Chilenita wrote:

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Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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Yesi wrote:

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I was so like you guys on this topic... I wanted to go to Vegas and Marry there with just the people I truly care about... I think there is only 5 hahahahahaha.... Anyway I was forced to have the big wedding and to be honest with you I am glad I did.... I will never forget that day it was great!!!!!

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Well of course you liked it, you silly girl! It was your wedding! Plus, you didn't actually have another small little wedding reception to compare the two and decide which one actually was more fulfilling. Chilenita and I are just saying that whether you go all out or keep it small, you will enjoy it the same - if getting married to this particular person was what you really wanted in the first place. I'm sure that for someone who marries for money and not for love would find it comforting to say:well, at least I had a huge wedding.

Now, where's that one thread I'm looking for? ****!

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RIGHT!  See we were not even going to ever get married.  We did it more for the families.  Niether of us thought of marriage as like a big woopie deal type of thing.  We did it for them but we insisted on doing it OUR way. Our way ended up being off the wall and crazy fun but VERY intimate.

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Can you both describe your off-the-wall, crazy weddings? What was so crazy and off the wall about it... besides the fact that you're BOTH off the wall and crazy? And sometimes a little pscyho, but that's just icing on the crazy cake.

Yesi wrote:

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I was so like you guys on this topic... I wanted to go to Vegas and Marry there with just the people I truly care about... I think there is only 5 hahahahahaha.... Anyway I was forced to have the big wedding and to be honest with you I am glad I did.... I will never forget that day it was great!!!!!

 

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Well of course you liked it, you silly girl! It was your wedding! Plus, you didn't actually have another small little wedding reception to compare the two and decide which one actually was more fulfilling. Chilenita and I are just saying that whether you go all out or keep it small, you will enjoy it the same - if getting married to this particular person was what you really wanted in the first place. I'm sure that for someone who marries for money and not for love would find it comforting to say:well, at least I had a huge wedding.

Now, where's that one thread I'm looking for? ****!

Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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Chilenita wrote:

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YES MY SISTER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER!!! SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS ME!!!!




Ugh big churches, white dresses, ugly bridesmaids dresses, flowers, boring speeches that don't mean s h i t, people who hate you but look at you and say "OMG you look amazing", freeloaders that don't give a good gift but drink up the open bar, pictures...etc......UB O R I N G

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My thoughts exactly!

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I was so like you guys on this topic... I wanted to go to Vegas and Marry there with just the people I truly care about... I think there is only 5 hahahahahaha.... Anyway I was forced to have the big wedding and to be honest with you I am glad I did.... I will never forget that day it was great!!!!!

Dogo wrote:

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Wait a minute!! What's this nonsense!!??
EVEN my DOG has my last name!!! Don't even PETS get registered with the master's last name at the vet???
Well.... there you go *dusts off hands*

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Yeah, both my stupid cats have my last name. It's ridiculous, I tells ya.

ETA: And yes, I get it but that's just what I think of what I thought you were implying.

-- Edited by Gringa Lahtina at 19:00, 2007-09-27

Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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Chilenita wrote:

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YES MY SISTER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER!!! SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS ME!!!!




Ugh big churches, white dresses, ugly bridesmaids dresses, flowers, boring speeches that don't mean s h i t, people who hate you but look at you and say "OMG you look amazing", freeloaders that don't give a good gift but drink up the open bar, pictures...etc......UB O R I N G

 

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My thoughts exactly!

 

 

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The two of you should marry each other!!!

 

Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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Chilenita wrote:

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See the best thing about CHE is he doesn't make silly stuff like that an issue.

When we got married he even agreed with my crazy idea of a super small super crazy party instead of the whole huge a s s wedding. Our parents wanted to kill us but whatever we did it our way.

F U C K tradition it's sooooooooooo boring

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Aaaaaamen, sista! I hate doing anything because "everyone else does it". Screw the status quo! Questioning everything doesn't always mean going against everything. I just like being my own INDIVIDUAL. Hacer o dejar de hacer algo porque me parece lo conveniente para mí y no porque me ha sido impuesto. 

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YES MY SISTER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER!!! SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS ME!!!!




Ugh big churches, white dresses, ugly bridesmaids dresses, flowers, boring speeches that don't mean s h i t, people who hate you but look at you and say "OMG you look amazing", freeloaders that don't give a good gift but drink up the open bar, pictures...etc......  B O R I N G

Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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GinoLatino wrote:

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its each persons choice, however, when i was just dating lookin to settle, i made it vry clear since date 1 that she must take my last name..if she didnt like it, we wouldnt get serious..........she agreed and the ring was placed on her finger. asn weve beenhappily ever after since.

This issue should awlays be talked about, b4 gettin 2 serious.


just my opinion.

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Who the hell discusses that on the first date? If she didn't bolt on yo' arse right then and there, she was probably desperate and would have accepted anything.

Yes, I am joking! And then not.

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GinoLatino wrote:

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its each persons choice, however, when i was just dating lookin to settle, i made it vry clear since date 1 that she must take my last name..if she didnt like it, we wouldnt get serious..........she agreed and the ring was placed on her finger. asn weve beenhappily ever after since.

This issue should awlays be talked about, b4 gettin 2 serious.


just my opinion.

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Who the hell discusses that on the first date? If she didn't bolt on yo' arse right then and there, she was probably desperate and would have accepted anything.

Yes, I am joking! And then not.

GinoLatino wrote:

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its each persons choice, however, when i was just dating lookin to settle, i made it vry clear since date 1 that she must take my last name..if she didnt like it, we wouldnt get serious..........she agreed and the ring was placed on her finger. asn weve beenhappily ever after since.

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Until she beat you up in her sleep. Or so she says.

@ Chilenita - u sound rebelde.

It's only an issue because men make it one.

  I'll be doing the hyphenated thing.  The kids can take their father's name. 

I dont mind it if my wife didn't take my last name cause, cause to have my last name u have to be privigled, and only my kids are taking my last name

PRINCESSA wrote:

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I hear you all, but I don't see it being that I'm of his property if I take his last name, rather it's nice way to start off our own family.

Either way I personally find it disrespectfull & if my brother's wife didn't take their last name, it would of been war, it's not even a joke for them. It's a preference i guess.

I know I will, but I will still legally keep my maiden name in there.

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I think that is more TRADITIONAL - but nowadays, it's cool one way or the other.  Personally, I would not mind sharing my last name with a wifey; but I would be just as comfortable if she wanted to keep her own.

 

God wrote:

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Yesi wrote:

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Chilenita wrote:

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God wrote:

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Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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Chilenita wrote:

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Okay I hear you but do you think it's an INSULT not to take it?

I didn't think that these days people would consider it an insult

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I don't think it is, not by any means, I kinda feel that MM did take it as one, though. My MIL definitely did!

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ahh pero mire no sea culei con su suegra

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OMG did you just say GL screwed her MIL

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO... He didn't said that....

GOD stop talking Mexican... you are confusing people

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pos que mal pedo por que pos pobres si no les cai el 20 es su purrum

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Chilenita wrote:

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God wrote:

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Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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Chilenita wrote:

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Okay I hear you but do you think it's an INSULT not to take it?

I didn't think that these days people would consider it an insult

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I don't think it is, not by any means, I kinda feel that MM did take it as one, though. My MIL definitely did!

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 ahh pero mire no sea culei con su suegra

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OMG did you just say GL screwed her MIL

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO... He didn't said that.... 

GOD stop talking Mexican... you are confusing people

Chilenita wrote:

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Yesi wrote:

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I did change my last name... to myhusband's. Well I am still in the process but I did it becasue I hate my original last name.... plus my dad abandoned my mom when I was a kid so i don't have respect for his last name....

@Chilenita... nothing to do with property, I guess it all depends on what a person wants.

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Okay I think I agree on that but it has NOTHING to do with insults either.

Let's say you had your mommy's last name would you have kept it

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YES!!! I am so proud of my mom... she is the best!!! I would be proud to keep her name....

But I don't so ****!!! Had to change it....

God wrote:

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Gringa Lahtina wrote:

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Chilenita wrote:

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Okay I hear you but do you think it's an INSULT not to take it?

I didn't think that these days people would consider it an insult

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I don't think it is, not by any means, I kinda feel that MM did take it as one, though. My MIL definitely did!

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 ahh pero mire no sea culei con su suegra

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OMG did you just say GL screwed her MIL

Guadalupana wrote:

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I don't think that by taking on my hubby's last name makes me his property.
At the start, i didn't want to take it but not because i wanted to keep mine. I was more concerned about all the
the documents i'd have to change.

I don't mind having his last name at all.

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Ditto. I did take hubby's last name, and though I know that if I'd fought that battle I would've won, 'cause I know he would've taken it as an insult, it was one of the few battles that I chose to lose... or didn't really fight for. No big deal to me. I liked my last name, but not because of the "honour thy father" part. It was just aesthetics.

@ Chile: I think you're saying too much, as usual.

Yesi wrote:

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I did change my last name... to myhusband's. Well I am still in the process but I did it becasue I hate my original last name.... plus my dad abandoned my mom when I was a kid so i don't have respect for his last name....

@Chilenita... nothing to do with property, I guess it all depends on what a person wants.

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Mwhahaha. I was reading an article about this issue just yesterday. It's an interesting topic. Too bad I can't write more about it cuz I'm in a hurryish.

 

Yesi wrote:

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I did change my last name... to myhusband's. Well I am still in the process but I did it becasue I hate my original last name.... plus my dad abandoned my mom when I was a kid so i don't have respect for his last name....

@Chilenita... nothing to do with property, I guess it all depends on what a person wants.

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Okay I think I agree on that but it has NOTHING to do with insults either.

Let's say you had your mommy's last name would you have kept it

Chilenita wrote:

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Guadalupana wrote:

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I don't think that by taking on my hubby's last name makes me his property.
At the start, i didn't want to take it but not because i wanted to keep mine. I was more concerned about all the
the documents i'd have to change.

I don't mind having his last name at all.

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Okay I hear you but do you think it's an INSULT not to take it?

I didn't think that these days people would consider it an insult

 

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No, i personally don't think it should be an insult if the woman didn't want to take it.
But i know that IF i had wanted to keep mine, hubby  AND his family would have been very insulted.

Chilenita wrote:

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So I never changed my name. I assumed it at work at first but now I still go my my last name.

How about you lahtina did you stick it out?

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Huh? Of course I did! I have always been KJMA and I could never imagine being anything else. My name defines who I am... errrrr sort of ish. I mean, who the hell would KDJ be? Never changing my name, never, ever, ever, ever, ever! People don't change names in Mexico! Even when they're in Canada.

 

Guadalupana wrote:

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I don't think that by taking on my hubby's last name makes me his property.
At the start, i didn't want to take it but not because i wanted to keep mine. I was more concerned about all the
the documents i'd have to change.

I don't mind having his last name at all.

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Okay I hear you but do you think it's an INSULT not to take it?

I didn't think that these days people would consider it an insult