As much as I think I would like to, and try to, give my daughter (if I had one) the same treatment as my son, I wouldn't be able to help but to uncomfortable with my daughter having a, say... a sleepover at some "friends". More so than my son Anyway, it's just my theory... BTW, why do YOU think we, in general, are more protective of our daughters, than we are of our sons?
-- Edited by Dogo at 13:07, 2008-02-13
I'm more or less with you - no sleep over for little princess, unless it's grandparents. I generally don't like the idea of my kids sleeping over at friends' houses... whether boy or girl, it doesn't matter. I think it mostly has to do with so many stories of child molestation - both boys and girls can fall victims to pedophilic predators. But also - there is really NO NEED really for kids to sleep over - heck, play all you want all day, afternoon and evening... but when it comes to bed time, I can easily pick you up, kiddo!
I think generally we are more protective of our daughters because we/society generally see 'em as more "fragile", more emotional, and more bound to get their feelings hurt. We perceive them as being physically more delicate and weaker - generally not as capable to defend themselves as boys. Other reasons may be, like you mention, the face that it is girls who are the ones to get pregnant and can get "stuck" (for luck of a better word) with raising a kid, with little or no support from baby's father.
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Was there a double standard in your household? - NOPE, I'm the only child
Is it ok to continue the trend just because that is the way WE were raised? - yes, some but not all, times have change
Should kids of different gender and similar ages be given the same/similar freedoms at a similar age? - nope, I know I'm very over protective and if i had a girl i don't think i could leave her alone for a sec, it would be hard but if it was a boy it would be easier for me but still not that easy
Do you think you can/can't or should/shouldn't treat your boys/girls in the same way - giving them the same liberties? - to me girls need more attention/care young or old, i would try to give them the same liberties but i know it would never be equal
I don't disagree with any of what you guys say (Chale & L'G) And I get everything you're saying. The priciple, the consquences (legal and otherwise) how one SHOULD raise their kid, etc... I'm just trying to point out WHY I think we are (or would be) naturally more protective of our daughters than we are of our sons. As much as I think I would like to, and try to, give my daughter (if I had one) the same treatment as my son, I wouldn't be able to help but to uncomfortable with my daughter having a, say... a sleepover at some "friends". More so than my son Anyway, it's just my theory... BTW, why do YOU think we, in general, are more protective of our daughters, than we are of our sons?
-- Edited by Dogo at 13:07, 2008-02-13
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Boys may not be able to get pregnant; but if/when the girl decides to have and keep the baby - the boy is equally responsible for the upbringing/raising of that child. Although, the guy can try and turn its back on the girl and kid, the guy can get taken to court for child support.
We should be raising both - our daughters and sons, to be sexually responsible. If they are gonna do it, protect themselves. Heck, pregnancy is not even as scarry as HIV / AIDS.
All in all, whether we have boys or girls, I think our goal must be to raise them to be smart enough to make intelligent decisions in their lives.
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I agree that it is easier for a male to walk away from such a situation. But this is exactly the reason why latinos really should make it a priority to teach their sons the consequences of sex, especially when one is not mature enough, or even financially stable enough to deal with the consequences.
I think as far as simple everyday things, schooling etc... I'd think I would be able to treat them pretty equal As for dating and things along those lines.. I think it's normal, almost intuitive, to be a bit more protective of a daughter over a son. For one simple reason: Boys -as much as Baina keeps trying- don't get pregnant
LMAO!! Nice!
Getting pregnant is not the worst thing that can happen. True guys dont get pregnant, but they can get a girl pregnant. And hopefully, youre the type of parent to teach your sons that that child is as much their responsibility as the girl thats carrying the baby.
A parent should raise both their sons and daughters to respect sex and know thats only okay when you are aware of the consequences that come attached to it.
Ahhhh... in a perfect world Chalita Tanguita
I agree, getting pregnant is not the worst that can happen, but I do think that that is why parents are intuitively a bit more protective of their daughters than their sons. ('cause I sure would be EQUALY fearful, for example, of my daughter being a drug addict than my son) it's also true that one should bring up both their sons and daughters to be aware of the consequences of sex (among a million other things) but from a parents perspective you only know how you have raised your OWN daughter, but no clue about whomever has impregnated her. And i think we would agree that it is MUCH easier for the 'boy' to walk away from a situation like that, than it is for a 'girl'
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I think as far as simple everyday things, schooling etc... I'd think I would be able to treat them pretty equal As for dating and things along those lines.. I think it's normal, almost intuitive, to be a bit more protective of a daughter over a son. For one simple reason: Boys -as much as Baina keeps trying- don't get pregnant
LMAO!! Nice!
Getting pregnant is not the worst thing that can happen. True guys dont get pregnant, but they can get a girl pregnant. And hopefully, youre the type of parent to teach your sons that that child is as much their responsibility as the girl thats carrying the baby.
A parent should raise both their sons and daughters to respect sex and know thats only okay when you are aware of the consequences that come attached to it.
This came to mind from another thread/duscusion with Duro. I know that coming from a latin community, many of us were raised with a double standard. Generally speaking, boys were/are given more freedoms than girls around the same age - even within the same household/family.
Was there a double standard in your household? I grew up in a very unorthodox environment, one because I'm the youngest of 7 and two because by the time I was born, my dad had left. There was a bit of a double standard with my brothers, like my mom would serve them their meals and they would never do chores, but other than that, we were all the same. I guess she was just tired. As for my own kids, I couldn't tell, 'cause I don't have daughters. But hubby and I are a bit on the overprotective side as it is, whatever the gender. So who knows? Is it ok to continue the trend just because that is the way WE were raised? Some things we've kept from our own upbringing only because that's what we knew. Nobody gets trained to be a parent. But some things are different, because this is a different country and these are different times. Should kids of different gender and similar ages be given the same/similar freedoms at a similar age? Ches. Do you think you can/can't or should/shouldn't treat your boys/girls in the same way - giving them the same liberties? I wouldn't know. I think I would, if that was my case, but I can't know for sure.
Was there a double standard in your household? YES - BIG TIME!!
Is it ok to continue the trend just because that is the way WE were raised? YES - to a certain extend & within reasons.
Should kids of different gender and similar ages be given the same/similar freedoms at a similar age? NO - GIRLS are GIRLS & therefore need more care & certain limitations. ( SIN exageration of course)
Do you think you can/can't or should/shouldn't treat your boys/girls in the same way - giving them the same liberties? ABSOLUTLY NOT, Both will be take care of with the same luv, attention, etc, but the girls will ALWAYS be a bit more caution as they get older.
I think as far as simple everyday things, schooling etc... I'd think I would be able to treat them pretty equal As for dating and things along those lines.. I think it's normal, almost intuitive, to be a bit more protective of a daughter over a son. For one simple reason: Boys -as much as Baina keeps trying- don't get pregnant
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I hate to say it, and although im one for equal rights, it's sad to say, but for some things there will always be double standards.
I have two girls and although i dont think i will be as strict on them as my mom was on me, i think the one part i would probably be different on would be in terms of curfews and stuff.
Things like, for example, my son bringing his girlfriend to sleep over but my daughters cant, i would have a general rule, NO ONE BRINGS THEIR SIGNIFICANT OTHER TO STAY OVER, PERIOD. Respeten la casa.
They can come over and chill, but that's about it.
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This came to mind from another thread/duscusion with Duro. I know that coming from a latin community, many of us were raised with a double standard. Generally speaking, boys were/are given more freedoms than girls around the same age - even within the same household/family.
Was there a double standard in your household?NO Is it ok to continue the trend just because that is the way WE were raised? NO Should kids of different gender and similar ages be given the same/similar freedoms at a similar age?YES Do you think you can/can't or should/shouldn't treat your boys/girls in the same way - giving them the same liberties? of course you should treat them the same
Discuss.
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This came to mind from another thread/duscusion with Duro. I know that coming from a latin community, many of us were raised with a double standard. Generally speaking, boys were/are given more freedoms than girls around the same age - even within the same household/family.
Was there a double standard in your household? not that much Is it ok to continue the trend just because that is the way WE were raised? hey why break tradtion Should kids of different gender and similar ages be given the same/similar freedoms at a similar age? no Do you think you can/can't or should/shouldn't treat your boys/girls in the same way - giving them the same liberties?
This came to mind from another thread/duscusion with Duro. I know that coming from a latin community, many of us were raised with a double standard. Generally speaking, boys were/are given more freedoms than girls around the same age - even within the same household/family.
Was there a double standard in your household? Is it ok to continue the trend just because that is the way WE were raised? Should kids of different gender and similar ages be given the same/similar freedoms at a similar age? Do you think you can/can't or should/shouldn't treat your boys/girls in the same way - giving them the same liberties?
Discuss.
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