GENIE wrote: : NP GIRL, BUT YOU KNOW WHAT UR FRIEND SHOULD DO since she dosent know if buddy over here is cheating!! have her guy friends or girl friends bfs call her at all hours just for about a week or text nice messages just to mess around and when the shoe is on the other foot then he will respect her and her feelings to this situation sometimes ppl learn thru actions not words!!!
You know what I suggested that too to her..she told me she had asked him how he would feel if it were her getting txts and phone calls, she told me he said that he trusted her 100% ..lol what do you do with that? poor girl...I dunno I mean he is a nice guy from what i know..hes like borderline..DOG..i dunno its hard to decipher him..
Hey Thanks Genie...Yeah i sorta wanted to get a perspective of a male also..Thank Orale for me......I mean its only obvious right...You know it would be so nice if people were just honest. If your cheating..JUST SAY SO...better for the both of you anyway. But i think hes either in denial or his perception of things is WAY DIFFERENT then to the obvious..I dont know..people will have different perceptions of situations..and unfortunately one can either decide to see it that way and consider it okay orrrrrr walk away from it...as its not your cup of tea,,,sorta of speak...Yeah I think the plan is to first suggest meeting these girls if they are truly his friends..I mean they have been dating for a little past a year...it only makes sense if he seems to stutter at the idea...yeah then that would for sure seal the deal...so sad..but its reality...
NP GIRL, BUT YOU KNOW WHAT UR FRIEND SHOULD DO since she dosent know if buddy over here is cheating!! have her guy friends or girl friends bfs call her at all hours just for about a week or text nice messages just to mess around and when the shoe is on the other foot then he will respect her and her feelings to this situation sometimes ppl learn thru actions not words!!!
Jade wrote: Salsagal wrote: Has he ever encouraged your friend to speak to any of these "girlfriend"? I know she told me once that they were at the club and that he had seen one of his friends there and he wanted to introduce her to her but he just didnt get to ...mind you this is like a few times after she had urged him apparently that she needed to meet these "girlfriends" Hey Jade I asked Orale to read this and give input as a males point of view and hes said he may not be fullying cheating yet maybe its friends that is developing into some kind of romance! the only calls he should get at -3-4 am is his true girlfriends who are drunk and need someone to talk to! But hes on the verge of cheating sad to know but its true!!!!
Hey Thanks Genie...Yeah i sorta wanted to get a perspective of a male also..Thank Orale for me......I mean its only obvious right...You know it would be so nice if people were just honest. If your cheating..JUST SAY SO...better for the both of you anyway. But i think hes either in denial or his perception of things is WAY DIFFERENT then to the obvious..I dont know..people will have different perceptions of situations..and unfortunately one can either decide to see it that way and consider it okay orrrrrr walk away from it...as its not your cup of tea,,,sorta of speak...Yeah I think the plan is to first suggest meeting these girls if they are truly his friends..I mean they have been dating for a little past a year...it only makes sense if he seems to stutter at the idea...yeah then that would for sure seal the deal...so sad..but its reality...
Salsagal wrote: Has he ever encouraged your friend to speak to any of these "girlfriend"? I know she told me once that they were at the club and that he had seen one of his friends there and he wanted to introduce her to her but he just didnt get to ...mind you this is like a few times after she had urged him apparently that she needed to meet these "girlfriends"
Hey Jade I asked Orale to read this and give input as a males point of view and hes said he may not be fullying cheating yet maybe its friends that is developing into some kind of romance! the only calls he should get at -3-4 am is his true girlfriends who are drunk and need someone to talk to! But hes on the verge of cheating sad to know but its true!!!!
I told her that he should respect her since they have been together that long..or at least try to compromise..but he seems not be willing to as he says HES DOING NOTHING WRONG..so I dunno...-- Edited by Jade at 10:09, 2006-04-24
Of course he is ... having friends is no problemo especially if these friends have been there before the relationship ... but come on midnight ummm noo not acceptable ...
The friends should also respect their friends partner and put themselves in the situation ...
Jade wrote: LGigolo wrote: Jade wrote: No i thought the same..what you said, bluntly enough, is true....so you should be proud of yourself for making sense... Hes totally adament though it seems...apparently hes lost his friends before (at least thats his excuse) when dating his ex...and thats why he feels like he doesnt want to stop talking to his friends now..which are mostly girls... Its a real hard situation to be in..I think... hey it could be worst... his friends could be only BOIS! I think any girl would prefer their men having more guy friends then girls...I think... We girls...are evil! lol I'm not sure you caught my drift
LGigolo wrote: Jade wrote: No i thought the same..what you said, bluntly enough, is true....so you should be proud of yourself for making sense... Hes totally adament though it seems...apparently hes lost his friends before (at least thats his excuse) when dating his ex...and thats why he feels like he doesnt want to stop talking to his friends now..which are mostly girls... Its a real hard situation to be in..I think... hey it could be worst... his friends could be only BOIS!
I think any girl would prefer their men having more guy friends then girls...I think... We girls...are evil! lol
I'm not sure you caught my drift
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Sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. In that i mean that he wants to feel like a playa, but not actually be playin. And so sure he's not cheating but there are various forms of cheating. Im sure he's not screwing them but somethings up 4 shur
Sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. In that i mean that he wants to feel like a playa, but not actually be playin. And so sure he's not cheating but there are various forms of cheating. Im sure he's not screwing them but somethings up 4 shur
Has he ever encouraged your friend to speak to any of these "girlfriend"?
I know she told me once that they were at the club and that he had seen one of his friends there and he wanted to introduce her to her but he just didnt get to ...mind you this is like a few times after she had urged him apparently that she needed to meet these "girlfriends"
Jade wrote: No i thought the same..what you said, bluntly enough, is true....so you should be proud of yourself for making sense... Hes totally adament though it seems...apparently hes lost his friends before (at least thats his excuse) when dating his ex...and thats why he feels like he doesnt want to stop talking to his friends now..which are mostly girls... Its a real hard situation to be in..I think... hey it could be worst... his friends could be only BOIS!
I think any girl would prefer their men having more guy friends then girls...I think... We girls...are evil! lol
No i thought the same..what you said, bluntly enough, is true....so you should be proud of yourself for making sense... Hes totally adament though it seems...apparently hes lost his friends before (at least thats his excuse) when dating his ex...and thats why he feels like he doesnt want to stop talking to his friends now..which are mostly girls... Its a real hard situation to be in..I think...
hey it could be worst... his friends could be only BOIS!
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let them BELIEVE that!!!) Hey PMing after midnite sounds normal between friends… … with BENEFITS! You know when posting this...I thought maybe i could get some kind of positive feed back but just like as suspected, one can only look at it negatively....its true...i think I know what I have to tell my friend... Hey, I was just trying to stir the pot… but thinking about it, whatever I did say does make sense (for the first time in my life!)… But there is still a little chance that they could only be friends… all I know, I wouldn’t want to be on the girl’s shoes! If he cares at all for the girlfriend, he needs to be considerate and (pardon the pun) keep his affairs away from right in front of her nose. I would just ask HIM to put himself on her shoes and ask him how he would like it.
No i thought the same..what you said, bluntly enough, is true....so you should be proud of yourself for making sense... Hes totally adament though it seems...apparently hes lost his friends before (at least thats his excuse) when dating his ex...and thats why he feels like he doesnt want to stop talking to his friends now..which are mostly girls... Its a real hard situation to be in..I think...
LGigolo wrote: Jade wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: God wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: Now if he starts hiding his phone, or stepping out to talk, then that should give you more food for thought. Que te pasa ! it's called Privacy Ya Ok Dont make me tell your girl, ahi si ya no te va a ser fiel Speaking about girls being unfaithfull. why is it that they say that women are better at hiding affairs then men are? are we women really smarter then men?>? (yes call me a firestarter..lol) -- Edited by Jade at 13:37, 2006-04-24 YES, DEFINITELY – Women are WAY SMARTER than men!!!! (We guys know we best let them BELIEVE that!!!) Hey PMing after midnite sounds normal between friends… … with BENEFITS! You know when posting this...I thought maybe i could get some kind of positive feed back but just like as suspected, one can only look at it negatively....its true...i think I know what I have to tell my friend...
Hey, I was just trying to stir the pot… but thinking about it, whatever I did say does make sense (for the first time in my life!)…
But there is still a little chance that they could only be friends… all I know, I wouldn’t want to be on the girl’s shoes!
If he cares at all for the girlfriend, he needs to be considerate and (pardon the pun) keep his affairs away from right in front of her nose. I would just ask HIM to put himself on her shoes and ask him how he would like it.
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Jade wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: God wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: Now if he starts hiding his phone, or stepping out to talk, then that should give you more food for thought. Que te pasa ! it's called Privacy Ya Ok Dont make me tell your girl, ahi si ya no te va a ser fiel Speaking about girls being unfaithfull. why is it that they say that women are better at hiding affairs then men are? are we women really smarter then men?>? (yes call me a firestarter..lol) -- Edited by Jade at 13:37, 2006-04-24 YES, DEFINITELY – Women are WAY SMARTER than men!!!! (We guys know we best let them BELIEVE that!!!) Hey PMing after midnite sounds normal between friends… … with BENEFITS!
You know when posting this...I thought maybe i could get some kind of positive feed back but just like as suspected, one can only look at it negatively....its true...i think I know what I have to tell my friend...
Colombiana4Life wrote: God wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: Now if he starts hiding his phone, or stepping out to talk, then that should give you more food for thought. Que te pasa ! it's called Privacy Ya Ok Dont make me tell your girl, ahi si ya no te va a ser fiel Speaking about girls being unfaithfull. why is it that they say that women are better at hiding affairs then men are? are we women really smarter then men?>? (yes call me a firestarter..lol) -- Edited by Jade at 13:37, 2006-04-24
YES, DEFINITELY – Women are WAY SMARTER than men!!!!
(We guys know we best let them BELIEVE that!!!)
Hey PMing after midnite sounds normal between friends…
… with BENEFITS!
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God wrote: Colombiana4Life wrote: Now if he starts hiding his phone, or stepping out to talk, then that should give you more food for thought. Que te pasa ! it's called Privacy Ya Ok Dont make me tell your girl, ahi si ya no te va a ser fiel
Speaking about girls being unfaithfull. why is it that they say that women are better at hiding affairs then men are? are we women really smarter then men?>? (yes call me a firestarter..lol)
Colombiana4Life wrote: Now if he starts hiding his phone, or stepping out to talk, then that should give you more food for thought. Que te pasa ! it's called Privacy
Ya Ok Dont make me tell your girl, ahi si ya no te va a ser fiel
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That should not be happening, but it`s disrespectful of the girls too, especially if they know that he has a girl. Now if he starts hiding his phone, or stepping out to talk, then that should give you more food for thought.
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Jade wrote: Salsera de Corazon wrote: You know what I am sorry to tell you this, but he is cheating on her, and what she should do is just grab the # that is calling at that time and call, and she'll find out that she is just not a friend, unless she is o.k or she knows that he is with you Even if he says they are just friends and he talks with them infront of her? well you know what, if he talks to them in front of her, how come they called him in the freaking middle of the night, what happen to respect to your freaking girl next to you
exactly my point....it may very well be that the issue here has very little to do with ACTUAL CHEATING but I think most of the issue has to do with the DISRESPECT...
well on top of that hes not latin...so do you think thats a difference? I mean she tells me he really doesnt think hes doing anything wrong....She's latina so yeah shes thinks yah okay your not cheating but its still disrespect...
Salsera de Corazon wrote: You know what I am sorry to tell you this, but he is cheating on her, and what she should do is just grab the # that is calling at that time and call, and she'll find out that she is just not a friend, unless she is o.k or she knows that he is with you Even if he says they are just friends and he talks with them infront of her?
well you know what, if he talks to them in front of her, how come they called him in the freaking middle of the night, what happen to respect to your freaking girl next to you
You know what I am sorry to tell you this, but he is cheating on her, and what she should do is just grab the # that is calling at that time and call, and she'll find out that she is just not a friend, unless she is o.k or she knows that he is with you
Even if he says they are just friends and he talks with them infront of her?
You know what I am sorry to tell you this, but he is cheating on her, and what she should do is just grab the # that is calling at that time and call, and she'll find out that she is just not a friend, unless she is o.k or she knows that he is with you
Jade wrote: Holy crap! what did you tell them? STOP CALLING MY BF? just like that?! and did he get mad? I ASKED WHAT THEY HAD.... OBVIOUSLY SHE SAID SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THAN WHAT HE SAID! I THEN CONFRONTED HIM AND HE SAID TO ME THAT THEY WERE JUST FRIENDS AND THAT I WAS SIMPLY TRIPPING AND THAT I WOULD NOT GO TO THE EXTENT OF CALLING ANYONE.... I THEN GAVE HIM THE NUMBER OF HIS SO CALLED FRIEND.... HE WAS SHOCKED AND THEN I HAVE HIM THE BOOT!!!
I agree with Gitana. If you're in a relationship trying to take it serious then there's always a respectable time for people to call you at. If you trully care for the girl then you'll tell ya girl friends not to call so late, I'm sure they'll understand. As for txt msg's those can be ignored and received during the morning.
Jade wrote: Holy crap! what did you tell them? STOP CALLING MY BF? just like that?! and did he get mad? I ASKED WHAT THEY HAD.... OBVIOUSLY SHE SAID SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THAN WHAT HE SAID! I THEN CONFRONTED HIM AND HE SAID TO ME THAT THEY WERE JUST FRIENDS AND THAT I WAS SIMPLY TRIPPING AND THAT I WOULD NOT GO TO THE EXTENT OF CALLING ANYONE.... I THEN GAVE HIM THE NUMBER OF HIS SO CALLED FRIEND.... HE WAS SHOCKED AND THEN I HAVE HIM THE BOOT!!!
Okay yeah... see my worry exactly... sorry to hear Hun ... Bastard!
see I almost think that the best solution to her problems would be to actually MEET these girls..to see what kind of relationship they have....or yeah just to talk to them to make sure everything is good..I mean if they are JUST HIS FRIENDS he should have NO PROBLEM letting his GF meet his "friends"..rite??
Any foro boys have any opinion on this? I d like to hear a guys take on this?
Holy crap! what did you tell them? STOP CALLING MY BF? just like that?! and did he get mad?
I ASKED WHAT THEY HAD.... OBVIOUSLY SHE SAID SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THAN WHAT HE SAID!
I THEN CONFRONTED HIM AND HE SAID TO ME THAT THEY WERE JUST FRIENDS AND THAT I WAS SIMPLY TRIPPING AND THAT I WOULD NOT GO TO THE EXTENT OF CALLING ANYONE.... I THEN GAVE HIM THE NUMBER OF HIS SO CALLED FRIEND.... HE WAS SHOCKED AND THEN I HAVE HIM THE BOOT!!!
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Jade wrote: She has asked him too stop...he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong..I too find it stupid and strange...anyways...how did you resolve the problem??? I GOT THE NUMBERS FROM HIS TEXT MSG'S AND I CALLED !!! A FEW MINUTES AFTER DOING SO, WE BROKE UP!!!
Holy crap! what did you tell them? STOP CALLING MY BF? just like that?! and did he get mad?
She has asked him too stop...he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong..I too find it stupid and strange...anyways...how did you resolve the problem???
I GOT THE NUMBERS FROM HIS TEXT MSG'S AND I CALLED !!! A FEW MINUTES AFTER DOING SO, WE BROKE UP!!!
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I HAD THE EXACT SAME THING HAPPEN TO ME! MY B/F AT THE TIME USED TO GET CALL/TEXT MSG'S FROM GIRLS ALL THE TIME.... OKAY FINE, SO HE HAD GIRL FRIENDS.... I NEVER HAD A PROBLEM WITH THAT, BUT ONCE HE STARTED RECEIVING CALLS AND MESSAGES I STARTED TO WONDER!!! I DON'T SEE WHY A FRIEND WOULD CALL YOU SO DAMN LATE AT NIGHT!!! LOL (UNLESS OF COURSE THEY ARE DRUNK) BUT TO SEE WHAT YOU ARE DOING? C'MON !! I THINK THAT IF YOUR BF/GF KNEW THAT A SITUATION LIKE THIS BOTHERED YOU, AND IF HE/SHE HAD NOTHING TO HIDE THEN HE SHOULD ASK THESE SO CALLED FRIENDS TO STOP DOING THAT!!!, AND WELL IF HE/SHE DOESN'T THEN JUST GET THE NUMBER AND YOU DO IT!!!
She has asked him too stop...he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong..I too find it stupid and strange...anyways...how did you resolve the problem???
I HAD THE EXACT SAME THING HAPPEN TO ME! MY B/F AT THE TIME USED TO GET CALL/TEXT MSG'S FROM GIRLS ALL THE TIME.... OKAY FINE, SO HE HAD GIRL FRIENDS.... I NEVER HAD A PROBLEM WITH THAT, BUT ONCE HE STARTED RECEIVING CALLS AND MESSAGES I STARTED TO WONDER!!!
I DON'T SEE WHY A FRIEND WOULD CALL YOU SO DAMN LATE AT NIGHT!!! LOL (UNLESS OF COURSE THEY ARE DRUNK) BUT TO SEE WHAT YOU ARE DOING? C'MON !!
I THINK THAT IF YOUR BF/GF KNEW THAT A SITUATION LIKE THIS BOTHERED YOU, AND IF HE/SHE HAD NOTHING TO HIDE THEN HE SHOULD ASK THESE SO CALLED FRIENDS TO STOP DOING THAT!!!, AND WELL IF HE/SHE DOESN'T THEN JUST GET THE NUMBER AND YOU DO IT!!!
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So I was talking to one of my girlfriends..and shes in a bit of a rut with her bf...
She was telling me that her bf (of one yr) gets midnite phone calls/texts (@ 3-4 am). They are 99% of the time girls calling/texting him...different girls...but he's told her that they are just friends and that she should trust him...when she asks him who they are he tells her..and he doesnt hide or anything and he talks infront of her...she's never met any of these girls that he calls friends...so that maybe the problem for her insecurity. but anyhow..it goes a little beyond that for her..she feels its just plain disrespectful for these girls to be calling/txt him @ all hrs of the nite. Shes got friends that are guys and they are not calling her @ midnite. She's told him that it bothers her that he gets these midnite calls but he feels that hes doing nothing wrong, hes not cheating on her or anything like that...they are just friends. I know she told me that one time a girl texted him (because he told her) " looking forward to seeing you again" and he replied "me too" which pissed her off even more even though he thought there was nothing wrong in that....cuz they are just friends...
So what do you guys think, should she be worried? Is it considered disrespect to her and her relationship with him that these girls are calling/txt him so late at nite ?? anyone would like to share if youve had similar experience..shes so frustruated with this...she doesnt know what to do....
I told her that he should respect her since they have been together that long..or at least try to compromise..but he seems not be willing to as he says HES DOING NOTHING WRONG..so I dunno...
.Yeah i sorta wanted to get a perspective of a male also..Thank Orale for me..
...mind you this is like a few times after she had urged him apparently that she needed to meet these "girlfriends" Hey Jade I asked Orale to read this and give input as a males point of view and hes said he may not be fullying cheating yet maybe its friends that is developing into some kind of romance! the only calls he should get at -3-4 am is his true girlfriends who are drunk and need someone to talk to! But hes on the verge of cheating sad to know but its true!!!! 
