I've heard of couples who got married because the girl got pregnant and the parents forced the guy to to marry her. Do you guys think this is right? NOT NOW - There are plenty of single parents and girls/women who get pregnant outside the marriage. It's soooo common, that getting married first is not the norm anymore! Nothing to be ashamed of - You won't be the first nor the last! If you had a girl and some guy got her pregnant would you force her to marry him? NO - Ideally she would be tought to be smart enough to make good judgement and decisions and avoid putting herself in that situation. Should she get pregnant - STILL no need to FORCE them to marry - IF and WHEN they want to get married, they can... if not - AGAIN, won't be the first or last to have kids out of marriage.
Forcing marriages just would increase the chances of a later separation or of an unhappy married life!
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I personally wouldn't for so many reasons. The child could have been a result of a one night stand, or they may not even be in love, or know eachother well enough. I wouldn't want her to make two mistakes at once. I would have no problems with the father wanting to be a part of the babies life and if down the road they are meant to be then I wouldn't get in the way.
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Forcing your kids to get married 'cause they got knocked up (or knocked someone up) doesn't solve the problem. This is very old school way of thinking and sadly still occurs today. So would I do it, NO. Would I make them both take full responsibility of their actions... HELLLLZ YA!
I just hate how kids are popping out babies like its going out of style just for the sake of trying to keep someone. It's so irresponsible and immature. So, how does one avoid it? or atleast TRY to prevent it? Don't have ANY qualms about talking to your kids or little bros/sis' about sex and condoms and the consequences.
LaDyBuG wrote: Whether we think it's right or not.....they knew the consequences when they "did it"....lol.... they obviously don't think about the children as a result....they draw a blank in the heat of the moment it seems....
Actually the worst part for me is that they don't even think about their own health for a start. I mean if the baby is the result de la calentura........f@ck I am sorry but i don't buy the "ohhh, we had no tim to put it on, bal bla bla", there is always time.
Can you imagine how many pple's life can be in danger because of 1 time. Like the baby to be for example...............Wowwww that's being responsable !!!!
As for the parents forcing their kids to get married, too bad they can't realise that the disgrace, embarrasment and pple talking will still be the same and maybe worst that if they would have stayed appart. At the end, It's the "couple" that need to take the decision.
Sorry I think I need to stp the coffee this morning
Especially in our spanish community. The truth will leak and spread like wildfire. I also think it's bad when the girl who had the kid gets sheltered too much by the parents. It's definately okay to have family there for you and give you support, but not when they are going to be your welfare provider. Like I said there is nothing wrong with family helping you out, but I don't think it's okay if they allow the girls to stay home and not work or go to school. Just my opinion.
LaDyBuG wrote: Whether we think it's right or not.....they knew the consequences when they "did it"....lol.... they obviously don't think about the children as a result....they draw a blank in the heat of the moment it seems....
Actually the worst part for me is that they don't even think about their own health for a start. I mean if the baby is the result de la calentura........f@ck I am sorry but i don't buy the "ohhh, we had no tim to put it on, bal bla bla", there is always time.
Can you imagine how many pple's life can be in danger because of 1 time. Like the baby to be for example...............Wowwww that's being responsable !!!!
As for the parents forcing their kids to get married, too bad they can't realise that the disgrace, embarrasment and pple talking will still be the same and maybe worst that if they would have stayed appart. At the end, It's the "couple" that need to take the decision.
Sorry I think I need to stp the coffee this morning
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I've heard of couples who got married because the girl got pregnant and the parents forced the guy to to marry her. Do you guys think this is right? If you had a girl and some guy got her pregnant would you force her to marry him?
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I personally wouldn't for so many reasons. The child could have been a result of a one night stand, or they may not even be in love, or know eachother well enough. I wouldn't want her to make two mistakes at once. I would have no problems with the father wanting to be a part of the babies life and if down the road they are meant to be then I wouldn't get in the way.
I know several people in this situation.....who remained married but you can tell by a mile away that the guy is not happy and not in love AT ALL.....
Whether we think it's right or not.....they knew the consequences when they "did it"....lol.... they obviously don't think about the children as a result....they draw a blank in the heat of the moment it seems....
And some women make me SICK....getting pregnant on purpose to keep a guy and then saying anything and everything to justify it...like...ohhh I didnt want the baby OR ohh I didnt wanna marry him...HE was the one that wanted us to stay together....which is most cases the guy feels "obligado"......when only 50% was his fault.....women are such ___________ sometimes.....
Couldn't agree with you more. I have seen this happen as well
I've heard of couples who got married because the girl got pregnant and the parents forced the guy to to marry her. Do you guys think this is right? If you had a girl and some guy got her pregnant would you force her to marry him?
Discuss
I personally wouldn't for so many reasons. The child could have been a result of a one night stand, or they may not even be in love, or know eachother well enough. I wouldn't want her to make two mistakes at once. I would have no problems with the father wanting to be a part of the babies life and if down the road they are meant to be then I wouldn't get in the way.
I know several people in this situation.....who remained married but you can tell by a mile away that the guy is not happy and not in love AT ALL.....
Whether we think it's right or not.....they knew the consequences when they "did it"....lol.... they obviously don't think about the children as a result....they draw a blank in the heat of the moment it seems....
And some women make me SICK....getting pregnant on purpose to keep a guy and then saying anything and everything to justify it...like...ohhh I didnt want the baby OR ohh I didnt wanna marry him...HE was the one that wanted us to stay together....which is most cases the guy feels "obligado"......when only 50% was his fault.....women are such ___________ sometimes.....
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I've heard of couples who got married because the girl got pregnant and the parents forced the guy to to marry her. Do you guys think this is right? If you had a girl and some guy got her pregnant would you force her to marry him?
Discuss
I personally wouldn't for so many reasons. The child could have been a result of a one night stand, or they may not even be in love, or know eachother well enough. I wouldn't want her to make two mistakes at once. I would have no problems with the father wanting to be a part of the babies life and if down the road they are meant to be then I wouldn't get in the way.