Can an ex be a friend?

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

RE: Can an ex be a friend?

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

Jaime Cruz wrote: CrazyBeautiful wrote: Jaime Cruz wrote: CrazyBeautiful wrote: princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy... I'm just catching up.Damn! You've got this guy whipped omg ur soo wrong...my bf isnt whipped...if he was whipped...he would have cut off his ex gf A LONG TIME AGO ... Have you ever considered evening the score? Do what he's doing to you to see how he feels? You can do the same thing and not have sex. Just kiss and hug and maybe a little foreplay no i dont wanna do that...me and him both have to be real good....we want things to work out this time...

Well good luck. It's great that your being very patient with him and giving him a second chance. Not too many women would do that.
Let's just hope we don't see you making headlines in the news for cutting his pecker off

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

Jaime Cruz wrote:

CrazyBeautiful wrote: Jaime Cruz wrote: CrazyBeautiful wrote: princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy... I'm just catching up.Damn! You've got this guy whipped omg ur soo wrong...my bf isnt whipped...if he was whipped...he would have cut off his ex gf A LONG TIME AGO ... Have you ever considered evening the score? Do what he's doing to you to see how he feels? You can do the same thing and not have sex. Just kiss and hug and maybe a little foreplay

no i dont wanna do that...me and him both have to be real good....we want things to work out this time...

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

Dogo wrote:

bistor wrote: Have you considered making him a sperm donor? There's an interesting thread on the topic. That should reduce the bastard's libido! By the sounds of it, he's been making "donations" elsewhere, for a while now

Atleast she can't say he's greedy

bistor · Guru

Dogo wrote:

bistor wrote:
Have you considered making him a sperm donor? There's an interesting thread on the topic. That should reduce the bastard's libido!

By the sounds of it, he's been making "donations" elsewhere, for a while now

Dogo · Comandante

bistor wrote:

Have you considered making him a sperm donor? There's an interesting thread on the topic. That should reduce the bastard's libido!

By the sounds of it, he's been making "donations" elsewhere, for a while now

Dogo · Comandante

Jaime Cruz wrote:

CrazyBeautiful wrote: Jaime Cruz wrote: CrazyBeautiful wrote: princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy... I'm just catching up.Damn! You've got this guy whipped omg ur soo wrong...my bf isnt whipped...if he was whipped...he would have cut off his ex gf A LONG TIME AGO ... Have you ever considered evening the score? Do what he's doing to you to see how he feels? You can do the same thing and not have sex. Just kiss and hug and maybe a little foreplay

You fishing, dude? lol

bistor · Guru

Jaime Cruz wrote:

CrazyBeautiful wrote:
Jaime Cruz wrote: CrazyBeautiful wrote: princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy... I'm just catching up.Damn! You've got this guy whipped omg ur soo wrong...my bf isnt whipped...if he was whipped...he would have cut off his ex gf A LONG TIME AGO ...

Have you ever considered evening the score? Do what he's doing to you to see how he feels? You can do the same thing and not have sex. Just kiss and hug and maybe a little foreplay

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

Jaime Cruz wrote: CrazyBeautiful wrote: princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy... I'm just catching up.Damn! You've got this guy whipped omg ur soo wrong...my bf isnt whipped...if he was whipped...he would have cut off his ex gf A LONG TIME AGO ...

Have you ever considered evening the score?
Do what he's doing to you to see how he feels? You can do the same thing and not have sex.
Just kiss and hug and maybe a little foreplay

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

Jaime Cruz wrote:

bistor wrote: @CB at 22, kids don't stop at smooching and feeling up a titie. Call me crazy. Now, if you like the guy and enjoy spending time with him, by all means do it. But thinking a 22 year old man (even if he's behaving like a pussy-boy) won't be screwing around every chance he gets... you've got to be smoking the good stuff! You'll have to forgive my candor. So true. Your gonna have to do more than have him change his sell number and cut off a girl to control el huevo loco

im not trying to control my bf...he knows he has to cut off his ex gf in order for our relationship to work out...ive never asked him to do anything....

bistor · Guru

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

Jaime Cruz wrote:
CrazyBeautiful wrote: princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy... I'm just catching up.Damn! You've got this guy whipped
omg ur soo wrong...my bf isnt whipped...if he was whipped...he would have cut off his ex gf A LONG TIME AGO ...

Have you considered making him a sperm donor?

There's an interesting thread on the topic. That should reduce the bastard's libido!

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

bistor wrote:

@CB at 22, kids don't stop at smooching and feeling up a titie. Call me crazy. Now, if you like the guy and enjoy spending time with him, by all means do it. But thinking a 22 year old man (even if he's behaving like a pussy-boy) won't be screwing around every chance he gets... you've got to be smoking the good stuff! You'll have to forgive my candor.

So true. Your gonna have to do more than have him change his sell number and cut off a girl to control el huevo loco

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

Jaime Cruz wrote:

CrazyBeautiful wrote: princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy... I'm just catching up.Damn! You've got this guy whipped

omg ur soo wrong...my bf isnt whipped...if he was whipped...he would have cut off his ex gf A LONG TIME AGO ...

bistor · Guru

@CB at 22, kids don't stop at smooching and feeling up a titie. Call me crazy.

Now, if you like the guy and enjoy spending time with him, by all means do it. But thinking a 22 year old man (even if he's behaving like a pussy-boy) won't be screwing around every chance he gets... you've got to be smoking the good stuff!

You'll have to forgive my candor.

Jaime Cruz · Foro Master

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy...

I'm just catching up.
Damn! You've got this guy whipped

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

Dogo wrote:

CrazyBeautiful wrote: wat??? I'm trying to say that you just admited that "kissing and stuff" is also cheating........ I would've dropped him a long time ago (BTW, it really helps if you use the "quote" feature, when replying)

alot of ppl have told me the same about leaving him.,..but i love him and ive decided to give it one last shot...only time will tell

bistor · Guru

I feel like Dr. Phil.
Fack.

Dogo · Comandante

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

wat???

I'm trying to say that you just admited that "kissing and stuff" is also cheating........ I would've dropped him a long time ago

(BTW, it really helps if you use the "quote" feature, when replying)

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

@bistor...well im 22...i duno if u consider that young...

bistor · Guru

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

wat???

How old are you?

Maracuya · Guru

I'm not friends with any though i'd like to be with one person, but time will tell. but speak of the devil, the following message landed in my junk folder from the 'same name' and similar 'email address' of someone i was seeing summer /04.........funny thing is since dropping him like a fly (trust me he deserved it) after the summer he emailed me once to tell me to F*** off, and a year later to say, 'hey hows it going' .... and after all my ignoring his ridiculous emails for 1.5 yrs i get this:

sup B
How's it going? Haven't seen you online, still shooting da ****?
Hit me back real soon

So my question is: is this for real???? (by the way, I've NEVER NEVER heard him talk this talk before, lol, and he had a little brother whos 13 by now)

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

wat???

bistor · Guru

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

he hasnt slept with her...u dont have to have sex with a person for it to be called cheating...kissing and other stuff is cheating as well..

CB, either you are very young, or very delusional.

Women will never cease to amaze me.

Dogo · Comandante

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

he hasnt slept with her...u dont have to have sex with a person for it to be called cheating...kissing and other stuff is cheating as well..

Ya, what you said

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

he hasnt slept with her...u dont have to have sex with a person for it to be called cheating...kissing and other stuff is cheating as well..

Dogo · Comandante

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

NO ITS NOT EVEN LIKE THAT AT ALL!!!...MY BF CHEATED ON ME WITH HIS EX GF...AND THATS Y I DONT APPROVE OF THEM TALKING...I MEAN WAT GF WOULD BE OK WITH THAT??..NOONE...AND HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO CUT HER OFF BECAUSE IT CAUSES TOO MUCH DRAMA AND PROBLEMS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP...ITS EITHER HER OR ME...ONCE A GUY CHEATS ON U HE CANT HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH THAT PERSON...I THINK EVERYONE WOULD FEEL THIS WAY

Actually, I think that "everyone" would drop their boyfriend before they go through all that
If I had to go through all that control just to prevent my GF from cheating on me, then I wouldn't be with that girl to begin with..... but that's just MY opinion

bistor · Guru

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

NO ITS NOT EVEN LIKE THAT AT ALL!!!...MY BF CHEATED ON ME WITH HIS EX GF...AND THATS Y I DONT APPROVE OF THEM TALKING...I MEAN WAT GF WOULD BE OK WITH THAT??..NOONE...AND HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO CUT HER OFF BECAUSE IT CAUSES TOO MUCH DRAMA AND PROBLEMS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP...ITS EITHER HER OR ME...ONCE A GUY CHEATS ON U HE CANT HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH THAT PERSON...I THINK EVERYONE WOULD FEEL THIS WAY

If his humping his ex were truly an issue, you would have dumped his arse by now.

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

NO ITS NOT EVEN LIKE THAT AT ALL!!!...MY BF CHEATED ON ME WITH HIS EX GF...AND THATS Y I DONT APPROVE OF THEM TALKING...I MEAN WAT GF WOULD BE OK WITH THAT??..NOONE...AND HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO CUT HER OFF BECAUSE IT CAUSES TOO MUCH DRAMA AND PROBLEMS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP...ITS EITHER HER OR ME...ONCE A GUY CHEATS ON U HE CANT HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH THAT PERSON...I THINK EVERYONE WOULD FEEL THIS WAY

bistor · Guru

Dogo wrote:

bistor wrote:
Your bf lets you tell him who he can hang with? What a pussy!

and when he should change his number aaaaaand his email, lol

lol!

Time to buy a new poodle!

Dogo · Comandante

bistor wrote:

Your bf lets you tell him who he can hang with? What a pussy!

and when he should change his number aaaaaand his email, lol

bistor · Guru

Your bf lets you tell him who he can hang with?

What a pussy!

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

princessa ur totally rite....and i am starting to finally put my foot down for once...ive given him an ultimatum and hes finally cutting her off once and for all....on friday hes changing his cell # and his email address....and then finally me and him can be happy...

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

oh and yes i am latina..im from ecuador..

So then as an Ecuadorian be strong , set the RULES straight.

Tell him that "Trying to cut her off is NOT good enough" or that he has a day to get it clear in his ex's head. Him being soft to her is not helping you or the situation, why does he have to be nice. (F_uck her) Don't tolerate it.

If my b/f did that to me, I would of Lost It on him.

Give him the ultimative of completly cutting her off (weather that meant being extreamly Rude), stop the kiddy games with you (althou what u did was wrong-no double standards-they don't go well), if not then tell him where to go.

You won't die without him, yes it will hurt but time heals everything.

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

oh and yes i am latina..im from ecuador..

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

@ chilenita......my bf had cut off his ex gf for me and he changed his cell #...until i made the mistake of chilling with an ex bf of mine...and he got upset and broke up with me and called his ex gf...which is immature...but thats wat he did....so now we are going thru this again...and all because me and a friend hung out with an ex of mine..now he has to change his cell # again...and its just so ridiculous

Julie · Comandante

Chilenita wrote:

CrazyBeautiful wrote: OMG IM SOO HAPPY THIS TOPIC CAME UP....BECAUSE THAT IS EXACTLY WHY ME AND MY BF ARE HAVING PROBLEMS RITE NOW..HIS EX GF LOVES HIM OFF AND HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO CUT HER OFF BUT HE HAS A SOFT HEART AND HE FEELS SORRY FOR HER...BUT THIS GURL WILL DO WATEVER IT TAKES TO BREAK ME AND HIM UP...AND MY BF JUST DOESNT UNDERSTAND...THEY DIDNT END THERE RELATIONSHIP IN SUCH GOOD TERMS EITHER....AS SOON AS THEY BROKE UP...HE STARTED SEEING ME..AND THAT WASNT A GOOD THING AT ALL...I SHOULD HAVE KNOW BETTER ...BUT NOW I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO..BECAUSE I LOVE HIM...AND IM SCARED THAT THIS GURL WILL ALWAYS BE A PROBLEM IN OUR RELATIONSHIP...IT HAS COME AS FAR AS HIM HAVING TO CHANGE HIS CELL #...AND EMAIL ADDRESS SO SHE CANNOT GET IN CONTACT WITH HIM...HES TOLD HER THAT HE CANT TALK TO HER ANYMORE WATSOEVER...BUT SHE IS SOO PERSISTENT AND HE THERE IS NO NICE WAY OF CUTTING HER OFF....I REALLY DONT KNOW WAT TO DO...:( Crazy B 4 Questions: 1. Are you Lahtina COULD BE 2. Are you Buffy COULD BE 3. Are you Daeveed Mmmm don't think so 4.How does she keep finding him if he changed his numbers and his email Very pertinent

bistor · Guru

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

OMG IM SOO HAPPY THIS TOPIC CAME UP....BECAUSE THAT IS EXACTLY WHY ME AND MY BF ARE HAVING PROBLEMS RITE NOW..HIS EX GF LOVES HIM OFF AND HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO CUT HER OFF BUT HE HAS A SOFT HEART AND HE FEELS SORRY FOR HER...BUT THIS GURL WILL DO WATEVER IT TAKES TO BREAK ME AND HIM UP...AND MY BF JUST DOESNT UNDERSTAND...THEY DIDNT END THERE RELATIONSHIP IN SUCH GOOD TERMS EITHER....AS SOON AS THEY BROKE UP...HE STARTED SEEING ME..AND THAT WASNT A GOOD THING AT ALL...I SHOULD HAVE KNOW BETTER ...BUT NOW I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO..BECAUSE I LOVE HIM...AND IM SCARED THAT THIS GURL WILL ALWAYS BE A PROBLEM IN OUR RELATIONSHIP...IT HAS COME AS FAR AS HIM HAVING TO CHANGE HIS CELL #...AND EMAIL ADDRESS SO SHE CANNOT GET IN CONTACT WITH HIM...HES TOLD HER THAT HE CANT TALK TO HER ANYMORE WATSOEVER...BUT SHE IS SOO PERSISTENT AND HE THERE IS NO NICE WAY OF CUTTING HER OFF....I REALLY DONT KNOW WAT TO DO...:(

Better a soft heart than a hard penis.

Chilenita · Comandante

CrazyBeautiful wrote:

OMG IM SOO HAPPY THIS TOPIC CAME UP....BECAUSE THAT IS EXACTLY WHY ME AND MY BF ARE HAVING PROBLEMS RITE NOW..HIS EX GF LOVES HIM OFF AND HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO CUT HER OFF BUT HE HAS A SOFT HEART AND HE FEELS SORRY FOR HER...BUT THIS GURL WILL DO WATEVER IT TAKES TO BREAK ME AND HIM UP...AND MY BF JUST DOESNT UNDERSTAND...THEY DIDNT END THERE RELATIONSHIP IN SUCH GOOD TERMS EITHER....AS SOON AS THEY BROKE UP...HE STARTED SEEING ME..AND THAT WASNT A GOOD THING AT ALL...I SHOULD HAVE KNOW BETTER ...BUT NOW I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO..BECAUSE I LOVE HIM...AND IM SCARED THAT THIS GURL WILL ALWAYS BE A PROBLEM IN OUR RELATIONSHIP...IT HAS COME AS FAR AS HIM HAVING TO CHANGE HIS CELL #...AND EMAIL ADDRESS SO SHE CANNOT GET IN CONTACT WITH HIM...HES TOLD HER THAT HE CANT TALK TO HER ANYMORE WATSOEVER...BUT SHE IS SOO PERSISTENT AND HE THERE IS NO NICE WAY OF CUTTING HER OFF....I REALLY DONT KNOW WAT TO DO...:(

Crazy B

4 Questions:

1. Are you Lahtina

2. Are you Buffy

3. Are you Daeveed

4.How does she keep finding him if he changed his numbers and his email

CrazyBeautiful · Guru

OMG IM SOO HAPPY THIS TOPIC CAME UP....BECAUSE THAT IS EXACTLY WHY ME AND MY BF ARE HAVING PROBLEMS RITE NOW..HIS EX GF LOVES HIM OFF AND HE KNOWS HE NEEDS TO CUT HER OFF BUT HE HAS A SOFT HEART AND HE FEELS SORRY FOR HER...BUT THIS GURL WILL DO WATEVER IT TAKES TO BREAK ME AND HIM UP...AND MY BF JUST DOESNT UNDERSTAND...THEY DIDNT END THERE RELATIONSHIP IN SUCH GOOD TERMS EITHER....AS SOON AS THEY BROKE UP...HE STARTED SEEING ME..AND THAT WASNT A GOOD THING AT ALL...I SHOULD HAVE KNOW BETTER ...BUT NOW I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO..BECAUSE I LOVE HIM...AND IM SCARED THAT THIS GURL WILL ALWAYS BE A PROBLEM IN OUR RELATIONSHIP...IT HAS COME AS FAR AS HIM HAVING TO CHANGE HIS CELL #...AND EMAIL ADDRESS SO SHE CANNOT GET IN CONTACT WITH HIM...HES TOLD HER THAT HE CANT TALK TO HER ANYMORE WATSOEVER...BUT SHE IS SOO PERSISTENT AND HE THERE IS NO NICE WAY OF CUTTING HER OFF....I REALLY DONT KNOW WAT TO DO...:(

Girl · Guru

yessssssssssssssssssssssss......!!! al my ex's are my friends...

Chilenita · Comandante

PRINCESSA wrote:

Chilenita wrote: Princessa let's say (for arguments sake) that things with X don't work out....I think they will but let's just say they don't. Let's say that you guys don't work as a couple but you remain good friends like you always have been. Would you allow another man to tell you that you and X can't be friends Ok good question. Anything can happen & yes me & X have been friends first for about 2 years, but in reality if we break up, trust me it will be done. Just the kind of person I am & I even think for him, he could not be my friend. After me & him crossed the line of friendship, I can not go back. I know it wouldn't work. Now as to my new men telling me that I can't, that would never happen cause I would do it on my own. I really find it hard to assume & picture any ex's being true friends. I can be wrong or it can just be my dirty mind, but it will haunt me, bother & I don't need that. To me when you start a NEW relationship, it's that NEW. I don't think that both parties need hold on to any past.

Yeah good points and I guess you should not put up with anything that makes you uncomfortable.

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

Chilenita wrote:

Princessa let's say (for arguments sake) that things with X don't work out....I think they will but let's just say they don't. Let's say that you guys don't work as a couple but you remain good friends like you always have been. Would you allow another man to tell you that you and X can't be friends

Ok good question.

Anything can happen & yes me & X have been friends first for about 2 years, but in reality if we break up, trust me it will be done. Just the kind of person I am & I even think for him, he could not be my friend. After me & him crossed the line of friendship, I can not go back. I know it wouldn't work.

Now as to my new men telling me that I can't, that would never happen cause I would do it on my own.

I really find it hard to assume & picture any ex's being true friends. I can be wrong or it can just be my dirty mind, but it will haunt me, bother & I don't need that.

To me when you start a NEW relationship, it's that NEW. I don't think that both parties need hold on to any past.

Chilenita · Comandante

PRINCESSA wrote:

!!!! NO WAY !!!! in hell would I EVER, EVER allow this. It's in my opnion bullsh_t. If my b/f wants to be friend with his ex, he can.........but he sure hell won't be with me. To me if you break up, it's done, keep on moving. It's not like any of my ex's will do anything for me & even if they would like to (tks. but no tks.), so why keep them. Now I'm not saying that IF you bump into each other you can't say HI, but from that to keep in touch (like MSN, phone, etc.), little less go out with ex's, would be WORLD WAR 2 for me.

Princessa let's say (for arguments sake) that things with X don't work out....I think they will but let's just say they don't. Let's say that you guys don't work as a couple but you remain good friends like you always have been. Would you allow another man to tell you that you and X can't be friends

Date: Feb 27 4:35 PM, 2006

PRINCESSA wrote:

!!!! NO WAY !!!! in hell would I EVER, EVER allow this. It's in my opnion bullsh_t. If my b/f wants to be friend with his ex, he can.........but he sure hell won't be with me. To me if you break up, it's done, keep on moving. It's not like any of my ex's will do anything for me & even if they would like to (tks. but no tks.), so why keep them. Now I'm not saying that IF you bump into each other you can't say HI, but from that to keep in touch (like MSN, phone, etc.), little less go out with ex's, would be WORLD WAR 2 for me.

Gotta agree with you..... less is better!!!!

El pasado es pasado... why mess with it

PRINCESSA · TOP Guru

!!!! NO WAY !!!! in hell would I EVER, EVER allow this.

It's in my opnion bullsh_t.

If my b/f wants to be friend with his ex, he can.........but he sure hell won't be with me.

To me if you break up, it's done, keep on moving. It's not like any of my ex's will do anything for me & even if they would like to (tks. but no tks.), so why keep them.

Now I'm not saying that IF you bump into each other you can't say HI, but from that to keep in touch (like MSN, phone, etc.), little less go out with ex's, would be WORLD WAR 2 for me.

Gitana · Foro Master

ZIPOTE wrote:

I agree with you PRECIOSA and it also depends on the other person bf/gf `cause sometimes the other person makes it impossible to be friends.Sometimes is not the person who you are presently with but your Ex !!!!That makes it hard !!

SAD .... BUT TRUE!!!

Bonita · Guru

i believe that you can stay friends with ex's...i was with my ex for 4 years...now been seperated for almost 4 years and we are good friends...

when it starts to become a problem is when your current bf or gf does not know of that relationship. the worst situation ive faced is finding that my boy still talks to his ex without me knowing...bad move...just be honest!!

i like to tell my boy that we are friends and keep him updated so that there will be no surprises. if the curent bf or gf has a problem with you remaining friends...then i believe that out of respect you should try to stay away. this will cause for insecurities in the relationship...always a bad situation.

but i think if there is honesty in a relationship and communication...there is no reason why ex's cannot be friends...

God · Foro Master

As far she recives her monthly check the Friendship is just fine.

-- Edited by God at 15:00, 2006-02-27

hElL · Regular Plus

If both parties agree in having a friendship I don't see a problem. Also it will depend in the trust and respect with your new boyfriend or girlfriend.

ZIPOTE · TOP Guru

PRECIOSA wrote:

LIFE IS TO SHORT TO HOLD GRUDGES WITH AN EX...OR ANY PERSON FOR THAT MATTER... YOU LIVE AND YOU LEARN...YOU FORGIVE AND MIGHT NEVER FORGET...HOWEVER, IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE PERSON AND THE SITUATION...IT'S ALL A LEARNING EXPERIENCE...WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU WILL ONLY MAKE YOU STRONGER...

I agree with you PRECIOSA and it also depends on the other person bf/gf `cause sometimes the other person makes it impossible to be friends.Sometimes is not the person who you are presently with but your Ex !!!!That makes it hard !!