Your goody drawer contains the Rabbit, maybe a pair of furry handcuffs and a big box of condoms.
Wild? Not exactly.
Not in today's sexually liberated, highly experimental world where one wouldn't be surprised to learn their neighbour had a sex swing set in the basement and a bedside stripper's pole.
However in the real wild kingdom (where animals roam freely) you'd never come across a randy peacock enhancing his natural endowment with a vibrating penis ring or female squirrel wearing sexy lingerie to heighten arousal during mating season.
Why, then, are the sex lives of humans embellished with so many naughty bells and whistles? The simple answer is because we can.
With every gadget imaginable up for grabs at your nearest sex shop, a so-called "vanilla" sex life may seem limp in comparison to that of the ravenous swinging couple living down the road, what with their collection of bejeweled vibrators, a homemade dungeon and versatile porn stash.
With so much pressure to be wild in bed, is vanilla sex becoming dead?
Well, not exactly.
If you're among those happily lapping up kink-less sex, you're not alone, says Gill Lamon, toy expert and co-owner of Toronto-based sex shop, Come As You Are.
"There are certain pockets that have become comfortable with sexuality, but the majority is not," says Lamon.
On the flipside, Lamon says she's observed a relatively new trend of purchasing sex toys as status symbols.
For instance, owning a vibrator adorned with Swarovski crystals offers orgasms and bragging rights, she explains.
One such glittery Swarovski selection is coming in the way of a butt plug in time for the holiday season for $110.
SPECIAL ROOM
While we may feel pressured to stretch our sexual comfort levels, knowing when to slam on the brakes can come in handy, as one 37-year-old man learned.
Maybe it was the whips and chains that tipped him off, or perhaps the wrist and ankle clamps bolted to the floor, but what was meant to be a pleasant second date over dinner seemed more a recipe for pain.
"She was giving me a tour of her townhouse," he recalls.
"We started in the living room, then the kitchen and eventually upstairs to her bedroom where two out of four walls were floor-to-ceiling mirrors."
So far so good. Then came her "special room."
"She opened the door and immediately a disco ball started going with a pink spotlight on it. The next thing I noticed was the chain bolted to the ceiling, the whips and paddles."
Pasted on the walls were photographs of his date in various sexual positions with different people.
"That part appealed to me," he admits.
"None of it terribly offended me but I gathered she was dominant -- and that's not quite my cup of froth."
Regardless he stuck around for dinner.
"I asked her if we were to continue dating 'would we go for bike rides and to dinner and movies like regular couples, or would I be chained up drinking out of a saucer all weekend?' That didn't go over so well."
After that night, they never spoke again.
Vancouver-based sex therapist, Dr. David McKenzie, says such kinky explorations are not surprising. In fact, he says it signifies how creative we actually are.
"As far as intelligence is concerned, we're the top of the food chain," offers McKenzie.
"With that you have to expect a certain amount of creativity."
That imaginative spirit, he notes, can emerge in -- or outside -- the bedroom.
In other words, we bore easily.
But despite our flowing creative juices, he says that extreme alternative lifestyles, such as making a Friday-night pitstop at a local fetish club to wrangle up a frisky pair of swingers, remain on the fringe.
"It's still a minority," he says.
"But you'll always find a variety of ways in which people will keep themselves satisfied. Monogamy is definitely a part of the Homo sapien way, but so is promiscuity."
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REV IT UP
- Want to rev up your sex life? Go for it, but be sure to respect your boundaries. Never feel pressured to participate in activities you're uncomfortable with.
- Some things are better left to the imagination. The Internet is a great tool for testing out the waters before taking your fantasy life out into the real world.
- Be open and honest about what you're seeking sexually. In a perfect world, your partner would share the same bedroom interests as you, but even if he doesn't, find a compromise that will leave you both feeling satisfied.
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Feeling shy?
You don't need to peruse a sex shop in person to order up some new goodies. These resourceful websites allow you to explore your wild side while keeping your privacy in tact.
- loveshackcanada.com
- honeygifts.com
- arentwenaughty.com
- comeasyouare.com
- seduction.ca
-- Edited by LGigolo at 13:22, 2007-08-16
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