NeNa wrote:

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El Duro wrote: I think it based on trust i have been ask to dance when i'm with my girl, and they have asked her and she doest mine and neigher do i, if your no secure im your relationship then u shouldn't be in one U said it right.. TRUST... ... and yes I ALLOW YOU to dance (all depends with who), but I'm always keeping an eye !!..   LOL....   (j/k)

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hahahahaha cuidado

El Duro wrote:

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I think it based on trust i have been ask to dance when i'm with my girl, and they have asked her and she doest mine and neigher do i, if your no secure im your relationship then u shouldn't be in one

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if you're going out for a special nite out with OTHERs, you shouldn't take your specail someone!!!

(just playing devils' advocate!)

PRINCESSA wrote:

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I find disrespectfull that girls come up to me & my b/f  and "ask him to dance" I'm like WTF just happened here? Do I look like I'm painted on the wall, so of course it puts him in an weird position, but he knows better then to say yes. (he's dead) LOL :aww: I also hate when girl come & literratly ask me if I don't mind if they can have a dance with him. In times I don't even know what to answer, because I'm so put on the spot?? I know he's a good dancer & what not but if him & I are out alone clubbing it's about ME/US not other girls wanting to dance, especially if I dont know them. I can be pretty easy going but don't step on my shoes. I'm not the kindest person either.  I don't think it's jealousy, It's just rude. I would NEVER in MILLION yrs. ask any guy to dance with me if I see him with a girl. It's not nice. Does anyone agree with me?? Maybe not??

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would you feel any better if a male, say Dogo - just for purposes of an example - came up and asked to dance with him?  would you say YES - even if just for the FUN of seeing them dance?

GENIE wrote:

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 IF I DONT KNOW THE GIRL THEN YES DISRESPECTFUL!!! NOW IF SHES A FRIEND AND I MEAN A GOOD FRIEND NOT JUST AN AQUAINTANCE THEN ITS DIFFERENT I WANT AN INTRODUCTION FIRST!! SO UR SAYING I SHOULD STOP ASKING XAVIER TO DANCE OK SORRY!!!!!LMAO

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LOL, LOL OMG not at all. If I know the girl, I have NEVER had any issues. You know that?

I'm referring to girls i don't know that are just at the club and that i guess feel like dancing.

Like friday he introduce me to some friend of his and literraly all she said was HI, your b/f dances good, I wanna dance with him. OMG my face pretty much said it all. LOL Then she has the nerve to ask one of my g/f that she kinda new way back in the day if she can dance with "X". Then to not make any worst she stand literrally infornt of him as he is dancing with my fea. Oh God lord- I was just about to knock her out. Then we decide to leave the club & she was dancing with some guy, she literly stopped dancing, left the poor guy on the dance floor for a bit & went to say bye to X & to aks him "Again" to dance with her before he left. I swear if not cause my friends know me well, they just kept me walking & OF COURSE NOT in hell would he EVER dance with her.

I'm more less referring to this kinda of situations, which really do bother me. I take it like she's disrespecting me & I won't tolerate it from her or anyone.

I find disrespectfull that girls come up to me & my b/f  and "ask him to dance" I'm like WTF just happened here? Do I look like I'm painted on the wall, so of course it puts him in an weird position, but he knows better then to say yes. (he's dead) LOL

I also hate when girl come & literratly ask me if I don't mind if they can have a dance with him. In times I don't even know what to answer, because I'm so put on the spot?? I know he's a good dancer & what not but if him & I are out alone clubbing it's about ME/US not other girls wanting to dance, especially if I dont know them.

I can be pretty easy going but don't step on my shoes. I'm not the kindest person either. 

I don't think it's jealousy, It's just rude. I would NEVER in MILLION yrs. ask any guy to dance with me if I see him with a girl. It's not nice.

Does anyone agree with me?? Maybe not??

I think that disrespect is when u do something that u are not supposed to do because u have bf/gf and those are things that for simple common sense u just don't do,. like tocuchy feely ,. or receiving phone calls late at night,.. etc,.... Jelosity is a sign of insecurity,.

Julie wrote:

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CrazyBeautiful wrote: how about chillin with ur man and then his ex gf calls him?... My ex had recieved phone calls from an ex with whom he kept an excellent firndly relationship and I had no problem with that. Actually this girl and myself get along ptretty well. How Ladybug often says, it's all about respect and trust. As well the way that the situation is brought to you, etc....

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i understand wat ur saying...but how bout when the ex gf styll has feelings for him?....would u still b ok with it???..i think that changes everything

Julie wrote:

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Don't even bother to answer girl ! Buffy will always have the last word as per herself

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Pfft!

 

 

 

 

Gotcha, Pfft's not even a word!!!

TV Buff wrote:

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 OMG! I thought Jade was a girl! Oh, wait, did she mean GF as in romantic partner or GF as in friend.   I confuse...   Anyhoo, continue with topic...

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         LMAO! You to funny Buffy....lol I am a girl!!..and Girlfriend as in a FRIEND that is a GIRL...I think I clearly mentioned in another thread that I aint no Lesbo..(no offence of course to anyone in here that is).....right EL MISMO!?!?! LOL

Jade wrote:

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Okay My girlfriend and I were debating this yesterday and reading the HI thread sparked curiosity: Are Jealousy and Respect the same? For Ex: You are in a group of friends and also with your significant other..and your friends tend to be "touchy feely" flirtacious like...and your significant other is also a very friendly person in general....and their behaviour towards each other gets you mad... IS IT BECAUSE YOUR JEALOUSE OR IS IT BECAUSE YOU FEEL DISRESPECTED....midnight phone calls..You significant other gets mad..is it cause they are jealouse or is it disrespect. At what point does it become disrespect and then jealousy?  is there a difference??...Does this make sense at all...I know what I am trying to get at its just kinda  difficult to verbalize it...

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OMG!

I thought Jade was a girl! Oh, wait, did she mean GF as in romantic partner or GF as in friend.

 

I confuse...

 

Anyhoo, continue with topic...

Lahtina wrote:

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Dogo wrote:
Jade wrote: Okay My girlfriend and I were debating this yesterday and reading the HI thread sparked curiosity: Are Jealousy and Respect the same? For Ex: You are in a group of friends and also with your significant other..and your friends tend to be "touchy feely" flirtacious like...and your significant other is also a very friendly person in general....and their behaviour towards each other gets you mad... IS IT BECAUSE YOUR JEALOUSE OR IS IT BECAUSE YOU FEEL DISRESPECTED....midnight phone calls..You significant other gets mad..is it cause they are jealouse or is it disrespect. At what point does it become disrespect and then jealousy?  is there a difference??...Does this make sense at all...I know what I am trying to get at its just kinda  difficult to verbalize it... It depends on the context, I guessMost people can tell how a certain "touchy feely" just felt... there's a different body language in flirtatious "touchy feely" than there is in a FRIENDLY touchy feelyI'm a single guy and maybe I'm more approachable because of that, so I get touchy-feelyed up quite a bit, lol .... coming from my friends I think nothing of it, and expect nothing of it.... it's just that, an expression, friendly appreciation


Me costa! © Vanessa_Sexy

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X@vier

Jade wrote:

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Okay My girlfriend and I were debating this yesterday and reading the HI thread sparked curiosity: Are Jealousy and Respect the same? For Ex: You are in a group of friends and also with your significant other..and your friends tend to be "touchy feely" flirtacious like...and your significant other is also a very friendly person in general....and their behaviour towards each other gets you mad... IS IT BECAUSE YOUR JEALOUSE OR IS IT BECAUSE YOU FEEL DISRESPECTED....midnight phone calls..You significant other gets mad..is it cause they are jealouse or is it disrespect. At what point does it become disrespect and then jealousy?  is there a difference??...Does this make sense at all...I know what I am trying to get at its just kinda  difficult to verbalize it...

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It depends on the context, I guess
Most people can tell how a certain "touchy feely" just felt... there's a different body language in flirtatious "touchy feely" than there is in a FRIENDLY touchy feely

I'm a single guy and maybe I'm more approachable because of that, so I get touchy-feelyed up quite a bit, lol .... coming from my friends I think nothing of it, and expect nothing of it.... it's just that, an expression, friendly appreciation

how about chillin with ur man and then his ex gf calls him?...

LaDyBuG wrote:

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Julie wrote: In order of appearance, I agree with Ladybug, Jade and Colo and Coccinelle again. Dejen de decirme cochina please!!!!  

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QEF ??????????? You almost ogt me here, nice try

La bête à bon Dieu

Julie wrote:

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In order of appearance, I agree with Ladybug, Jade and Colo and Coccinelle again.

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Dejen de decirme cochina please!!!!  

Oh....and let's not forget that the root of Respect is LOVE....

If LOVE does not exist towards a person, neither will the feeling of disrespect.....

And when it's not LOVE....then it's just about RESPECT...like in work relationships or towards humans in general....

LaDyBuG wrote:

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Jade wrote: Okay My girlfriend and I were debating this yesterday and reading the HI thread sparked curiosity: Are Jealousy and Respect the same? For Ex: You are in a group of friends and also with your significant other..and your friends tend to be "touchy feely" flirtacious like...and your significant other is also a very friendly person in general....and their behaviour towards each other gets you mad... IS IT BECAUSE YOUR JEALOUSE OR IS IT BECAUSE YOU FEEL DISRESPECTED....midnight phone calls..You significant other gets mad..is it cause they are jealouse or is it disrespect. At what point does it become disrespect and then jealousy?  is there a difference??...Does this make sense at all...I know what I am trying to get at its just kinda  difficult to verbalize it... Really good point....and I understood what you meant...the examples clarified it.... There's a thin line between jelaousy and disrespect....in THOSE cases..... #1 example: getting calls so late from another man is DISRESPECTFUL....and your man full rights to feel how he does.... #2 example: having someone else (a girl) being touchy feely with your man even if they are just friends is a good cause to feel a bit jelaous BUT for the most part she is being disrespectful to you if she knows it makes you feel that way and keeps doing it.... #3 example: if a man asks u to dance, let's say a friend of yours, then it's ok if you man gets a bit jelaous....human nature....but NOT dancing away the whole night and ignoring your man....now THAT'S disrespectful.....  

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I agree with all your points, Jade and Sis.  But in example #2, sometimes the girls dont know, or may know but they decide to continue acting in that manner anyway, but if your man does know, then he`s the one that somehow has to draw the line y hacer respetar a la mujer and vice versa.  Point #3 same thing, it`s ok for couples to dance with each other`s friends but to be wining up too close, that`s total disrespect.  It`s one thing not to get too close and to know it`s all being done in good fun and the heat of the moment, but sometimes la gente se pasa.

 

 

Jealausy is all about Power...

Thats that deal though Like I was telling my friend yesterday...I dont consider myself a JEALOUSE GIRL more like I feel disrespected when I have a man and my girls are all up on him (sorry for the ghetto slang lol ) anyways what is jealousy? Isnt jealousy to ENVY to want something ? that doesnt necessarily belong to you  or that you wish you had? I dunno wheres Baina ..pls define JEALOUSY..(it looks so weird am I even spelling it right?! LOL ..)

 

LaDyBuG wrote:

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Jade wrote:
Okay My girlfriend and I were debating this yesterday and reading the HI thread sparked curiosity: Are Jealousy and Respect the same? For Ex: You are in a group of friends and also with your significant other..and your friends tend to be "touchy feely" flirtacious like...and your significant other is also a very friendly person in general....and their behaviour towards each other gets you mad... IS IT BECAUSE YOUR JEALOUSE OR IS IT BECAUSE YOU FEEL DISRESPECTED....midnight phone calls..You significant other gets mad..is it cause they are jealouse or is it disrespect. At what point does it become disrespect and then jealousy?  is there a difference??...Does this make sense at all...I know what I am trying to get at its just kinda  difficult to verbalize it...

Really good point....and I understood what you meant...the examples clarified it....
There's a thin line between jelaousy and disrespect....in THOSE cases.....
#1 example: getting calls so late from another man is DISRESPECTFUL....and your man full rights to feel how he does....
#2 example: having someone else (a girl) being touchy feely with your man even if they are just friends is a good cause to feel a bit jelaous BUT for the most part she is being disrespectful to you if she knows it makes you feel that way and keeps doing it....
#3 example: if a man asks u to dance, let's say a friend of yours, then it's ok if you man gets a bit jelaous....human nature....but NOT dancing away the whole night and ignoring your man....now THAT'S disrespectful.....
 

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WOW this is too scary

is like we are reading the same book

X@vier

Jade wrote:

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Okay My girlfriend and I were debating this yesterday and reading the HI thread sparked curiosity: Are Jealousy and Respect the same? For Ex: You are in a group of friends and also with your significant other..and your friends tend to be "touchy feely" flirtacious like...and your significant other is also a very friendly person in general....and their behaviour towards each other gets you mad... IS IT BECAUSE YOUR JEALOUSE OR IS IT BECAUSE YOU FEEL DISRESPECTED....midnight phone calls..You significant other gets mad..is it cause they are jealouse or is it disrespect. At what point does it become disrespect and then jealousy?  is there a difference??...Does this make sense at all...I know what I am trying to get at its just kinda  difficult to verbalize it...

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Really good point....and I understood what you meant...the examples clarified it....

There's a thin line between jelaousy and disrespect....in THOSE cases.....

#1 example: getting calls so late from another man is DISRESPECTFUL....and your man full rights to feel how he does....

#2 example: having someone else (a girl) being touchy feely with your man even if they are just friends is a good cause to feel a bit jelaous BUT for the most part she is being disrespectful to you if she knows it makes you feel that way and keeps doing it....

#3 example: if a man asks u to dance, let's say a friend of yours, then it's ok if you man gets a bit jelaous....human nature....but NOT dancing away the whole night and ignoring your man....now THAT'S disrespectful.....