Lonely D, I'm sorry but I don't believe that lame excuse of depression, depresion of what for real. To me is called alguien se le metio por los ojos and now he wants to try something different. But you need to ask him and to be honest with you and to tell you the truth as much it may hurt but is better to know the truth than to go with life wondering what happen between us. Believe me you didn't do anything wrong, guys are usually put in positions and they don't think as us girls but majority of girls think with the heart y los hombres unfortunally piensan con otra cosa y cuando una mujer se les meten por los ojos they don't think of the other partner's feeling and emotions. We can't judge him either this is why you have to ask him whatever happen and to be honest. From there on you take your pride you don't cry infront of him and just let it be, you will find someone who will value and appreciate you and love you for who you are. And if it is meant to be he will come back but do not keep your hopes high either. Remember there are bigger fishes in the sea. just don't jump into any relationships just hang out with friends and families and take time for yourself to do things for you. PAMPER yourself
@FR35H: I don't think ppl here are following what the first person said,. if you read all the post u will see that everyone based their answers on different situations,.
In my opinion if a person is really depressed the first thing he/she should do it is to find professional help,. We don't know how long they have been together,. or what they have been through,. but breaking up just for DEPRESSION ,.. I don't think so,. it is a lame excuse ,. after what they have been through as LONLY_DESTINY has described,..the best that she can do is to talk with him,..as Genie suggested,.
keep your mind busy...party party chill with ur friends...workout and...most of all hide all the pics and memories of you two under ur bed or somthing!
this is crazy....one person on here gives an opinion and EVERYONE else has to follow and agree
Maybe he REALLY is depressed??? I'm sure that if any of you were in that position you wouldn't want to be around anyone. I mean he probably thinks that he can't make you happy & doesn't wanna dissapoint you & so it's better off you two aren't together. ...maybe he should go see a shrink/counsellor or something if his depression is that bad
I hurt her by saying things that would make her hate me. Now that i realize my wrongdoing, i cant get her back because she's skeptical of my true feelings and is still hurting.
as much as one tries, at the end of the day, its her choice if she wants to take u back.
Haha, you are right! But what i meant is, that if he wants some space to get over his "depression", then he might have more time to think about his life/relationship. He might realize that what he has with LD is not worth giving up on. He might just need some space, but i still think that he is doing this just so he can break up without hurting her!
Too bad that ur going thru this, I totally feel for you cus I know it hurts like a biatch.
Well I think you should do wat u feel is right u should do, but just remember NEVER, EVER BEG any guy to take you back. NOT, sooooooooooooooooooo NOT Worth it.
La indiferencia mata a cualquiera.....TRUST ME & if he cares he will slowly but surely come back.
Try it!
I agree with you! Don't ever beg a man and don't ever cry in front of him! If he cares then he will definately come back!
Too bad that ur going thru this, I totally feel for you cus I know it hurts like a biatch.
Well I think you should do wat u feel is right u should do, but just remember NEVER, EVER BEG any guy to take you back. NOT, sooooooooooooooooooo NOT Worth it.
La indiferencia mata a cualquiera.....TRUST ME & if he cares he will slowly but surely come back.
Try it!
I agree with you! Don't ever beg a man and don't ever cry in front of him! If he cares then he will definately come back!
I think it will hurt, but you should cry it out and move on. If you feel you had a good thing going that's great, but sound like he didn't. I've gone through rought times before and have needed time to myself, but I've never called off a relationship with my girlfriend/wife over depression or space. Sorry to say it, but life is tough. Your gonna have problems down the road at any given time. Do you expect to take a break everytime things go wrong? I don't think so. Move on. There's plenty of people that are right for you out there. Life goes on.
I DON'T THINK WE CAN EVER MEND A BROKEN HEART.... ALL WE CAN REALLY DO IS ADJUST TO THE FACT THAT WE HAVE LOST SOMEONE AND MUST MOVE ON....
I'M SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THIS... IF HE HAS ASKED FOR HIS SPACE, GIVE IT TO HIM.... AS MUCH AS IT MAY HURT.... LET HIM BE.... IF IT'S MEANT TO BE THEN YOU GUYS WILL FIX THINGS AND CONTINUE WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP
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LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
Too bad that ur going thru this, I totally feel for you cus I know it hurts like a biatch.
Well I think you should do wat u feel is right u should do, but just remember NEVER, EVER BEG any guy to take you back. NOT, sooooooooooooooooooo NOT Worth it.
La indiferencia mata a cualquiera.....TRUST ME & if he cares he will slowly but surely come back.
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
Have you tried sitting down and talking i mean heart to heart talk? IF not i recommend you do if you havent yet called it quits. Also things arent always what they seem and us as women tend to jump the gun alot and we think the worst or assume and then its the complete opposite! If you have tried it all then its done dont stress! if you havent then see if hes willing to meet you at a 50/50 level all cards out!
Welcome Lonely_D, I think all of the foro members are right, everything happens for a reason, and if someone wants their space, there is nothing you can do.
Try to do what u like to do with out him. Go out with friens or family be in group settings and try to have as much fun as possible, this will be hard at the beggining but it will get easier with time.
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
Well....
I don't mean to sound rude or cruel.. but he "probably" found someone else....look at it this way: he wants to end this relationship before he hurts you..
Don't worry... u'll get over this and will find something better... If it didn't work out it's because of a reason... Trust me--things always happen for a reason
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LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
I guess every relationship has their "details" that not the rest of us know....BUT based on your story.....I have to agree with almost everyone on here and say.....he doesn't want to be with you, just doesn't know how to tell you.....because he doesn't want to hurt you ...since he probably feels you're such a good person, you put up with him a lot.....and you don't deserve to get your heart broken......so maybe he's even "gladly" waiting for you to break up with him first......
This is probably a person who won't handle marriage....since he would have to be with you through thick and thin....good and bad moments.....he's obviously going through a bad moment and needs to "breathe"......BUT who knows....it could also be temporary......like a "break"....give it a 100% before letting go.....
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This one time, I broke up with this girl, so I thought that it would be a good thing to hurt like hell and mourn and all of those good things and then I got high.
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
Believe it or no, he is trying not to hurt you. I agree with others that this is an excuse to end the relationship. Regardless of his real reason(s), don't dwell on it and move on.
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
I'd personally go by the saying that "in clavo saca otro clavo"- Go out have fun and forget the past...
... I might be wrong - but sounds like he just using "going through a rough time" as an excuse to end it... but who knows.
That's not the way to go!!!
@ LONELY_DESTINY - If he broke it up, then maybe it's not meant to be! Somehow i feel like he just didn't want to be in a relationship. If i were depressed about a situation in my life, i would want my significant other to be there with me! I say, try to forget him and go out with your friends. Not necessarily a club, but go out for coffees etc.. distraction may help ease the pain from the breakup.
Same thing happened to me last year and Bellini is absolutely right!!! The guy just used his depression as an excuse when in all reality, he just didn't want to be in a relationship.
Cry and cry all you want, but know that everything happens for a reason and you'll definitely find better even if it seems like he's the best that you can get! Trust me!!! I found myself a winner!!!
Good luck bella!
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LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
If you're a girl just call McOSIRIS and he'll show you a good time...in fact it's gonna be so good that you're not even gonna remember your ex....
If you're a guy... just call Dogo and/or Mimi...they'll know what to do.
BTW, welkom to foro
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Marky Mark wrote: You need to cry and get it over with. Then get on with your life. He has obviously found other interests. Give him his space but there's no need trying to rekindle something that should be left alone.
OR
You could listen to every sad song in the world, look at old pictures and video of the two of you, call his number and hang up when he answers, park outside his house and 'wait', call his friends and ask 'where he is', 'why he hasn't been answering your calls,' stay home alone and think of how good you had it and what you did to screw everything up.
Marky Mark wrote: You need to cry and get it over with. Then get on with your life. He has obviously found other interests. Give him his space but there's no need trying to rekindle something that should be left alone.
OR
You could listen to every sad song in the world, look at old pictures and video of the two of you, call his number and hang up when he answers, park outside his house and 'wait', call his friends and ask 'where he is', 'why he hasn't been answering your calls,' stay home alone and think of how good you had it and what you did to screw everything up.
Oh wait, no... just do the first thing I said.
Now that's psycho!! Hahaha.........How did you come up with that. Hmmm, looks like you are familiar with something like that!
You need to cry and get it over with. Then get on with your life. He has obviously found other interests. Give him his space but there's no need trying to rekindle something that should be left alone.
OR
You could listen to every sad song in the world, look at old pictures and video of the two of you, call his number and hang up when he answers, park outside his house and 'wait', call his friends and ask 'where he is', 'why he hasn't been answering your calls,' stay home alone and think of how good you had it and what you did to screw everything up.
Pelon` wrote: First and foremost Welcome. Secondly, for him to actually just throw everything out the door..its either he's sick of you and wants his so called "space", or found someone new that sparked his interest.
How to get over him? wow thats tuff if you've been with him for so long. For the meantime I say hang around friends, family which don't or aren't always around him. Have a sleep over at your gf's house, read a novel, goto the gym, go shopping...I dunno do stuff women enjoy doing think positive...
HOLY STEREOTYPING BATMAN!
Well Lonely_D, after you've gotten through the pillow fights in your lingerie with your girlfriends, the entire Oprah Book Club collection and shedding all the access fat from your body at the gym, I say you take it day by day.
Consider that you are better off being with people that want to be with you. Trying to reason with someone that "needs space" is like beating a dead horse. Nothing good will come out of it and you're are better off just walking away. Besides, I'm sure you're a beautiful person (both inside and out) and you will find someone that will love and appreciate you for who you are and what you have to offer.
Now go put on some sweats, get a tub of ice cream and watch The Story of Us.
WAAAAT? One good crying session never hurt anyone!
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
I'd personally go by the saying that "in clavo saca otro clavo"- Go out have fun and forget the past...
... I might be wrong - but sounds like he just using "going through a rough time" as an excuse to end it... but who knows.
That's not the way to go!!!
@ LONELY_DESTINY - If he broke it up, then maybe it's not meant to be! Somehow i feel like he just didn't want to be in a relationship. If i were depressed about a situation in my life, i would want my significant other to be there with me! I say, try to forget him and go out with your friends. Not necessarily a club, but go out for coffees etc.. distraction may help ease the pain from the breakup.
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
First and foremost Welcome. Secondly, for him to actually just throw everything out the door..its either he's sick of you and wants his so called "space", or found someone new that sparked his interest.
How to get over him? wow thats tuff if you've been with him for so long. For the meantime I say hang around friends, family which don't or aren't always around him. Have a sleep over at your gf's house, read a novel, goto the gym, go shopping...I dunno do stuff women enjoy doing think positive...
LONELY_DESTINY wrote: Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
I'd personally go by the saying that "in clavo saca otro clavo" - Go out have fun and forget the past...
... I might be wrong - but sounds like he just using "going through a rough time" as an excuse to end it... but who knows.
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Hello Everyone, Im new here and had a few questions I want to know how do you get over a man who you loved with all your heart and yet he maybe going thru a rough time so has decided to end it with you? You have so much together yet hes willing to throw it all away for what for a depression because hes wants to be alone? Does that make any sense to you??
just don't jump into any relationships just hang out with friends and families and take time for yourself to do things for you. PAMPER yourself
Roses are red violets are korny, when I think of you Ohh baby I get horny...
Now that's psycho!! Hahaha.........How did you come up with that.
