BREAKING A FRINEDSHIP IS LIKE BREAKING UP WITH A PERSON THAT U HAVE GROWN FOND OF...... ITS ALWAYS HARD IN THE BEGINNING BUT THEN IT FADES THE ONLY THING I CAN SAY IS BE TRUE TO URSELF, JUST TALK DONT THINK...... SI LE GUSTA BIEN O SI NO TAMBIEN.......... @GENIE HOW MANY TIMES HAVE WE BROKEN UP??? (LOL)
WAIT U MEAN WERE STILL FRIENDS SHIAT!! LMAO
AFRO = THIS IS A HARD SITUATION WHAT I CAN SAY IS IF U WANT THIS PERSON OUT OF UR LIFE THEN WHO CARES BE STRAIGHT AND TELL THEM! HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY!
YOU DONT EVEN WANT TO KNOW HOW MANY TIMES ME AND CONFU HAVE ENDED OUR FRIENDSHIP BUT SHE STILL COMES BACK (LOL LUV YA) I EVEN SOLD HER!!
I know this may sound dry, but depending on what the situation is, I just go away from the picture and blame my abscence on being busy. I know honesty is the best answer, but sometimes its not worth the confrontation (but again it depends on what it is, right?)
I like this response. The truth is people can always be busy doing other things.
I know this may sound dry, but depending on what the situation is, I just go away from the picture and blame my abscence on being busy. I know honesty is the best answer, but sometimes its not worth the confrontation (but again it depends on what it is, right?)
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i think im kinda late..but for the future... i dont think a true friendship fits the description you provided ( the whole one way thing...) so i think the friendship has already ended....so you dont need to tell the person because if you tell the person it is an invitation to try to work things out + it might be an awkward moment(i hate those times)...<<<<<JUST LET IT FADE>>> plus you'll seem more mysterious that way...and it will burn your exfriend jajajjajaja!!!
Im not sure how female relationships work (as Ive said before, the only thing I understand about women is the fact that I will never fully understand them ) but I know that with guys, if they are trully your friends you can never end that friendship. my boys and I have done some WRETCHED things to each other and in the end we end up boyz again.... just like we been since elementary days even though all of them is a bunch of fools, each one of them. the beauty of being a man is that u can scrap it out and then u can both sit there bleedin and still be friends after... .lol
Thanks everyone for your input...It's certainly very appreciated.
@Marilyn....I can't get rid of you woman, no matter where I go you seem to follow me, just kidding...You are my little diamond and I need to keep you with me.
@TVBuff...YEahhh maybe I'll do that...it will stop hurting eventually...LMAO
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Is there ever a way to end a friendship without hurting the other person? There are times in life when you don't want certain people in it anymore, for many reasons...maybe you think you are being used by them, or maybe you think the friendship is only going one way... How do you stop it?? what do you say when they call and ask you why you haven't answered the calls, or why you don't reply emails?
Just like others have said be honest with her & tell her why your reasons of braeking the friendship. It's always going to be hard for the two parties cause no one wants to hurt the other person & the one being hurt may not understand your reasons, but the truth is all the best.
Good Luck.
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Is there ever a way to end a friendship without hurting the other person? There are times in life when you don't want certain people in it anymore, for many reasons...maybe you think you are being used by them, or maybe you think the friendship is only going one way... How do you stop it?? what do you say when they call and ask you why you haven't answered the calls, or why you don't reply emails?
I'd say you kill them... it'll hurt a little, but only for a bit.
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i agree with marilyn...its a part of growing up as well, some times its like this person is just holding you back, and creating a negative atmosphere...a TOXIC friend. I've been there and well i just told them i needed time on my own, i was doing different things at the time going back to school and the group i was friends with just wanted to party ....i had to step back and evaluate my priorities, and find people that could support me and understand me.
Its a natural growing process, the person that you use to click with, perhaps is still stuck in the past and in realiy you have to move forward.
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Hey are you trying to get rid of me??? No creo… I’m a diamond in the rough..... Who would want to get rid of that?..... LOL….
Well, I honestly don’t believe in “friends”. The ones I’ve had along the way, have always backstabbed me or like in ur situation, used me. For us women, it’s harder to end a friendship/relationship than a man. (somos mas sentimentales) ..well, at least i am.
If this person is making you feel like this, ur just sacrificing you own well-being, & time. Their not worth it, you stressing over it. (just me). I don't know any easy or nice way you can tell this to a person.. just be honest.. Or the easiest approach would be, to tell her your busy with work or other activities. Little by little she'll stop calling. I've done that and it's worked.
…..But newayz... always remind yourself, that ending this friendship is the best decision in the long run. Having those "so-called friends" of mine out, was the best thing I ever did.
You have the choice to share ur success and failures, hopes and dreams with special people ….. so choose carefully.. (I better be one of those Biotch, because ur one of mines).
Like Mike Jones dice "..I GOT ALOT OF HATERS AND ALOT OF HOMIES SOME FRIENDS AND SOME PHONY"
Phantasma wrote: Im not sure how female relationships work (as Ive said before, the only thing I understand about women is the fact that I will never fully understand them ) but I know that with guys, if they are trully your friends you can never end that friendship. my boys and I have done some WRETCHED things to each other and in the end we end up boyz again.... just like we been since elementary days even though all of them is a bunch of fools, each one of them.
the beauty of being a man is that u can scrap it out and then u can both sit there bleedin and still be friends after... .lol
I've always been amazed by male bonding...no matter what you guys do to eachother at the end you are still buddies.
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Im not sure how female relationships work (as Ive said before, the only thing I understand about women is the fact that I will never fully understand them ) but I know that with guys, if they are trully your friends you can never end that friendship. my boys and I have done some WRETCHED things to each other and in the end we end up boyz again.... just like we been since elementary days even though all of them is a bunch of fools, each one of them.
the beauty of being a man is that u can scrap it out and then u can both sit there bleedin and still be friends after... .lol
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what? you found Manuel Noreaga? In the Phillipines? He has a mansion? Ok, we on it, on it, right now!
Just be carefull about the way you say it, because some people take it the wrong way and then you will end up in a arguement about it. Trust me I've been through it.
Well I was willing to save the relationship, but this girl didn't show much interest in doing the same, so I said f**k it. If she wasn't willing to work it out then why should I be bothered with it. It just goes to show you that sometimes people aren't really who you think they are. I guess sometimes you got to learn the hard way. What really bugs me now is the fact that I should have followed my true feelings from the start. I had a feeling that she was bad news, but I always say don't judge a book by it's cover and took the risk. Oh boy do I regret ever being friends with this girl. She talked nuff trash behind my back to my other friends about me and she did the same thing to my other friends. I already knew that she was a liar, but I never thought that she would go as far as talking bull about me someone who she called her "bestfriend", and my other girls aswell. In the end she got caught in her lies and all of us confronted her, and you know what this girl did she denied everything, even though all of us knew the truth. I just think that she did all of this, because she was jelous of the rest of us and she was a compulsive lier. All of us ended up getting into a huge arguement and we ended our friendship on a bad note which I really wasn't to happy about, but I guess it was for the best. She was a trouble maker and I really don't like to be around that type of people. There was one time when she tried to frame a girl for something that she had done, but good thing that I talked her out of it. I figured that if she was willing to do that to an inocent person who didn't do anything to her, then I know that she could have done something like that to me down the road. Oh well I guess that's just one more lesson that you have to learn in life. Choose your friends wisely, which I have always done except for this one. In the end I forgave her, because I can't find it in my heart to hold grudges or recentment towards anyone even if I wanted to it's just not in me. I say why hold those negative feelings they will do you no good in the end.
Sorry I know I went on and on, but I had to explain it properly otherwise you would be like what the?
lol
Anyway hope it works out for you and your friend. Hopefully it doesn't end on a bad note like mine did.
Afrodita wrote: Is there ever a way to end a friendship without hurting the other person? There are times in life when you don't want certain people in it anymore, for many reasons...maybe you think you are being used by them, or maybe you think the friendship is only going one way... How do you stop it?? what do you say when they call and ask you why you haven't answered the calls, or why you don't reply emails?
I DON'T THINK THERE IS AN EASY OR NICE WAY TO DO IT WITHOUT HURTING THE OTHER PERSON OR WITHOUT YOU FEELING BAD ABOUT IT... THAT BEING SAID IF YOU KNOW YOUR FRIEND IS USING YOU, I'M NOT SURE HE/SHE CARES MUCH FOR YOUR FRIENDSHIP EITHER, AND YOU PROBABLY SHOULDN'T FEEL SO TERRIBLE ABOUT IT
IF YOU'RE CERTAIN YOU DON'T WANT THIS PERSON IN YOUR LIFE, I THINK THE ONLY WAY YOU'LL PROBABLY BE ABLE TO DO IT COMFORTABLY (NOTHING TO HAUNT YOU LATER) IS TELLING HER/HIM THE TRUTH
IF YOU'RE NOT CERTAIN YOU WANT THIS PERSON OUT OF YUR LIFE, I WOULD PROBABLY TELL HER EVERYTHING THAT IS BUGGING ME, AND TRY TO SAVE THE FRIENDSHIP
I DON'T THINK YOU'LL HAVE ANY EASY OPTIONS THOUGH
-- Edited by Dogo at 22:30, 2005-07-04
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Thats hard girl... I"ve been on the other end of this situation, so I really dont know how to handle it from your side girl...
But it worked out better for me in the end, I realized that her 'breakin up' with me was really the best thing for both of us... jelousy/miscommunications/recentment just doesnt fit into a healthy friendship.
Maybe if you just be honest with her/him let your true feelings be known, be striaght up. Honestly is sometimes the best solution.
They say honesty is the best policy. I would be honest. Sometimes things are not said and then they just build up and then one day u may end up exploding at that person over small things. I think if something bugs u, no matter how small it is, say it at the moment. That way, if u decide to take drastic measures after, at least they cant say "oh i didnt know, oh i wasnt warned" etc.
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Is there ever a way to end a friendship without hurting the other person? There are times in life when you don't want certain people in it anymore, for many reasons...maybe you think you are being used by them, or maybe you think the friendship is only going one way... How do you stop it?? what do you say when they call and ask you why you haven't answered the calls, or why you don't reply emails?
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i think im kinda late..but for the future...
jajajjajaja!!!
