I WILL ONE DAY ADOPT A LIL SOUTH KOREAN KID....IT'S A CAPRICHO I'VE HAD FOR A LONG TIME.... I SEE NOTHING WRONG IN ADOPTING.....BUT I DO SEE SOMETHING VERY WRONG IN UNFIT PARENTS POPPING KIDS ALL OVER THE PLACE WITH NO STABILITY WHATSOEVER....EMOTIONAL, FINANCIAL...ETC ADOPTING IS A PERFECT WAY TO HELP ANOTHER HUMAN BEING IN NEED.
:bravo::bravo:
__________________
A person who doesn't make mistakes is unlikely to make anything.
I WILL ONE DAY ADOPT A LIL SOUTH KOREAN KID....IT'S A CAPRICHO I'VE HAD FOR A LONG TIME....
I SEE NOTHING WRONG IN ADOPTING.....BUT I DO SEE SOMETHING VERY WRONG IN UNFIT PARENTS POPPING KIDS ALL OVER THE PLACE WITH NO STABILITY WHATSOEVER....EMOTIONAL, FINANCIAL...ETC
ADOPTING IS A PERFECT WAY TO HELP ANOTHER HUMAN BEING IN NEED.
__________________
"To be a good Promoter you must have the heart of a Gambler and the mind of a Computer"
Jaime Cruz wrote: I was watching Dateline a few weeks ago and they had a special on parents who adopt kids of another race. They mentioned how blacks and latinos are the number 1 and 2 races that give up children for adoption. Blacks lead by a large margin.The problem is alot of the people who adopt are white and although they are adopting for good reasons the children tend to grow up with insecurites and doubts about themselves and their identity. It was a really good show and did show how it's not every adopted child that has this problem but there are alot who do. Alot were mocked at school for being black/spanish and looking very different from their white parents and were often loners in school because of it.Alot of the children suffered from dipression, and did not participate in school activities and got low grades. It was interesting to see and very sad as well.My question is would you adopt? If so would you adopt someone of another race?I myself would adopt in hopes of giving someone a better life because I feel every child should have atleast 1 parent to be there for them. As far as another race is concerned I don't know.I wouldn't rule it out but I think latino would be my preference. As opposed to what? growing up without parents? or in a disfunctional family?Would that point of view also apply to marrying outside your race and the children that come from that union?I HATE these TV shows and reports that overanalyze such a simple situation and try to find something negative in something that is nothing but positive, just to fill air timeBesides, if most of the people that give up children for adoption are black and hispanics, what are the chances of matching parents of the same race, up?The worst part is that it comes from, supposedly, "experts" and that it's on TV, so people think "it must be true" ..... Boooooo!!!!
I was watching Dateline a few weeks ago and they had a special on parents who adopt kids of another race. They mentioned how blacks and latinos are the number 1 and 2 races that give up children for adoption. Blacks lead by a large margin.The problem is alot of the people who adopt are white and although they are adopting for good reasons the children tend to grow up with insecurites and doubts about themselves and their identity. It was a really good show and did show how it's not every adopted child that has this problem but there are alot who do. Alot were mocked at school for being black/spanish and looking very different from their white parents and were often loners in school because of it.Alot of the children suffered from dipression, and did not participate in school activities and got low grades. It was interesting to see and very sad as well.My question is would you adopt? If so would you adopt someone of another race?I myself would adopt in hopes of giving someone a better life because I feel every child should have atleast 1 parent to be there for them. As far as another race is concerned I don't know.I wouldn't rule it out but I think latino would be my preference.
As opposed to what? growing up without parents? or in a disfunctional family? Would that "fact" also apply to marrying outside your race and the children that come from that union? I HATE these TV shows and reports that overanalyze relatively simple matter and try to find something negative in something that is nothing but positive, just to fill air time Besides, if most of the parents that give up children for adoption are black and hispanics, chances of matching up ALL parents with children of the same race are pretty slim, no? The worst part is that it comes from, supposedly, "experts" and that it's on TV, so people think "it must be true" ..... Boooooo!!!!
-- Edited by Dogo at 01:11, 2006-04-11
__________________
The opinions expressed by this poster should always be considered offensive to Guadalupipi.
Though question i guess, but honestly if one day I adopt a child, it will be regardless his/her color/background and will asap let him/her knows they are adopted. For a start
If not white, I will definitively work more on the fact that it doesn't matter and do not interfer or change the love I have towards him/her. I will also involved/enrolled myself and my child into activities and groups related to his/her "race" (grrr, I hate that world) community thing to make sure most of the bases are covered and hopefully avoid any insecurity and desorder in the futur.
But I think as well, that if there is enough love, support and comprehension at home, all those points highleted above in your thread will be mostly inexistant and irrelevant because the child will be well balance.
Adopted children from the same "race"/etnic group as their adoptive parents face theexact same problem anyway. BTW, you can not study those things so I think it's really up to every parents and/or adoptive parents.
ETA (cc Lahtina) I personally know a family that only have 1 biologic child (from the mother side) and 5 adopted children, all beautyful, full of joy,live and soooooo much loved. No no. not all "white". 1 is from Senegal, 1 from China, 1 from Mexico, 1 from ex USSR (can't remember thee country) and 1 from Germany (Country of residence). Let me tell you, parents are amazing,you can just feel the love all over in this family
-- Edited by Julie at 13:12, 2006-04-10
__________________
A person who doesn't make mistakes is unlikely to make anything.
I was watching Dateline a few weeks ago and they had a special on parents who adopt kids of another race. They mentioned how blacks and latinos are the number 1 and 2 races that give up children for adoption. Blacks lead by a large margin. The problem is alot of the people who adopt are white and although they are adopting for good reasons the children tend to grow up with insecurites and doubts about themselves and their identity. It was a really good show and did show how it's not every adopted child that has this problem but there are alot who do. Alot were mocked at school for being black/spanish and looking very different from their white parents and were often loners in school because of it. Alot of the children suffered from dipression, and did not participate in school activities and got low grades. It was interesting to see and very sad as well.
My question is would you adopt? If so would you adopt someone of another race?
I myself would adopt in hopes of giving someone a better life because I feel every child should have atleast 1 parent to be there for them. As far as another race is concerned I don't know. I wouldn't rule it out but I think latino would be my preference.
:bravo:
