Daeveed wrote: Motown Junkie wrote: Your cousin is going to KILL you when she reads this!!!! Why?? I said i don't care about this thread. I do care about my cousins. Speaking of your cousin.. he's hilarious! As for not caring about close relatives, I didn't cry when my gramps died... he was a Dick too. And it's not like we were distant or anything, i had to take care of him in his old age. But he made it clear at a young age who his favourite grandchild was and I was nothing.... yeah.. thanks dude. My mom was shocked I didn't show any emotion at his death bed.... oh well
We should start a SHITTY grandfather/fake grandfather support group. Oh no wait they are dead and we don't care so yeah no support needed. I was not only NOT sad when he died but I was actually kind of happy. I know it sounds strange but he was a bad man! I never even grew up around him but a cousin once told me he did some not so cool things to her when she was little. When I went to Chile once and he could no longer talk because of his illness.... I waited until nobody was around and told him that I knew he was a creep and that I knew what he had done to my cousin. He couldn't talk back but he could hear me Soap Opera style
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Daeveed wrote: Motown Junkie wrote: Your cousin is going to KILL you when she reads this!!!!
Why?? I said i don't care about this thread. I do care about my cousins.
Speaking of your cousin.. he's hilarious!
As for not caring about close relatives, I didn't cry when my gramps died... he was a Dick too. And it's not like we were distant or anything, i had to take care of him in his old age. But he made it clear at a young age who his favourite grandchild was and I was nothing.... yeah.. thanks dude. My mom was shocked I didn't show any emotion at his death bed.... oh well
Don't feel bad Mowtown. I mean yes you would feel sorry for anyone in that situation but if you don't know her it's not strange that you are not like devastated.
My mom's stepfather (fake grandpa) I call him was a real Asshole all his life in a million different ways. So I got the call from Chile when he died. My aunt is like "el abuelito murio" and I was like "okay I'll tell my mom" I didn't feel anything at all. I couldn't stand him so it was no real loss to me. I think my aunt was shocked at my reaction....actually I know she was cuz that is what she told the entire family but it was my genuine reaction. No use in pretending you like someone just because they are sick or dying.
I don't know it's like you always hear at funerals "so and so was such a great person" everyone is great when they are sick or dying....
Okay but gramps was a real d!ck! If this girl was just not friendly then that's different. Whatever you feel what you feel...
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WHETHER IT'S YOUR FAMILY MEMBER OR A STRANGER SHE'S STILL A HUMAN BEING.....AND DESERVES COMPASSION.....AND IF SHE WAS THE ONE THAT DIDN'T LIKE YOU...WHY NOT BE THE BIGGER PERSON AND GIVE HER A CALL.....
IF YOU DON'T FEEL ANYTHING...IT'S A SIMPLE CASE OF EMOTIONAL DETTACHMENT (LIKE BAINA SAID).....SO DON'T WORRY ABOUT THAT....
I GUESS JUST PRAY FOR HER AND OFFER YOUR HELP OR SOMETHING....
MORE THAN A GOOD RELATIVE BE A GOOD HUMAN BEING.
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I don't think you're obliged to feel sorrow for her after a not so friendly welcome; but she IS your half sister and who knows how long she will be in this world for... After what she's going through she may want to have a chance to reconcile with you so she can someday "go" in peace... I say give her a chance by calling her and saying hi and wishing her the best - if you DO wish her well... no good to hold a grudge forever.
Ummm.....well thanks to everyone about the kind words but I have nothing to say to her. What can I say to her that she hasn't heard already? I have no reason to forgive her. She didn't do anything wrong. She didn't know me, she's shy, and just has a one-track mind. I can't blame her for not welcoming me. To each their own, as I always say.
I was thinking of sending an e-mail???? Is that ok????
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I don't think you're obliged to feel sorrow for her after a not so friendly welcome; but she IS your half sister and who knows how long she will be in this world for... After what she's going through she may want to have a chance to reconcile with you so she can someday "go" in peace... I say give her a chance by calling her and saying hi and wishing her the best - if you DO wish her well... no good to hold a grudge forever.
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It's hard to feel any real emotions for people who you're not really connected to.
I have A LOT of cousins in Panama......but only a handful are real close. Some I don't even know by name........
I think I'd feel the same as you........I'd feel sorry for the person and for the situation....but it wouldn't be a heartbreaking as if it were one of my cousins that I grew up with.
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About 2 years ago, I went to Colombia for a month and met, for the first time, my paternal side of the family. I met all my cousins, which ironically enough, were all women. So, NATURALLY, when a new woman comes in the picture, the ears go back and the claws come out, so I didn't necessarily get a welcoming of LOVE.
Needless to say, I did get along with a few of them. We're all around the same age so it made things nice.
So here's the hard part: I just found out this morning that one of the cousins that didn't seem too fond of me has brain cancer. They took her to Cali and the doctors pretty much did what they could do but didn't give good odds. She's 22 years old and has a 4 year old daughter. So now it's a matter of day-by-day.
My "biological" father called me this morning and I felt bad that I didn't freak out. I was kind of like, "Wasn't that one of the girls that didn't like me?" and my real dad didn't seem to pleased with that response.
So, am I some cold hearted person or what? I do feel bad for her and for her daughter but I don't have the "family" connection with her even though we're still blood. I know that if I were to hear this news about any of my friends I would be devastated but in this case, I'm kind of like, "I'm sorry to hear" and that's it.
I feel like $HIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
-- Edited by Motown Junkie at 09:51, 2006-05-23
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Okay, so why's everyone's grandpa named Richard? You didn't answer my question.
Soap Opera style
Roses are red violets are korny, when I think of you Ohh baby I get horny...
oh yeah..the cousin thing...... i don't care. 
you're bad. 
"Most of us fall short much more by omission than by commission."
