What do you think?

Date: Sep 14 3:01 PM, 2005

RE: What do you think?

Date: Sep 13 6:32 PM, 2005

Daeveed wrote:

Why do you care so much about what your boyfriend does?? If he wants to go out let him go out, and if you wanna go out, then he shouldn't say anything either. Of course, this is only possible if you guys trust each other, which apparently is not the case. If you can't trust each other, then why be with someone you don't trust??? Let the man live his life, and you live your own. When you are together, then live your lives together. If you're afraid that he's gonna cheat on you, then....i don't even know why i'm bothering.....bye.

You obviously don't have a clue as to what I am talking about do you. Why do I care so much what my man does? Are you for real? Well...uh I don't know maybe because his my boyfriend and I have been with him for 5 years that's why, and because we have even talked about spending the rest of our lives together that's why. My problem is not him going out. I don't mind him going out. Anyway try to read more carefully next time, because you did not get what I was saying. Well you are a man after all so don't feel so bad. You wouldn't understand things of this sort anyway. I guess it's more of a girl thing. No I'm not scared of him cheating on me because I know that he loves me and he wouldn't do that to me. I trust him 100%. I just don't trust his friend and her little act. I don't know perhaps I'm just being silly and over reacting to the whole situation.

ANG · Regular

A female can read another female's behaviour better than a man could....which is why your boyfriend will never understand what you tell him about this "friend" of his. It is true what Daeveed said about trust and I believe that if you cannot trust your boyfriend then it is better to leave him alone and put more time and energy into making yourself happy. It should not matter that he knew this "friend" of his longer than knowing you....if he does not care about your negative feelings toward her, then he most likely does not care about you. To be quite honest with you, it does not seem as though you come as his number one priority....and although you don't always have to be number one on his list of things to do, it would be nice for him to stand up for you and let this "friend" know that if she doesn't want to be around you then she should forget about being around him. Good Luck!

Date: Sep 13 3:20 PM, 2005

I agree with you. If he doesnt wanna open up his eyes then i suggest you should just let him go and find yourself someone who understands you better. You shouldnt have to go through all that shi* girl. Hopefully that will make him realize what you were trying to tell him all along.

QUE chula LINDA · Guru

Anonymous wrote:
My bf considers her to be one of his best friends. I've told him the way I feel about her,and he understands, (so he says) but at the same time he got waaay pissed off about the way that I expressed my feelings towards her. I did call her a b*tch and a slut and stuff like that, but because I was mad, and because I really don't understand why the fack he defends her so much. I thought that I was his girl not her. He said he got mad, because I have no good reasons not to like her. I feel different, because I know that she's fake for a fact. I mean one of my girl's did hear her talking sh*t about me, or better said she was present when she was talking about me. So what does that tell you? Well that tells me that she's a two faced b*tch. Honestly I can see right through her act. She's not fooling me. I told my bf this, and he just stayed quiet about it for a while, and then said that my friend was a liar, and that if in fact this was true why the hell would she go and tell me this? He thinks that my friend lied to me or that she was extra at telling me what his friend said about me, because he did get a call from her about this whole situation, so I think that this b*tch did a whole lot of brain washing. She called him to tell him bull crap like "oh I did say that you don't go out much since you got a girl, but I never said that if you do come out you bring her along". She also told him bull like " I'm not into this childish bull and I don't have time for this". If this was the case then why wasn't she woman enough (like she claims to be) to come to my face or call me up to clear things up, but noooo she's going to run and hide like a pu$$y. See that type of attitude makes me more confident about my suspisions. She called my girl a liar when in fact she was the liar, and she said that my friend just went overboard with the details, because she and my friend were no longer friends due to her big mouth. Seriously I don't know what to do, because my man doesn't want to see her for the true person that she is. I think it's because they've been friends for so long that it's hard to believe that someone who's close to you would be that way. I also told my bf that I wasn't being this way to try to brake their friendship up, but I just don't want any fake people to be in his life and I don't want him to get hurt, and he said that I should just look out for him and if anything comes up to tell him, but I did and he doesn't want to hear it so now what the fack do I do? Just bite my tongue and pretend like everythings alright? Yeah right. Thanks for all your comments though, perhaps this topic in particular is just a lost cause.

Oh I see. In that case I wish you all the best. Maybe he’ll open his eyes and see her for what she really is, or perhaps you’ll find someone better then him. Good luck girl. Don't let it stress you out!!!

Daeveed · Foro Master

Why do you care so much about what your boyfriend does?? If he wants to go out let him go out, and if you wanna go out, then he shouldn't say anything either. Of course, this is only possible if you guys trust each other, which apparently is not the case.

If you can't trust each other, then why be with someone you don't trust??? Let the man live his life, and you live your own. When you are together, then live your lives together.

If you're afraid that he's gonna cheat on you, then....i don't even know why i'm bothering.....bye.

Date: Sep 13 2:30 AM, 2005

QUE chula LINDA wrote:

           @Anonymous who posted this topic. Is that girl your boyfriend’s best friend, a really good friend?   OR just another girl? He is YOUR boyfriend, and not hers. YOU come first. If that girl has too much influence on your guy, that is not good.   According to your post, in my opinion, it is NON OF HER BUSINESS if he (your man) doesn’t come out anymore because of you, and when he does he brings you along. AND like you wrote, if she has been through this before with her other friends' girlfriends, then you are not overreacting by being suspicious. Trust and respect is important in a relationship, and if you have that with your man, then confront him about it. And don’t even bother with that b!tch. Good luck.         -- Edited by QUE chula LINDA at 23:56, 2005-09-09

My bf considers her to be one of his best friends. I've told him the way I feel about her,and he understands, (so he says) but at the same time he got waaay pissed off about the way that I expressed my feelings towards her. I did call her a b*tch and a slut and stuff like that, but because I was mad, and because I really don't understand why the fack he defends her so much. I thought that I was his girl not her. He said he got mad, because I have no good reasons not to like her. I feel different, because I know that she's fake for a fact. I mean one of my girl's did hear her talking sh*t about me, or better said she was present when she was talking about me. So what does that tell you? Well that tells me that she's a two faced b*tch. Honestly I can see right through her act. She's not fooling me. I told my bf this, and he just stayed quiet about it for a while, and then said that my friend was a liar, and that if in fact this was true why the hell would she go and tell me this? He thinks that my friend lied to me or that she was extra at telling me what his friend said about me, because he did get a call from her about this whole situation, so I think that this b*tch did a whole lot of brain washing. She called him to tell him bull crap like "oh I did say that you don't go out much since you got a girl, but I never said that if you do come out you bring her along".   She also told him bull like " I'm not into this childish bull and I don't have time for this". If this was the case then why wasn't she woman enough (like she claims to be) to come to my face or call me up to clear things up, but noooo she's going to run and hide like a pu$$y. See that type of attitude makes me more confident about my suspisions. She called my girl a liar when in fact she was the liar, and she said that my friend just went overboard with the details, because she and my friend were no longer friends due to her big mouth.

Seriously I don't know what to do, because my man doesn't want to see her for the true person that she is. I think it's because they've been friends for so long that it's hard to believe that someone who's close to you would be that way. I also told my bf that I wasn't being this way to try to brake their friendship up, but I just don't want any fake people to be in his life and I don't want him to get hurt, and he said that I should just look out for him and if anything comes up to tell him, but I did and he doesn't want to hear it so now what the fack do I do?  Just bite my tongue and pretend like everythings alright?  Yeah right.

Thanks for all your comments though, perhaps this topic in particular is just a lost cause.

Date: Sep 13 12:19 AM, 2005

To the person that started this i think you need to keep your boyfriend's friend away far away from both of you cause she's gonna give you lots of problems.

es mejor prevenir que lamentar

Zero · Regular Plus

Chilenita wrote:

ZERO.......Please and I do mean PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE start to post in the MEMBER section more often......PLEASE did I say please?

Thanks, sweety, but what's the point? Half my jokes go unnoticed anyway.

QUE chula LINDA · Guru

Zero wrote:

OMG! I can totally relate! I'm exactly, I mean EXACTLY in the same boat. I'm so glad you brought up the subject, maybe we can help each other out. Ok, the only difference here is that I'm a guy and the problem isn't my girlfriend but my pet snake. I'm also not angry or jealous that he/she (?) has friends of the opposite sex because how would I know what sex they are? It's not like you can see their genitals right away. I mean, if you flip them on their belly and stuff. First of all, good luck getting them on their belly. Second of all, from head to toe () they look exactly the same. It's like looking at a hose, more or less. More because they are long and tubular, less because the hose is actually made of plastic. So the problem here is not my jealousy. I'm not a jealous person at all. At least I don't think I am. The problem is that, like you, I'm so confused.

LMAO hahaha Zero you are too funny.

@Anonymous who posted this topic. Is that girl your boyfriend’s best friend, a really good friend? OR just another girl? He is YOUR boyfriend, and not hers. YOU come first. If that girl has too much influence on your guy, that is not good. According to your post, in my opinion, it is NON OF HER BUSINESS if he (your man) doesn’t come out anymore because of you, and when he does he brings you along. AND like you wrote, if she has been through this before with her other friends' girlfriends, then you are not overreacting by being suspicious. Trust and respect is important in a relationship, and if you have that with your man, then confront him about it. And don’t even bother with that b!tch.

Good luck.

-- Edited by QUE chula LINDA at 23:56, 2005-09-09

Chilenita · Comandante

ZERO.......Please and I do mean PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE start to post in the MEMBER section more often......PLEASE

did I say please?

Daeveed · Foro Master

Zero wrote:

OMG! I can totally relate! I'm exactly, I mean EXACTLY in the same boat. I'm so glad you brought up the subject, maybe we can help each other out. Ok, the only difference here is that I'm a guy and the problem isn't my girlfriend but my pet snake. I'm also not angry or jealous that he/she (?) has friends of the opposite sex because how would I know what sex they are? It's not like you can see their genitals right away. I mean, if you flip them on their belly and stuff. First of all, good luck getting them on their belly. Second of all, from head to toe () they look exactly the same. It's like looking at a hose, more or less. More because they are long and tubular, less because the hose is actually made of plastic. So the problem here is not my jealousy. I'm not a jealous person at all. At least I don't think I am. The problem is that, like you, I'm so confused.

This is bizarre.... I mean, is like...I'm speechless....

...I didn't know snakes weren't made of plastic.

Good one Zero.

TV Buff · TOP Guru

Zero wrote:

OMG! I can totally relate! I'm exactly, I mean EXACTLY in the same boat. I'm so glad you brought up the subject, maybe we can help each other out. Ok, the only difference here is that I'm a guy and the problem isn't my girlfriend but my pet snake. I'm also not angry or jealous that he/she (?) has friends of the opposite sex because how would I know what sex they are? It's not like you can see their genitals right away. I mean, if you flip them on their belly and stuff. First of all, good luck getting them on their belly. Second of all, from head to toe () they look exactly the same. It's like looking at a hose, more or less. More because they are long and tubular, less because the hose is actually made of plastic. So the problem here is not my jealousy. I'm not a jealous person at all. At least I don't think I am. The problem is that, like you, I'm so confused.

You're good. You're really, really good. I think Daeveed has some competition... or maybe you're long lost brothers, like someone suggested in the members section. Or maybe you both have the same provider (in which case, hook me up, brotha, 'cause Daeveed is unwilling to do it... )

Date: Sep 9 8:37 AM, 2005

Holy krap..I didnt think there were so many girls with this same issue.

I dont know if theres a way to solve this all...its a very tough situation...especially if your BF has known his friend longer then he has you.

Date: Sep 9 1:00 AM, 2005

wtf????...

Zero · Regular Plus

Sweetness wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Do you guys think it's bad if you don't like one of your boyfriend/girlfriend's friend? You see my man has this friend that I really don't buy. I think that this friend of his is fake. That's the way she comes off to me. I feel that she likes to put up a front in front of my man, and then turns around and acts in a completely different way then she normally would in front of him. I also found out that she talked nuff crap about me. Saying bull like my man doesn't come out anymore since he got a girl (me), and when he does come out he brings her along (meaning me of course) and she made a screw face when she said that. How would you guys take this? How would you deal with the case? She found out that I knew what she had said then called my man and told him that she said something like that but not in bad way. She said that she only said that "since he got a girl he doesn't come out anymore", but she said that she never said that if he does come out he brings me along. So she denyed having said what she said, and I know for a fact that the person who told me this wouldn't lie to me, because this person is a good friend of mine and this person was present when this conversation took place. I don't hate this girl. I just think that she's not who she really claims to be. What do you guys think? Am I over reacting? When I see her I'm always polite to her out of respect to my man, because I know that's his friend. Some people may say that I don't have a good reason as to why I don't like her, but from the first day that I met her I just got this weird vibe about her. I'm normally right about a person, maybe I'm wrong about her, but I feel that if she knows how I feel about her, and she knows that I'm wrong about her, then she would take the time to come to me face to face and tell me straight up how she feels and that I've got her all wrong, but by staying quiet and not saying anything I feel that I'm right about her. She also makes comments to my man like " Oh I don't hate her. I have been through this before". She goes on like every girl hates on her like she's the sh*t or something, and those comments right there make me think that I'm really right about her, and I would go to her about it, but I know that I would lose my cool with her if you know what I mean. So what do you guys think? Your comments will be of good use to me. HOPEFULLY. LOL I know how you feel. I happen to be in a similar situation like yours. I just say that you need to trust your man, and if he really loves you everything should be okay. Honestly it does sound like this girl wants your man, or is only doing certain things to bug you like you said. So is this girl your man's best friend? I just ask cus if she is I think that it will be hard for your man to understand the type of person that this girl is, and especially hard if he has known this girl longer then you. Just talk to your man and tell him how you feel about this girl, and if he really cares about you then he should understand. Now don't try to get rid of her unless you're 100% sure that she's up to something. I say just try to catch her in a lie and make her look stupid or something. I know this sounds mean but hey if she's really fake like you say, then she doesn't deserve to be around your man. LMAO I think I got a bit carried away, because of my situation. LOL. Anyway just talk to your man first, and then her or both of them together...whatever floats your boat. GOOD LUCK!

OMG! I can totally relate! I'm exactly, I mean EXACTLY in the same boat. I'm so glad you brought up the subject, maybe we can help each other out.

Ok, the only difference here is that I'm a guy and the problem isn't my girlfriend but my pet snake. I'm also not angry or jealous that he/she (?) has friends of the opposite sex because how would I know what sex they are? It's not like you can see their genitals right away. I mean, if you flip them on their belly and stuff. First of all, good luck getting them on their belly. Second of all, from head to toe () they look exactly the same. It's like looking at a hose, more or less. More because they are long and tubular, less because the hose is actually made of plastic. So the problem here is not my jealousy. I'm not a jealous person at all. At least I don't think I am. The problem is that, like you, I'm so confused.

Sweetness · Guru

Anonymous wrote:

Do you guys think it's bad if you don't like one of your boyfriend/girlfriend's friend? You see my man has this friend that I really don't buy. I think that this friend of his is fake. That's the way she comes off to me. I feel that she likes to put up a front in front of my man, and then turns around and acts in a completely different way then she normally would in front of him. I also found out that she talked nuff crap about me. Saying bull like my man doesn't come out anymore since he got a girl (me), and when he does come out he brings her along (meaning me of course) and she made a screw face when she said that. How would you guys take this? How would you deal with the case? She found out that I knew what she had said then called my man and told him that she said something like that but not in bad way. She said that she only said that "since he got a girl he doesn't come out anymore", but she said that she never said that if he does come out he brings me along. So she denyed having said what she said, and I know for a fact that the person who told me this wouldn't lie to me, because this person is a good friend of mine and this person was present when this conversation took place. I don't hate this girl. I just think that she's not who she really claims to be. What do you guys think? Am I over reacting? When I see her I'm always polite to her out of respect to my man, because I know that's his friend. Some people may say that I don't have a good reason as to why I don't like her, but from the first day that I met her I just got this weird vibe about her. I'm normally right about a person, maybe I'm wrong about her, but I feel that if she knows how I feel about her, and she knows that I'm wrong about her, then she would take the time to come to me face to face and tell me straight up how she feels and that I've got her all wrong, but by staying quiet and not saying anything I feel that I'm right about her. She also makes comments to my man like " Oh I don't hate her. I have been through this before". She goes on like every girl hates on her like she's the sh*t or something, and those comments right there make me think that I'm really right about her, and I would go to her about it, but I know that I would lose my cool with her if you know what I mean. So what do you guys think? Your comments will be of good use to me. HOPEFULLY. LOL

I know how you feel. I happen to be in a similar situation like yours. I just say that you need to trust your man, and if he really loves you everything should be okay. Honestly it does sound like this girl wants your man, or is only doing certain things to bug you like you said. So is this girl your man's best friend? I just ask cus if she is I think that it will be hard for your man to understand the type of person that this girl is, and especially hard if he has known this girl longer then you. Just talk to your man and tell him how you feel about this girl, and if he really cares about you then he should understand. Now don't try to get rid of her unless you're 100% sure that she's up to something. I say just try to catch her in a lie and make her look stupid or something. I know this sounds mean but hey if she's really fake like you say, then she doesn't deserve to be around your man. LMAO I think I got a bit carried away, because of my situation. LOL. Anyway just talk to your man first, and then her or both of them together...whatever floats your boat. GOOD LUCK!

Date: Sep 8 5:21 PM, 2005

I've lerned from personal experiences not to trust guys with their friends (GIRLS). I had a simmilar problem to your's and I just forgot about it and tried to ignore this B*** and then me and my man dated for 5 years and ended up moving in together. Guess who I caught him with YES his best (girl) friend. But i dont know i personally think you have to talk this over with him and tell him that it bothers you.

Date: Sep 8 4:31 PM, 2005

Anonymous wrote:

You know...my boyfriend...from the beginning of the relationship, let me know that most of his friends are girls. He feels like he gets a long better with girls. I kind of feel the same way, but the opposite, I have more guy friends and feel that I get along better with guys... Although sometimes it bothers me...okay! no lets be real!!...all the time it bothers me that his girlfriends will call him at all times at night to talk about their problems cuz some guy broke their heart or whatever not or he goes and spends a whole day with them..or they call him to go change their light bulb....and I cant say anything to him, because he did warn me from the beginning and on top of that...those friends of his were there before me. I trust him...I know he sees no one else but me...but still..... So i personally feel that I have my hands tied ont his one. OR do I? I struggling sort of with the same issue.i have to constantly bite my tongue....I dont want to be jealouse nor do i want to be telling him what to do..nor do i want to come between friendships that were there before me....i figure i will get used to it...but i dont know...i dont like girls...lol we are all evil... So its kind of a difficult issue to decipher....any thoughts anyone? I willing to read...

Thanks ladies, your comments helped a lot.

To the anony that wrote this OMG This is exactly how I feel, and our situations are very similar. It's nice to know that I'm not the only girl who feels this way, and that I'm not a total crazy woman. LOL.

To the first anony that said that it sounds like she wants my man...well I kinda think this too, but she says that she's more into cuban and dominican guys, and my man is nither...so I don't know about that. I think that she does certain things just to bug me, because she knows that I don't like her. I trust my man 100%, but I just don't trust her.

Date: Sep 8 2:08 PM, 2005

You know...my boyfriend...from the beginning of the relationship, let me know that most of his friends are girls. He feels like he gets a long better with girls.

I kind of feel the same way, but the opposite, I have more guy friends and feel that I get along better with guys...

Although sometimes it bothers me...okay! no lets be real!!...all the time it bothers me that his girlfriends will call him at all times at night to talk about their problems cuz some guy broke their heart or whatever not or he goes and spends a whole day with them..or they call him to go change their light bulb....and I cant say anything to him, because he did warn me from the beginning and on top of that...those friends of his were there before me.

I trust him...I know he sees no one else but me...but still.....

So i personally feel that I have my hands tied ont his one. OR do I? I struggling sort of with the same issue.i have to constantly bite my tongue....I dont want to be jealouse nor do i want to be telling him what to do..nor do i want to come between friendships that were there before me....i figure i will get used to it...but i dont know...i dont like girls...lol we are all evil...

So its kind of a difficult issue to decipher....any thoughts anyone? I willing to read...

TV Buff · TOP Guru

I'm not the type that likes a boyfriend of mine being close friends with another girl to begin with, but if you're okay with it, I'd just suggest you keep quiet; maybe make a "did I say that out loud?" comment once in a while, and keep a close eye on this girl. They say that you should keep your friends close and your enemies even closer. If your man respects and loves you, his friendship with this woman shouldn't interfere with your relationship, but if she has too much influence on him, even more than you, then that's not a good sign. If he's your man, he should be your best friend also, and your opinion should count more than hers, but make sure your opinions are well-founded, and not just a "I just don't like her, I don't know why" kind. Although instincts are almost never wrong. Especially women's instincts.

Date: Sep 7 9:18 PM, 2005

Anonymous wrote:

Girl, I don't think your over reacting...If that was my man first of all i wouldn't let him have a friend (girl) I suggest you tell him how you feel and ask him to not talk to her anymore....To me this b@#$% wants ur man

Why not I've been dating with my boy friend for 3 years now and its cool with me that he has friends (girls), you just need to trust in a relationship. But this girl your talking about doesnt sound too good i think you shuld talk to him about it he should know her good and then both of u should talk to her and see what happens

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Date: Sep 7 9:14 PM, 2005

Damm i had to put my glasses on to read that one... that was long any wayzzz...

ok girl i think you gotta confrront this girl but in a good way and get everything straight because something isnt right there.

Date: Sep 7 8:39 PM, 2005

Girl,

I don't think your over reacting...If that was my man first of all i wouldn't let him have a friend (girl) I suggest you tell him how you feel and ask him to not talk to her anymore....To me this b@#$% wants ur man

Date: Sep 7 8:28 PM, 2005

Do you guys think it's bad if you don't like one of your boyfriend/girlfriend's friend?

You see my man has this friend that I really don't buy. I think that this friend of his is fake. That's the way she comes off to me. I feel that she likes to put up a front in front of my man, and then turns around and acts in a completely different way then she normally would in front of him. I also found out that she talked nuff crap about me. Saying bull like my man doesn't come out anymore since he got a girl (me), and when he does come out he brings her along (meaning me of course) and she made a screw face when she said that. How would you guys take this? How would you deal with the case?

She found out that I knew what she had said then called my man and told him that she said something like that but not in bad way. She said that she only said that "since he got a girl he doesn't come out anymore", but she said that she never said that if he does come out he brings me along. So she denyed having said what she said, and I know for a fact that the person who told me this wouldn't lie to me, because this person is a good friend of mine and this person was present when this conversation took place.

I don't hate this girl. I just think that she's not who she really claims to be. What do you guys think? Am I over reacting? When I see her I'm always polite to her out of respect to my man, because I know that's his friend. Some people may say that I don't have a good reason as to why I don't like her, but from the first day that I met her I just got this weird vibe about her. I'm normally right about a person, maybe I'm wrong about her, but I feel that if she knows how I feel about her, and she knows that I'm wrong about her, then she would take the time to come to me face to face and tell me straight up how she feels and that I've got her all wrong, but by staying quiet and not saying anything I feel that I'm right about her. She also makes comments to my man like " Oh I don't hate her. I have been through this before". She goes on like every girl hates on her like she's the sh*t or something, and those comments right there make me think that I'm really right about her, and I would go to her about it, but I know that I would lose my cool with her if you know what I mean. So what do you guys think? Your comments will be of good use to me. HOPEFULLY. LOL