON?

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Okay, first of all, you have to set the standards on how you like to be treated, and be vocal about it. You have to start a relationship right off the bat like this (and trust me, I learned the hard way). It's much easier in case the relationship develops into something serious later on. So if you want your guy to be detallista and he's not, you say it. If he doesn't like it, and it really bothers you, then you should really, really think about that, because those little details will accumulate overtime and become a big deal afterwards. If he compensates his being so simple and cheap with other great qualities, then you should really look into that as well. Being careful with money might be good in the long run, 'cause you don't want to end up with an over spender either, but he should at least treat you nicely, even if he doesn't give you material things. I mean, you don't have to be a rocket scientist to know when a guy is really into you, even if he doesn't shower you with gifts all the time. Myself, I'm not the flowers/chocolate type, and my guy's learned this over time, but little nice things they do show you that they respect you and they appreciate what they have, but sometimes YOU have to teach them how to treat you.

And be vocal. Don't beat around the bush, just say it. Men are simple creatures who need simple and direct instructions. And they don't know how to read women's minds.

God wrote:

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Looking the things on the cold way.... Why any guy or girl should be obligated to show his/her affection with gifs when they are only dating....it can go to the trash can on any given minute ....

As far when I'm datin I don't feel obligated to give gifts....when you are engaged well that's different....Imagine If you give gifts to any date ...

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I for once, agree with you on this. There shouldn't be any obligation for the guy to give gifts, flowers and the such, if that's the case, why not have the girl do the same? if you like the guy enough right? why not? it's not fair it always falls on the guy...if the girl feels the need to be showered with gifts, small or not, then i don't think she's fully interested in the whole person she's dating, but rather what she gets from his money...that's just plain shallow. To me to even request gifts or imply that you'd like a gift is dumb.

 Iwould at least invite you to a nice dinner since I like eating and eating alone is boring.

  The same applies to going to movies.  I would share my pop corn with you.

 My God, and I though I was cheap.

God wrote:

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LaDyBuG wrote:
@ God....are you saying that ALL guys are cheap???? LOL omg, I feel another thread coming on!
No no no no We know how to manage Priorities...for example ig you have 250 Bux extra ... and you have 2 options
a) Take your Girl for dinner
b) Buy a new set of speakers for your Car....
Speakers of Course ! Priorities

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@GOD
BOY I THINK SOMEONE DID YOU WRONG REAL BAD!!!!! FOR YOU TO BE SUCH A COLD HEARTED MAN. I JUST HAVE SYMPATHY FOR YOUR WOMAN THAT'S IF YOU HAVE ONE. FOR THE LOOKS OF THAT PIC I DON'T KNOW WHO WOULD WANT TO BE YOUR GIRL.
IF YOU DO, MANNNNN DO I FEEL SORRY FOR HER WHAT A STUPID GIRL.

I THOUGHT I HAD IT BAD.

THANX Y'ALL PEOPLE FOR YOUR ADVICE IT'S BEING HELPFUL TO ME AND MY BOY.

GOD: FOR REALS EH... 50-50 SOUNDS ALRIGHT.... AVER SI PODEMOS LLEGAR A UN ARREGLO.... PRE-NUPT.

mara wrote:

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I'VE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR A WHILE HE TREATS ME OK I WOULD SAY BUT HE HAS NEVER A HAD A DETAIL WITH ME. NO FLOWERS, NO DINNERS, NO LITTLE GIFT. I MEAN I DON'T EXPECT A BIG GIFT, JUST A LITTLE DETAIL AND IT SEEMS LIKE HE’S NEVER GOING TO DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT. IT’S NOT LIKE HE’S BROKE OR ANYTHING HE HAS AN OK JOB AND SOME MONEY TO SPARE. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK, IS HE A CHEAP ASS? OR MAYBE HE THINKS I’M NOT WORTH SPENDING MONEY ON?

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IT'S THE SMALL THINGS THAT COUNT MARA....

IF I HAD A BOYFRIEND LIKE THAT I WOULD DROP HIM... BUT THAT'S MY OPINION!!!

Looking the things on the cold way.... Why any guy or girl should be obligated to show his/her affection with gifs when they are only dating....it can go to the trash can on any given minute ....

As far when I'm datin I don't feel obligated to give gifts....when you are engaged well that's different....Imagine If you give gifts to any date ...

sounds like it's not even about the money.. he's not giving you the attention you think you deserve.

if that's the case talk to him. if he doesn't come around, drop his ass!

GUADALUPANA:  I DUN LIKE TO USE THE GIRLS MONEY SIMPLY CUZ I THINK THAT THE GUY SHOULD BE THE ONE WHO SHOULD PAY, I DUNNO, IS THAT MACHISTA?? CUZ I DUN THINK IM A MACHISTA BUT I DO BELIVE IN DOUBLE STANDARDS.  WHAT DO YOU THINK?? I LET HER PAY ONCE IN A WHILE, BUT I FEEL TOTALLY UNCOMFORTABLE.

IM NOT CHEAP, IM JUST REALLY BAD AT RELATIONSHIPS... LITTLE BY LITTLE I GET THE HANG OF THIS THING CALLED LOVE. I'LL GET GOOD AT IT WITH TIME AND PATIENCE FROM MA G.

QUESTION ACTUALLY, SINCE WE ON TOPIC OF FINANCIAL MATTERS...

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS, OFFICAL COUPLE, THE GUY DOESNT LIKE TO SPEND THE GIRLS MONEY WHEN THEY GO OUT TO DINNER, GO TO CLUBS, ETC ETC... IS IT WRONG FOR HIM TO BE LIKE THAT? 

@Mara---how long is a while? and is it 'official' between the two of you that you're boyfriend and girlfriend?

See, if you guys are gf and bf, i'd figure he would shower you with little nothings, i mean, you're his girl now right? but if you guys are just a casual kind of thing, nothing concrete, then (if i were in his shoes)i wouldn't give the girl anything yet either. I'm getting to know the girl, to see if i like her enough to give her sll these gifts.

I think that if he treats you with respect, material things shouldn't even matter. Yes, it feels nice, but you sometimes have to look at the big picture. There are relationships where the guy is very disrespetful and even abusive to the girl, and his way to ask for forgiveness is to shower her with gifts, only to do it all over again. Right now, he is giving you his time, latter he may spend on you, but it's not because you're not worth it now. So don't worry.

Afrodita wrote:

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God wrote: LaDyBuG wrote: @ God....are you saying that ALL guys are cheap???? LOL omg, I feel another thread coming on! No no no no We know how to manage Priorities...for example ig you have 250 Bux extra ... and you have 2 options a) Take your Girl for dinner b) Buy a new set of speakers for your Car.... Speakers of Course ! Priorities WoW....250 Bux dinner. Where do you take them god?

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I think he meant $2.50

I'm guessing you're single.....lol

@ God....are you saying that ALL guys are cheap???? LOL

omg, I feel another thread coming on!

Ladies.....to avoid headaches from cheap guys you should consider dating girls

@ Mara.....

You have just been given great advice and by MEN
Also, Learn from the women's experiences and conversations....

Have you actually asked your guy WHY he isn't more detallista with you? Are you detallista with him?

It could be a combination of many things....maturity (like El Rep said).....money situation, short dating time, he just doesn't know how.....have you hinted it in conversation?

Asides all this? Is he caring, understanding and repectful with you?

Maybe he's just scared that litte detalles will tie him down to you......scared of commitment.....

I must say that I agree with DOGO on this one......a guy will do anything for the girls he likes.....and anything means "detalles"......because that's what women appreciate the most.....and it's the most challenging for men.

Even when a man is trying to get a girl into bed, he becomes the biggest Cassanova, with detalles and all just to conquer her anyway possible.....lo

Me personally....I have NEVER, EVER received flowers from a guy that I've dated.....and I looooove flowers....however, just for that reason I won't dump them....especially when they have 8 out of 10 qualities going for them......

Please let us know what you decide to do........and I hope we were able to help you.

Afrodita wrote:

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AY ME PASA LA CUENTA. Thanks Dogo.

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Your bill has just been paid

 

 

 

Just a few questions . . .

How old is he?

Where did you meet this guy?

Are you an official couple or just dating?

Why are you with him if he does not make you feel special?

 

 

 

The reason why I asked for his age is so that I might understand where his head is at. Maybe he’s not mature enough for the type of relationship you are looking for.

 

The second question was just feeding my curiosity. You obviously did not meet him at a club otherwise you would already know what his spending habits are like. (Buying you a drink)

 

If you are not an official couple then maybe he sees no point in “investing” in something that is not set in stone.

 

Personally I would never want to be with anyone who does not make me feel special. Treating me OK would not make the cut in my books.

 

 

Valentines Day . . . What Can I tell you about this – I told my current GF that I was not a fan of this date back in November of last year. I reminded her of this several times when ever I could and also composed a fake story about something terrible happening on that day.

 

I fed her this false information because she told me that she never had a memorable Valentines Day and I wanted our first one to be very special. She never saw my surprise coming.