What would you do???????

LaDyBuG · Comandante

RE: What would you do???????

FANTITO · Senior Member

Parece que de todos modos van a llegar un monton de bichos, mejor que alguien de vista de Dora la Exploradora y los lleve al jardin donde les tendran unas 5 pizzas con KFC y gaseosas, de todos modos eso es lo que ellos quieren. Por que de llegar bichos ....llegaran', ojala que no lleguen de esos bien hyper que a pura soda y chocolates los alimentan

confundida · Foro Master

LaDyBuG wrote:
confundida wrote:
WELL U TELL THEM THAT LIL MAN IS WORLD CUTEST KID AND IF THEY HAVE A PROBLEM TO CONTACT HIS MANAGER,GODMOTHER,AUNTS AND UNCLES.......

Ok yes.....LITTLE MAN is world's cutest kid and for that reason he needs his own crate.....as a matter of fact....I kindly demand a personalized crate for Little Man.....with food and kareoke inside.....he is not to be disturbed all night unless everyone's sings "who let the dogs out"......

AND ROMPE AND GASOLINA AND LO KE PASO PASO!!! THK U!!!! OH AND HE WILL ALSO NEED TO BRING HIS THOMAS DA TRAIN PILLOW AND HIS POWER RANGER PHONE JUST IN CASE HE NEEDS BACK UP!!!!

LaDyBuG · Comandante

confundida wrote:
WELL U TELL THEM THAT LIL MAN IS WORLD CUTEST KID AND IF THEY HAVE A PROBLEM TO CONTACT HIS MANAGER,GODMOTHER,AUNTS AND UNCLES.......

Ok yes.....LITTLE MAN is world's cutest kid and for that reason he needs his own crate.....as a matter of fact....I kindly demand a personalized crate for Little Man.....with food and kareoke inside.....he is not to be disturbed all night unless everyone's sings "who let the dogs out"......

confundida · Foro Master

Yesi wrote:
You guys are killing me

That idea about the crates and the churritos is the best. I can't cause all the moms will want what confundida wants one only for their kid. Too MUch MONEY

Yesi

you are right Ladybug, I will take it easy and see.

WELL U TELL THEM THAT LIL MAN IS WORLD CUTEST KID AND IF THEY HAVE A PROBLEM TO CONTACT HIS MANAGER,GODMOTHER,AUNTS AND UNCLES.......

Yesi · Guru

You guys are killing me

That idea about the crates and the churritos is the best. I can't cause all the moms will want what confundida wants one only for their kid. Too MUch MONEY

Yesi

you are right Ladybug, I will take it easy and see.

confundida · Foro Master

LaDyBuG wrote:
Yesi wrote:
LOL OMG

I read all your comments and suggestions and I was laughing like a crazy person. I am glad the office is close and my co-workers can't hear me.

Anyway to asnwer your questions Confundida, I am having a flower girl and a ring boy. That is were the taugh part starts. This people are flying in from Honduras and the states. I mean they can go you know, but I have friends that have like 4 children, I mean I like them but I want them to have fun and with 4 kids there I doubt they will.

I was thinking of paying for babysiters, Like send in the invitation to tell them to take their kids to a different location. So I can have my firnds without their kids, having fun not worring about the kid running around.

I don't know is a taugh one. I will have to really think about it. But thank you all for your comments and support

Yesi

If you have guests from out of town....then of course, invite their kids to the wedding....culturally it would be rude if you didn't.....

Flower girl and ring boy only have duties at the CHURCH....no need for them to come to the wedding right?

In your specific case....DON'T STRESS about the kids situation.....having guests out of town with children will complicate your life....so just say YES to everyone, don't be selective and take it as easy as you can.....

YEA THEY DO!!! THEY HAVE TO WALK IN WID THE PARTY!!!!! UUUGGGHHH!!!!!!

OK DO THIS FIGURE OUT HOW MANY KIDS THERE ARE IN TOTAL AND DO WAT GUADA TOLD U PUT THEM IN A CRATE!!!! EXCEPT FOR LIL MAN HE NEEDS HIS OWN!!!! WID A RED CARPET PLS!!!!

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

Guadalupana wrote:
Look, if worse comes to worse, rent a big crate, and put the kids there.
Once in a while come by and throw churritos.

LaDyBuG · Comandante

@ YESI

I'm not trying to stress you out but just so you are realistic, expect to lose $$

I have been to 2 (Latin) weddings that lost at least $1500 on their wedding (not lost, but in debt)....it's not much....but they didn't get what they expected.....families of 4 were leaving a total of $50 in the envelope and the couple expected $50 each at least.....

Expect the worse and you'll be fine.....

Guadalupana · Foro Master

Look, if worse comes to worse, rent a big crate, and put the kids there.

Once in a while come by and throw churritos.

GENIE · Foro Master

Yesi wrote:
I know Confundida everything is MONEY. Ihate this..........

If I were in Guadalajara, Mexico. I could just do it in my grandma's rancho and have everyone there. But here everything is Money and lots of Money.

I hate this getting married is stressful.
yesi

I AGREE WITH LADYBUG DONT GET STRESSED ABOUT IT! AGAIN ASK THE BANQUET HALL ABOUT KIDS UNDER 16 OR UNDER 12 THEY ACCOMIDATE YOU DONT STRESS ITS NOT WORTH IT I KNOW MONEY MONEY AND ALL THAT BUT THERES WAYS OF CUTTING COST SO THAT YOU DONT FEEL BAD ON YOUR DAY AND PLUS MOST PPL WILL NOT MAKE IT AND WORRY WHEN YOU HAVE FINAL #S

LaDyBuG · Comandante

Yesi wrote:
LOL OMG

I read all your comments and suggestions and I was laughing like a crazy person. I am glad the office is close and my co-workers can't hear me.

Anyway to asnwer your questions Confundida, I am having a flower girl and a ring boy. That is were the taugh part starts. This people are flying in from Honduras and the states. I mean they can go you know, but I have friends that have like 4 children, I mean I like them but I want them to have fun and with 4 kids there I doubt they will.

I was thinking of paying for babysiters, Like send in the invitation to tell them to take their kids to a different location. So I can have my firnds without their kids, having fun not worring about the kid running around.

I don't know is a taugh one. I will have to really think about it. But thank you all for your comments and support

Yesi

If you have guests from out of town....then of course, invite their kids to the wedding....culturally it would be rude if you didn't.....

Flower girl and ring boy only have duties at the CHURCH....no need for them to come to the wedding right?

In your specific case....DON'T STRESS about the kids situation.....having guests out of town with children will complicate your life....so just say YES to everyone, don't be selective and take it as easy as you can.....

Yesi · Guru

I know Confundida everything is MONEY. Ihate this..........

If I were in Guadalajara, Mexico. I could just do it in my grandma's rancho and have everyone there. But here everything is Money and lots of Money.

I hate this getting married is stressful.

yesi

confundida · Foro Master

Yesi wrote:
LOL OMG

I read all your comments and suggestions and I was laughing like a crazy person. I am glad the office is close and my co-workers can't hear me.

Anyway to asnwer your questions Confundida, I am having a flower girl and a ring boy. That is were the taugh part starts. This people are flying in from Honduras and the states. I mean they can go you know, but I have friends that have like 4 children, I mean I like them but I want them to have fun and with 4 kids there I doubt they will.

I was thinking of paying for babysiters, Like send in the invitation to tell them to take their kids to a different location. So I can have my firnds without their kids, having fun not worring about the kid running around.

I don't know is a taugh one. I will have to really think about it. But thank you all for your comments and support

Yesi

BUT IF UR GOING TO PAY A BABYSITTER THEN U MIGHT AS WELL INVITED THEM ITS GOING TO B ALOT CHEAPER!!! PERSONALLY I DONT LIKE TAKING LIL MAN TO WEDDING UNLESS I REALLY HAVE TO!!!!!

Yesi · Guru

LOL OMG

I read all your comments and suggestions and I was laughing like a crazy person. I am glad the office is close and my co-workers can't hear me.

Anyway to asnwer your questions Confundida, I am having a flower girl and a ring boy. That is were the taugh part starts. This people are flying in from Honduras and the states. I mean they can go you know, but I have friends that have like 4 children, I mean I like them but I want them to have fun and with 4 kids there I doubt they will.

I was thinking of paying for babysiters, Like send in the invitation to tell them to take their kids to a different location. So I can have my firnds without their kids, having fun not worring about the kid running around.

I don't know is a taugh one. I will have to really think about it. But thank you all for your comments and support

Yesi

confundida · Foro Master

OK BUT HERE IS A QUESTION THAT JUST KINDA POPED IN MY HEAD!!!

YESI ARE U GOING TO HAVE A FLOWER GIRL AND A RING BOY???

TV Buff · TOP Guru

Motown Junkie wrote:
And to think, I was just going to post that I don't want kids at my wedding but I wouldn't know how to say it in fear of disrespecting people!! Oh man..... That totally made my day!!! Thanks Brain!!!

Honestly though, El Pibe is the one who would have absolutely NO PROBLEM saying, "NO KIDS!" He's more straight-forward than I am believe it or not.

YOU? You don't know how to say you don't want kids at your wedding? Easy, Pinky. You write in the invitation....

I don't mean to be a b*tch, but there will be absolutely NONE of those bratty spawns of satan that you cal (cc X@vier) your kids allowed at MY wedding.

De nada.

McOSIRIS · Comandante

Motown Junkie wrote:
Honestly though, El Pibe is the one who would have absolutely NO PROBLEM saying, "NO KIDS!" He's more straight-forward than I am believe it or not.

I know... you are more........ how do u say it????

not straight????

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

TV Buff wrote:
I don't know Yesi personally, but from what I've seen from her posts, her wedding will be like YMCA daycare in the summer-- she's just sweet like that. I don't think she'll go through with the No Kids Allowed invitations. If it were MJ, that'd be different. I don't think even Pibe would be allowed! But Yesi, she'll have all the kids and the pets and the grandparents and foro members too!!!

Holy f@ck!!!!

That just killed me!!!

Ah the tears, the tears!!!

And to think, I was just going to post that I don't want kids at my wedding but I wouldn't know how to say it in fear of disrespecting people!! Oh man.....

That totally made my day!!!

Thanks Brain!!!

Honestly though, El Pibe is the one who would have absolutely NO PROBLEM saying, "NO KIDS!"

He's more straight-forward than I am believe it or not.

TV Buff · TOP Guru

I don't know Yesi personally, but from what I've seen from her posts, her wedding will be like YMCA daycare in the summer-- she's just sweet like that. I don't think she'll go through with the No Kids Allowed invitations. If it were MJ, that'd be different. I don't think even Pibe would be allowed! But Yesi, she'll have all the kids and the pets and the grandparents and foro members too!!!

LaDyBuG · Comandante

1. Direct the invitation strictly to the 2 or 3 people you want to invite. Personalize the invitation in other words by ONLY putting their full names.

2. At the bottom of the invitation you can say this: NO CHILDREN PLEASE or ONLY 21 and over allowed...

3. Do not apologize, you can always have a get together at your house for the un invited people....a cozy house party for your parents' friends to watch the video....

(In my personal and general opinion and not directed to you Yesi) ..... I disagree with the "system" and the budget way of doing weddings....and the limits one has to respect. Meaning....it's all about the $$ and not the ocassion.....inviting people to your wedding now in days consists of how much the plate costs, who you think will pay and who will be cheap about it, how many people per family will come and actually pay...etc...etc It's a budgeting process.....a business in other words.....UNFORTUNATELY.....

I think BUFFET STYLE is the way to go.....lol

I also think weddings (just like funerals) are full of hypocrates...but that's another story....

Good luck with everything girl!

Julie · Comandante

Dogo wrote:
True, AND...... I also had to invite people I didn't care to see, BUT I KNEW who and who wasn't being invited BEFORE the invitations went out
If understand what Yesi is saying, her mom invited people that she didn't know where being invited... and the invitations already went out
Without knowing what my budget or intentions are, it would be a bit odd that people are being invited witout me at least knowing that they are being invited
My guess is, that that is why Yesi is in this mixup
Ultimately it's MY wedding...... I dunno, just saying

-- Edited by Dogo at 21:09, 2007-01-30

And you are right. I ultimately (thank you for the word.......lol) I remember I gently told my aunt, in that matter (easy Mc O.) to go hasta alla y no regresar, bc I wasn't going to change my mind

Dogo · Comandante

Julie wrote:
As Luna said, specify on the invite "no kids", I did that for mine and only specify via phone that my bother in laws were allowed and some direct family bc they were all flying in.

As for Dogo's comments, well it's most of the time ,like that, Mom and future MIL always end up inviting pple you don't really want to see or invite. It is just a matter of diplomacy and find your way around it. Compromiso, compromiso !

True, AND...... I also had to invite people I didn't care to see, BUT I KNEW who and who wasn't being invited BEFORE the invitations went out
If understand what Yesi is saying, her mom invited people that she didn't know where being invited... and the invitations already went out
Without knowing what my budget or intentions are, it would be a bit odd that people are being invited witout me at least knowing that they are being invited
My guess is, that that is why Yesi is in this mixup
Ultimately it's MY wedding...... I dunno, just saying

-- Edited by Dogo at 21:09, 2007-01-30

Julie · Comandante

As Luna said, specify on the invite "no kids", I did that for mine and only specify via phone that my bother in laws were allowed and some direct family bc they were all flying in.

As for Dogo's comments, well it's most of the time ,like that, Mom and future MIL always end up inviting pple you don't really want to see or invite. It is just a matter of diplomacy and find your way around it. Compromiso, compromiso !

Dogo · Comandante

I guess at this point you have no choice but to tell them straight up... "Sorry dudes, but we're on a budget. Capiche?"

But more importantly... why is your MOM inviting people to the wedding?

-- Edited by Dogo at 19:12, 2007-01-30

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

confundida wrote:
UHM WHERE IS FORO INVITATION????

We're not invited. NO KIDS ALLOWED

confundida · Foro Master

UHM WHERE IS FORO INVITATION????

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

well if ur mother invited them than ask her to pay for their plate.

~X

ur too funny, somehow not surprised at ur answer.

Anyhow I've seen invites that have in bold almost at the bottom no kids please. I've also seen some ppl. get offended & decided not to attend cause of the comment & other understand where the bride & groom are coming from.

If I was in your shoes I would do that in my invites "no kids" if ppl. choose to be offended or personal about it, ohh well moving on & if they don't come, ohh well too bad for them. I can tell you it Won't ruin my day.

Miel · Guru

God wrote:
Mira since you want to get rid de los "chiquillos" You can put in the invitation

Special Guest "Micheal Jackson"

only u,..

@Yesi: Do what LunaChiquita suggested,,. or since ur mom is more close to them,. tell her to call them up and let them know,. in a nice way,. that children are not allowed,...

Yesi · Guru

Thank you all for your help.....

Yesi

God · Foro Master

Mira since you want to get rid de los "chiquillos" You can put in the invitation

Special Guest "Micheal Jackson"

El Mismo · Guru

NO KIDS please at your wedding.....you're invitados will have a much happier time.

GENIE · Foro Master

Yesi wrote:
Hi guys,

Like many of you know I am getting married this summer coming up. I don't want anything big, maybe 130 max. Anyway my mom has gone crazy and invited people I have not seen since I arrive into Canada 14 years ago. Anyway here is the problem, I can not tell them their not invited anymore so, I decided to invite only the parents, how do you tell them you don't want kids without sounding rude??

I mean I wish I could invite all the families of 5 but the plate is like $40 dollars and I can't afford it.

What would you guys do?? Would you write it in the invitation??
Any ideas on what I can do????

Thank you,
Yesi

Yesi i would frist find out at the the Hall if they have a special menu for kids i know i paid $20 bucks a kid for Chicken Fingers and Fries and desert and they got an apetizer as well i think it was una empanada

but if u truly dont want kids there then state it on the invitation but remember that if they show up and there are kids there they will be greatly offended!!!

TV Buff · TOP Guru

By golly, I got it...

For those who bring the children anyway, even if you tell them not to bring them, get them a plate, but buy extra dessert plates and when they sit down, count how many children they have and give them as many plates. They can share their food with the kiddies.

See? Everybody's happy that way. Hungry, but happy.

I know, I'm a genius.

X4v13r · Comandante

TV Buff wrote:

Yesi wrote:
Hi guys,

Like many of you know I am getting married this summer coming up. I don't want anything big, maybe 130 max. Anyway my mom has gone crazy and invited people I have not seen since I arrive into Canada 14 years ago. Anyway here is the problem, I can not tell them their not invited anymore so, I decided to invite only the parents, how do you tell them you don't want kids without sounding rude??

I mean I wish I could invite all the families of 5 but the plate is like $40 dollars and I can't afford it.

What would you guys do?? Would you write it in the invitation??
Any ideas on what I can do????

Thank you,
Yesi

You have to tell them in the invitation. Don't beat around the bush, otherwise they'll bring the kids, the dogs, the grandparents and everybody. I'm serious. Be direct, be firm, and write down in the card what you need to say. And don't apologize after. It's your wedding, your day, so you do what makes YOU happy.

well from her post it looks like is her mothers day

~X

Motown Junkie · TOP Guru

I love X's response!!!

Wedding Invitations and Children

So you've made the decision about whether you're going to invite children to your wedding or not. The first suggestion is to be specific with regards to the wedding invitations and children. If you choose not to invite children, address the envelope to Mr. and Mrs. Guest. If you want to have children, invite The Guest Family.

If you're not inviting children and the guests RSVP with the children included, call them and politely and diplomatically discuss the situation with them. In fact, if you're going to have an adults-only reception, it may be a good idea to telephone all of the guests with children beforehand to ensure they understand. This is also a good way for you to gauge how many people will be inconvenienced by not bringing their children.

Try to be understanding--your decision to not include children at your wedding can cause stress. On the other hand, your guests have to similarly understand that you're not trying to be discriminatory, but you are planning YOUR special day, and you want it to be perfect.

The question for you must answer for yourself is: will it be more perfect with children or without?

http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/wedding-guest-list-etiquette-page-3.htm

TV Buff · TOP Guru

Yesi wrote:
Hi guys,

Like many of you know I am getting married this summer coming up. I don't want anything big, maybe 130 max. Anyway my mom has gone crazy and invited people I have not seen since I arrive into Canada 14 years ago. Anyway here is the problem, I can not tell them their not invited anymore so, I decided to invite only the parents, how do you tell them you don't want kids without sounding rude??

I mean I wish I could invite all the families of 5 but the plate is like $40 dollars and I can't afford it.

What would you guys do?? Would you write it in the invitation??
Any ideas on what I can do????

Thank you,
Yesi

You have to tell them in the invitation. Don't beat around the bush, otherwise they'll bring the kids, the dogs, the grandparents and everybody. I'm serious. Be direct, be firm, and write down in the card what you need to say. And don't apologize after. It's your wedding, your day, so you do what makes YOU happy.

luna chiquitita · TOP Guru

hey chicky, i googled it for u and here's what i found:

FB Says: How many people know or understand etiquette. In some cases you have to cut straight to the chase and say what you mean. We suggest adding one of these phrases to the bottom of your reply card:

Adult Reception
We hope that the (# of) of you will be able to join us
(# of) seats have been reserved in your names

Source

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

Yesi wrote:
Hi guys,

Like many of you know I am getting married this summer coming up. I don't want anything big, maybe 130 max. Anyway my mom has gone crazy and invited people I have not seen since I arrive into Canada 14 years ago. Anyway here is the problem, I can not tell them their not invited anymore so, I decided to invite only the parents, how do you tell them you don't want kids without sounding rude??

I mean I wish I could invite all the families of 5 but the plate is like $40 dollars and I can't afford it.

What would you guys do?? Would you write it in the invitation??
Any ideas on what I can do????

Thank you,
Yesi

Easy. Just send out the invitations and make sure you point out that there is a dress code in effect. Make it a lingerie theme

X4v13r · Comandante

Yesi wrote:

Hi guys,

Like many of you know I am getting married this summer coming up. I don't want anything big, maybe 130 max. Anyway my mom has gone crazy and invited people I have not seen since I arrive into Canada 14 years ago. Anyway here is the problem, I can not tell them their not invited anymore so, I decided to invite only the parents, how do you tell them you don't want kids without sounding rude??

I mean I wish I could invite all the families of 5 but the plate is like $40 dollars and I can't afford it.

What would you guys do?? Would you write it in the invitation??
Any ideas on what I can do????

Thank you,
Yesi

well if ur mother invited them than ask her to pay for their plate.

~X

Yesi · Guru

Hi guys,

Like many of you know I am getting married this summer coming up. I don't want anything big, maybe 130 max. Anyway my mom has gone crazy and invited people I have not seen since I arrive into Canada 14 years ago. Anyway here is the problem, I can not tell them their not invited anymore so, I decided to invite only the parents, how do you tell them you don't want kids without sounding rude??

I mean I wish I could invite all the families of 5 but the plate is like $40 dollars and I can't afford it.

What would you guys do?? Would you write it in the invitation??
Any ideas on what I can do????

Thank you,
Yesi