I don't think that spanking your children just, because they're being annoying is reason enough to spank them, because they're just being kids. I also believe that you don't have to have kids in order to know how they can be or how to take care of them. Just about anybody can have a kid, but it takes a real mature, loving, understanding, patient, and nurturing person to be a parent. I don't have any children, but I do have younger sisters and brothers whom I have helped raise. Not once have I had to hit them in order for them to listen to me. If they do something that is wrong or if they don't listen, then I just tell them, that as long as they don't want to listen and don't do what they're told to do then there will be no XBOX, talking on the phone, watching tv, visiting friends...well nothing fun in general, until they start to behave themselves. It's funny to see how fast they run to do what they were told to do, and how fast they chage their attitude. lol It also helps that I sit down with them, and have talks with them about their behavior and other stuff aswell. I show them respect, and they respect me back, and they know that if I ask them to do something they need to do it, because if they don't then that means that they will loose out on many things. I know I'm just their sister, but I am older then them and it's and has always been my job since they were born to take care of them and protect them, because that's what big sisters do. My point is there is no need to spank kids unless they are spoiled brats, that will learn no other way, but even then I say get them where it hurts the most, which is their toys, and things that they like to do.
I DO BELEIVE IN A LITTLE SPANKING HERE AND THERE...
WHEN I WAS GROWING UP MY PARENTS SPANKED MY BROTHER AND I...I ALSO GOT SUFFOCATED BETWEEN THE COUCHES ONCE AND AWHILE WHEN I DID SOMETHING WRONG...(THAT WAS ALWAYS)...LOL
BACK THEN WHEN OUR PARENTS WERE GROWING UP SPANKING WAS A WAY OF TEACHING THERE CHILDREN WHAT'S RIGHT AND WRONG...
THEY USE TO SAY WHEN A PARENT SPANKS A CHILD IT'S THERE WAY OF SHOWING THAT THEY LOVE THEM...(PERSONLLY I DON'T BELEIVE THAT THEORY)
MY MOTHER TOLD ME A STORY...WHILE SHE WAS GROWING UP HER FATHER USE TO TIE HER TO A TREE WHEN SHE DID SOMETHING WRONG...
SEE IF THAT WAS OUR GENERATION NOW A DAYS...WE WILL GET ARRESTED...BACK THEN IT WAS NORMAL TO SPANK YOUR CHILD...
I was spanked when I was a kid,. and i was a good kid,. but soemtimes u need it,.. one think is spanking and another is abusing,.. sometimes parents do not spank but scream or use corse language with they r children,. that is worst and leave more emotional scars in the person,..
PERSONALLY I THINK THAT KIDS NEED A SPANKING ONCE IN A WHILE.......TAKING AWAY THERE STUFF IS A GREAT IDEA.....BUT YOU KNOW WAT ONCE U BECOME A PARENT AND U HAVE TO HEAR THE NAGGING OR COME ON I WANT THIS BACK OR THE CONSTANT CRYING THAT THERE BORED....SOMETIMES A GOOD SPANK IS NEEDED....ALL IM SAYING WAIT TILL U GUYS HAVE KIDS THEN COME AND TALK TO ME.......
Yeah I can understand how it would be hard to keep your cool all the time!! I also understand that you are a parent and I am not but I can assure you I will never ever spank my kids EVER! I don't even hit my dog! I would NEVER even hit my dog never mind my child. It was just the way I was raised and I believe very strongly in not spanking kids. I don't judge other people though I just would never do it.
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PERSONALLY I THINK THAT KIDS NEED A SPANKING ONCE IN A WHILE.......TAKING AWAY THERE STUFF IS A GREAT IDEA.....BUT YOU KNOW WAT ONCE U BECOME A PARENT AND U HAVE TO HEAR THE NAGGING OR COME ON I WANT THIS BACK OR THE CONSTANT CRYING THAT THERE BORED....SOMETIMES A GOOD SPANK IS NEEDED....ALL IM SAYING WAIT TILL U GUYS HAVE KIDS THEN COME AND TALK TO ME.......
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I do believe on spanking your kid once in a while, but the best that it has worked for me with my child is punishing him with something that he loves the most, taking that away from him hurts him more than if I spank him, but kids do need a little bit of spanking if they really are really bad,kids are different and some of them even when you spank them they don't care. I guess us as a parents just have to wait and see how your kids are going to turn out, all you can do is your best.
I think that every child is different, and there are different ways to deal with each child. Honestly I will not spank my kids, because I think that spanking causes children to act out even more, fear their parents not respect them, or make them become antisocial. Spanking can also cause the child to resent their parents. I feel that in order to get a child's respect you need to show him or her that you respect them, but at the same time let them know who's boss in a way that they will not get offended or feel intimidated by you. By showing your child in a loving way who is boss will make them feel more open with you, and comfortable with you when it comes to talking about things that are bothering them or whatever. I think that if you spank your kids this will make them fear you, and not trust you. I know that some kids may not learn by just being talked to, getting grounded, loosing any privilege's that they may have, or getting things taken away from them, and if this is the case then maybe spanking is the solution, but only with your hands not objects, because objects can really harm a child, and on the bottom or hands is ok, but not the face or anywhere else, because this can cause damage especially in younger kids. If a person feels that they need to spank their kids then they should also explain to their kids why they got spanked so that they understand what they did wrong and why they were punished for it. You need to show respect towards your child in order for him/her to learn what repect is and show it to you aswell. Most of the time if a child is being rebellious it may be because they are copying what the parent is doing, or they want more attention. This is why having good communication with your children is important, because if you have good communication with them then there will be no need to spank them. Honestly for me spanking doesn't make a difference, because I think that it messes the kid up even more, and most of the time some kids are too young to understand why they're being hit, or too old to give a flying f**k whether if they get hit or not, and may act out even more just to bug their parents.
Every child is different that is for sure!! I guess you need to see what works with your children but spanking would just NEVER be an option for me EVER>
I think there is a huge difference between FEAR and respect! HUGE DIFFERENCE....I knew girlfriends who out of fear from their dads would not do certian things but they resented them BIG TIME!!!!!
My parents always had a different approach. My mom NEVER EVER EVER hit me but she was known in my "hood" as a strict woman!!! She would do other things like if she said be home at 8:00 and 10:00 rolled around she would hit the scarborough streets and look for me....by the time I made my way to the hood EVERYONE would be like "SHIT CHILENITA YOUR MOM IS LOOKING FOR YOU AND SHE LOOKS MAD" she would embarass the hell out of me and on top of that you wouldn't see me outside for like WEEKS!!!
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SI mi mom no me hubiera spank $hit fuera peor de lo que soy, there is a differents in spanking your child and abusing your child, I will spank my child in public 2 I don't give f@ck what PPL say when some1 tell me something I will tell them " are u going 2 go bail his/hers @ss out jail?? Yeah is fear but with fear comes respect and I do not want my kids 2 be like somany kids in this country they freaking cray 4 every little $hit y se tiran al suelo... I am not saying I am going 2 spank my kids 4 every little thing they do wrong but some times we need some sinchasos 2 get back in line.............
Bainaman wrote: But you love to get spanked now don't you?!?!?!? See.....Especially if I'm blessed with a daughter......I'm gonna beat the crap out of her.....so she doesn't crave the spankings later on in life. About loving to be spanked.....I was born a sexual deviant....that had nothing to do with my folks parenting skills Seriously though Baina you are a smart guy...You know that there are other ways of punishing kids! My parents never spanked me but they were strict!!!! If they said it was no than it was NO! If I did something wrong they would punish me by taking things away...they would take my phone......not give me money....not let me go out....things that I felt much more than a spanking....I wish my dad would have just gave me a spanking and send me on my way instead he would say you are living without TV or PHONE for three weeks and that will give you plenty of time to think about what you have done....he would ALWAYS stick to the punishment.....no matter how much I cried and pleaded he would stick to it.
I actually agree with you.
I was never hit as a child either. NEVER.
However....I dont' remember when........But my parents instilled "the fear" in me. So I KNEW....that if I ever did something wrong......I was gonna get it. I was punished and what not.....but they never hit me. I was a good kid over all.......I never gave my parents headaches.....that I know of....LOL.......But I do think it's important to disipline that kids.......by whatever means it's necessary for the kid to understand.......some kids you just need to tell them not to do something....and they don't.......some kids need to see ...or feel...lol....what happens when they don't listen.....
MY brother got his a$$ kicked though.....
Sucked to be him!!!!
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But you love to get spanked now don't you?!?!?!? See.....Especially if I'm blessed with a daughter......I'm gonna beat the crap out of her.....so she doesn't crave the spankings later on in life.
About loving to be spanked.....I was born a sexual deviant....that had nothing to do with my folks parenting skills
Seriously though Baina you are a smart guy...You know that there are other ways of punishing kids! My parents never spanked me but they were strict!!!! If they said it was no than it was NO! If I did something wrong they would punish me by taking things away...they would take my phone......not give me money....not let me go out....things that I felt much more than a spanking....I wish my dad would have just gave me a spanking and send me on my way instead he would say you are living without TV or PHONE for three weeks and that will give you plenty of time to think about what you have done....he would ALWAYS stick to the punishment.....no matter how much I cried and pleaded he would stick to it.
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I was NEVER EVER EVER spanked as a child and I will NEVER EVER EVER EVER spank my kids!!!!! I may smoke weed and drink but I have never been in jail or in any real trouble EVER!! I have a good job and besides my partying ways I live a totally normal life and never gave my parents ay real headaches....same goes for my bro. I honestly believe that spanking is just LACK OF SELF CONTROL on the parents end! When people hit anyone for any reason it's a lack of self control!!!! You teach your kids nothing but fear when you spank them!! There are many many many many ways of showing your authority without spanking your child! I am totally against hitting children in any way and I would never do it! Children can be frustrating this I know but there are other ways to deal with them.
But you love to get spanked now don't you?!?!?!?
See.....Especially if I'm blessed with a daughter......I'm gonna beat the crap out of her.....so she doesn't crave the spankings later on in life.
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I was NEVER EVER EVER spanked as a child and I will NEVER EVER EVER EVER spank my kids!!!!!
I may smoke weed and drink but I have never been in jail or in any real trouble EVER!! I have a good job and besides my partying ways I live a totally normal life and never gave my parents ay real headaches....same goes for my bro.
I honestly believe that spanking is just LACK OF SELF CONTROL on the parents end! When people hit anyone for any reason it's a lack of self control!!!! You teach your kids nothing but fear when you spank them!! There are many many many many ways of showing your authority without spanking your child! I am totally against hitting children in any way and I would never do it! Children can be frustrating this I know but there are other ways to deal with them.
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One question: You ever see any Latinos on shows such as "The Nanny" or "Nanny 911"?NO?Why? Cuz Latinos beat sense into their kids, thats why!If I had one of those little bratty mofo's for a day, I would make sure that they would be paralyzed with fear if they even ever just thought about disrespecting their parents. I hate brats!
I see it as another created industry by wealthy educated people....that prey on the fear of the less educated.
Spanking, your kid for doing something wrong worked for thousands and thousands of years...lol.........At some point....someone said....'Wait a minute...that's wrong'......and people said.....'well....why???' 'well.....i have a degree on such and such and i've studied bla bla bla...and therefore what i say must be right.....you shouldn't do that.....you need counseling.....GIMME $$$'......
That's what i think.
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You ever see any Latinos on shows such as "The Nanny" or "Nanny 911"?
NO?
Why?
Cuz Latinos beat sense into their kids, thats why! If I had one of those little bratty mofo's for a day, I would make sure that they would be paralyzed with fear if they even ever just thought about disrespecting their parents.
i think alot of ppl thing that spanking is beating ur child! and its not let me tell you we got some bad lickings when we were kids i mean the belt i had a broom stick broken on my back and that was an accident cuz i ran and she grabed what she had but that was the last time my mother hit me when she realized what she had done! but we got the belt at least once every two weeks i mean we were good but my mom was gone from 9-9 so u know two boys and a girl means trouble!!
i will spank my kids after all i made them i care for them and hell if im gonna carry one for 9mths and then it aint gonna listen oh its getting a spanking!!!
Jinx wrote: I remember my mom or dad chasing me around the house with the belt or anything handy jajajajaja pero eso pasaba cuando tenia malas notas en el boletin o les decia vulgaridades...they did a great job!
si lloraba, mas me daban jajajaja but hey I didn't turn a criminal or bad daughter
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I remember my mom or dad chasing me around the house with the belt or anything handy jajajajaja pero eso pasaba cuando tenia malas notas en el boletin o les decia vulgaridades...
I remember my mom or dad chasing me around the house with the belt or anything handy jajajajaja pero eso pasaba cuando tenia malas notas en el boletin o les decia vulgaridades...
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latinsoulchild wrote: I'm sorry but look at the new generation now, ever since spanking was dissallowed. If I could turn back time, I would buy my dad a thicker belt to straighten me out better. That old school technique works. Look at our kids back home..they're much more respectful than the average North American brats...
if u r looking for some spanking I'm sure some1 here would have no problem helping u maybe Buffy can help there since she has soooooooo much time to play the same record and keept track of how fast u can type LOL!!!!!
I'm sorry but look at the new generation now, ever since spanking was dissallowed. If I could turn back time, I would buy my dad a thicker belt to straighten me out better. That old school technique works. Look at our kids back home..they're much more respectful than the average North American brats...
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“Spanking hurts more than you think” is an early child development public education campaign that includes TV ads to remind parents that spanking is hitting and never a positive way to discipline your child.
Parenting is very rewarding, but nobody ever said it was easy. There are ups and downs, and both you and your child will make mistakes along the way. That’s okay. You’re not alone.
One of the major challenges you might face is discipline. When your child’s behaviour pushes you to the edge, how do you handle it? Do you see spanking as a solution?
You may feel really frustrated at the time, but spanking is not discipline. It is physical punishment and it can hurt your child.
You can use discipline to teach your child to behave. It can be hard but it’s also rewarding. If you’re not sure how to respond to your child’s behaviour, take a moment to read a little further. After all, every parent can use a little help sometimes.
The problem with spanking
Spanking is hitting. Spanking is meant to cause pain to control a child's behaviour. When you're stressed and angry, spanking may seem like a quick way to stop misbehaviour – but it doesn't work.
Spanking may cause your child to fear you and stop trusting you. Anger, resentment and shame can build up in your child, and this can hurt your relationship. These bad feelings can also hurt your child's self-esteem and ability to have healthy relationships with others.
Reasons not to spank Spanking is hitting, and hitting hurts physically, emotionally and socially.
Hitting people is wrong – and children are people, too.
Children who are spanked are more likely to be aggressive. This can lead to other problems, like bullying.
Spanking can result in fear, not respect. A child who fears a parent may learn to hide behaviour and lie rather than trust that parent to guide and teach.
Spanking may get a quick reaction, but next time you may end up hitting harder. And when you’re angry and stressed, it’s easy to injure your child.
Spanking doesn’t teach the right lesson. It shows a child that hitting is a way to solve problems. You may be saying to yourself, "I was spanked and I turned out okay." It could be that you turned out okay in spite of being spanked, not because you were spanked.
In the past, parents did the best they could with what they knew. Today, we know a lot more about how children develop. That’s why more and more parents are choosing not to spank.
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