I need your advise!!!

LGigolo · Comandante

RE: I need your advise!!!

Chilenita · Comandante

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

Dogo wrote:

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

SERIOUSLY it's beyond me how people hit their own child or any child for that matter. It's nothing but lack of self control and it's disgusting no matter how old your child is. What a smart message to send to a child...do something wrong and I'll hit you. How very stupid.

haha
can't wait to see ur kid when she gets older.......only time will tell

~X
Humm I wonder why leading child experts will tell you to NEVER EVER beat your child? It must be that University degree and a million studies on children don't ya think?

Don't worry about my child. She will be fine. Worry about the child who's parents can't think of effective methods of teaching and resort to violence.

have u seen where all that has taken us, pleaseeeeee.... look at how kids are now.....keep thinking that way.

This are the same people that thought that free sex and drugs would be the better way.....haha
"peace man, make love not war" LOL!!! and its also the same reason our laws are so **** and they can't touch kids that are out there killing others.
Just look at the Rusell Peters video, yes it might be a comedy but how far is it from the truth? not much its funny because is so true.

there is a fine line to discipline ur child and child violence....a kid needs his spanking now and than....and no i don't worry about ur child because it wont be my problem but urs.

~X

Okay first of all I am talking about child psychologists not HIPPIES so I have NO CLUE what you are talking about.Love not war? WTF does that have to do with child psychologists?

Now please don't take this the wrong way I do like you as a person but don't assume my child is going to be a problem to anyone including me. That is stupid and that suggestion doesn't sit well with me at all. I will not practice any form of hitting my child because unlike folks from latin america back in the day I KNOW BETTER.

Now do you really think these kids that are on the street shooting eachother didn't get beat as a child? I grew up in Scarborough and many of the guys I knew growing up got some serious beats at home and that didn't stop them from selling drugs or landing in jail.

my comment about "make love not war" was just to pin point the time that they grew up in, all this child psychologists u speak of are people that where influence by this times......like I said before there is a fine line of using spanking as a tool to discipline and not as a tool for violance towards ur kid.

let me put it this way for u, there is a fine line of using verbal communication as a tool to discipline and not as a tool for verbal abuse towards ur kid, and remember verbal abuse can be a lot worst than physical, yes u might feel pain for a day or 2 but verbal abuse will always be with u.

and thats when u need all this child psychologists to help them

~X

Okay I love a healthy debate.

Answer this next question HONESTLY!!!! I know you are a bit of a video game buff right? Let's say you are a child and you did something wrong...what would bother you more a) getting a quick beating b) not being able to so much as look at a video game for weeks .......answer honestly!

When I was a kid I loved nothing more than to be outside playing with my friends. I would have prefered getting a quick beating for something I did wrong than what my parents use to do. It was NO going outside to play for two weeks and no TV or atari (yes I am old) for the same amount of time. I would beg and cry and plead and they would NEVER EVER back down from a punishment. TRUST me I would learn the lesson and when I was finally "free" again I made sure to NEVER do it again.

Sure when I got into my teenage years there were times when I did stuff I shouldn't have like 99.9 % of teens but I never ever disrespected my parents in any way and I never got into any serious trouble at school or otherwise. They showed me nothing but respect over the years and I respected them back. To this day I have NEVER heard my dad even raise his voice.

When you yell and hit what are you teaching your child?

X4v13r · Comandante

Chilenita wrote:

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

Dogo wrote:

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

SERIOUSLY it's beyond me how people hit their own child or any child for that matter. It's nothing but lack of self control and it's disgusting no matter how old your child is. What a smart message to send to a child...do something wrong and I'll hit you. How very stupid.

haha
can't wait to see ur kid when she gets older.......only time will tell

~X
Humm I wonder why leading child experts will tell you to NEVER EVER beat your child? It must be that University degree and a million studies on children don't ya think?

Don't worry about my child. She will be fine. Worry about the child who's parents can't think of effective methods of teaching and resort to violence.

have u seen where all that has taken us, pleaseeeeee.... look at how kids are now.....keep thinking that way.

This are the same people that thought that free sex and drugs would be the better way.....haha
"peace man, make love not war" LOL!!! and its also the same reason our laws are so **** and they can't touch kids that are out there killing others.
Just look at the Rusell Peters video, yes it might be a comedy but how far is it from the truth? not much its funny because is so true.

there is a fine line to discipline ur child and child violence....a kid needs his spanking now and than....and no i don't worry about ur child because it wont be my problem but urs.

~X

Okay first of all I am talking about child psychologists not HIPPIES so I have NO CLUE what you are talking about.Love not war? WTF does that have to do with child psychologists?

Now please don't take this the wrong way I do like you as a person but don't assume my child is going to be a problem to anyone including me. That is stupid and that suggestion doesn't sit well with me at all. I will not practice any form of hitting my child because unlike folks from latin america back in the day I KNOW BETTER.

Now do you really think these kids that are on the street shooting eachother didn't get beat as a child? I grew up in Scarborough and many of the guys I knew growing up got some serious beats at home and that didn't stop them from selling drugs or landing in jail.

my comment about "make love not war" was just to pin point the time that they grew up in, all this child psychologists u speak of are people that where influence by this times......like I said before there is a fine line of using spanking as a tool to discipline and not as a tool for violance towards ur kid.

let me put it this way for u, there is a fine line of using verbal communication as a tool to discipline and not as a tool for verbal abuse towards ur kid, and remember verbal abuse can be a lot worst than physical, yes u might feel pain for a day or 2 but verbal abuse will always be with u.

and thats when u need all this child psychologists to help them

~X

Chilenita · Comandante

LGigolo wrote:

Chilenita wrote:
Now do you really think these kids that are on the street shooting eachother didn't get beat as a child? I grew up in Scarborough and many of the guys I knew growing up got some serious beats at home and that didn't stop them from selling drugs or landing in jail.

That only means they were not beaten up hard enough.

( ok.... I AM YOKING )

I know it's a serious subject. I don't opose to small/mild spankings, slap in the rear, maybe even the belt when older... but nothing extreme to physically harm the child. I do see the anti-spanking points as well, but I was raised old school and don't think that THAT did any mental/physical harm to me, personally or to many people I know who were raised in a similar way.

There is the key line lgig...you were raised OLD SCHOOL. People didn't know any better. People honestly thought it was an effective way to parent. Okay just like up until two years ago everyone use to lay their children to sleep on their tummy's ......new research shows that newborns should NEVER be laid on their tummys because of the risk of SIDS. As time goes on experts do research on all these type of things so people can learn how to care for their children in the best possible way. Why do things OLD SCHOOL??????

LGigolo · Comandante

Chilenita wrote:
Now do you really think these kids that are on the street shooting eachother didn't get beat as a child? I grew up in Scarborough and many of the guys I knew growing up got some serious beats at home and that didn't stop them from selling drugs or landing in jail.

That only means they were not beaten up hard enough.

( ok.... I AM YOKING biggrin

)

I know it's a serious subject. I don't opose to small/mild spankings, slap in the rear, maybe even the belt when older... but nothing extreme to physically harm the child. I do see the anti-spanking points as well, but I was raised old school and don't think that THAT did any mental/physical harm to me, personally or to many people I know who were raised in a similar way.

Chilenita · Comandante

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

Dogo wrote:

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

SERIOUSLY it's beyond me how people hit their own child or any child for that matter. It's nothing but lack of self control and it's disgusting no matter how old your child is. What a smart message to send to a child...do something wrong and I'll hit you. How very stupid.

haha
can't wait to see ur kid when she gets older.......only time will tell

~X
Humm I wonder why leading child experts will tell you to NEVER EVER beat your child? It must be that University degree and a million studies on children don't ya think?

Don't worry about my child. She will be fine. Worry about the child who's parents can't think of effective methods of teaching and resort to violence.

have u seen where all that has taken us, pleaseeeeee.... look at how kids are now.....keep thinking that way.

This are the same people that thought that free sex and drugs would be the better way.....haha
"peace man, make love not war" LOL!!! and its also the same reason our laws are so **** and they can't touch kids that are out there killing others.
Just look at the Rusell Peters video, yes it might be a comedy but how far is it from the truth? not much its funny because is so true.

there is a fine line to discipline ur child and child violence....a kid needs his spanking now and than....and no i don't worry about ur child because it wont be my problem but urs.

~X

Okay first of all I am talking about child psychologists not HIPPIES so I have NO CLUE what you are talking about. weirdface

Love not war? WTF does that have to do with child psychologists?

Now please don't take this the wrong way I do like you as a person but don't assume my child is going to be a problem to anyone including me. That is stupid and that suggestion doesn't sit well with me at all. I will not practice any form of hitting my child because unlike folks from latin america back in the day I KNOW BETTER.

Now do you really think these kids that are on the street shooting eachother didn't get beat as a child? I grew up in Scarborough and many of the guys I knew growing up got some serious beats at home and that didn't stop them from selling drugs or landing in jail.

X4v13r · Comandante

Chilenita wrote:

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

Dogo wrote:

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

SERIOUSLY it's beyond me how people hit their own child or any child for that matter. It's nothing but lack of self control and it's disgusting no matter how old your child is. What a smart message to send to a child...do something wrong and I'll hit you. How very stupid.

haha
can't wait to see ur kid when she gets older.......only time will tell

~X
Humm I wonder why leading child experts will tell you to NEVER EVER beat your child? It must be that University degree and a million studies on children don't ya think?

Don't worry about my child. She will be fine. Worry about the child who's parents can't think of effective methods of teaching and resort to violence.

have u seen where all that has taken us, pleaseeeeee.... look at how kids are now.....keep thinking that way.

This are the same people that thought that free sex and drugs would be the better way.....haha
"peace man, make love not war" LOL!!! and its also the same reason our laws are so **** and they can't touch kids that are out there killing others.
Just look at the Rusell Peters video, yes it might be a comedy but how far is it from the truth? not much its funny because is so true.

there is a fine line to discipline ur child and child violence....a kid needs his spanking now and than....and no i don't worry about ur child because it wont be my problem but urs.

~X

Chilenita · Comandante

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

Dogo wrote:

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

SERIOUSLY it's beyond me how people hit their own child or any child for that matter. It's nothing but lack of self control and it's disgusting no matter how old your child is. What a smart message to send to a child...do something wrong and I'll hit you. How very stupid.

haha
can't wait to see ur kid when she gets older.......only time will tell

~X

Humm I wonder why leading child experts will tell you to NEVER EVER beat your child? It must be that University degree and a million studies on children don't ya think?

Don't worry about my child. She will be fine. Worry about the child who's parents can't think of effective methods of teaching and resort to violence. wink

X4v13r · Comandante

Chilenita wrote:

Dogo wrote:

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

SERIOUSLY it's beyond me how people hit their own child or any child for that matter. It's nothing but lack of self control and it's disgusting no matter how old your child is. What a smart message to send to a child...do something wrong and I'll hit you. How very stupid.

haha
can't wait to see ur kid when she gets older.......only time will tell

~X

Chilenita · Comandante

Dogo wrote:

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

SERIOUSLY it's beyond me how people hit their own child or any child for that matter. It's nothing but lack of self control and it's disgusting no matter how old your child is. What a smart message to send to a child...do something wrong and I'll hit you. How very stupid. bleh

El Duro · Foro Master

you know what hon send her to any south or central america country and tell your moms to go with her, and then beat the hell out off her cause that is the way they will learn

Dogo · Comandante

How the hell do you guys plan to beat a 15 year old???
She'd kick all your asses!!!

LGigolo · Comandante

Chilenita wrote:
hitting ain't cool. Love your children. Cherish your children. TEACH your children.

Give you children joints so they will become to lazy to go out and whore around.

Don't you realize that then they will have the mounchies and it will cost you a fortune in food? Como consequencia van a crecer muy gorditos! blankstare

Chilenita · Comandante

X4v13r wrote:

Chilenita wrote:

Quixote wrote:

Your sister is at the age where self discipline is very important.

I think your mom (and/or you) have to start at the beginning. You'll need to sit your sister down and do the following

a) lay out the rules and explain why the rules are necessary and need to be adhered to. I cannot stress how important it is to explain the rules. With toddlers, parents can get away with just saying 'don't do this' but pre teens and teenagers have a hard time with this because of their rebelious nature. I believe that with more information, the rules will be taken more seriously.

b) describe the punishments for breaking the rules. It takes creativity to punish kids these days but the punishment should fit the 'crime' and be tailored to your sister (ie. take her cell phone if she relies on it constantly).

c) ask for feedback and allow your sister to ask questions and/or make suggestions.

d) enforce the rules! Your sister needs to know she is being watched and is expected to follow the rules. Follow through with your rules and punishments

e) reward for good behaviour. Even a small compliment will go a long way. A 'thank you for coming home early' or 'I'm proud that you decided to do that' will be a relief from the nagging and disappointments.

f) change the rules as necessary. As kids grow older they will need more freedom and different penalties.

-- Edited by Quixote at 15:26, 2007-11-05
Finally someone who makes sense

I can't even believe that in this day and age people think beating is an answer

go on your way, hippy!

~X

hitting ain't cool. Love your children. Cherish your children. TEACH your children.

Give you children joints so they will become to lazy to go out and whore around. biggrin

X4v13r · Comandante

Chilenita wrote:

Quixote wrote:

Your sister is at the age where self discipline is very important.

I think your mom (and/or you) have to start at the beginning. You'll need to sit your sister down and do the following

a) lay out the rules and explain why the rules are necessary and need to be adhered to. I cannot stress how important it is to explain the rules. With toddlers, parents can get away with just saying 'don't do this' but pre teens and teenagers have a hard time with this because of their rebelious nature. I believe that with more information, the rules will be taken more seriously.

b) describe the punishments for breaking the rules. It takes creativity to punish kids these days but the punishment should fit the 'crime' and be tailored to your sister (ie. take her cell phone if she relies on it constantly).

c) ask for feedback and allow your sister to ask questions and/or make suggestions.

d) enforce the rules! Your sister needs to know she is being watched and is expected to follow the rules. Follow through with your rules and punishments

e) reward for good behaviour. Even a small compliment will go a long way. A 'thank you for coming home early' or 'I'm proud that you decided to do that' will be a relief from the nagging and disappointments.

f) change the rules as necessary. As kids grow older they will need more freedom and different penalties.

-- Edited by Quixote at 15:26, 2007-11-05
Finally someone who makes sense

I can't even believe that in this day and age people think beating is an answer

go on your way, hippy!

~X

Chilenita · Comandante

Quixote wrote:

Your sister is at the age where self discipline is very important.

I think your mom (and/or you) have to start at the beginning. You'll need to sit your sister down and do the following

a) lay out the rules and explain why the rules are necessary and need to be adhered to. I cannot stress how important it is to explain the rules. With toddlers, parents can get away with just saying 'don't do this' but pre teens and teenagers have a hard time with this because of their rebelious nature. I believe that with more information, the rules will be taken more seriously.

b) describe the punishments for breaking the rules. It takes creativity to punish kids these days but the punishment should fit the 'crime' and be tailored to your sister (ie. take her cell phone if she relies on it constantly).

c) ask for feedback and allow your sister to ask questions and/or make suggestions.

d) enforce the rules! Your sister needs to know she is being watched and is expected to follow the rules. Follow through with your rules and punishments

e) reward for good behaviour. Even a small compliment will go a long way. A 'thank you for coming home early' or 'I'm proud that you decided to do that' will be a relief from the nagging and disappointments.

f) change the rules as necessary. As kids grow older they will need more freedom and different penalties.

-- Edited by Quixote at 15:26, 2007-11-05

Finally someone who makes sense

I can't even believe that in this day and age people think beating is an answer

Quixote · Guru

Your sister is at the age where self discipline is very important.

I think your mom (and/or you) have to start at the beginning. You'll need to sit your sister down and do the following

a) lay out the rules and explain why the rules are necessary and need to be adhered to. I cannot stress how important it is to explain the rules. With toddlers, parents can get away with just saying 'don't do this' but pre teens and teenagers have a hard time with this because of their rebelious nature. I believe that with more information, the rules will be taken more seriously.

b) describe the punishments for breaking the rules. It takes creativity to punish kids these days but the punishment should fit the 'crime' and be tailored to your sister (ie. take her cell phone if she relies on it constantly).

c) ask for feedback and allow your sister to ask questions and/or make suggestions.

d) enforce the rules! Your sister needs to know she is being watched and is expected to follow the rules. Follow through with your rules and punishments

e) reward for good behaviour. Even a small compliment will go a long way. A 'thank you for coming home early' or 'I'm proud that you decided to do that' will be a relief from the nagging and disappointments.

f) change the rules as necessary. As kids grow older they will need more freedom and different penalties.

-- Edited by Quixote at 15:26, 2007-11-05

God · Foro Master

Kids reach the point wheere no matter what parents say they will do whatever they want. If she wants to live freely her first step should be leaving mommys house and support her own lifestyle.

El Mismo · Guru

how does 45 sound to you.....jijiji

*licks lips* 45 sounds delicious like a good Vintage wine

The only thing you'll get to do is to keep licking those lips, cause there is no vintage wine on here, that i know of. biggrin

Talking about wine I need to go buy some today.....you seem to know about wines, any tips....ripvan....

-- Edited by El Mismo at 14:04, 2007-11-05

-- Edited by El Mismo at 14:04, 2007-11-05

RipVanWinkle · Regular Plus

El Mismo wrote:

a good spanking, followed by a conversation about why the child got punished goes a long way.....after explaning the situation, a hug, a kiss and an I love will tend to overwrite those negative feellings that they might have after their punishment.

that is the most positve comment I've read so far

LGigolo · Comandante

BOOT CAMP!!!

El Mismo · Guru

a good spanking, followed by a conversation about why the child got punished goes a long way.....after explaning the situation, a hug, a kiss and an I love will tend to overwrite those negative feellings that they might have after their punishment. smile

RipVanWinkle · Regular Plus

El Mismo wrote:

RipVanWinkle wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

RipVanWinkle wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

If i was 17 i would be tapping her sister

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:25, 2007-11-05

Aren't you 14 and your balls haven't dropped yet?

no 25 actually....

if i was interested i would have sent u a message already
but u sound straight up weird....probably even a fake

so ill pass

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:30, 2007-11-05
Bof, 25? euuu anyways, too young and immature

how does 45 sound to you.....jijiji

*licks lips* 45 sounds delicious like a good Vintage wine

LGigolo · Comandante

PRINCESSA wrote:

@ LG - that's cus in canada they make u believe this, but i grew up in Ecuador & let me tell you that my brothers & I all got the beats & TRUST me we RESPECT till this day our parents 200% Fully!!!!!! It's NOT fear, it's not anything, we just knew that when my mom said NO, es NO & when my dad would JUST give us a look, we knew better not to even think about it, little less go ahead & do it.

See here treating ur kids like they got a say as early as an age of 16 is the MOST ridicoulsy thing I ever heard of, that a girl can chose to tell her parents if or not she's prego, come on now.....tell me how that's logic? It's Stupid.

I grew up like a princess & so did my brothers, but there was no fantasy when it came down to educating us. If you misbehaved, u will get the belt if that's wat it took.

Even thou I now live here & ppl. may think I'm more Canadianized, there is nothing that would change my mind in how to corregir my kids.

I came from the same / similar ways of being raised... and like you say, it "only took a look" most of the time to get a message across. Although I may agree that it has a lot to do with respecting our parents, it also may - in many cases - create a "fear" factor. When younger, I don't necesarily think a bit of fear goes a long way to keep kids from messing up their lives.

I am not in favour of a spanking/belt here and there as long as it is not too brutal. But once kids get bigger, a little spanking doesn't hurt as much - therefore, it won't really have much of an effect - Instead, some of the bigger kids may become revelious.

Si algo no me gustaba a mi personalmente eran los "sermones" cuando me hablaban "aconsejandome" de una u otra cosa. Sometimes, I wished too take a little beating instead to have to hear mom/dad. FAWKEN LONG A$$ SPEECHES! furious

Heck, they worked for them - I didn't turn out too bad. wink

El Mismo · Guru

RipVanWinkle wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

RipVanWinkle wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

If i was 17 i would be tapping her sister

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:25, 2007-11-05

Aren't you 14 and your balls haven't dropped yet?

no 25 actually....

if i was interested i would have sent u a message already
but u sound straight up weird....probably even a fake

so ill pass

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:30, 2007-11-05
Bof, 25? euuu anyways, too young and immature

how does 45 sound to you.....jijiji biggrin

RipVanWinkle · Regular Plus

Cordoba_D wrote:

RipVanWinkle wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

If i was 17 i would be tapping her sister

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:25, 2007-11-05

Aren't you 14 and your balls haven't dropped yet?

no 25 actually....

if i was interested i would have sent u a message already
but u sound straight up weird....probably even a fake

so ill pass

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:30, 2007-11-05

Bof, 25? euuu anyways, too young and immature

El Mismo · Guru

I've seen that video a few times and I never get enough of it.....funny and true like x says....

I remembering asking my dad outloud what does fawk mean , I think he though i was saying that to him.....cause his got wide open and he stayed quiet for bit, and said " don't say that ever again"

Cordoba_D · Guru

PRINCESSA wrote:

@ LG - that's cus in canada they make u believe this, but i grew up in Ecuador & let me tell you that my brothers & I all got the beats & TRUST me we RESPECT till this day our parents 200% Fully!!!!!! It's NOT fear, it's not anything, we just knew that when my mom said NO, es NO & when my dad would JUST give us a look, we knew better not to even think about it, little less go ahead & do it.

See here treating ur kids like they got a say as early as an age of 16 is the MOST ridicoulsy thing I ever heard of, that a girl can chose to tell her parents if or not she's prego, come on now.....tell me how that's logic? It's Stupid.

I grew up like a princess & so did my brothers, but there was no fantasy when it came down to educating us. If you misbehaved, u will get the belt if that's wat it took.

Even thou I now live here & ppl. may think I'm more Canadianized, there is nothing that would change my mind in how to corregir my kids.

I agree with you 100% only cuz i lived in ecuador too....ur totaly right kids their have way more respect for their parents then here...its a totaly different scenario....women back in Ecua even have way more respect for themselves....

X4v13r · Comandante

I got this from another foro i go to.

Boy punches mother over Halo 3
Thursday 1-Nov-2007 11:49 AM A warning to mothers everywhere...

A 'juvenile' lover of Halo 3 has been accused of punching his mother (after she forced him to end his game) and fighting with sheriff's deputies as they tried to restrain him. Further reports that he attacked his mother and police with a 360 controller melee-style attack have yet to be confirmed. And won't be. We made that bit up.

Parents told deputies their son was playing Halo 3, and it was getting late and he needed to shut it off. Hey, we've all been there. But when he refused to turn it off, the parents reportedly took the air card* out of his machine so he couldn't play anymore.

Son then became enraged like a Brute that's lost his armour and went through the house looking for the air card. It was during this moment of him running riot when he punched his mother, and the cops were called. The kid then legged it back to his room (with the air card), locked the door and carried on playing.

Deputies and mum banged on the door but only got a load of abuse hurled back at them. Like when you actually play Halo 3 on Xbox Live.

Eventually he was cuffed and turned over to state juvenile authorities on charges of battery-domestic violence and battery on a law-enforcement officer. Let that be a lesson to you.

*By the way, if anyone knows what an 'air card' is please let us know. Unless it's Spanish for CD?

Gavin Ogden

~X

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

@ X - EXACTLY my thoughts.

If I'm the parent, paying the bills, & kids are living under my & hubby's roof....then u sure hell will be listening to us.

BTW

tooo funny

Cordoba_D · Guru

RipVanWinkle wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

If i was 17 i would be tapping her sister

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:25, 2007-11-05

Aren't you 14 and your balls haven't dropped yet?

no 25 actually....

if i was interested i would have sent u a message already
but u sound straight up weird....probably even a fake

so ill pass

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:30, 2007-11-05

RipVanWinkle · Regular Plus

Cordoba_D wrote:

If i was 17 i would be tapping her sister

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:25, 2007-11-05

Aren't you 14 and your balls haven't dropped yet?

Cordoba_D · Guru

If i was 17 i would be tapping her sister biggrin

-- Edited by Cordoba_D at 13:25, 2007-11-05

El Mismo · Guru

I agree with pricessa, Un coreaso cuando verdaderamente lo meresen es bueno on kids and I've notice some other kids that are raised up without getting a slap on the butt are angry kids, rude, hit other kids......the problem is some parents here have cross the line with disciplining their kids and all parents pay for those few. blankstare

RipVanWinkle · Regular Plus

X4v13r wrote:

PRINCESSA wrote:

@ LG - that's cus in canada they make u believe this, but i grew up in Ecuador & let me tell you that my brothers & I all got the beats & TRUST me we RESPECT till this day our parents 200% Fully!!!!!! It's NOT fear, it's not anything, we just knew that when my mom said NO, es NO & when my dad would JUST give us a look, we knew better not to even think about it, little less go ahead & do it.

See here treating ur kids like they got a say as early as an age of 16 is the MOST ridicoulsy thing I ever heard of, that a girl can chose to tell her parents if or not she's prego, come on now.....tell me how that's logic? It's Stupid.

I grew up like a princess & so did my brothers, but there was no fantasy when it came down to educating us. If you misbehaved, u will get the belt if that's wat it took.

Even thou I now live here & ppl. may think I'm more Canadianized, there is nothing that would change my mind in how to corregir my kids.

u just reminded me of this

so funny but at the same time so true

~X

LOL*

Seriously, going back to the topic, If I were her mom I'd spank her silly

X4v13r · Comandante

PRINCESSA wrote:

@ LG - that's cus in canada they make u believe this, but i grew up in Ecuador & let me tell you that my brothers & I all got the beats & TRUST me we RESPECT till this day our parents 200% Fully!!!!!! It's NOT fear, it's not anything, we just knew that when my mom said NO, es NO & when my dad would JUST give us a look, we knew better not to even think about it, little less go ahead & do it.

See here treating ur kids like they got a say as early as an age of 16 is the MOST ridicoulsy thing I ever heard of, that a girl can chose to tell her parents if or not she's prego, come on now.....tell me how that's logic? It's Stupid.

I grew up like a princess & so did my brothers, but there was no fantasy when it came down to educating us. If you misbehaved, u will get the belt if that's wat it took.

Even thou I now live here & ppl. may think I'm more Canadianized, there is nothing that would change my mind in how to corregir my kids.

u just reminded me of this

so funny but at the same time so true

~X

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

@ LG - that's cus in canada they make u believe this, but i grew up in Ecuador & let me tell you that my brothers & I all got the beats & TRUST me we RESPECT till this day our parents 200% Fully!!!!!! It's NOT fear, it's not anything, we just knew that when my mom said NO, es NO & when my dad would JUST give us a look, we knew better not to even think about it, little less go ahead & do it.

See here treating ur kids like they got a say as early as an age of 16 is the MOST ridicoulsy thing I ever heard of, that a girl can chose to tell her parents if or not she's prego, come on now.....tell me how that's logic? It's Stupid.

I grew up like a princess & so did my brothers, but there was no fantasy when it came down to educating us. If you misbehaved, u will get the belt if that's wat it took.

Even thou I now live here & ppl. may think I'm more Canadianized, there is nothing that would change my mind in how to corregir my kids.

El Mismo · Guru

I heard of this girl that was in the same foot step as your sis. Her parents convinced her to go to ecuador for a vacation, once there she got the beatting of her life time..........they stay with her for about 2 years and came back a different person..

I guess the life over at our background countries is a bit different, less materialism. Maybe show your sis the other side of life, she only knows now the life of clubbing, sex, drugs....etc. ..... she needs all the support from home, if she cant find it there she will turn to friends, which is never a good thing. Understand her, agree with some stuff she says....She probably feels that everyone is against her.....home needs to be a place of love, where she doesn't have think twice before coming home.......try speaking to a priest, they have alot of insight on this topics, with families....all the best.

LGigolo · Comandante

Cordoba_D wrote:

LGigolo wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

LGigolo wrote:

I think some important things you could do would be:
Have a talk with her. Without being overly confrontational, but more being of a friend-to-friend talk describe your concerns to her and the possible consequences of her actions. Tell her how much you love and care for her and if you feel that way that you will always have her back. Perhaps ask her to really think of her actions and how that is affecting her (your) family and her own future.
Give her some of your TIME. Spend time with her. Take her to the movies, club, bowling or whatever activities you enjoy with her. That way you will be SHOWING her you care and she will have less time to do other stuff that could get her in trouble.
Dont give up on her. No matter how stubborn she is and keep trying and trying and trying to stir her on to the right path. Encourage her to get involved in other positive activities such as sports, some kind of club, exercise, etc. Whenever possible try to join her in those activities.
Good Luck!

-- Edited by LGigolo at 12:37, 2007-11-05
lol!! your are a joke.....out of all people u giving advice.....coming from someone who is 35 and still goes on meetmeinto...

u r probably the one messing with all them 16 year olds lol!

Yeah - I am the one.

Must be the same place where you pick up loose H0s who later come to TH Foro and tell us all about your inny winny tiny penis!

u actually believe that ? hahaha i didnt see no one in the first place even say that...

but at least it looks a lil better for people my age to go on it....b*** ur 10 yrs older then me and u cant even post a pic of ur busted ass on top of that ..

your wack

I never post my pics only because of ignorante people like you who do not know how to respect other peoples' privacy. hmm

Cordoba_D · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

Cordoba_D wrote:

LGigolo wrote:

I think some important things you could do would be:
Have a talk with her. Without being overly confrontational, but more being of a friend-to-friend talk describe your concerns to her and the possible consequences of her actions. Tell her how much you love and care for her and if you feel that way that you will always have her back. Perhaps ask her to really think of her actions and how that is affecting her (your) family and her own future.
Give her some of your TIME. Spend time with her. Take her to the movies, club, bowling or whatever activities you enjoy with her. That way you will be SHOWING her you care and she will have less time to do other stuff that could get her in trouble.
Dont give up on her. No matter how stubborn she is and keep trying and trying and trying to stir her on to the right path. Encourage her to get involved in other positive activities such as sports, some kind of club, exercise, etc. Whenever possible try to join her in those activities.
Good Luck!

-- Edited by LGigolo at 12:37, 2007-11-05
lol!! your are a joke.....out of all people u giving advice.....coming from someone who is 35 and still goes on meetmeinto...

u r probably the one messing with all them 16 year olds lol!

Yeah - I am the one.

Must be the same place where you pick up loose H0s who later come to TH Foro and tell us all about your inny winny tiny penis!

u actually believe that ? hahaha i didnt see no one in the first place even say that...

but at least it looks a lil better for people my age to go on it....b*** ur 10 yrs older then me and u cant even post a pic of ur busted ass on top of that

..

your wack

LGigolo · Comandante

PRINCESSA wrote:

I think I good beaten will starignten her out.

I think if she's got no respect for her own mom, then it's all your parents fault.

In the old country - "beatings" only create fear, NOT respect.
Fear only lasts for so long - once kids get bigger and used to the beatings, it has no effect and if the kids may start defending themselves by hitting back.

I was only beaten up ONCE -

... Nevermind... that explains why I am so messed up!

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

I think I good beaten will starignten her out.

I think if she's got no respect for her own mom, then it's all your parents fault.

LGigolo · Comandante

Cordoba_D wrote:

LGigolo wrote:

I think some important things you could do would be:
Have a talk with her. Without being overly confrontational, but more being of a friend-to-friend talk describe your concerns to her and the possible consequences of her actions. Tell her how much you love and care for her and if you feel that way that you will always have her back. Perhaps ask her to really think of her actions and how that is affecting her (your) family and her own future.
Give her some of your TIME. Spend time with her. Take her to the movies, club, bowling or whatever activities you enjoy with her. That way you will be SHOWING her you care and she will have less time to do other stuff that could get her in trouble.
Dont give up on her. No matter how stubborn she is and keep trying and trying and trying to stir her on to the right path. Encourage her to get involved in other positive activities such as sports, some kind of club, exercise, etc. Whenever possible try to join her in those activities.
Good Luck!

-- Edited by LGigolo at 12:37, 2007-11-05
lol!! your are a joke.....out of all people u giving advice.....coming from someone who is 35 and still goes on meetmeinto...

u r probably the one messing with all them 16 year olds lol!

Yeah - I am the one.

Must be the same place where you pick up loose H0s who later come to TH Foro and tell us all about your inny winny tiny penis!

Cordoba_D · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

I think some important things you could do would be:
Have a talk with her. Without being overly confrontational, but more being of a friend-to-friend talk describe your concerns to her and the possible consequences of her actions. Tell her how much you love and care for her and if you feel that way that you will always have her back. Perhaps ask her to really think of her actions and how that is affecting her (your) family and her own future.
Give her some of your TIME. Spend time with her. Take her to the movies, club, bowling or whatever activities you enjoy with her. That way you will be SHOWING her you care and she will have less time to do other stuff that could get her in trouble.
Dont give up on her. No matter how stubborn she is and keep trying and trying and trying to stir her on to the right path. Encourage her to get involved in other positive activities such as sports, some kind of club, exercise, etc. Whenever possible try to join her in those activities.
Good Luck!

-- Edited by LGigolo at 12:37, 2007-11-05

lol!! your are a joke.....out of all people u giving advice.....coming from someone who is 35 and still goes on meetmeinto...

u r probably the one messing with all them 16 year olds lol!

LGigolo · Comandante

I think some important things you could do would be:

Have a talk with her. Without being overly confrontational, but more being of a friend-to-friend talk describe your concerns to her and the possible consequences of her actions. Tell her how much you love and care for her and if you feel that way that you will always have her back. Perhaps ask her to really think of her actions and how that is affecting her (your) family and her own future.
Give her some of your TIME. Spend time with her. Take her to the movies, club, bowling or whatever activities you enjoy with her. That way you will be SHOWING her you care and she will have less time to do other stuff that could get her in trouble.
Dont give up on her. No matter how stubborn she is and keep trying and trying and trying to stir her on to the right path. Encourage her to get involved in other positive activities such as sports, some kind of club, exercise, etc. Whenever possible try to join her in those activities.

Good Luck!

-- Edited by LGigolo at 12:37, 2007-11-05

Chilenita · Comandante

Speak to your mom and remind here that children are for life.

No offence but there is something about mothers giving up on teenage daughters that I find disturbing!!

When you become a mom it's for life. When the going gets tough you don't give up. We are talking about a 15 yr old not a 20 something year old...even then I would NEVER give up on my daughter.

UGH SAD SAD SAD!! hmm

Yesi · Guru

Hey why don't you talk to your sister's friend.... the slut... give her some piece of your mind... I would.

I think X's idea is great too. Talk to your mom if you guys do it together it will be better results.

Unfortunately, there is not much you can do... she is at the age where nothing you say will seem fair.

Good luck!!!

miguel · TOP Guru

also, is there someone a few years older that she might trust and look up to who can talk to her and have her actually listen? a role model or something..

God · Foro Master

First thing first.Put her on the Pill and tech her to have safe sex and you take it from there.

X4v13r · Comandante

not sure what to tell u but i think the first step would be to talk to ur mother so the both of u can help ur little sister.

~X