DANNY wrote:

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Miel wrote:

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 simply stop looking or searching for a girl,. the right person will come to u,...and listen to Luna Chiquita ,.

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im not looking for a girl ma...i just stated that whenever the opportunity comes...thats all i run into...either girls with kids or messed up sluts...

ya ur right maybe its cuz of the places im usually at....clubs and all that...

I used to enjoy living the player life...but now its getting meaningless and boring....

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lolsssssssssssssssssssssss

Personally it does not matter 2 me if they have kids or not, is how u feel about the person, if u just want a good time then why do u worry about her kids?? but if u want something more then just fun then is another thing, but if u really care n want 2 be with this person u have accept here with her kids or what ever problems she has, cause even if some woman don't have kids they have some serious luggage so is all about how far u want 2 go with this person n how u both feel about each other..

 

This is just my personal opinion.

 

 

Juank wrote:

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Danny I agree with you. If you don't have kids you deserve somebody free without kids. I'm single, and wouldn't date a girl with kids... NO WAY... that's not my problem. I respect them, I believe that they are brave, I would be friends with them but unless that I'm inlove I wouldn't take care of a kid that isn't mine. It sounds selfish... but really is not. Is just common sense.

I wouldn't play with their hearts either, they have all my respect and any help my single parent friends need I'll be there.

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 Can you please elaborate on that sentence!! Because i don't understand how "not to date a single mother" is COMMON SENSE? I respect the fact that it's just not your choice and that's fine. But i want you to give me some major facts and reasons that can backup your statement!

Danny I agree with you. If you don't have kids you deserve somebody free without kids. I'm single, and wouldn't date a girl with kids... NO WAY... that's not my problem. I respect them, I believe that they are brave, I would be friends with them but unless that I'm inlove I wouldn't take care of a kid that isn't mine. It sounds selfish... but really is not. Is just common sense.

I wouldn't play with their hearts either, they have all my respect and any help my single parent friends need I'll be there.

people people!!!

im only obsessed with reggaeton and hiphop ....nothing more nothing less

naaa its all for laughs.....

ill probably get in trouble for this again.....

 

Daeveed wrote:

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- God asked Danny if he was 12

- Danny started to cry. (i.e. I'm not 12 you retard!!!)

your avatar looks like something a pre school child would enjoy

but your old avatar is even more hilariously stupid

goo complain B***..... see ya in a few hours!!!

 

 

-- Edited by DANNY at 00:55, 2006-10-25

TV Buff wrote:

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Daeveed wrote:

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TV Buff wrote:

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MiMi, my official summarizer, how I miss thee!!!

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- Danny says he doesn't like to date women with children because it's too ackward.

- Some people agreed and mentioned they were proud of being single moms.

- God asked Danny if he was 12

- Danny started to cry. (i.e. I'm not 12 you retard!!!)

- Buffy asked for a summary

- Daeveed summarized the thread.

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I wonder if Danny realizes that he has more in common with the women's kids than with the women. Maybe that's why it's awkward. Maybe Danny's mom and the single women with kids should set up a play date and everyone would be happy.

Can somebody (maybe God) translate this on Hooked on Phonics for Danny to read?

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That's so funny LoL Maybe that's the problem they both compete for attention at the same time LoL

TV Buff wrote:

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I wonder if Danny realizes that he has more in common with the women's kids than with the women. Maybe that's why it's awkward. Maybe Danny's mom and the single women with kids should set up a play date and everyone would be happy.

Can somebody (maybe God) translate this on Hooked on Phonics for Danny to read?

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Holly Funk!

The other mom may refuse to change Danny's diaper!

Daeveed wrote:

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TV Buff wrote:

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MiMi, my official summarizer, how I miss thee!!!

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- Danny says he doesn't like to date women with children because it's too ackward.

- Some people agreed and mentioned they were proud of being single moms.

- God asked Danny if he was 12

- Danny started to cry. (i.e. I'm not 12 you retard!!!)

- Buffy asked for a summary

- Daeveed summarized the thread.

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And i'm laughing at Daeveed's summary....

Can somebody give me a summary of what went on in this thread... I'd read it but when I see 1) It's a Danny thread and 2) that starts with "this may offend some of you"... I rather not read.

So, summary, please.

 

MiMi, my official summarizer, how I miss thee!!!

LGigolo wrote:

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Dating and going out with someone is one thing – and falling in love and wanting something serious / long-term with someone quite another.

 

Some guys, if not most – are open minded when it comes to going out on dates with women, regardless of them being single mothers or not.  After all, at least at the beginning, it’s not necessarily like you’re getting committed to her if you go on a couple of dates… if it doesn’t work out, no harm done.

When it gets complicated, I think, is when they start growing feelings for each other and wanting more of a serious/committed relationship with each other.  If she’s single – no kids, there is nothing else to deal with – other than their feelings and they are free to pursue a relationship and see how it goes.  However, when she’s a single mother, I think things can be a little harder for many guys to handle.  

As a mother, obviously, her first priority is going to be her child and that will always come first.  So, in a way – if the man may feel he is not quite getting all the attention he wants/needs from her.  She will have many more responsibilities as a mother and won’t necessarily be ready to go out on the town with him at the drop of a hat.

They also bring the issue of the “father” of the child.  If he is a good father, he will ALWAYS be part of THEIR picture – the child’s, the woman, AND YOU (the new man/bf/hubby) if you are going be with her long-term.  I think this may be where guys feel more threatened and worry that old feelings may comeback and they may get back with each other, etc, etc.

If a guy is to be involved with a single mother and wants something serious with her, he will have to work through that and be able to accept and deal with some of these issues.  It may be a little more complicated, but if he has true feelings for the single mother, he will accept her and love her with all that she comes with – her kids and her past.  As long as the two understand and love each other, there is no reason they can’t build a future together.

Saludos pa' las MAMIS (mamas - as in, with children!) solteras del foro!

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finally something good de esa cabezita tuya

Colombiana4Life wrote:

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Luna, Angelita and Salsera have pretty much paraphrased everything I would have said.  I think that reason you are finding a lot of "single moms" now a days is that a lot of people are not willing to put up with crap anymore just for the sake of the kids, finances, etc. If you're trying to hook up with women 25 and over, I guarantee you that more than half of them have children.  Like someone said earlier, a lot of women decide to hide the fact they have kids.  One of the first things about myself I tell people is that I have 2 daughters.  I will always be straight up about this but I will not introduce my kids to any man I may have an interest in unless I am sure that this is someone that will be worth and that it will be something serious.  I am not looking to get my kids a father because they already have one who is there for them and loves them greatly.  And I dont want my kids getting attached to just anyone, and if it doesent work out, its like they get let down again.  This is something that anyone who I may date will need to accept, like Confu said, that my kids come as a package with me and their dad is involved in their lives.  The fact that they have kids does not make them less "proper".

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If that means how I interpret it: Women with kids are not "worth" (for lack of a better word) any less - I agree.

@ Chica Wow: - ty

@ Angelita: See, you should have replied to my ad on "Sugar Mommy Wanted" !

Luna, Angelita and Salsera have pretty much paraphrased everything I would have said.  I think that reason you are finding a lot of "single moms" now a days is that a lot of people are not willing to put up with crap anymore just for the sake of the kids, finances, etc. If you're trying to hook up with women 25 and over, I guarantee you that more than half of them have children.  Like someone said earlier, a lot of women decide to hide the fact they have kids.  One of the first things about myself I tell people is that I have 2 daughters.  I will always be straight up about this but I will not introduce my kids to any man I may have an interest in unless I am sure that this is someone that will be worth and that it will be something serious.  I am not looking to get my kids a father because they already have one who is there for them and loves them greatly.  And I dont want my kids getting attached to just anyone, and if it doesent work out, its like they get let down again.  This is something that anyone who I may date will need to accept, like Confu said, that my kids come as a package with me and their dad is involved in their lives.  The fact that they have kids does not make them less "proper".

Dating and going out with someone is one thing – and falling in love and wanting something serious / long-term with someone quite another.

 

Some guys, if not most – are open minded when it comes to going out on dates with women, regardless of them being single mothers or not.  After all, at least at the beginning, it’s not necessarily like you’re getting committed to her if you go on a couple of dates… if it doesn’t work out, no harm done.

When it gets complicated, I think, is when they start growing feelings for each other and wanting more of a serious/committed relationship with each other.  If she’s single – no kids, there is nothing else to deal with – other than their feelings and they are free to pursue a relationship and see how it goes.  However, when she’s a single mother, I think things can be a little harder for many guys to handle.  

As a mother, obviously, her first priority is going to be her child and that will always come first.  So, in a way – if the man may feel he is not quite getting all the attention he wants/needs from her.  She will have many more responsibilities as a mother and won’t necessarily be ready to go out on the town with him at the drop of a hat.

They also bring the issue of the “father” of the child.  If he is a good father, he will ALWAYS be part of THEIR picture – the child’s, the woman, AND YOU (the new man/bf/hubby) if you are going be with her long-term.  I think this may be where guys feel more threatened and worry that old feelings may comeback and they may get back with each other, etc, etc.

If a guy is to be involved with a single mother and wants something serious with her, he will have to work through that and be able to accept and deal with some of these issues.  It may be a little more complicated, but if he has true feelings for the single mother, he will accept her and love her with all that she comes with – her kids and her past.  As long as the two understand and love each other, there is no reason they can’t build a future together.

Saludos pa' las MAMIS (mamas - as in, with children!) solteras del foro!

angelita wrote:

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confundida wrote:

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Papi wrote:

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that it's right if you like someone you should like no matter what, even if they have kids why did i say something wrong?

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WELL SORTA MAYBE...U QUOTED SOMETHING AND AT THE END U PUT THE ANGRY FACE....IS THERE SOMETHING THAT SOMEONE HID FROM YOU AND DIDNT TELL U UNTIL U FELL IN LOVE WID HER??

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 Pssst..CONFU, the angry face was there already!

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WAS IT?? I CONFUSE!!

i just quote another member and that what was on it.has for what you said no one has kept something like that from me.they have always told me. lol

that it's right if you like someone you should like no matter what, even if they have kids why did i say something wrong?

GITANA wrote:

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I THINK IF YOU REALLY CARE FOR SOMEONE, IT SHOULDN'T MATTER WHETHER OR NOT THEY HAVE CHILDREN...

I AM A SINGLE MOTHER, AND I ALWAYS MAKE SURE I MENTION IT... SIMPLY BECAUSE MY KIDS ARE A PART OF ME, AND ANY MAN WHO WANTS TO BE WITH ME WILL HAVE TO ACCEPT IT... OTHERWISE HE REALLY ISN'T WORTH IT...

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STOP EDITING !

God wrote:

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A Single mom have more mmmmmmm Brains than you because she has proven to be able to survive without a man. I don't think that single moms have been able to survive without a man,.. they have been reponsibles and caring for the child/children,even if the dad is still being responsible for the child/ren,..what ends is the relationship as couple not as parents,..

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ohh Danny Danny you can't get dumber than that...anyways I agree with you...there is not point of you dating a Single mom.....you know they have already their hands full taking care of 1/2 kids Plus you ! that would be a very heavy burden....

Anyways what you can offer to a single mom ? Economic Stability ? Partnership ? What can you offer ? Sex ? they can get it anywhere dont you think ?

A Single mom have more mmmmmmm Brains than you because she has proven to be able to survive without a man.

how old are you again 12 ?

Bottom line the only thing you can offer to anywoman is some getthoton and perro....

-- Edited by God at 19:12, 2006-10-21

This is a very interesting topic.

For starters Danny, where did you come up with this topic homie? damn, you've been soul searching havent you??

I think that if you feel for someone and that person so happens to have a child from a previous relationship/marriage you must be mature about things and accept them if you want to be with that person. I understand that the father of the child/children might be involved in their life and perhaps communicates with the mother for "financial support" reasons, but aside from that whats there to talk about? 

I myself dated someone like this. When we first met, I wasnt aware she had been married nor had any children, but I didnt have a problem with that. The kids were never an issue since they grew a liking to me and me to them. As far as the relationship between the mother and myself, things were good, the only thing that perhaps i was abit on the "unprepared" flex was having to share her with the kids. Spending time alone was abit difficult but someohow we worked around our schedules. Although in the end things didnt work out between the mother and myself, i still have a weak spot for the lil' munchkins.

Danny, I know where you're coming from because I was at that same spot last year. There isn't a decline in anything man, you just happen to be meeting girls with kids lately. If you can't deal with the fact that the girl has a child, then don't worry man, there's a sh!!tload of girls out there without kids.

Single moms, whatever the reason is for the father(s) of your kid(s) not to be in the picture, make sure that if you do decide to date someone, they understand that you come with a package and can handle it. Just because you have kids doesnt mean someone wont take you seriously.

-- Edited by caliche at 16:07, 2006-10-21

rick wrote:

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I would not date a girl with a kid unless I really liked her . I ll be friend with her , get to know her and then if i m in love I would date her . I wouldn play with someone with a kid ...

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sorry rick i personally think your wrong, being friends wid a single parent and then datin her are two different things....

aight let me ask everyone this.... regardless of the fact that she has a kid shouldnt u concerned that she is happy???