I SAY just be smart about ending the date: order the most expensive dish, dessert, wine, champagne, whatever - then say you're going to the boys/girls room, make a left turn and never come back!
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i'm agree w/ Xavier why go througth the hard time making excuses if there r such a nice words to say like.... "this sucks", "this blows" etc etc..... :) save the kind stuff for when u really need it
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You're on a horrible first date and you just want out. Is there an easy way to do it? Justine Kim writes.
An occasional bad date is inevitable in the world of dating. We have all had them and have suffered through the trauma that goes with trying to end it as quickly and pleasantly as possible. But is there really a pleasant way to do it, leaving your date’s feelings intact? No, not really! Regardless of how you present it, someone is going to feel the bitter sting of rejection. It’s all a part of the ups and downs of the dating game.
So, if you are simply not feeling your date and you don’t have the pain threshold to stick through it, what is the best way to end it? Although there is no perfect, fail-safe way to do it, here are some suggestions for weary daters.
Be Honest
In most cases, honesty really is the best policy. If you aren’t having a good time, put an end to proceedings by being truthful with your date. There is no need to be rude or unkind in this situation. Simply let your date know that you don’t think the two of you are compatible and that you have had a lovely evening, but that’s all there is to it. Although it may seem tasteless, one of these cliché lines will usually do the trick. Hopefully your date is not a fool and he/she will get the point.
If a date is going badly, both daters will be feeling that negative vibe. So it won’t come as much of a surprise if you decide to cut things short and your date will only walk away from the ordeal with minor bruises to his/her ego. Most people will appreciate honesty over being strung along or left wondering.
Keep it Casual
If you and your date do not know each other very well and you are apprehensive about how the date will go, plan a casual date. Don’t plan an evening long itinerary. Instead, meet up in a way that allows you to easily slip away after thirty minutes or so if things aren’t going well.
Stick to one activity, such as a coffee date or a quick lunch. It is easier to suffer through a quick meal than it is to suffer through an evening that lasts for hours. The odds are that the other person will feel the exact same way and will also be grateful not to waste the entire evening on a dubious prospect.
Stage a Caper
It might sound juvenile, but having a back-up plan is sometimes the best way to get out of a bad date. Although I believe that honesty is the best policy, some people just don’t have the guts to deliver such frankness at the beginning of a date. Be forewarned that claiming a bad case of the flu or activating the ringer on your cell phone and pretending your mother is in the hospital can lead to bad karma.
If you feel such dramatics are the only way out, try this one – it always seems to work for the people on television: Meet your date at a bar where you know your friend will also be on a potentially disastrous rendezvous. Arrange to “accidentally” run into each other at the first sign of trouble. Maybe your date will get the point and leave. At the very least, you will have a friend to brave through the rest of the evening with you.
Cut all Ties
Are you one of those people that promises to call at the end of a date, but doesn’t really mean it? Never allow someone to believe there is more on offer than there really is.
Although it is tempting and perhaps you think it’s the nice, honorable thing to do, don't try to avoid hurting your date’s feelings by pretending you like them more than you really do. Do not lead them on if you don’t see a future. If you didn’t have a good time, end the date at full stop rather than keeping someone hanging on for weeks afterwards. And don’t tell him/her that you want to be friends unless you really mean it!
____________________________________ don't be so quick to judge
Daters must be cautious of pulling the plug on a date prematurely. Take a step back and evaluate what has gone wrong. Why aren’t you having any fun? Is it due to the fact that the two of you are completely incompatible and there is no way things are going to work out? Or, perhaps both of you are experiencing some nervousness.
Some couples claim their first date was awful because they were both overwhelmed by the first date jitters. If this is the case and you genuinely like the other person despite a disastrous date, give him/her a second chance.
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Not everything I post or say on foro are necesarily true facts. <- THAT is a fact! :blankstare:
why go througth the hard time making excuses if there r such a nice words to say like.... "this sucks", "this blows" etc etc..... :) save the kind stuff for when u really need it
