WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE THAT HAS A CHILD?

QUE chula LINDA · Guru

RE: RE: RE: WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE THAT HAS A CHILD?

Date: Mar 18 5:31 PM, 2005

quote:
Originally posted by: Jinx
"Ni loca!! Ya tuba la experiencia 2 veces con hombres que tenian chiquillos con sus exes so a piece of aqdvice when there are kids, their moms aren't far behind them trying to get their daddys back!"

I would just like to say that i am a 26 year old single mom with a 2 year old. I went through problems with my baby daddy and as much as i loved him then, i left him when my child was a few months old. (I've been doing great as a single mom) He now has somebody else and i definately moved on long time ago. The only problem is that he still wants me back even though he has someone new. I have told that girl many times to get him to leave me alone, but an idiot that she is, she chooses to believe that that isn't true. And i say idiot because she has been present on a few occasions where he has chosen me over her. So my situation is to show how not all baby mommas want their baby Daddy's back! And i know for a fact i'm not the only one! Unfortunately for him he now regrets all his mistakes and i definetly don't want him back. My problem is now how do i get him to forget me!?

Mikita · Senior Member

If i really loved someone who had a child then i would probably be with them anyways as long as they were over the baby's mama and there was no relationshp other then picking up and dropping off the child.. I think its a touchy subject because its hard to be sure that he would be over her because its hard to forget past relationships when your still keeping in touch for certain reasons... But if you love someone i think you can work around it...

Jinx · TOP Guru

Ni loca!! Ya tuba la experiencia 2 veces con hombres que tenian chiquillos con sus exes so a piece of aqdvice when there are kids, their moms aren't far behind them trying to get their daddys back!

TV Buff · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: don_plyero
"gracias mami your looking good like always too jajaja what can i say im a senior "

Living outside the Matrix has its advantages...

don_plyero · Guru

gracias mami your looking good like always too jajaja what can i say im a senior

DulceGalletita · Foro Master

Ummm, I think I would date a guy with a child but only one y tiene que ser aun chiquito o chiquita ... Es que si ya estan grandecitos pues es ma dura la relacion, especialmente si la nena o el nene tiene attitude ...

TV Buff · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: don_plyero
"thats good mami i support it to and ya its not the kids fault "

Wow, Don Playero, you had an extreme makeover... Looking good, boy.

don_plyero · Guru

thats good mami i support it to and ya its not the kids fault

zina · Regular Plus

Well, I'm not a guy but either way I like to comment on this particular topic: I'll tell you why, first of all: I have guy friends who are in relationships with single moms and I've been told that, if there is love anything is possible and that children shoulden't be an obstacle, after all it's not their fault.I believe that is true but then again it's just my opinion: However, I support single parents

don_plyero · Guru

to tell you the truth its really hard to be in that kind of a relationship

i was in one with this girl that moved up from buffalo she now lives here with her little girl whos now 8 months and shes was 18

i really couldnt handle the presure of being there for the kid i was mostly with her and ya i still love her but due to her problems were close friends

but like i said it depends on the person and the situation

Date: Mar 12 11:17 PM, 2005

quote:
Originally posted by: Anonymous
I ALWAYS GO OUT TO CLUBS DOWNTOWN AND THE FIRST THING A GIRL TENDS TO ASK IS WHAT DO YOU DO? DO YOU HAVE A CAR? I TELL THEM I GO TO UNIVERSITY AND I DRIVE MY BROTHERS CAR. SOME GIRLS STAY OTHER ONES GO...

If you said that to me I would go.

torontotrucho · Guru

Chilenita you have a heart of gold, and also are wise. I hope more woman were like you, what a nice woman you are.

What's your phone # again??, Just kidding ha!.

Date: Mar 11 12:51 PM, 2005

CHILENITA, TV BUFF THANKS FOR THE ADVICE...

LIKE I SAID, I HOPE TO FIND WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR UNTIL THEN I'LL KEEP ON LOOKING...

P.S. I REGISTERED LONG TIME AGO BUT I NEVER RECEIVED A CONFIRMATION. MAYBE I'LL REGISTERED AGAIN. IF I DO, LOOK FOR "ELAMIGO".

TV Buff · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: Anonymous
"CHILENITA... UNFORTUNATELY WE ARE SURROUNDED BY THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE THAT ARE MATERIALISTIC. AS YOU CAN SEE, I WAS REPLACED BY MONEY. NOW I HAVE A SUCCESSFUL LIFE. A GOOD JOB AND SMALL BUSINESSES. THE BAD PART IS THAT I GET A LOT OF WOMAN BECAUSE OF MY MONEY. I ALWAYS GO OUT TO CLUBS DOWNTOWN AND THE FIRST THING A GIRL TENDS TO ASK IS WHAT DO YOU DO? DO YOU HAVE A CAR? I TELL THEM I GO TO UNIVERSITY AND I DRIVE MY BROTHERS CAR. SOME GIRLS STAY OTHER ONES GO... I REALLY WANT TO FIND SOMEONE HONEST AND EDUCATED. I NEED A WOMAN THAT CAN STAND BY MY SIDE AND ALSO CALLS THE SHOTS IN MY BUSINESSES. I LIVE BY THIS QUOTE. "BEHIND A GREAT MAN; THERE'S A GREATER WOMAN" I TRULY BELIEVE IN THIS. I WANT A WOMAN THAT TAKES ACTION. A TRUE HONEST AND POWERFUL PERSON... "

I gotta tell you, that's a lot to ask for and a chance you're going to have to take. First of all you won't know right off the bat whether someone you meet will exceed your expectations: they can lie and deceive you; they can pretend or they can be honest. Also, it takes more than a couple of nights going to dance clubs to really get to know someone. You learn about a person as you deal with them on a daily basis. And you never know, people surprise you and people also change. The only thing you can do is be yourself and be honest and hopefully the people you meet will be the same. I also believe that behind a great man there's a great woman but sometimes people don't know the qualities they have themselves and there are people in your life that bring out the best in you, so the secret is support each other and have some good communication and you'll both help each other out. If you need a powerful and educated woman, maybe you can meet someone who has the POTENTIAL to be that one day. You weren't well off and that's why the other girl didn't want you, but then you BECAME what she wanted. She just failed to see the potential in you, and that's why now you have to give that chance to someone else.

Chilenita · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: Anonymous
"CHILENITA... UNFORTUNATELY WE ARE SURROUNDED BY THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE THAT ARE MATERIALISTIC. AS YOU CAN SEE, I WAS REPLACED BY MONEY. NOW I HAVE A SUCCESSFUL LIFE. A GOOD JOB AND SMALL BUSINESSES. THE BAD PART IS THAT I GET A LOT OF WOMAN BECAUSE OF MY MONEY. I ALWAYS GO OUT TO CLUBS DOWNTOWN AND THE FIRST THING A GIRL TENDS TO ASK IS WHAT DO YOU DO? DO YOU HAVE A CAR? I TELL THEM I GO TO UNIVERSITY AND I DRIVE MY BROTHERS CAR. SOME GIRLS STAY OTHER ONES GO... I REALLY WANT TO FIND SOMEONE HONEST AND EDUCATED. I NEED A WOMAN THAT CAN STAND BY MY SIDE AND ALSO CALLS THE SHOTS IN MY BUSINESSES. I LIVE BY THIS QUOTE. "BEHIND A GREAT MAN; THERE'S A GREATER WOMAN" I TRULY BELIEVE IN THIS. I WANT A WOMAN THAT TAKES ACTION. A TRUE HONEST AND POWERFUL PERSON... "

Okay and what did you say your number was again??? JUST KIDDING!

Just look at it this way the type of girl that walks away cause you are driving your bro's car or because you are in university getting an education are the types of girls you don't want anyway! Trust me always leave when the first thing out of a girls mouth is "so, what do you do for a living"....RUN AND RUN FAST!!!!! I have a few friends that are a little money hungry and so I know this from watching them in action first hand!

You should never really judge someone ESPECIALLY in Toronto by what they do for a living. I know a VERY educated men that have come to this country recently that work in construction or cleaning......you just never know.....

HEY I THINK YOU SHOULD REGISTERED I THINK YOU COULD ADD A LOT TO THIS FORO

Date: Mar 11 12:11 PM, 2005

CHILENITA... UNFORTUNATELY WE ARE SURROUNDED BY THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE THAT ARE MATERIALISTIC. AS YOU CAN SEE, I WAS REPLACED BY MONEY. NOW I HAVE A SUCCESSFUL LIFE. A GOOD JOB AND SMALL BUSINESSES. THE BAD PART IS THAT I GET A LOT OF WOMAN BECAUSE OF MY MONEY. I ALWAYS GO OUT TO CLUBS DOWNTOWN AND THE FIRST THING A GIRL TENDS TO ASK IS WHAT DO YOU DO? DO YOU HAVE A CAR? I TELL THEM I GO TO UNIVERSITY AND I DRIVE MY BROTHERS CAR. SOME GIRLS STAY OTHER ONES GO... I REALLY WANT TO FIND SOMEONE HONEST AND EDUCATED. I NEED A WOMAN THAT CAN STAND BY MY SIDE AND ALSO CALLS THE SHOTS IN MY BUSINESSES. I LIVE BY THIS QUOTE. "BEHIND A GREAT MAN; THERE'S A GREATER WOMAN" I TRULY BELIEVE IN THIS. I WANT A WOMAN THAT TAKES ACTION. A TRUE HONEST AND POWERFUL PERSON...

Chilenita · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: Anonymous
"NO I COULDN'T, I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WERE I REALLY LOVED THE GIRL. WE KIND OF BROKE UP FOR A BIT TO GIVE EACH OTHER TIME AND HER BEST FRIEND KEPT ON TELLING HER TO DATE A FRIEND OF MINE BECAUSE HE HAD MONEY(CONSTRUCTION WORKER) AND HE HAD A CAR. I REALLY DIDN'T MAKE THE MUCH MONEY. SO THE GIRL DECIDED TO DATE THE GUY(MY GOOD FRIEND). HE HELPED HER PAY FOR AN APARTMENT TO LIVE ON HER ON AND GAVE HER MONEY. WELL GUESS WHAT? SHE ENDED UP PREGNANT AND BY THEN I HAD FOUND A WONDERFUL WOMEN. SHE ASKED ME TO GET BACK WITH HER BECAUSE SHE REALLY DOESN'T LIKE HER MAN. SHE ALSO TOLD ME SHE WOULD HAVE AN ABORTION IF I GO BACK WITH HER. I TOLD HER IF SHE HAS AN ABORTION I WILL NEVER IN MY LIFE WILL TALK TO HER AND THAT SHE WIL REGRET THE ABORTION JUST LIKE SHE REGRETED NOT BEEN WITH ME. I TOLD HER TO GIVE THE KID AND THE FATHER AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE A FAMILY. I WAS CONFUSE BECAUSE I LIKE HER UNTIL NOW. I DON'T REALLY TALK TO HER ANYMORE BUT I DO SEE HER EVERY NOW AND THEN WITH HER LITTLE BOY AND MAN. I FEEL AWFUL. THE FUNNY PART IS THAT HER FRIEND THAT CONVINCED HER TO GO OUT WITH HIM TOLD ME SHE'S ALWAYS ASKING ABOUT ME. SHE WAS BLINDED BY THE MATERIALISTIC THINGS HE HAD. TOO BAD THAT NOW I HAVE A LOT MORE THAN SHE COULD EVER IMAGINE. I WOULDN'T GO BACK WITH HER BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO HURT HER KID. IF IT DOESN'T WORK, THEN THE KID IS KIND OF CONFUSE..."

Well, this proves yet again that money does not buy happiness. I never understood why women go for money in a guy? Women need to worry about being able to provide for themselves and well if they have a little one for them too. The worst thing you can do is look for a man to provide for you! OOOOh if I ever have a daughter that is the FIRST thing I would teach her!

Abortion...well I am pro choice and let's leave it at that!

Dating someone with Kids.....well I don't know to be honest with you I never really answered my own question. I think I would like my first child to be with someone who is also having their first but who knows NEVER SAY NEVER!

Date: Mar 11 11:34 AM, 2005

NO I COULDN'T, I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WERE I REALLY LOVED THE GIRL. WE KIND OF BROKE UP FOR A BIT TO GIVE EACH OTHER TIME AND HER BEST FRIEND KEPT ON TELLING HER TO DATE A FRIEND OF MINE BECAUSE HE HAD MONEY(CONSTRUCTION WORKER) AND HE HAD A CAR. I REALLY DIDN'T MAKE THE MUCH MONEY. SO THE GIRL DECIDED TO DATE THE GUY(MY GOOD FRIEND). HE HELPED HER PAY FOR AN APARTMENT TO LIVE ON HER ON AND GAVE HER MONEY. WELL GUESS WHAT? SHE ENDED UP PREGNANT AND BY THEN I HAD FOUND A WONDERFUL WOMEN. SHE ASKED ME TO GET BACK WITH HER BECAUSE SHE REALLY DOESN'T LIKE HER MAN. SHE ALSO TOLD ME SHE WOULD HAVE AN ABORTION IF I GO BACK WITH HER. I TOLD HER IF SHE HAS AN ABORTION I WILL NEVER IN MY LIFE WILL TALK TO HER AND THAT SHE WIL REGRET THE ABORTION JUST LIKE SHE REGRETED NOT BEEN WITH ME. I TOLD HER TO GIVE THE KID AND THE FATHER AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE A FAMILY. I WAS CONFUSE BECAUSE I LIKE HER UNTIL NOW. I DON'T REALLY TALK TO HER ANYMORE BUT I DO SEE HER EVERY NOW AND THEN WITH HER LITTLE BOY AND MAN. I FEEL AWFUL. THE FUNNY PART IS THAT HER FRIEND THAT CONVINCED HER TO GO OUT WITH HIM TOLD ME SHE'S ALWAYS ASKING ABOUT ME. SHE WAS BLINDED BY THE MATERIALISTIC THINGS HE HAD. TOO BAD THAT NOW I HAVE A LOT MORE THAN SHE COULD EVER IMAGINE. I WOULDN'T GO BACK WITH HER BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO HURT HER KID. IF IT DOESN'T WORK, THEN THE KID IS KIND OF CONFUSE...

Date: Mar 11 10:32 AM, 2005

Why you have to do the time If you didn't commite the crime ????

Chilenita · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: torontotrucho
" I think I would, it all depends on who that woman was, especially if I knew her before and I knew how She is like. THere are many interesting and beautiful women out there that have one kid (more than that would be tougher for me), and still are great candidates. Also, I'm older than 30 so that helps to be more understanding. I have not been in this situation but I guess it wouldn't be a problem."

Yep, as you get a little older (not that thirty is old) it becomes harder to find someone that has not already been through a marriage or had at least one child.....

torontotrucho · Guru

I think I would, it all depends on who that woman was, especially if I knew her before and I knew how She is like.

THere are many interesting and beautiful women out there that have one kid (more than that would be tougher for me), and still are great candidates. Also, I'm older than 30 so that helps to be more understanding.

I have not been in this situation but I guess it wouldn't be a problem.

Date: Mar 10 9:43 PM, 2005

quote:
Originally posted by: confundida
"IVE HAD ENUFF THE ONLY REASON ALL OF YOU ARE TALKING IS BECAUSE YOU ONLY SEE THE OTHER SIDE OF THE SPECTRUM ALL I HAVE TO SAY ITS MY CHOICE IF IM GOING TO BRING MY CHILD INTO THIS RELATION NOT YOURS...... NOW AS FOR UR DRAMA S#$%T ITS NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, NOT YOUR PROBLEM "

Girl, seriously you have been acting really strange lately!!! You are always ready to fight anyone's threads or opinions. TAKE A CHILL PILL OR GO SEE A PSYCHIATRIST!!!!!!! I don't know you but you sound like you need some serious help. Not all threads are about you....trust me. No one cares.

El Duro · Foro Master

I would date someone with a child, maybe because I'm a single father so it's harder for me to meet someone

Confesiones · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: JoannaMartinez
"Personally I admire any single parent for that matter, it takes a lot of strength and I find it wonderful when someone is able to manage taking care and raising a child on their own."

Thanks for sharing that but.... would you answer the queston?
i mean....
WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE THAT HAS A CHILD?

JoannaMartinez · Regular Plus

Personally I admire any single parent for that matter, it takes a lot of strength and I find it wonderful when someone is able to manage taking care and raising a child on their own.

Confesiones · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: confundida
"@CONFESIONES TY U PROVED MY POINT!!!!"

did i?? HOW?(DUGH!!)

LOL....
i wouldn't have a problem w/the child, reason why, cus i love kids no matter what, and i would make the efford and learn to love someone else's child. is not that hard... but dealing with the "babys' mama/papa" is just a matter of time. If its meant to be... the relationship will last.

confundida · Foro Master

@CONFESIONES

TY U PROVED MY POINT!!!!

Confesiones · TOP Guru

a friend dated a guy with a child.......it didn't matter to her. The baby's moma never bother them....(cus she already had a man...)

X4v13r · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: Chilenita
"TO EVERYONE!
Please don't take my thread the wrong way. Single mothers are to be admired!
I HAVE TROUBLE TAKING CARE OF MY DOG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Reason y I look up to my mother

all my cats either left of died

I'm not ready to have a kid

@confundida
u took my post the wrong way but I'm not going to say anything else, but if u like to know more u can ask me next time u see me.

X@vier

Chilenita · Comandante

TO EVERYONE!

Please don't take my thread the wrong way. Single mothers are to be admired!

I HAVE TROUBLE TAKING CARE OF MY DOG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GENIE · Foro Master

LOL NO I THINK SHE HAD TEA!! OK SO HERES MY RANT!!

I KNOW MANY MANY SINGLE MOTHERS AND I AM A CHILD RAISED BY A SINGLE MOTHER!! SO MY MOTHER ONLY BROUGHT MEN AROUND US WHEN SHE REALIZED THAT SHE WAS GOING TO END UP HAVING SOME SORT OF RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM!! AND EVEN SO IT WAS DIFFICULT FOR HER BUT THATS HER!! NOW SHES REMARRIED AND HES A GREAT GUY!

AS FOR CONFUNDIDA - OK I GET WHAT UR SAYING ABOUT IT BEING UR CHOICE NOBODY IS FIGHITING IT THATS WHY WERE ALL GIVING AND ASKING PPLS POINT OF VIEWS!! LOOK CHILL BREATH AND RELAX GIRL!! AND AS FOR UR POINT ON THE DRAMA S#IT UR ONE OF THE FEW THAT IS NOT LIKE THAT BUT KNOW HOW STUPID AND UGLY IT CAN GET U BEEN THERE SO DONT EVEN!!! AND WERE NOT SAYING ITS ALWAYS THE MAMA DRAMA TRUST ME AND WE BOTH KNOW THIS THE GUYS CAN BE JUST AS STUPID

DONT TAKE IT AS AN ATTACK AT U OR SINGLE MOMS ITS POINTS OF VIEW!!!

@ ANONYMOUS - DIVORCE IS SAD AND IF THERE ARE KIDS ITS WORSE BUT YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHO U CAN LOVE AND WILL LOVE U AND UR CHILDREN MY MOM FOUND ONE!!

@TV BUFF THAT IS SO TRUE IM IN THE MIDDLE OF A SEPERATION THANK GOD NO KIDS INVOLVED BUT U GROW WITH EXPEREIENCE

Chilenita · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: confundida
" FAMILY??? U BECOME A FAMILY AFTER U HAVE ESTABLISHED SOMETHING WITH THE OTHER PERSON........ UNFORTUANLY ITS NOT UR PROBLEM AND ILL TELL YOU WHY REGARDLESS IF YOU IN THE PIC OR NOT I AS THE PARENT HAVE THE FINAL DECISION REGARDING THAT CHILD......."

Confu,

I just want to make a point but it has NOTHING to do with you.....just so you know.

Okay my bro is a WONDERFUl man with a gourges daughter! He is a WONDERUL dad in fact one of the best I've seen and his daughter adores him. Now him and his ex have been seperated for years and he is NOW dating someone wonderful that loves his daughter VERY much. Now the problem is his ex is LOONEY....CRAZY.....she tries to put sh!t in her daughter head about my bro's girlfriend and that is WRONG! She loves my bro so much that she wanted to be with him even though he has a child but his EX is making the situation VERY HARD. She treats my niece like GOLD she takes her places and teaches her things and most of all really loves her.

SO what the hell is his ex's problem???????? SHE is NEVER going to be with him so she should have nothing to say about WHO his is with. Now, I understand that she should know who this girl is because it is her daughter and she should know who her daughther is around but she wont even meet her????? What sense does this all make......NONE!!! She is an idiot!!!

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: confundida
"IVE HAD ENUFF THE ONLY REASON ALL OF YOU ARE TALKING IS BECAUSE YOU ONLY SEE THE OTHER SIDE OF THE SPECTRUM ALL I HAVE TO SAY ITS MY CHOICE IF IM GOING TO BRING MY CHILD INTO THIS RELATION NOT YOURS...... NOW AS FOR UR DRAMA S#$%T ITS NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, NOT YOUR PROBLEM "

@ Confundida.........my comment about "baby mama drama" is based on my experince (little one). I did see once a guy with a kid & let me tell you that she would bug my a$$ every so often with either email, calls, letter to trying to explain.....really I don't know what??? How could I help her??? I wanted nothing to do with her. . Anyhow that's why my comment, really I'm sorry if my comment has ofended you in any way. I hope you know it was NEVER my intention.

My comme

confundida · Foro Master

quote:
Originally posted by: X4v13r
" sorry confundida but u r wrong once u become part of that family it also becomes ur problem and many people don't want to deal with that, main reason u have to know what u r getting into and be ready for it. X@vier "

FAMILY??? U BECOME A FAMILY AFTER U HAVE ESTABLISHED SOMETHING WITH THE OTHER PERSON........ UNFORTUANLY ITS NOT UR PROBLEM AND ILL TELL YOU WHY REGARDLESS IF YOU IN THE PIC OR NOT I AS THE PARENT HAVE THE FINAL DECISION REGARDING THAT CHILD.......

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: Chilenita
" OH MY GOD see this is good I think if women/men are selfish and they know it they should stay away from getting involved in a childs life!!! My bro has a child and the last girl he went out with DID NOT think about it before getting involved with him and she was WAY too selfish at this point in her life to take on a man with a child and in the end it caused more problems than anything else. If your not ready to have a child you should not start a relathionship with someone that has one."

I agree with ur points.

That's why I said what I did. Not because I think that single parents don't have any right to re-marry, find a partner & be happy, if anything I'm 110% with them & encourage them to find a new partner.

It's not nice to get older & be alone, not that I know for experince, but I can Only imagine.

I've seen many relantionships were the kids from past relationships get put aside, very little attention to them. I just think it's mean & cruel to do that to any kid that has NO fault.

I know that where I stand right now & the way my life is in general now, I'm aware I'm NOT ready to be anyone's mom or stepmom. I'm sure my time will come & I'll be happy to be a mom, for now I'm HAPPY being just an aunt/godmother for my niece, which I LOVE so Much & I'll do Anything for her.

Chilenita · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: confundida
" BEFORE I GET WORKED UP ARE U TRYING TO SAY THAT WE ALL DO THAT????"

What on earth are you talking about???????????

DO I KNOW YOU?????? NO I DO NOT!!!!!!!!!! How on earth could I say anything that has ANYTHING to do with you?????????????

A GIRL I KNOW = someone I know..........get it????

First of all I know more than one single mother and most of them are WONDERFUL mothers I am talking about a specific girl.

Did you have your morning coffee????

X4v13r · Comandante

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Chilenita · Comandante

RE: RE: RE: WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE THAT HAS A CHILD?

confundida · Foro Master

quote:
Originally posted by: Chilenita
"Can I just rant about one more thing??? I know this girl that has a kid and introduces every TOM, DICK and hairy to her??? What the hell is that all about???? Guys she just meets and already they meet her child. THAT is messed up! It's like she does not think about her child FIRST! She even gets the MOST ridiculous baby sitters in the UNIVERSE to watch her girl so she can go out and party like a maniac!!!!!!!!! WHY HAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGHHHHHHHh that kind of sh!t drives me mental!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1"

BEFORE I GET WORKED UP ARE U TRYING TO SAY THAT WE ALL DO THAT????

X4v13r · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: confundida
"IVE HAD ENUFF

THE ONLY REASON ALL OF YOU ARE TALKING IS BECAUSE YOU ONLY SEE THE OTHER SIDE OF THE SPECTRUM

ALL I HAVE TO SAY ITS MY CHOICE IF IM GOING TO BRING MY CHILD INTO THIS RELATION NOT YOURS......

NOW AS FOR UR DRAMA S#$%T ITS NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, NOT YOUR PROBLEM

"

sorry confundida but u r wrong once u become part of that family it also becomes ur problem and many people don't want to deal with that, main reason u have to know what u r getting into and be ready for it.

X@vier

Chilenita · Comandante

quote:
Originally posted by: confundida
"IVE HAD ENUFF THE ONLY REASON ALL OF YOU ARE TALKING IS BECAUSE YOU ONLY SEE THE OTHER SIDE OF THE SPECTRUM ALL I HAVE TO SAY ITS MY CHOICE IF IM GOING TO BRING MY CHILD INTO THIS RELATION NOT YOURS...... NOW AS FOR UR DRAMA S#$%T ITS NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, NOT YOUR PROBLEM "

Confudida what are you talking about???I dont get your post?????? Please explain

Chilenita · Comandante

Can I just rant about one more thing???

I know this girl that has a kid and introduces every TOM, DICK and hairy to her??? What the hell is that all about???? Guys she just meets and already they meet her child. THAT is messed up! It's like she does not think about her child FIRST! She even gets the MOST ridiculous baby sitters in the UNIVERSE to watch her girl so she can go out and party like a maniac!!!!!!!!!

WHY HAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

UGHHHHHHHh that kind of sh!t drives me mental!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

confundida · Foro Master

IVE HAD ENUFF

THE ONLY REASON ALL OF YOU ARE TALKING IS BECAUSE YOU ONLY SEE THE OTHER SIDE OF THE SPECTRUM

ALL I HAVE TO SAY ITS MY CHOICE IF IM GOING TO BRING MY CHILD INTO THIS RELATION NOT YOURS......

NOW AS FOR UR DRAMA S#$%T ITS NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, NOT YOUR PROBLEM

TV Buff · TOP Guru

quote:
Originally posted by: Anonymous
"Yes I would date a single parent . I am in a stage of my life where I never thought I would find my self with two kids and after 12 yrs of marriage dirvoce . I think I have the right to find happiness . There are a lot of pepople who think they would not get involved however you might find yourself in this position later on life and you are going to wish pepople did not think like that. "

I heard a comedian say once that you should marry as soon as you can, fresh out of high school, if possible, so that you can get that bad marriage out of the way and then find that second person that you'll be with the rest of your life. I know this is taking it to the extreme but a lot of people don't find what they're looking for the first time around, and more often than not, there will be kids involved. So, yeah, you do have a right to find happiness, but there's a whole new ball game to find someone when you're bringing kids into the equation.

Personally, I don't think dating someone with kids should be a problem, IF and only IF you know that you're ready for that kind of commitment. In this case you're not just falling in love with the person, but you have to fall in love with the kids as well, or at least know that you'll need to learn to love them. That's a HUGE commitment. But that's something great that you'd be doing for those kids if you're able to give them the love they will need and the comfort and security of a loving home and a family.

X4v13r · Comandante

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Chilenita · Comandante

RE: RE: WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE THAT HAS A CHILD?

GENIE · Foro Master

I WOULD!! U KNOW WHY CUZ THE KID IS NOT AT FAULT FOR THE WAY THERE PARENTS ACT RIGHT AND THE WAY I SEE IT AT ONE POINT IN THERE LIVES THEY LOVED EACHOTHER ENOUGH TO MAKE A CHILD THEY SHOULD BE MATURE ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND THAT LIFE GOES ON AND MOVE ON.

NOW I WOULD NOT LIKE TO MEET THE CHILD UNTILL ME AND THE PERSON ARE IN A STABLE RELATIONSHIP FOR THE SIMPLE FACT THAT THE CHILD SHOULD NOT BE INTRODUCED TO ALL THESE STRANGERS!! RIGHT!!

confundida · Foro Master

I WOULD LOVE TO COMMENT ON THIS BUT ILL PASS.......

I HAVE A FEELING THIS THREAD MAY GET OUT OF HAND.......

Date: Mar 10 11:39 AM, 2005

Yes I would date a single parent .

I am in a stage of my life where I never thought I would find my self with two kids and after 12 yrs of marriage dirvoce . I think I have the right to find happiness . There are a lot of pepople who think they would not get involved however you might find yourself in this position later on life and you are going to wish pepople did not think like that.