I moved back home, when i decided to go back to school the York admnistration charges me 6000+ per year for tuition. They were kind enough to provide me out of their own pure heart a tuition freeze for this year. I don't qualify for osap at all it was either getting a THIRD job or moving in with the folks i chose the latter of the two. Do I like it? Hell no! But at the moment is a sacrifice for my education. I close to being a quarter of a century old and im not happy about my situation but i deal with it.
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Yo estoy completamente a favor de la independencia pero eso no quiere decir que para ser independiente debes estar fuera de la casa de tus padres,. ahi tambien tienes responsabilidades que debes cubrir,. debes ayudar con la renta y otros gastos como si estuvieras fuera,.. solo que si quieres ser un mantenido entonces eso ya es otra cosa,. en parte si creo que la cultura influye ,. porque en los paises latinoamericanos los hijos viven en casa de los padres hasta que se casan ,. pero igual trabajan y todo lo demas,.. entonces yo no veo ninguna diferencia en cuanto a la independencia ,. a lo mejor en la cuestion financiera si ya que puedes ahorrar algo mas estando en la casa de tus padres,..
I still live @ home my mom is all I have I agree we all need our spece but how about if your mother only has u, I am not married yet so why should I live my mother alone when @ this moment I could keep her company, once I find that some1 and I decide 2 take the step to marriage then is onother story but right now I am @ home....
Joker, I really like your avatar... Carlton was the funniest guy! I loved him!!!
As for still living with your mom, that's all nice and all, but there'll be a time when both of you should part ways, even if you don't want to. You both might learn things about yourselves in the process. It's only healthy. You don't want to go from your mom's care to your wife's, if you can avoid it. I strongly suggest that you become independent at some point. Plus it'll be an easier transition for your mom, when you find that someone that you'll spend the rest of your life with. Just my
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I still live @ home my mom is all I have I agree we all need our spece but how about if your mother only has u, I am not married yet so why should I live my mother alone when @ this moment I could keep her company, once I find that some1 and I decide 2 take the step to marriage then is onother story but right now I am @ home....
@ God - i tend to agree with u're point that many use the "cultural" excuse as to why they choose to stay at home (btw i dont think its wrong to stay home but i would rather hear that its an individual decision rather than a cultural one)...i also think that there are young people out there that AGREE with their parents that they shouldn't move out til they are married, not only parents hold on to the "old school thing" no?
I'm a firm believer in independence, but it all depends on the circumstances. I've lived on my own since I was 18 and I can tell you that I wouldn't be the person I am today if I hadn't lived on my own; there's so much to learn and so much you learn about yourself. (Mind you, I come from a not very traditional family... I had lots of freedom that girls my age never had, but I also had the principles to know better.)
But also, financially, it's really, really hard and I think more than a cultural thing nowadays it becomes a matter of finances to decide to stay home with mom and dad. But there's a certain age when you DO have to try to become independent, at least before you marry, because I think people need time on their own to figure things out about themselves, their goals and their personal quests. I don't think there's a milestone that you have to reach, but at some point it's good to do it.
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@ God - i tend to agree with u're point that many use the "cultural" excuse as to why they choose to stay at home (btw i dont think its wrong to stay home but i would rather hear that its an individual decision rather than a cultural one)...i also think that there are young people out there that AGREE with their parents that they shouldn't move out til they are married, not only parents hold on to the "old school thing" no?
Girl wrote: well i'm 19 and it also depends of ur culture and how ur parent raised u..Like me if i tell my mom i'm moving out she will be mad.... we have lo live the house the day of our weeding... thats the culture EVEn when our me parents are really open minded.. i KNOW ITS HARD TO UNDERSTAND.. > Alaso i think you have to be mature enough to move out... because there is no point off moving oput and after 6 months u r back with ur parent u know.. so is a though desition..!! GOD NICE TOPIC I LIKE IT
I understand your point and I hard lots of people saying that "it's a cultural thing" but I dont think so....My mother is Italian my father Messi-can't and I get the Old school thing from both sides.....and I left home at 17....my brother at 20...bla bla
So much pople says If I move she will be mad...BUT too bad....we need out own life...we need to learn the way in out own at 20 yrs old you want daddy take from the hand to school....
Sometimes I think some ppl just find it very mmmmmmmmmm I need a nice word for this one....lol
well i'm 19 and it also depends of ur culture and how ur parent raised u..Like me if i tell my mom i'm moving out she will be mad.... we have lo live the house the day of our weeding... thats the culture EVEn when our me parents are really open minded.. i KNOW ITS HARD TO UNDERSTAND..
> Alaso i think you have to be mature enough to move out... because there is no point off moving oput and after 6 months u r back with ur parent u know.. so is a though desition..!!
thanks to this i was able to put myself through university part time (parents didn't pay a cent of my tuition) and save enough money working fulltime to buy a place..
almost 4 years later.. i'm happy to have my independence but will always thank my parents for allowing me to stay at home and not go into debt. i would totally allow my kids to stay home while they finish university too and save their money
I think living with mom and dad is "comfortable" and saves many young adults some cash that they may be putting, hopefully, towards somthing positive as education, student loan, saving for a condo/house, etc... As anything else in life, it has it's positive and negative aspects. On the positive side, one gets to save on expenses and have a cheap/free roof over one's head, one doesn't need to get all the things that one would if living independently (one's own tv., dvd player, microwave, pots and pans, iron, etc), family company can be a positive thing and if all get along well why not! However, on the negative side, one does not have the privacy one would when living alone, you can't necesarily bring over your bf/gf, friends, guests 24/7, etc...
I think different scenarios can play well differently for different people and a lot depends on the expectations from our parent. I was welcome to stay and live with my parents for as long as I ever wanted - rent free and with little if any contribution to household expenses... yeah,they were the good old days... they moved and I decided to finally stay behind and be independant... it was scarry at the begining (even thogh I was already 23); but thanks to their support I had managed to save and buy enough of the necesities for independent living!
In a similar way, I would raise and support my kids and welcome them to stay under my roof for as long as they want/need.
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I definately think there comes an age where a person needs to get out on there own...but there so many different situations that i don't think u can put a particular age to it. I am 23 still living at home and while i definately feel more than ready to get out on my own, i'm still in school and financing myself thru it so moving out is put off for now.
i'm 25 and was 24 when i married...if you find that person whom you can enjoy your juventud with, all the better. i'm glad i married at 24. But the parenthood will have to wait till i'm at least 30!
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God wrote: I don't know people but what do you think of a guy/gilr that is over 21/22 and still living with mom and dad.I know the comforts of home are are undeniably irresistible but at normally at this age we auto call Adults .
But at some point of our lifes we need our own space....privacy, intimacy and I find hard to belive you will get that living with mom and dad, plus I think leaving parents house will help to any guy to delevope independency.
According the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago you are a truly adult in society's eyes, when you achieve a milestone by the age listed below
Milestone Age
Financial independence 20.9 Living outside parents' home 21.2 Employed full-time 21.2 Completed education 22.3 Able to support a family 24.5 Marriage 25.7 Parenthood 26.2
What do you think about this ?
Like Guada says, it all depends on your situation, I would love to live on my own and definitely have the financial means to do it, but I have an elderly mother to take care of. So is a matter of seeing what's more important Independency or a parent's well being.
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God wrote: I don't know people but what do you think of a guy/gilr that is over 21/22 and still living with mom and dad.I know the comforts of home are are undeniably irresistible but at normally at this age we auto call Adults .
But at some point of our lifes we need our own space....privacy, intimacy and I find hard to belive you will get that living with mom and dad, plus I think leaving parents house will help to any guy to delevope independency.
According the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago you are a truly adult in society's eyes, when you achieve a milestone by the age listed below
Milestone Age
Financial independence 20.9 Living outside parents' home 21.2 Employed full-time 21.2 Completed education 22.3 Able to support a family 24.5 Marriage 25.7 Parenthood 26.2
What do you think about this ?
I agree, but we all have different circumstances...some parents need to be taken care off, and it's one reason why they're still at home....it all depends.
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The opinions expressed by this poster can be offensive and are mainly directed at Dogo. Delta gamma b i t c h-orama. Copyright 2008 All rights reserved.
I don't know people but what do you think of a guy/gilr that is over 21/22 and still living with mom and dad.I know the comforts of home are are undeniably irresistible but at normally at this age we auto call Adults .
But at some point of our lifes we need our own space....privacy, intimacy and I find hard to belive you will get that living with mom and dad, plus I think leaving parents house will help to any guy to delevope independency.
According the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago you are a truly adult in society's eyes, when you achieve a milestone by the age listed below
Milestone Age
Financial independence 20.9 Living outside parents' home 21.2 Employed full-time 21.2 Completed education 22.3 Able to support a family 24.5 Marriage 25.7 Parenthood 26.2
> Alaso i think you have to be mature enough to move out... because there is no point off moving oput and after 6 months u r back with ur parent u know.. so is a though desition..!!
