angelita dulce wrote: THANKS GIRL!!! Oh no problem chickie! My bro is a single daddy and his daughter is super well adjusted and smart as can be!!! Hey wait.....your both single....hummm
Good for you Angelita! You are a strong independant woman! Like I said in my post earlier the fact that you don't have a man in your life does not mean you guys aren't a normal family!! Keep on doing what you do....your a great example to your son.....showing him how strong women are is a very important lesson!
LaDyBuG wrote: @ Ladyhawk....in that case, I agreed with you there completely... I just feel that couples need to stabilize themselves (first as individuals) and then as a couple....in order to have children....and by stabilizing I dont just mean financially....emotionally as well...that's a lot more important...now in days so many kids are a result of an unplanned accidental pregnancy, being born into an UNstable relationship....baby mama drama, dead beat dads, unwed couples who dont even live together....etc It doesnt mean that the parents are bad people....not at all...it just means that they "gambled" with that child's life....and that's not fair. You can never be ready to have a child both financially and emotionally etc... It just doesn't happen anymore. It's not right to say you gambled with the child's life. I conceived my son after i got married and unfortuntely our marriage did not work out. I stayed at home during my Maternity leave, but i had to go back to work right after. Being a single mom is not easy work. I have to work hard in order to support my son and myself. I would send him to daycare, but it is expensive and I'm lucky that my mother watches my son during the day. I read to him, teach him the colours, numbers etc... Even though my son does not have both his parents together, he has a great life, he has family that loves him and i give and provide him with everything he needs!!! If i could, i would stay at home with my child, but like i said i had to go back to work to provide for my son and pay my bills.
Good for you Angelita! You are a strong independant woman! Like I said in my post earlier the fact that you don't have a man in your life does not mean you guys aren't a normal family!! Keep on doing what you do....your a great example to your son.....showing him how strong women are is a very important lesson!
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@ Ladyhawk....in that case, I agreed with you there completely... I just feel that couples need to stabilize themselves (first as individuals) and then as a couple....in order to have children....and by stabilizing I dont just mean financially....emotionally as well...that's a lot more important...now in days so many kids are a result of an unplanned accidental pregnancy, being born into an UNstable relationship....baby mama drama, dead beat dads, unwed couples who dont even live together....etc It doesnt mean that the parents are bad people....not at all...it just means that they "gambled" with that child's life....and that's not fair.
You can never be ready to have a child both financially and emotionally etc... It just doesn't happen anymore. It's not right to say you gambled with the child's life. I conceived my son after i got married and unfortuntely our marriage did not work out. I stayed at home during my Maternity leave, but i had to go back to work right after. Being a single mom is not easy work. I have to work hard in order to support my son and myself. I would send him to daycare, but it is expensive and I'm lucky that my mother watches my son during the day. I read to him, teach him the colours, numbers etc... Even though my son does not have both his parents together, he has a great life, he has family that loves him and i give and provide him with everything he needs!!!
If i could, i would stay at home with my child, but like i said i had to go back to work to provide for my son and pay my bills.
@Ladybug...you have a very "traditional" way of looking at the family unit. The family unit changed years ago and it's no longer mommy...daddy in a house with a white picket fence. MANY single mothers, single fathers and UNWED couples do a wonderful job of raising children.
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A new study just came out in the U.K that says that children that stay at home with their parents develop much better than kids in a daycare. They develop better in every aspect according to the study. Children in daycare showed to be more aggresive, compliant, withdrawn and even sad. What do you guys think? Work or stay at home with the children?
I disagree with the U.K. study. Since when do the brits know better? Their kids don't even get la chancleta.
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@ Ladyhawk....in that case, I agreed with you there completely... I just feel that couples need to stabilize themselves (first as individuals) and then as a couple....in order to have children....and by stabilizing I dont just mean financially....emotionally as well...that's a lot more important...now in days so many kids are a result of an unplanned accidental pregnancy, being born into an UNstable relationship....baby mama drama, dead beat dads, unwed couples who dont even live together....etc It doesnt mean that the parents are bad people....not at all...it just means that they "gambled" with that child's life....and that's not fair.
GAMBLE??? HUH????
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I havent read this study but I already disagree. Yes a women who is able to stay home with their children are very lucky, but daycare teaches them more and prepares them for school.
I mean dont get me wrong parents are wonderful teachers for their children but when there actually in a pre-school program it is more beneficial for them than staying home.
Although if I had to choose in between those home daycares and staying home than I would stay home. Im just not crazy about those home daycares. If Im going to bring my child to someone elses house I might as well stay home with them. For me I just dont agree with the child or children being in a house all day as opposed to an actual daycare.
Kids are a wonderful gift there is no doubt about that! Personally I would love to be able to find the balance between work and children. If and when I decide to have kids I think I would like to go back to work after the first year. Having a job is really important to me and always will be. I do not want to ever have to depend on a man financially. After the first year I would put my child in a day care and go back to work. I think you can find a healthy balance. My mother worked my whole life and always found quality time to spend with my brother and I. Most of my girlfriends that have children went back to work after the year and they have great well adjusted kids.
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@ Ladyhawk....in that case, I agreed with you there completely...
I just feel that couples need to stabilize themselves (first as individuals) and then as a couple....in order to have children....and by stabilizing I dont just mean financially....emotionally as well...that's a lot more important...now in days so many kids are a result of an unplanned accidental pregnancy, being born into an UNstable relationship....baby mama drama, dead beat dads, unwed couples who dont even live together....etc
It doesnt mean that the parents are bad people....not at all...it just means that they "gambled" with that child's life....and that's not fair.
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You're absolutely right....a strong person will do anything for the survival of their kids.....I just don't see "kids" as being a curve ball....that's all.....I do however understand that life can change over night and things never go as you had originally planned....so you gotta do what you gotta do....that's the North American way....
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"don't really wanna argue this point..... but I feel like if you can't support your kids for their first 5 crucial years.....then why have them?"
Ladybug something life throws at you a curve ball and you have no choice but to do want needs to be done , in this case leave the kids in a Daycare . It's not a matter if you can support your kids or not but to deal with life experience as best to your possibilities .
chica wow wrote: I was a stay at home mom for the first 3 years, I was lucky that I did not have to place her in a daycare because when I returned to work my sister looked after her and still does. It is good to place them in a daycare because they learn how to interact with other kids and also become use to a routine, most daycares have programs for kids depending on the age group. If a child is aggressive, withdrawn and sad then the problem is not at the daycare but at home.
I was a stay at home mom for the first 3 years, I was lucky that I did not have to place her in a daycare because when I returned to work my sister looked after her and still does.
It is good to place them in a daycare because they learn how to interact with other kids and also become use to a routine, most daycares have programs for kids depending on the age group.
If a child is aggressive, withdrawn and sad then the problem is not at the daycare but at home.
A new study just came out in the U.K that says that children that stay at home with their parents develop much better than kids in a daycare. They develop better in every aspect according to the study. Children in daycare showed to be more aggresive, compliant, withdrawn and even sad.
What do you guys think? Work or stay at home with the children?
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Oh no problem chickie! My bro is a single daddy and his daughter is super well adjusted and smart as can be!!! Hey wait.....your both single....hummm 
Like I said in my post earlier the fact that you don't have a man in your life does not mean you guys aren't a normal family!! Keep on doing what you do....your a great example to your son.....showing him how strong women are is a very important lesson! 
