How To Be The Man Of Her Dreams
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Learn the secrets that unlock her heart. Jennifer Ha shows you how to be irresistible.


After all these years of dating, you've successfully mastered the art of getting dumped. Now is the time to get your act together, behave like the mature stud you are, and sweep women off their feet.

Follow these guidelines and you'll become irresistible to the opposite sex. Cross my heart.

Be Strong

If you're the type of man who rescues kittens from trees and is kind and gentle to every single female on the planet, you've got a problem. Yes, you read that right. Your girlfriend doesn't enjoy your inability to say no to your female friend's small requests, such as staying at their apartment until 2 a.m. trying to fix their computer. Just the two of you. Alone.

There's a difference between a person who's helpful and reliable, and a doormat that doesn't know how to gauge the intent behind and importance of others' requests.

Don't be Cheap

After treating your date to a $10 meal, it's not necessary to remind her that next time, she's picking up the tab.

She knows she's expected to reciprocate in the future. No need to say it out loud.

Get your Priorities Straight

If you're well into your 20s and getting plastered with the boys is still your raison d'être, consider re-examining your priorities.

When you're 17, your girlfriend should play second string to family, friends and school. When you're 27, you're going to have to move her up the food chain if you want her to stick around.

Be Humble

There's no quicker way to alienate a woman than to boast about your accomplishments. If you've got something good going for you, it will come out naturally in conversation. Besides, you don't want to give it all away at once.

Keep her guessing by slowly revealing more and more about yourself, and always behave with humility. It makes your accomplishments all the more impressive.

Put your Money where Your Mouth Is

Stop talking about how you're going to take your girlfriend to Europe on a luxurious vacation. Save your words--and your money--until you actually show up at her door with plane tickets.

Trying to impress her with grand schemes and lofty plans will get you nowhere in the long run unless you actually follow through on those plans. Otherwise, she'll gradually start disregarding your word, and you in time.

Take Yourself off the Market

Now that you've decided to commit exclusively to one woman, make it known that you're taken. If a woman approaches you, slip in something about your girlfriend. You can be subtle; just don't leave any room for misunderstanding.

Breeding misconceptions about your potential interest is unfair to her, and there's no need to tempt fate by placing yourself in an inappropriate situation.

No More I love You's

It's possibly the sweetest, most meaningful phrase in the world, but if you say it too often, it can lose its power. Never say it if you don't mean it. Love is different than like or lust. She knows what it means; so don't give her the wrong impression.

When you're ready to cough up the words, make it romantic. And even if you've already dropped that bomb, don't wear it out. Mean it each and every time.

Be Loyal and Trustworthy

Practice vigilance in all your relationships, including with your girlfriend, and you'll prove to her that you're a mature, loving and loyal companion--three things that every woman is just dying to find.

Be a great friend, brother, son and lover by sticking to your word, putting others first, exercising compassion and thinking before acting.

Learn from your Mistakes

Don't let one mistake become a habit.

Work hard to learn from each slip or slide along the way in your relationship. If you screw up (which you will), apologize sincerely and make an effort to ensure it doesn't happen again. Offer her the same breadth of forgiveness that you would hope to receive.


no games

Women want to be with men who are straight up about their intentions, desires and ambitions. They want men who are dedicated, considerate and honest. Don't play juvenile games with her emotions and she will respect you no matter what happens between you.

Be your best self when you're around her, and she'll be unable to resist the fantastic you!