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confundida wrote:

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Read this again and tell me if it doesn't sound insecure

NOPE, NO WAY IM INCLUDING HER.......NOPE NOT HAPPENING......THEY HAVE CAN THERE OWN LITTLE FAMILY TIME......I HAVE TO RUN IT PAST HER??? SO SHOULDNT SHE RUN IT BY ME WHEN THEY GO TO HER PARENTS HOUSE??? OR SHE DECIDES TO TAKE MY CHILD TO BDAY PARTIES.......

 

HOW DOES THAT SOUND INSECURE IF YOU GUYS ARE SAYING THAT I SHOULD CHECK WITH HER TO SEE HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT THE SITUATION.....LOOK I DONT LIKE IT BUT I HAVE TO ACCEPT IT, ITS PART OF THE TERRITORY......

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so wait are u willing to ask how she feels or not??? You will never understand until you are put in a position to choose! Wait until you day comes and then you will see how your +1 wants to be included regadless! you have also take into fact that Daddy and her are a family as well!

 

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NOPE!!! IM NOT ASKING NADA.....IF SHE HAS A PROBLEM WITH IT HE CAN TAKE IT UP WID HIS FATHER OR SHE CAN CALL ME ........BUT SHE SHOULD ACCEPT THE FACT THAT BEFORE THEM REGARDLESS WE ARE FAMILY.....SHE IS THE "ADDITION" OR "ATTACHMENT" THE ONLY WAY THAT I MAY CONSIDER IT IS IF IM LIVING OR MARRIED TO SOMEONE SAME GOES FOR HIM BUT UNTIL THEM FORGET IT!!!! NOT HAPPENING!!!!

LGigolo wrote:

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luna chiquitita wrote:

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OMG sorry that was soo funny... i just spit water out of my mouth

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As long as i twas water and not una palomita or anything that comes from la palomita!

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Guadalupana wrote:

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LGigolo wrote:

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Guadalupana wrote:

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LGigolo wrote:

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McOSIRIS wrote:

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Guadalupana wrote:

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I second that! Mc--pasame tu palomita porfa.

Gracias.

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disculpame...pero no le paso mi pajarito a cualquiera....

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Le estas llamando “UNA CUALQUIERA” a la Guada???

 

 

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Pfft ! y que esperas de Mc? the guy hates me!
Oh and LG, your popcorn icon seems to be spaced out a tad.

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FIXED the popcorn just for you!

here is one for you also

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ahem...me estas tirando los calzones?

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SI - SI... OBVIOUSLY!!

Cuando me los laves me los regresas por favor!

Guadalupana wrote:

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McOSIRIS wrote:

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I second that! Mc--pasame tu palomita porfa.

Gracias.

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Read this again and tell me if it doesn't sound insecure

NOPE, NO WAY IM INCLUDING HER.......NOPE NOT HAPPENING......THEY HAVE CAN THERE OWN LITTLE FAMILY TIME......I HAVE TO RUN IT PAST HER??? SO SHOULDNT SHE RUN IT BY ME WHEN THEY GO TO HER PARENTS HOUSE??? OR SHE DECIDES TO TAKE MY CHILD TO BDAY PARTIES.......

HOW DOES THAT SOUND INSECURE IF YOU GUYS ARE SAYING THAT I SHOULD CHECK WITH HER TO SEE HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT THE SITUATION.....LOOK I DONT LIKE IT BUT I HAVE TO ACCEPT IT, ITS PART OF THE TERRITORY......

McOSIRIS wrote:

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Guadalupana wrote:

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Pfft ! y que esperas de Mc? the guy hates me!
Oh and LG, your popcorn icon seems to be spaced out a tad.

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it's funny cuz it's true.... but I know you love it...

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confundida wrote:

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POINT OF THE PARTS THAT U THINK THIS ABOUT ME?? AND IF THIS WAS ABOUT ME LIKE YOU SAY IT IS TRUST ME I WOULD NOT BE DOING THIS......

Read this again and tell me if it doesn't sound insecure

NOPE, NO WAY IM INCLUDING HER.......NOPE NOT HAPPENING......THEY HAVE CAN THERE OWN LITTLE FAMILY TIME......I HAVE TO RUN IT PAST HER??? SO SHOULDNT SHE RUN IT BY ME WHEN THEY GO TO HER PARENTS HOUSE??? OR SHE DECIDES TO TAKE MY CHILD TO BDAY PARTIES.......

BRINGING THE OTHERS WILL NOT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING CUZ AT THE END OF THE DAY "WE" ARE THE PARENTS..... UNTIL ONE OF US ARE LIVING OR MARRIED THIS IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN......WAIT IS THE POINT OF BRINGING THEM TO SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH US IF THEY MIGHT LEAVE???

This is an ironic statement considering you broke up to begin with and one or both of you left the relationship already.   I'm not saying it is a bad idea to spend time together with your ex as long as you consider the significant others. 

STIMULATE?? U BIVIOUSLY HATE KIDS OR SOMETHING OR HAVE SOME KIND OF TRAUMA BUT ITS NOT STIMULATION IS CALLED REASSURANCCE...... I DONT KNOW WHY IM BOTHERING TO ASK THIS BUT ANYHOW....HOW MANY KIDS DO U KNOW THAT SAY MY MOM LETS ME DO THIS, OR MY DAD IS COOLER THAN YOU?? OR IM LEAVING TO MY DAD/MOM CUZ I DONT LIKE U ANYMORE??? AND THIS IS WHAT WERE TRYING TO AVOID BETTER YET LET ME BREAK IT DOWN TO U SINCE U SEEM TO BE "CUADRADO" BY DOING THIS WERE SHOWING "OUR" SON THAT HE IS NOT GOING TO GET AWAY WITH THINGS, THAT MOM AND DAD CAN PUT ASIDE THERE PRIDE OR HATEFULNESS SO HE CAN SEE THAT WE CAN GET ALONG AS ANY TWO PEOPLE CAN. THAT MOM AND DAD ARE NOT ENEMIES AND THAT HE WONT HAVE TO PICK SIDES. BUT YET AGAIN WHY IM I WASTING MY BREATH ON YOU.....

Genie already posted something similar to which I agree so I will refrain from responding 

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confundida wrote:

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That sounds awfully more like it is about you and not your child.   Including the significant other(s) will still accomplish what you are setting out to do and it not risk confusion for the child.  Why isolate yourselves and simulate something when you decided to be apart to begin with?

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POINT OF THE PARTS THAT U THINK THIS ABOUT ME?? AND IF THIS WAS ABOUT ME LIKE YOU SAY IT IS TRUST ME I WOULD NOT BE DOING THIS......

BRINGING THE OTHERS WILL NOT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING CUZ AT THE END OF THE DAY "WE" ARE THE PARENTS..... UNTIL ONE OF US ARE LIVING OR MARRIED THIS IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN......WAIT IS THE POINT OF BRINGING THEM TO SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH US IF THEY MIGHT LEAVE???

STIMULATE?? U BIVIOUSLY HATE KIDS OR SOMETHING OR HAVE SOME KIND OF TRAUMA BUT ITS NOT STIMULATION IS CALLED REASSURANCCE...... I DONT KNOW WHY IM BOTHERING TO ASK THIS BUT ANYHOW....HOW MANY KIDS DO U KNOW THAT SAY MY MOM LETS ME DO THIS, OR MY DAD IS COOLER THAN YOU?? OR IM LEAVING TO MY DAD/MOM CUZ I DONT LIKE U ANYMORE??? AND THIS IS WHAT WERE TRYING TO AVOID BETTER YET LET ME BREAK IT DOWN TO U SINCE U SEEM TO BE "CUADRADO" BY DOING THIS WERE SHOWING "OUR" SON THAT HE IS NOT GOING TO GET AWAY WITH THINGS, THAT MOM AND DAD CAN PUT ASIDE THERE PRIDE OR HATEFULNESS SO HE CAN SEE THAT WE CAN GET ALONG AS ANY TWO PEOPLE CAN. THAT MOM AND DAD ARE NOT ENEMIES AND THAT HE WONT HAVE TO PICK SIDES. BUT YET AGAIN WHY IM I WASTING MY BREATH ON YOU.....

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no matter what u do or say or show ur child this will happen!! WHY CUZ I DID IT MY PARENTS ARE GOOD FRIENDS BUT I STILL TOLD MY MOM EVERYTIME I GOT MAD THAT SHE SUCKED! WHY CUZ I WAS MAD AT HER! I TOLD HER THAT I LOVED MY DADDY MORE WHY CUZ I WAS MAD AND WANTER HER TO FEEL PAIN! NO MATTER WHAT  U DO OR SAY NOW WONT CHANGE HIM FROM ACTING OUT!!

ok WAIT A MIN!! LETS TRUN THE TABLES WHAT IF U WERE IN THE FIANCE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP AND HE WAS "SINGLE" AND HE WANTED THIS WOULD U DO IT?? AND DONT LIE!! CUZ I KNOW THE PAST THE ENTIRE PAST THE BEAMER PAST!!!

 

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confundida wrote:

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NOPE COME ON RESPOND......PLS!!!! WE DO SEE EYE TO EYE BUT ON DIFFERENT LEVELS......(LOL)

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           OK she has every right to be there!! Why? because obviously she has accepted that Daddy comes with a package trust me she wouldnt of put up with all this shiat for nothing!! what you are doing to a certain extent is creating problems for Fiance and Daddy! You have to realize that now He has someone and I think Julie has a point your having a hard time acceptng that shes gonna be around for a while!

           Lil Man knows alot and as much as me and u bug him about his daddy he knows that hes loved by both of u! He doesnt need to see u guys together once a month to know that! What he does need is to see that when his parents are put in a situation together they can be civil! Im sorry but when my parents divorced and David was about 4yrs old he didnt need to see mommy and daddy together to knwo that they loved him! or have a family date! we just knew that if put in a situation where they needed to be together they would act like civilized parents! thats about it!

just my two cents!!

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YEP AND I CAN ADMIT TO THAT......

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NOPE COME ON RESPOND......PLS!!!! WE DO SEE EYE TO EYE BUT ON DIFFERENT LEVELS......(LOL)

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           OK she has every right to be there!! Why? because obviously she has accepted that Daddy comes with a package trust me she wouldnt of put up with all this shiat for nothing!! what you are doing to a certain extent is creating problems for Fiance and Daddy! You have to realize that now He has someone and I think Julie has a point your having a hard time acceptng that shes gonna be around for a while!

           Lil Man knows alot and as much as me and u bug him about his daddy he knows that hes loved by both of u! He doesnt need to see u guys together once a month to know that! What he does need is to see that when his parents are put in a situation together they can be civil! Im sorry but when my parents divorced and David was about 4yrs old he didnt need to see mommy and daddy together to knwo that they loved him! or have a family date! we just knew that if put in a situation where they needed to be together they would act like civilized parents! thats about it!

just my two cents!!

McOSIRIS wrote:

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Guadalupana wrote:

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I second that! Mc--pasame tu palomita porfa.

Gracias.

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disculpame...pero no le paso mi pajarito a cualquiera....

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Le estas llamando “UNA CUALQUIERA” a la Guada???

 

 

Guadalupana wrote:

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y la avestrus?

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Guadalupana wrote:

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I second that! Mc--pasame tu palomita porfa.

Gracias.

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disculpame...pero no le paso mi pajarito a cualquiera....

@God: Stellas would be ok I guess...

confundida wrote:

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NO IM NOT LOOKING FOR APPROVAL AT THE END OF THE DAY ITS STILL MY DECISION BUT GETTING DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE IS GOOD......

NOPE, NO WAY IM INCLUDING HER.......NOPE NOT HAPPENING......THEY HAVE CAN THERE OWN LITTLE FAMILY TIME......I HAVE TO RUN IT PAST HER??? SO SHOULDNT SHE RUN IT BY ME WHEN THEY GO TO HER PARENTS HOUSE??? OR SHE DECIDES TO TAKE MY CHILD TO BDAY PARTIES.......

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That sounds awfully more like it is about you and not your child.   Including the significant other(s) will still accomplish what you are setting out to do and it not risk confusion for the child.  Why isolate yourselves and simulate something when you decided to be apart to begin with?

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GENIE wrote:

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confundida wrote:

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NO IM NOT LOOKING FOR APPROVAL AT THE END OF THE DAY ITS STILL MY DECISION BUT GETTING DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE IS GOOD......

NOPE, NO WAY IM INCLUDING HER.......NOPE NOT HAPPENING......THEY HAVE CAN THERE OWN LITTLE FAMILY TIME......I HAVE TO RUN IT PAST HER??? SO SHOULDNT SHE RUN IT BY ME WHEN THEY GO TO HER PARENTS HOUSE??? OR SHE DECIDES TO TAKE MY CHILD TO BDAY PARTIES.......

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im not going to respond cuz u and me never see eye to eye! But at the end of the day its all about RESPECTING EACH OTHER!

 

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NOPE COME ON RESPOND......PLS!!!! WE DO SEE EYE TO EYE BUT ON DIFFERENT LEVELS......(LOL)

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NO IM NOT LOOKING FOR APPROVAL AT THE END OF THE DAY ITS STILL MY DECISION BUT GETTING DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE IS GOOD......

NOPE, NO WAY IM INCLUDING HER.......NOPE NOT HAPPENING......THEY HAVE CAN THERE OWN LITTLE FAMILY TIME......I HAVE TO RUN IT PAST HER??? SO SHOULDNT SHE RUN IT BY ME WHEN THEY GO TO HER PARENTS HOUSE??? OR SHE DECIDES TO TAKE MY CHILD TO BDAY PARTIES.......

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im not going to respond cuz u and me never see eye to eye! But at the end of the day its all about RESPECTING EACH OTHER!

 

GENIE wrote:

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confundida wrote:

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SHE JOINED "OUR" LIVES WE DIDNT JOIN HERS..... SHE ACCEPTED THE "PACKAGE" THAT WAS COMING SO IF SHE DONT LIKE IT TOO BAD!!!! PLUS WHY SHOULD I CARE WHAT SHE THINKS???

LUNA WE HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR THE LAST THREE MONTHS AND ITS PRETTY KEWL.....

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            so IF YOUR ALREADY doing this then why are u asking us?? are u looking for approval or something??

 I think that you should and have to include the +1 he already knows that mommy and daddy get along which is great!! but if shes permenante then you have to show him how all four of you are a family like when you decided to introduce your +1 TO lil man then you bring him and make it five!! I do think that him seeing mommy and daddy alone with him may confuse him! i mean we are talking about a (INSERT AGE) year old here! as smart as he is trust me he can still get confused!!

And yes u do need to run it past her! Like it or not SHES HIS WIFE TO BE NO???

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NO IM NOT LOOKING FOR APPROVAL AT THE END OF THE DAY ITS STILL MY DECISION BUT GETTING DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE IS GOOD......

NOPE, NO WAY IM INCLUDING HER.......NOPE NOT HAPPENING......THEY HAVE CAN THERE OWN LITTLE FAMILY TIME......I HAVE TO RUN IT PAST HER??? SO SHOULDNT SHE RUN IT BY ME WHEN THEY GO TO HER PARENTS HOUSE??? OR SHE DECIDES TO TAKE MY CHILD TO BDAY PARTIES.......

confundida wrote:

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SHE JOINED "OUR" LIVES WE DIDNT JOIN HERS..... SHE ACCEPTED THE "PACKAGE" THAT WAS COMING SO IF SHE DONT LIKE IT TOO BAD!!!! PLUS WHY SHOULD I CARE WHAT SHE THINKS???

LUNA WE HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR THE LAST THREE MONTHS AND ITS PRETTY KEWL.....

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            so IF YOUR ALREADY doing this then why are u asking us?? are u looking for approval or something??

 I think that you should and have to include the +1 he already knows that mommy and daddy get along which is great!! but if shes permenante then you have to show him how all four of you are a family like when you decided to introduce your +1 TO lil man then you bring him and make it five!! I do think that him seeing mommy and daddy alone with him may confuse him! i mean we are talking about a (INSERT AGE) year old here! as smart as he is trust me he can still get confused!!

And yes u do need to run it past her! Like it or not SHES HIS WIFE TO BE NO???

Julie wrote:

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confundida wrote:

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God wrote:

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Julie wrote:

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confundida wrote:

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WHspecially if this +1 is meant to stay for good

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HUH???

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Confu, not you, ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ! Him, the dad !!!!! like you say, the g/f and as far as we know unless you forgot to update us, she is going to be in the picture for a longgggggg time no ?

 

Now, both of you Ke Te

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confundida wrote:

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Julie wrote:

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confundida wrote:

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WHspecially if this +1 is meant to stay for good

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HUH???

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Confu, not you, ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ! Him, the dad !!!!! like you say, the g/f and as far as we know unless you forgot to update us, she is going to be in the picture for a longgggggg time no ?

Now, both of you Ke Te

Confu... how does the new gf feel about this family outting?  I realize you shouldn't care but that could cause some friction.  Anyhoo.. I digress. 

The main thing here is that LiL man has stability.  Kids are very adaptable to changes as long as you are honest with them.  Stability, however, is most important.  I suggest you and lil man's dad pick a day of the month where the three of you go out and hang out (every month).  It shows LiL man that both his parents are a team.  Be consistent and he'll be fine.

Right now lil man is too young to understand why his parents are together but when he grows up, he'll realize that you both were there for him and at the end of the day that's all that really matters.

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AIGHT GUYS HERE IS THE SITUATION (mostly goes to parents)

WHAT DO U THINK OF A FAMILY DATE MEANING ME LIL MAN AND HIS DAD GO OUT TOGETHER ONCE A MONTH TO DINNER OR A MOVIE OR WHATEVER.....

DO YOU THINK THIS WILL CONFUSE HIM?? OR WILL THIS SHOW HIM THAT NO MATTER WHAT MOM AND DAD ARE A TEAM AND REGARDLESS OF THERE DIFFERENCE THEY CAN BE CIVILIZED ENOUGH TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER FOR ME???

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REGARDLESS OF WETHER OR NOT BOTH OF U ARE DATING DIFFERENT INDIVIDUALS , THE KID NEEDS BOTH PARENTS IN HIS LIFE. I THINK KIDS ARE NEVER TOO YOUNG TO SEE AND UNDERSTAND WTS GOING ON. THEY HAVE TO BE A PART OF BOTH PARENTS LIFES AND BOTH HAVE TO SUPPORT HIM EQUALLY AND BE ABLE TO SPEND TIME AS A FAMILY. IT DOESN'T NECESSARY MEAN TO LIVE TOGETHER BUT FOR HIM TO SEE THAT BOTH HIS PARENTS ARE THERE TOGETHER FOR HIM. IT SHOWS DAT NO MATTER WT UR SITUATION WITH THE DAD IS DAT IT WILL NEVER GET ON THE WAY IF HE NEEDS BOTH INDIVIDUALS SUPPORTING HIM EQUALLY. I THINK IT SHOWS DAT HE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN UR DIFFERENCES AS A COUPLE. HE WILL TELL U LATER ON IN LIFE THAT HE WISHED TO SEE THE TWO OF U TOGETHER SPENDING TIME AND MOMENTS OF HIS LIFE AS A KID THAT WILL NEVER COME AGAIN. IT'LL BE NICE FOR HIM TO SAY, "REMEMBER WHEN YOU, ME AND DADDY DID THIS". DON'T DEPRIVED HIM FROM THOSE MOMENTS!!! 

YEAH, BY ALL MEANS GO OUT ALL TOGETHER AS A FAMILY AND AS A TEAM!!!