I would not tell my friend, regardless how close my friend may be. I know that once we are in love with someone and we may say something to that person, that person will not believe it, no matter if we are trying to help the person out.. I know that a cheater no matter how good he may be they will make a mistake and will get caught or u as a woman have to be smart to detect ur partners change.
quote: Originally posted by: GENIE " LOOK I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION I WAS SEEING THIS GUY HAD A REP FOR BEING A BIG A$$ BUT HONESTLY EL ES UNA PERSONA TAN DULCE Y TAN LINDO!! SO TO BEHONEST JUST LET IT BE BECAUSE WHAT IF THE REP ABOUT THE PERSON IS WRONG YOU MAY SPOIL A BEAUTIFUL ROMANCE!! BESIDES WE ALL LEARN FROM OUR MISTAKES!! OH SEND ME THE PIC AGAIN I DIDNT GET IT!! OK!! "
quote: Originally posted by: Chilenita "You should only tell if it is a GOOD friend. If any of my "good" friends told me I would NEVER doubt it...if you are not that close.....don't get involved. CHEPE.....don't say anything cause perhaps what you or someone else considers a "bad rep" really isn't....let your friend figure it out...."
You should only tell if it is a GOOD friend. If any of my "good" friends told me I would NEVER doubt it...if you are not that close.....don't get involved.
CHEPE.....don't say anything cause perhaps what you or someone else considers a "bad rep" really isn't....let your friend figure it out....
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quote: Originally posted by: chepe_trompo "I have a question maybe you people can help me!! if my best friend is seen this Girl or guy. do you think i have the right to tell him, the rePutacion this girl or guy has, so he doesn't get hurt or keep my mouth shut and let him find out for himself or tell him and risk loosing a friendship??"
LOOK I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION I WAS SEEING THIS GUY HAD A REP FOR BEING A BIG A$$ BUT HONESTLY EL ES UNA PERSONA TAN DULCE Y TAN LINDO!! SO TO BEHONEST JUST LET IT BE BECAUSE WHAT IF THE REP ABOUT THE PERSON IS WRONG YOU MAY SPOIL A BEAUTIFUL ROMANCE!! BESIDES WE ALL LEARN FROM OUR MISTAKES!!
quote: Originally posted by: chepe_trompo "I have a question maybe you people can help me!! if my best friend is seen this Girl or guy. do you think i have the right to tell him, the rePutacion this girl or guy has, so he doesn't get hurt or keep my mouth shut and let him find out for himself or tell him and risk loosing a friendship??"
Reputations are tricky. I wouldn't say anything to your friend because a) He or she may not be what they're rumoured to be. b) Your friend might see in her what others don't. c) It's better for him to find out on his own and make his own decisions. d) No hay que meter la cuchara donde no se debe. e) Live your life, give him some general advice and let him be.
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I have a question maybe you people can help me!! if my best friend is seen this Girl or guy. do you think i have the right to tell him, the rePutacion this girl or guy has, so he doesn't get hurt or keep my mouth shut and let him find out for himself or tell him and risk loosing a friendship??
SABES THIS CAN BACK FIRE ON U SO LIKE I HAVE ALWAYS SAID AND I LIVE BY
OJOS KE NO VEN CORAZON KE NO SIENTE!!
OTRA COSA IT DEPENDS ON THE RELATIONSHIP THEY HAVE!! I BEEN IN THIS SITUATION AND I CONFRONT HIM OR HER WHOEVER IS MESSING AROUND AND THATS IT I NEVER SAY NADA!! ITS NOT MY BSNS!
I WON'T TELL THEM CAUSE MY MOTHER I ALWAYS TOLD NOT TO GET INVOLVED CAUSE THE PROBLEM BETWEEN LOVER ARE ALWAYS SETTLE IN BED AND THEN THAT ONE THE LOOKS BAD IS YOU ! A PERSON NEVER WANTS TO BELIEVE UNLESS THEY SEE IT WITH THERE ON EYE!
quote: Originally posted by: Anonymous "nawwww.most of the time the "loser" fren never believes in what you say, so why waist my breath on something like that, when in the end he/she will run back to hi/her arms!!denial!!!what i would say is ....“ you already know and I told you what I think and KNOW about him/her,…so hun’ can we change the subject,…. Let’s go shopping!!” lol, that’s the best therapy for them!! Bottom line…they never bring it up again!! "
nawwww. most of the time the "loser" fren never believes in what you say, so why waist my breath on something like that, when in the end he/she will run back to hi/her arms!! denial!!! what i would say is .... “ you already know and I told you what I think and KNOW about him/her,…so hun’ can we change the subject,…. Let’s go shopping!!” lol, that’s the best therapy for them!! Bottom line…they never bring it up again!!
quote: Originally posted by: TV Buff "I wouldn't, for two reasons: 1) I wasn't told when it was happening to me. 2) I don't blame anybody for not having told me, because I wouldn't have believed it anyways, which is what happens most of the time. The person is most likely to believe the cheating bf/gf/spouse, etc, than s/he is to believe their friends, especially if they're not intuitive enough to kind of suspect that they're being cheated on. There's always signs, we just don't or refuse to see them. So, no, I wouldn't tell. "
If a really close friend of yours that you trust tells u this, you wouldn't believe him/her? I thinks everyone is entitled to know if they're being cheated on. So i would tell my friends if i ever saw their boyfriend/girlfriend cheating because i would expect them to do the same.
****, this is a hard one, I guess my answer is both, I will consider telling some friends but not others, I know it sound confusing but TV Buff is right some people just don't want to believe and then you end up loosing a friend. SOme of my friends I know could take it but other couldn't. So there it go, that is my answer I would and I wouldn't hehehehe if that makes any sense.
quote: Originally posted by: PRINCESSA "This is for Guys or Girls. Would You or Not tell ur friend if you saw her/his girlfriend/boyfriend CHEATING ??? Well I would, that's what friends are for. I expect that from them. If I had a phone with camera I would even take pics. so that I have proof."
I wouldn't, for two reasons: 1) I wasn't told when it was happening to me. 2) I don't blame anybody for not having told me, because I wouldn't have believed it anyways, which is what happens most of the time. The person is most likely to believe the cheating bf/gf/spouse, etc, than s/he is to believe their friends, especially if they're not intuitive enough to kind of suspect that they're being cheated on. There's always signs, we just don't or refuse to see them. So, no, I wouldn't tell.
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quote: Originally posted by: PRINCESSA "This is for Guys or Girls. Would You or Not tell ur friend if you saw her/his girlfriend/boyfriend CHEATING ???
Well I would, that's what friends are for. I expect that from them. If I had a phone with camera I would even take pics. so that I have proof."
Of course i would but i would give him a chance to come clean first because it's better if it comes from him.
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