i would know, cuz i would be the one doing the ending
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So, Foro, How do you know your relationship is over? Say you have been with someone for six plus years and everything feels like a routine...so how do you know that it's over?...Do you stick around or move on to the next best thing?
If it feels like a routine, and a boring routine at that, its best to let it go. You dont want to be stuck with the same 'routine' for the next six years plus do you?
HOWEVER, if the routine is good, and you find that you still love him and he still loves you, and you dont mind being in the same routine for the next six plus years, then go with it.
But I think it's impossible to generalize and pin point the exact moment....but I think deep, deep down inside people know either way. Now...what they choose to do with that is completely up to the individuals. Some might try to tough it out and see if things change, get better, etc......Some might just give it up right away if they see it as a waste of time. Who's to say which is the right course of action. It ultimately depends on whether you're happy or not.
When a woman tell ya is over..She was thinking about it long but long time ago before to pull the plug and most of the time the other part doesn't realize that.
Marriage should be like a Mortgage 5-10-25 contracts..at the end you are eligible to continiue or simply change "banks"
To Top Guru. You say: "And BTW, who are all these very insightful new foro members... introduce yourselves, people!!!" I am asking: "How do you introduce yorself in this forum? Do you want to see my C.V.?"
Don't you know that every seven years there is a change in a relationship or in a person? If you become aware of that, that's great. It means that now you can be creative and improve it by introducing new "things." You see, if you change a parnter, your relationship again will feel like a routine after a while. Start with yourself by asking what you want to change and talk honestly to your 'media naranja.' In most cases, it is all abour sex. If you don't see eye to eye and you are not willing to compromise, then maybe it is time to move on. Buena suerte!
This it's a very insightful comment. I heard somewhere, in reference to marriage, that you marry the same person something like 6 or seven times, depending on how long the relationship lasts. As for routine, routine can be good, if you get to a point where you're comfortable with it. The passion of the first years is more likely to subside with time and that gives way to something more subtle... for some people this is comfortable, and for others, who want to keep the initial excitement, it's not. It all depends, I guess, on whether you're both on the same page when it comes to the relationship.
And BTW, who are all these very insightful new foro members... introduce yourselves, people!!!
So, Foro, How do you know your relationship is over? Say you have been with someone for six plus years and everything feels like a routine...so how do you know that it's over?...Do you stick around or move on to the next best thing?
Routine often becomes part of relationships as time goes on - it doesn't necesarily mean it's over or that you have to move on. Maybe you two just need to try new things to spicy things up and get out of the routine.
Before jumping ship, maybe you should evaluate all the good and bad within the relationship and take it from there... Chances are a new relationship will be thrilling and exciting at the begining, but it may once again become routine down the road.
Cheers!
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Not everything I post or say on foro are necesarily true facts. <- THAT is a fact! :blankstare:
You would have to take other things into account. Ask yourself if this person treats you the way you want to be treated. Do you enjoy yourself when you are with them? Or perhaps you have stayed with them so long as you are simply familiar with them. Sometimes the idea of trying to move on is daunting as you worry that you may not be able to find someone that is as good as them. To this I say don't worry, as there are many fish in the sea! Can you picture yourself with them for the rest of your life? If so- why aren't you already married? Seven years seems like a long time... If you can't picture yourself or just as importantly, your partner with someone else, then chances are you are meant to be together. Perhaps you should make a list of all the 'pluses' and 'minuses'. Maybe the relationship needs to evolve to another level at this point...say children...that would sure liven things up...! Hope this helps.
Don't you know that every seven years there is a change in a relationship or in a person? If you become aware of that, that's great. It means that now you can be creative and improve it by introducing new "things." You see, if you change a parnter, your relationship again will feel like a routine after a while. Start with yourself by asking what you want to change and talk honestly to your 'media naranja.' In most cases, it is all abour sex. If you don't see eye to eye and you are not willing to compromise, then maybe it is time to move on. Buena suerte!
So, Foro, How do you know your relationship is over? Say you have been with someone for six plus years and everything feels like a routine...so how do you know that it's over?...Do you stick around or move on to the next best thing?
There are more important reasons than boredom and routine when considering the end of a relationship. I would venture to say that marriage is more routine than not so think of your situation as a sneak preview.
Let me ask you this - what is it you find routine and what things would you like changed? I can then make some suggestions for you.
So, Foro, How do you know your relationship is over? Say you have been with someone for six plus years and everything feels like a routine...so how do you know that it's over?...Do you stick around or move on to the next best thing?
Do you want to see my C.V.?
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it's a very insightful comment. I heard somewhere, in reference to marriage, that you marry the same person something like 6 or seven times, depending on how long the relationship lasts. As for routine, routine can be good, if you get to a point where you're comfortable with it. The passion of the first years is more likely to subside with time and that gives way to something more subtle... for some people this is comfortable, and for others, who want to keep the initial excitement, it's not. It all depends, I guess, on whether you're both on the same page when it comes to the relationship.
