I THINK EVERYONE WANTS TO KNOW "WHY" SOMETHING HAPPENED..
IF WE ARE SPEAKING IN RELATIONSHIP TERMS...I WOULD LIKE TO FIND CLOSURE...IF THE RELATIONSHIP WAS A LENGTHY ONE...AND ONE THAT I INVESTED MOST OF MY TIME AND EMOTIONS IN...
I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW "WHAT"..."HOW"..."WHO"..."WHEN" AND "WHY"...
HOWEVER...IF IT WAS A SHORT RELATIONSHIP...THAT ENDED UP NO WHERE...THEN THERE WILL ALWAYS BE THAT "SHIT WHAT HAPPENED" WITH A... "I LIVE AND I LEARN" ATTITUDE...
I GUESS IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE PERSON AND THE SITUATION...
some people would say that people who are ruled by their emotions are weak people..True or False?
That`s a toughie. I think it can make you weaker one or stronger one, depending on the situations.
@Salsagal - I think that sometimes emotions make you take irrational decisions as well. Sometimes people act on emotion instead of logic and it will end up being a situation that is NO GOOD (cc nash)
@Neruda - you make a good point. I still love u twin
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neruda wrote: Perhaps you are a victim ofself-fulfilling prophecy -you believe something might happen and so conciously, or uncosiously, you help it along. It makes it difficult to get through the rough patches in a relationship. And every relationship has the occasional rough patch. Long term relationship are hard to come by with this type of behaviour. -- Edited by neruda at 15:57, 2006-04-12 Thanks Dr. Neruda
You'll be known as Damiana from this day forward.
Hey, Chile, there's a name for Pupusita Jr.
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Perhaps you are a victim of self-fulfilling prophecy -you believe something might happen and so conciously, or uncosiously, you help it along. It makes it difficult to get through the rough patches in a relationship. And every relationship has the occasional rough patch. Long term relationship are hard to come by with this type of behaviour. -- Edited by neruda at 15:57, 2006-04-12
Im pretty good at sensing things before they happen, so I bring myself to terms with it before it actually happens... just makes it easier to swallow I guess.
Perhaps you are a victim of self-fulfilling prophecy -you believe something might happen and so conciously, or uncosiously, you help it along. It makes it difficult to get through the rough patches in a relationship. And every relationship has the occasional rough patch. Long term relationship are hard to come by with this type of behaviour.
Closure is extremely important when it comes to matters of the heart. Back in high school, i had broken up with my 1st baby's father and then we each started dating each others friends. (hey it was highschool), but now i wish that we had parted under better circumstances. i find myself always peeking at the obituaries, hoping not to see his pic there.
LaDyBuG wrote: SO WHAT YOU'RE SAYING IS..... THAT YOU ARE NOT A STALKER, CRAZY PSYCHO EX MATERIAL WITH NO DIGNITY OR JUST EXTREMELY AND BLINDLY IN LOVE..... oh no, no... of course I am... i just dont let HIM see it... LOL!@ Colo: I dont know, Im not like most girls when it comes to that. To me, its out of sight out of mind. I really couldnt care less for any of my ex's, regardless of the length and intensity of the relationship.
I am the exact same way Chale
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Colombiana4Life wrote: So which one of the two you think is a better approach? Neither! CHALE'S APPROACH IS "HEALTHIER" AND MORE LOGICAL....IT ALSO PREVENTS DRAMATIC HASSLES AND UN-NECESSARY STRESS.....IT'S HEALTHIER AND LOGICAL FOR HER BECUASE SHE DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND HER EMOTIONS, BUT HER THOUGHTS, WHICH ARE CONTROLLED. YOU ON THE OTHER HAND....YOUR EMOTIONS CONTROL YOU AND CAN TAKE THE BEST OF YOU.....YOU CAN STRESS OUT AND FOR YOU CLOSURE IS NEEDED TO BUY YOU PIECE OF MIND.... I'LL TELL YOU MORE ABOUT THIS AFTER.....OVER COFFEE.....
Yes, definately. With you and "mom" I have the best of both worlds. The Logical and the Spiritual/Emotional. What`s a girl to do????????
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So which one of the two you think is a better approach?
Neither!
CHALE'S APPROACH IS "HEALTHIER" AND MORE LOGICAL....IT ALSO PREVENTS DRAMATIC HASSLES AND UN-NECESSARY STRESS.....IT'S HEALTHIER AND LOGICAL FOR HER BECUASE SHE DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND HER EMOTIONS, BUT HER THOUGHTS, WHICH ARE CONTROLLED.
YOU ON THE OTHER HAND....YOUR EMOTIONS CONTROL YOU AND CAN TAKE THE BEST OF YOU.....YOU CAN STRESS OUT AND FOR YOU CLOSURE IS NEEDED TO BUY YOU PIECE OF MIND....
I'LL TELL YOU MORE ABOUT THIS AFTER.....OVER COFFEE.....
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I need closure in everything in my life, even movies. I kid you not. If I watch a movie and it has an open ending, it bugs me for days. If I'm that obsessive with movies, imagine how I am in my every day life.
ME TOO I NEED IT IN TODO!!! ESPECIALLY RELATIONSHIPS NO SE WHY I JUST DO!!
Colombiana4Life wrote: I guess at times it`s good to be like that. I guess it hurts less when you take that approach. As for Ladybug Freud, believe me girl, she`s good. IT HURTS LESS BECAUSE THE EMOTION IS GONE ASAP... SOME PEOPLE THINK EMOTION....OTHERS FEEL IT..... BY THINKING IT.....YOU CAN TURN IT ON AND OFF AS U PLS BY FEELING IT...YOU HAVE NOOO CONTROL....
See what I mean, she`s good. So which one of the two you think is a better approach?
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LaDyBuG wrote: SO WHAT YOU'RE SAYING IS..... THAT YOU ARE NOT A STALKER, CRAZY PSYCHO EX MATERIAL WITH NO DIGNITY OR JUST EXTREMELY AND BLINDLY IN LOVE..... oh no, no... of course I am... i just dont let HIM see it... LOL!@ Colo: I dont know, Im not like most girls when it comes to that. To me, its out of sight out of mind. I really couldnt care less for any of my ex's, regardless of the length and intensity of the relationship.
I guess at times it`s good to be like that. I guess it hurts less when you take that approach. As for Ladybug Freud, believe me girl, she`s good.
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ARE YOU THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT NEEDS CLOSURE IN YOUR LIFE? FOR RELATIONSHIPS, PROJECTS, WORK, ARGUMENTS...ETC I'M NOT 90% OF THE TIME....SI ALGO NO ME IMPORTA, LO DEJO Y NO NECESITO CLOSURE.....PERO SI ALGO ME IMPORTA I NEED TO HAVE CLOSURE AFTER TRYING AND TRYING NOT TO LET IT GET TO THAT POINT....
I don't get over anything. I don't care if there is closure. I'm such a bitter woman sometimes, it kills me!!!
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LaDyBuG wrote: WOULD YOU SAY THAT YOU ARE AN "EMOTIONALLY DE-TACHED" PERSON? Should I lie down on the cyber couch girl? Nope... not at all, Im pretty much 110% there when Im there.
AND WHEN YOU FINISH IT.....YOU ARE NO LONGER EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED RIGHT?
(AND IT'S CALLED THE FORO COUCH....LOL)
LUEGO TE PASO LA CUENTA.....(LUEGO = PROCRASTINATION)
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SO WHAT YOU'RE SAYING IS..... THAT YOU ARE NOT A STALKER, CRAZY PSYCHO EX MATERIAL WITH NO DIGNITY OR JUST EXTREMELY AND BLINDLY IN LOVE.....
oh no, no... of course I am... i just dont let HIM see it... LOL!
@ Colo: I dont know, Im not like most girls when it comes to that. To me, its out of sight out of mind. I really couldnt care less for any of my ex's, regardless of the length and intensity of the relationship.
TV Buff wrote: Uh, if Chile were a guy and you were a guy then you'd both be gay if you fell in love with each other. Be specific! we'd be rainbow riders together... and we'd ride off into the sunset to our beloved Brokeback Mountain. ummm yah no, this is Chile and me that we're talking about. We'd don our leather and whips and head to the raunchiest nudie bar, where we would endulge our very hedonistic desires. @LB: honestly I really dont need closure. Take for example if a guy breaks up with me, Im like alright cool... move on with your life and I'll move on with mine. No need to be calling him and asking him why. Thats so degrading. Girls that keep on calling ex man asking for them back or asking why? Come on now! Get over it! Move on! There are bigger and better fish out in the sea.
Tampoco asi, that`s just some for of obsessive compulsive disorder or something. Obviously when it`s done it`s done. But I think it is good to clear the air. It also depends on the lenght and intensity of the relationship.
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@LB: honestly I really dont need closure. Take for example if a guy breaks up with me, Im like alright cool... move on with your life and I'll move on with mine. No need to be calling him and asking him why. Thats so degrading. Girls that keep on calling ex man asking for them back or asking why? Come on now! Get over it! Move on! There are bigger and better fish out in the sea.
SO WHAT YOU'RE SAYING IS.....
THAT YOU ARE NOT A STALKER, CRAZY PSYCHO EX MATERIAL WITH NO DIGNITY OR JUST EXTREMELY AND BLINDLY IN LOVE.....
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Uh, if Chile were a guy and you were a guy then you'd both be gay if you fell in love with each other. Be specific!
we'd be rainbow riders together... and we'd ride off into the sunset to our beloved Brokeback Mountain.
ummm yah no, this is Chile and me that we're talking about. We'd don our leather and whips and head to the raunchiest nudie bar, where we would endulge our very hedonistic desires.
@LB: honestly I really dont need closure. Take for example if a guy breaks up with me, Im like alright cool... move on with your life and I'll move on with mine. No need to be calling him and asking him why. Thats so degrading. Girls that keep on calling ex man asking for them back or asking why? Come on now! Get over it! Move on! There are bigger and better fish out in the sea.
Chilenita wrote: Chale man I am telling you if you were a guy I would sooooooooooooooo have fallen in love with you I don't need closure either. I would have fallen in love with you if you had a big penis.... but alas...you do not.Or do you???? Closures for suckers! (no offence anyone LOL)
nah just a strap on
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FOR PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT SOMETHING OR SOMEONE....CLOSURE GIVES THEM A MUCH NEEDED PIECE OF MIND....TRANQUILIDAD.....AS OPPOSED TO BEING STRESSED OR FEELING "BUFFY-ISH" BY NOT KNOWING THE "ENDING"...OR THE WHYS AND HOWS....
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Chilenita wrote: Chale man I am telling you if you were a guy I would sooooooooooooooo have fallen in love with you I don't need closure either. I would have fallen in love with you if you had a big penis.... but alas...you do not.Or do you???? Closures for suckers! (no offence anyone LOL)
Uh, if Chile were a guy and you were a guy then you'd both be gay if you fell in love with each other. Be specific!
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TV Buff wrote: I need closure in everything in my life, even movies. I kid you not. If I watch a movie and it has an open ending, it bugs me for days. If I'm that obsessive with movies, imagine how I am in my every day life. whoa... thats pretty extreme Buffster. May I suggest some counselling? I really dont need closure. Im pretty good at sensing things before they happen, so I bring myself to terms with it before it actually happens... just makes it easier to swallow I guess.
I can usually sense what`s coming as well, but part of me, como siempre, wants to give people and situations the benefit of the doubt.
@Jade - I dont think it makes you an insecure person or anything, some people just need closure on important things. Believe me, cuando a mi no me importa algo, no me importa and I just let it go.
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I need closure in everything in my life, even movies. I kid you not. If I watch a movie and it has an open ending, it bugs me for days. If I'm that obsessive with movies, imagine how I am in my every day life.
whoa... thats pretty extreme Buffster. May I suggest some counselling?
I really dont need closure. Im pretty good at sensing things before they happen, so I bring myself to terms with it before it actually happens... just makes it easier to swallow I guess.
I think I do. I hate having things "in the air". I can let it be like that for a while, but eventually I always need to know they how, why, etc. Also, like u said, it depends on the situation, if its something or someone that I really care or cared about.
Me too UGHGHG I HATE GREY ZONES...thats what I call things that are left "IN THE AIR" as Colombiana put it...Cant stand it..I need closure...
If you are a person...like myself that needs closure..what does that say bout me?!?!? What kind of person am i? I dunno is it bad to want to have closure??
I need closure in everything in my life, even movies. I kid you not. If I watch a movie and it has an open ending, it bugs me for days. If I'm that obsessive with movies, imagine how I am in my every day life.
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ARE YOU THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT NEEDS CLOSURE IN YOUR LIFE? FOR RELATIONSHIPS, PROJECTS, WORK, ARGUMENTS...ETC I'M NOT 90% OF THE TIME....SI ALGO NO ME IMPORTA, LO DEJO Y NO NECESITO CLOSURE.....PERO SI ALGO ME IMPORTA I NEED TO HAVE CLOSURE AFTER TRYING AND TRYING NOT TO LET IT GET TO THAT POINT....
I think I do. I hate having things "in the air". I can let it be like that for a while, but eventually I always need to know they how, why, etc. Also, like u said, it depends on the situation, if its something or someone that I really care or cared about.
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As you, if it is something ai don't really care about, closure is not necesary.
Unfortunately, I could'nt get real closure on other things that were really important to me but now, it doesn't bother me anymore, at least I think so does it make sense ?
And if I am the one taking the decision, that means that closure was done timeeee ago because when I take a decision, no hay marcha atras, up to now, I haven't regret it.
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ARE YOU THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT NEEDS CLOSURE IN YOUR LIFE?
FOR RELATIONSHIPS, PROJECTS, WORK, ARGUMENTS...ETC
I'M NOT 90% OF THE TIME....SI ALGO NO ME IMPORTA, LO DEJO Y NO NECESITO CLOSURE.....PERO SI ALGO ME IMPORTA I NEED TO HAVE CLOSURE AFTER TRYING AND TRYING NOT TO LET IT GET TO THAT POINT....
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Nope... not at all, Im pretty much 110% there when Im there. 
Closures for suckers! (no offence anyone LOL) 
