"Ever since he asked me to move in, he's been a jerk"
My guy asked me to move in, but ever since, he's been a jerk. He goes out with his friends every weekend and stays out all night. When I suggest going on a date, he tells me that we see each other enough. What's up with that?
Bottom line: I don't think your guy is ready for a live-in girlfriend. It seems like he wants all the perks of cohabitation ‑- a warm body next to him at night, good food in the fridge, clean underwear ‑- without any of the sacrifices. Most guys know that once you give up the bachelor pad, you have to give up the bachelor life. (Translation: We can no longer do whatever we want, whenever we want.) But your man clearly doesn't grasp that concept...yet.
He says he wants freedom, but c'mon ‑- you suggested date night, not shackling him to the basement floor. Of course he should be allowed to hang out with his pals, but he has to make quality time for you too, so explain that to him. If he hangs out with his buddies on Friday, he needs to save Saturday night for you. Vegging out on the couch, watching baseball while he trims his toenails ‑- not quality time. One-on-one massages and finger foods in bed? Now, that's more like it. Hey, even a cheap dinner and a bad movie or mini golf would be better than the scraps he's currently giving you. Because right now, he's behaving more like a roommate than a boyfriend.
Hopefully, he'll realize the error of his ways. But if he still doesn't seem to get it and you feel like you're being taken for granted, I suggest you get out of there. I'm sure one of his buddies would be more than happy to move in and keep him company.
My guy asked me to move in, but ever since, he's been a jerk. He goes out with his friends every weekend and stays out all night. When I suggest going on a date, he tells me that we see each other enough. What's up with that?
Bottom line: I don't think your guy is ready for a live-in girlfriend. It seems like he wants all the perks of cohabitation ‑- a warm body next to him at night, good food in the fridge, clean underwear ‑- without any of the sacrifices. Most guys know that once you give up the bachelor pad, you have to give up the bachelor life. (Translation: We can no longer do whatever we want, whenever we want.) But your man clearly doesn't grasp that concept...yet. 
