how about the single father

DannyC · Guru

RE: how about the single father

DannyC · Guru

latina4evrgp wrote:

Danny I'm not going to go there with the Cordova tradition just because I know we are on Foro so I'll restraint myself.

I don't want to talk about this anymore because you don't get it!
You are still young and yes you should enjoy yourself and hopefully you will settle at one point.

I'm also enjoying myself but differently that you are lol.

No hables dan duro porque God works in mysterious ways (If you believe in God!)

You know the cordova tradition hun biggrin

lets just be honest there is nothing to hide.....u know how we roll.....

i see where u are coming from......we just think different thats all....

and whats wrong with thinking the way i think.....the man from above knows well how i am biggrin

.....y bueno parece que el ha estado conmigo en muchos momentos de mi vida.......asi que para tu informacion si creo en el!!

good day

LGigolo · Comandante

God wrote:

El Duro wrote:

@danny

In this world their ain't much people left that don't have children... Even in Ecuador their is a lot off single moms

it's okay as far the cheer any ecuadorian soccer team it's okaayyyy

-- Edited by God at 15:04, 2008-10-03

NO, no, no... it has to be Ecuador's National Team AND LIGA!

God · Foro Master

El Duro wrote:

@danny

In this world their ain't much people left that don't have children... Even in Ecuador their is a lot off single moms

it's okay as far the cheer any ecuadorian soccer team it's okaayyyy biggrin

-- Edited by God at 15:04, 2008-10-03

LGigolo · Comandante

latina4evrgp wrote:
No hables dan duro porque God works in mysterious ways (If you believe in God!)

I don't think he believes in God... Danny is pretty anti-God. No te has dado cuenta how he makes fun of him on foro?

latina4evrgp · Guru

Danny I'm not going to go there with the Cordova tradition just because I know we are on Foro so I'll restraint myself.

I don't want to talk about this anymore because you don't get it!
You are still young and yes you should enjoy yourself and hopefully you will settle at one point.

I'm also enjoying myself but differently that you are lol.

No hables dan duro porque God works in mysterious ways (If you believe in God!)

El Duro · Foro Master

@danny

In this world their ain't much people left that don't have children... Even in Ecuador their is a lot off single moms

DannyC · Guru

latina4evrgp wrote:

Obviously Danny you haven't really fallen in luv yet!

noooooooooooooopeeee no rush i never felt this good to be single with all the freedom and joy!!! biggrin biggrin biggrin biggrin biggrin i luv picking up many many girls and doing my thing :)......a typical rico suave latino????? YOUR DAMMM F1UCKING RIGHT MI NANITA!!!! aww aww aww aww ...

and if i do ever fall in love.....i dear god hope its with someone like myself with NO BAGGAGE im sorry NO children.....its only fair in my eyes.....plus i have to follow the cordova traidition in the fam .........we make and take care of OUR OWN kids ....no de otros!

:)

latina4evrgp · Guru

I would definitely make an exception if he is worth it and most importantly treats me well.

If you luv the person, then you will luv their kid and treat it as your own!

If you can luv an adopted child, I don't see why you wouldn't luv that person's kid. Now if the person has a really really bad kid, then things change.

Obviously Danny you haven't really fallen in luv yet!

DannyC · Guru

latina4evrgp wrote:

@ Danny

Where do I start lol. First of all I said it depends and yes I would date someone that has a kid. He probably will be more responsible and more of a "man" than a lot of single guys out there.

If he is a good person, hard worker and wants to start over why not here him out? The most important thing is to find out what his situation was and why the separation.
If I happen to find out that a) he hit his wife or b) is an axe murder, then obviously he is out of the picture in my books.

I'll give you a different example. What about the Joe Biden the VP running in the USA (in case you are not familiar). He lost his wife and kid in a car crash. He became a single father with 2 boys. Look at the type of man he is and why wouldn't anyone want to get involved with him? He is an amazing man in my books.

Sometimes one is single because of circumstance and things didn't go the way you wanted them to go and you can't assume the woman or a man jumped shipped just "because".

If you don't get it after this then I don't know what to tell you lol

damm well i dont know how u could consider doing that....i still couldnt ..cant be dealing with someone elses kid in the first place nope not me!

u must not mind that:)

DannyC · Guru

God wrote:

latina4evrgp wrote:

If you don't get it after this then I don't know what to tell you lol

Prolly he wont...he'll come back with an dumb argument...oh well como dirian por ahi lo pende..o solo se quita 3 metros bajo tierra.

Dumb argument? and you call your "top of the line" standards for dating women pretty realistic, practical and smart? what a JOKE!

here is a smart idea for you..try lavalife! biggrin

-- Edited by DannyC at 13:30, 2008-10-03

RazorbladeKiss · Guru

God wrote:

latina4evrgp wrote:

If you don't get it after this then I don't know what to tell you lol

Prolly he wont...he'll come back with an dumb argument...oh well como dirian por ahi lo pende..o solo se quita 3 metros bajo tierra.

biggrin

God · Foro Master

latina4evrgp wrote:

If you don't get it after this then I don't know what to tell you lol

Prolly he wont...he'll come back with an dumb argument...oh well como dirian por ahi lo pende..o solo se quita 3 metros bajo tierra.

latina4evrgp · Guru

@ Danny

Where do I start lol. First of all I said it depends and yes I would date someone that has a kid. He probably will be more responsible and more of a "man" than a lot of single guys out there.

If he is a good person, hard worker and wants to start over why not here him out? The most important thing is to find out what his situation was and why the separation.
If I happen to find out that a) he hit his wife or b) is an axe murder, then obviously he is out of the picture in my books.

I'll give you a different example. What about the Joe Biden the VP running in the USA (in case you are not familiar). He lost his wife and kid in a car crash. He became a single father with 2 boys. Look at the type of man he is and why wouldn't anyone want to get involved with him? He is an amazing man in my books.

Sometimes one is single because of circumstance and things didn't go the way you wanted them to go and you can't assume the woman or a man jumped ship just "because".

If you don't get it after this then I don't know what to tell you lol

-- Edited by latina4evrgp at 14:18, 2008-10-03

El Duro · Foro Master

@Danny
At least you got goals on what you want to do with your life

DannyC · Guru

El Duro wrote:

@Danny

I'm serious why don't you like children you ain't planning having them when your ready

too many people such as yourself tell me the same thing......i just dont like them period .....im not kid person....i dont find them interesting ....i dont even focus on myself being ready one day .....i have soo much things that i want to do for myself first........

DannyC · Guru

God wrote:

DannyC wrote:
lol and then you wonder why i start with you eh huevonaso

its not about not being ready for responsibilities .....I just was never the type of person to like kids/babies anyways....thats the honest truth ..i dont like them i dont find anything amusing about them.....yup thats me! i dont see anything wrong with that....but alot of people do which is wack....

holy..talk about retarded people.. ill break this down to you point by point

Of course it is....How you gonna be responsable for a lil one when you are unable to manage your own life...i have other priorities right now in my life ....my own goals ..im not even worrying about raising children ..or finding the "one"

you are still ridding mommy's coattails. no i live my parents and pretty soon many more people coming in....we are raised differently we each pay our own bills half the rent food etc etc ..we have plans as a family ..like buying a house or condo down the road.....its called family unity something that alot of people dont have these days

Even if you are the type that likes kids do you think a woman would consider you as a husband material ? thats a misjudgment right there....at this point i can give 2 sh1ts if women see me as a husband material or not....im not at that stage yet ..quit franctly like i said before i have other goals to worry about then making myself a husband material

And I'm not talking about how good looking you are...id like to think i have looks so i been told....but ya ill go back on topic

I'm talking about being a man, being able to stand up for his woman, and look after her; i think all that comes from how you were raised....id be more then happy to tell you that we have excellant male role models in all of my family plus the extended ones.....la primera influencia de uno comienza en el hogar ..es decir en la familia... so when the time comes...if it does come...for me to settle down with a wife and kids.....id like to think that id make a good husband ....based on how i grew up

women have the need to feel safe, protected and secure do you really think a woman see that on you ? another misjudgment right there homie when i deal with REAL women you would be surprised on how different i act.....I treat women on how they they come off in person.....i dont see nothing wrong with that

common people ...lets keep the negative comments flying my way......i could debate any of you :)

-- Edited by God at 12:04, 2008-10-03

El Duro · Foro Master

@Danny

I'm serious why don't you like children you ain't planning having them when your ready

DannyC · Guru

God wrote:

El Duro wrote:

as a single dad it is hard to find a partner

It's very hard for us to find a

Single woman
No kids
No wanting kids
Between 22-29
No expecting Marriage
Size 2 tops
and under 115 lbs
loves to cook
Loves to watch soccer
Dont like novelas
Not a complainer

It's effing hard !

lol!!!!!!!!!!what a joke

no offence homie but your standards are way off...coming from an old fugly chump hahaha

keep dreaming !

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

Chuck wrote:

Colombiana4Life wrote:

God wrote:

DannyC wrote:

godoo u brought up an interesting point

my question for u single dads and also for you single moms......why didnt u guys ever think of any of these consequences (having trouble to find a significant other down the road...baby father mama drama etc) before you decided to have children? .....unless some of you had been divorced..which changes the scenario in a way.......but to those of u that just had kids at an early age ........porque no se pusieron a pensar en estas cosas?

i ask this to all of my friends with kids .....none of them seems to come up with an answer...

not trying to stir up sh1t here...........just curious

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:17, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:21, 2008-10-02

We as people change, when you get married you don't expect to get divorced, life takes turns and sometimes at some point, what got you together is not there anymore, every action in your life has consequences and you decide how to solve them.

Divorces are not easy for anyone they have concequesces and you have to face them. You have toe option of stay in a loveless/bitter/miserable marriage but that will affect the little ones. Sometimes hard desicions are the best.

Totally agree with this. You dont get married thinking that down the road you're not gonna be with this person, especially women, since we're more sentimental that way.

And i think you see more divorces now a days because ppl are just more aware of their own well being and happiness and know that there are other options besides staying in a loveless marriage. Not like in our parents generation where you got married and you pretty much had to stay married, meanwhile we probably saw the problems our parents had and thought "how the heck did my parents end up together in the first place." I see a lot of couples from my mom's generation that decided to get divorced in their later years, claiming that they stayed together for the kids. And you talk to their kids and they're like "i dont know why my parents didnt do this sooner, it would have avoided a lot of drama and ****." Like G said, you can remain in these situations but eventually kids catch the gist of it and may even be resentful towards the parents for keepiing them in an uncomfortable situation.

why is this?

We just get more emotionally attached, alwasy wanting to feel and have everyone feel loved and happy.

Mind you, women now a days are more headstrong. But i guarantee you that majority of women that are like this NOW is because they have been really screwed over in the past. Not saying that a woman wants to marry every guy she dates, but i think most of us try our best to keep the relationship in a good state and not to burn any bridges.

God · Foro Master

DannyC wrote:
lol and then you wonder why i start with you eh huevonaso

its not about not being ready for responsibilities .....I just was never the type of person to like kids/babies anyways....thats the honest truth ..i dont like them i dont find anything amusing about them.....yup thats me! i dont see anything wrong with that....but alot of people do which is wack....

Of course it is....How you gonna be responsable for a lil one when you are unable to manage your own life...you are still ridding mommy's coattails. Even if you are the type that likes kids do you think a woman would consider you as a husband material ? And I'm not talking about how good looking you are...I'm talking about being a man, being able to stand up for his woman, and look after her; women have the need to feel safe, protected and secure do you really think a woman see that on you ?

-- Edited by God at 12:04, 2008-10-03

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

El Duro wrote:

@Colo

I don't own a iphone. Its a blackberry ok

LOL. But YOU take care of your son the way you should. smile

DannyC · Guru

El Duro wrote:

@Danny

You don't like children? Why do you think they're going to steal your thunder

ya u rock!!lol yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn yawn

DannyC · Guru

LGigolo wrote:

Yeah, you don't seem ready for the responsibilities + you need to have sex with a woman in order to make one!

lol and then you wonder why i start with you eh huevonaso

its not about not being ready for responsibilities .....I just was never the type of person to like kids/babies anyways....thats the honest truth ..i dont like them i dont find anything amusing about them.....yup thats me!

i dont see anything wrong with that....but alot of people do which is wack....

God · Foro Master

Chuck wrote:
date a man like lipglossboi

I forget to add smart.....I guess that leave him out.

El Duro · Foro Master

@god

You are right it is hard to find anyone in your list

Chuck · Guru

Colombiana4Life wrote:

God wrote:

DannyC wrote:

godoo u brought up an interesting point

my question for u single dads and also for you single moms......why didnt u guys ever think of any of these consequences (having trouble to find a significant other down the road...baby father mama drama etc) before you decided to have children? .....unless some of you had been divorced..which changes the scenario in a way.......but to those of u that just had kids at an early age ........porque no se pusieron a pensar en estas cosas?

i ask this to all of my friends with kids .....none of them seems to come up with an answer...

not trying to stir up sh1t here...........just curious

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:17, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:21, 2008-10-02

We as people change, when you get married you don't expect to get divorced, life takes turns and sometimes at some point, what got you together is not there anymore, every action in your life has consequences and you decide how to solve them.

Divorces are not easy for anyone they have concequesces and you have to face them. You have toe option of stay in a loveless/bitter/miserable marriage but that will affect the little ones. Sometimes hard desicions are the best.

Totally agree with this. You dont get married thinking that down the road you're not gonna be with this person, especially women, since we're more sentimental that way.

And i think you see more divorces now a days because ppl are just more aware of their own well being and happiness and know that there are other options besides staying in a loveless marriage. Not like in our parents generation where you got married and you pretty much had to stay married, meanwhile we probably saw the problems our parents had and thought "how the heck did my parents end up together in the first place." I see a lot of couples from my mom's generation that decided to get divorced in their later years, claiming that they stayed together for the kids. And you talk to their kids and they're like "i dont know why my parents didnt do this sooner, it would have avoided a lot of drama and ****." Like G said, you can remain in these situations but eventually kids catch the gist of it and may even be resentful towards the parents for keepiing them in an uncomfortable situation.

why is this?

Chuck · Guru

God wrote:

El Duro wrote:

as a single dad it is hard to find a partner

It's very hard for us to find a

Single woman
No kids
No wanting kids
Between 22-29
No expecting Marriage
Size 2 tops
and under 115 lbs
loves to cook
Loves to watch soccer
Dont like novelas
Not a complainer

It's effing hard !

date a man like lipglossboi

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

God wrote:

DannyC wrote:

godoooo i understand that if your divorced the situation is different...but im refering to those people who had kids at a young young age you know the same ones that could have waited longer when they were more mature.......then they complain that its hard to find someone...will sh1t no duhhhhh porque no se pusieron a pensar en eso?

you said you were divorced you had the intentions of starting a family which was all good if things didnt work out then thats different

what about all those single moms and dads that r 15 16 l17 etc etc like that girl who posted before .......the ones who could have waited and could have taken proper percautions in the first place? those r the ones i was refering too

Look Teenager have not good judgement therefore we make wrong desicions due poor judement , some become gangsters, others drop school, another get caught up in drugs and such....it's all about desicions ....and the right desicions are not the easy ones...

Im on board with this one as well. Most teenagers dont have the best judgement. And i guarantee you that 99% of the girls that got pregnant during thir teenage years were "in love" with the guys and thought they were gonna be with them forever. That's just how most women are.

You make it sound like you have always had "good judgement", even as a teenager and if that is the case, kudos to you. But everyone has had their downfalls here and there. Believe me, that saying "if I knew back then what i know now" really makes sense to me now.

El Duro · Foro Master

@Colo

I don't own a iphone. Its a blackberry ok

Colombiana4Life · Foro Master

God wrote:

DannyC wrote:

godoo u brought up an interesting point

my question for u single dads and also for you single moms......why didnt u guys ever think of any of these consequences (having trouble to find a significant other down the road...baby father mama drama etc) before you decided to have children? .....unless some of you had been divorced..which changes the scenario in a way.......but to those of u that just had kids at an early age ........porque no se pusieron a pensar en estas cosas?

i ask this to all of my friends with kids .....none of them seems to come up with an answer...

not trying to stir up sh1t here...........just curious

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:17, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:21, 2008-10-02

We as people change, when you get married you don't expect to get divorced, life takes turns and sometimes at some point, what got you together is not there anymore, every action in your life has consequences and you decide how to solve them.

Divorces are not easy for anyone they have concequesces and you have to face them. You have toe option of stay in a loveless/bitter/miserable marriage but that will affect the little ones. Sometimes hard desicions are the best.

Totally agree with this. You dont get married thinking that down the road you're not gonna be with this person, especially women, since we're more sentimental that way.

And i think you see more divorces now a days because ppl are just more aware of their own well being and happiness and know that there are other options besides staying in a loveless marriage. Not like in our parents generation where you got married and you pretty much had to stay married, meanwhile we probably saw the problems our parents had and thought "how the heck did my parents end up together in the first place." I see a lot of couples from my mom's generation that decided to get divorced in their later years, claiming that they stayed together for the kids. And you talk to their kids and they're like "i dont know why my parents didnt do this sooner, it would have avoided a lot of drama and ****." Like G said, you can remain in these situations but eventually kids catch the gist of it and may even be resentful towards the parents for keepiing them in an uncomfortable situation.

God · Foro Master

El Duro wrote:

as a single dad it is hard to find a partner

It's very hard for us to find a

Single woman
No kids
No wanting kids
Between 22-29
No expecting Marriage
Size 2 tops
and under 115 lbs
loves to cook
Loves to watch soccer
Dont like novelas
Not a complainer

It's effing hard !

El Duro · Foro Master

@Danny

You don't like children? Why do you think they're going to steal your thunder

LGigolo · Comandante

DannyC wrote:

LGigolo wrote:
but once you're a parent you'll understand that as a parent there is nothing you would rather have than to have your kid(s) with you.

I dont like kids giggy :).......so that aint happening anytime soon in my life

r u a single dad?

Yeah, you don't seem ready for the responsibilities + you need to have sex with a woman in order to make one! biggrin

I'm a dad - single, yes; but kiddo doesn't live with me... I do see her regularly, though.

El Duro · Foro Master

I've had custody off my son since I was 19 years old and trust me most men can get custody off their children you just have to spend the money for them.. The reason most men don't get custody is cause they give up to easy

DannyC · Guru

LGigolo wrote:
but once you're a parent you'll understand that as a parent there is nothing you would rather have than to have your kid(s) with you.

I dont like kids giggy :).......so that aint happening anytime soon in my life

r u a single dad?

LGigolo · Comandante

DannyC wrote:
single dads have it easier ill tell you why
single dads rarely get sole custody of children in divorces at the worst they have shared custody, and often not even that.....so this can avoid baby mamma drama

You make it sound like not having your kid live with you is a good thing!? hmm

It's not an easy thing because it adds a lot of responsibilities and free time you would get - but once you're a parent you'll understand that as a parent there is nothing you would rather have than to have your kid(s) with you.

RazorbladeKiss · Guru

DannyC wrote:

RazorbladeKiss wrote:

El Duro wrote:

as a single dad it is hard to find a partner but hey they got to understand that i come with a child, so they got to love me no matter what if they dont that their lost not mine.. on this topic i can go on all night but i wont

I had a very bad experience with a single dad, that's why I never mess around with them

pffffffffffffff ya right he was probably married ...you HOMEWRECKER

I don't mess with married men although some married men like to lie about their relationship status and it wouldn't be my fault if he's lying. blankstare

DannyC · Guru

RazorbladeKiss wrote:

El Duro wrote:

as a single dad it is hard to find a partner but hey they got to understand that i come with a child, so they got to love me no matter what if they dont that their lost not mine.. on this topic i can go on all night but i wont

I had a very bad experience with a single dad, that's why I never mess around with them

pffffffffffffff ya right he was probably married ...you HOMEWRECKER biggrin

RazorbladeKiss · Guru

El Duro wrote:

as a single dad it is hard to find a partner but hey they got to understand that i come with a child, so they got to love me no matter what if they dont that their lost not mine.. on this topic i can go on all night but i wont

I had a very bad experience with a single dad, that's why I never mess around with them

El Duro · Foro Master

as a single dad it is hard to find a partner but hey they got to understand that i come with a child, so they got to love me no matter what if they dont that their lost not mine.. on this topic i can go on all night but i wont

RazorbladeKiss · Guru

Chuck wrote:

everyone seems to be focused on single moms, how about the single daddys?

they are hot, but it's a big no-no

DannyC · Guru

LGigolo wrote:
Many single men (~*cough, cough*~) that don't like single moms still go for them just to get a little pun pun.

yup i definetly agree on that giggy

no shame to say so
but i disagree on the rest....I for one do NOT like babies or kids....i dont find them cute or go all bonkers jumping up with joy when i see one.....(put a baby and a puppy beside eachother .. id rather hold and caress the puch ..i know its a weird comparison but .....yup!thats me) second of all ....and this is based on my own experiences the majority of single moms thats ive messed around with.....have either been to young/geettttto and insecure full of baby daddy issues....or way older then me....like 5 -10 years difference....so as you can see giggy .....there was/is no future with any of them in the long run ...

and third of all........single dads have it easier ill tell you why
single dads rarely get sole custody of children in divorces at the worst they have shared custody, and often not even that.....so this can avoid baby mamma drama
single dads have some other ummm "support" group to watch the kids when they r at work for instance......this can also avoid baby mamma drama

i take it that u r a single dad giggy?

biggrin

-- Edited by DannyC at 17:38, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 17:39, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 17:40, 2008-10-02

LGigolo · Comandante

DannyC wrote:

latina4evrgp wrote:

It depends on the situation though. Years ago I probably wouldn't of dated a single father but now I see things different.

wow im sorry hun i dont know how you can even think like that...First of all i cant even possible think of luving a child that aint even mine to begin with....hell no ....que le crie o que se les aregle el padre del hijo....who the hell am i to except a child that aint biologically mine to begin with...or let alone expcect the lil one to luv me as a dad......i dont know how people do this......i for one dont believe in it......

single moms are considered as women carrying baggage for the most part ..sorry but its true ...i think the dads can get away from it more...

If one falls in love with a person, one will accept him/her with his/her past and with whatever baggage (as you and others call it) the person brings. I see and understand your preference of a woman without kids and that is fine - but you may end up missing up on a great woman for restricting yourself. hmm

I wouldn't think unconditional pure paternal love from kid to mommy's new bf can't be expected - nor vice-versa. Pero con el tiempo, tratandolos bien y respetandolos, ayudandolos y guiandoles en la vida - uno se termina encariñando. Sometimes step-parents are even parents that padres de sangre.

I think single dad's have as much a hard time as single moms. Many women preffer single guys without kids too - you know, more spending money for shoes and trips instead of piano lessons and video game systems. hmm

Many single men (~*cough, cough*~) that don't like single moms still go for them just to get a little pun pun.

God · Foro Master

DannyC wrote:

godoooo i understand that if your divorced the situation is different...but im refering to those people who had kids at a young young age you know the same ones that could have waited longer when they were more mature.......then they complain that its hard to find someone...will sh1t no duhhhhh porque no se pusieron a pensar en eso?

you said you were divorced you had the intentions of starting a family which was all good if things didnt work out then thats different

what about all those single moms and dads that r 15 16 l17 etc etc like that girl who posted before .......the ones who could have waited and could have taken proper percautions in the first place? those r the ones i was refering too

Look Teenager have not good judgement therefore we make wrong desicions due poor judement , some become gangsters, others drop school, another get caught up in drugs and such....it's all about desicions ....and the right desicions are not the easy ones...

DannyC · Guru

God wrote:

DannyC wrote:

godoo u brought up an interesting point

my question for u single dads and also for you single moms......why didnt u guys ever think of any of these consequences (having trouble to find a significant other down the road...baby father mama drama etc) before you decided to have children? .....unless some of you had been divorced..which changes the scenario in a way.......but to those of u that just had kids at an early age ........porque no se pusieron a pensar en estas cosas?

i ask this to all of my friends with kids .....none of them seems to come up with an answer...

not trying to stir up sh1t here...........just curious

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:17, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:21, 2008-10-02

We as people change, when you get married you don't expect to get divorced, life takes turns and sometimes at some point, what got you together is not there anymore, every action in your life has consequences and you decide how to solve them.

Divorces are not easy for anyone they have concequesces and you have to face them. You have toe option of stay in a loveless/bitter/miserable marriage but that will affect the little ones. Sometimes hard desicions are the best.

godoooo i understand that if your divorced the situation is different...but im refering to those people who had kids at a young young age you know the same ones that could have waited longer when they were more mature.......then they complain that its hard to find someone...will sh1t no duhhhhh porque no se pusieron a pensar en eso?

you said you were divorced you had the intentions of starting a family which was all good if things didnt work out then thats different

what about all those single moms and dads that r 15 16 l17 etc etc like that girl who posted before .......the ones who could have waited and could have taken proper percautions in the first place? those r the ones i was refering too

DannyC · Guru

latina4evrgp wrote:

It depends on the situation though. Years ago I probably wouldn't of dated a single father but now I see things different.

wow im sorry hun i dont know how you can even think like that...First of all i cant even possible think of luving a child that aint even mine to begin with....hell no ....que le crie o que se les aregle el padre del hijo....who the hell am i to except a child that aint biologically mine to begin with...or let alone expcect the lil one to luv me as a dad......i dont know how people do this......i for one dont believe in it......

single moms are considered as women carrying baggage for the most part ..sorry but its true ...i think the dads can get away from it more...

God · Foro Master

DannyC wrote:

godoo u brought up an interesting point

my question for u single dads and also for you single moms......why didnt u guys ever think of any of these consequences (having trouble to find a significant other down the road...baby father mama drama etc) before you decided to have children? .....unless some of you had been divorced..which changes the scenario in a way.......but to those of u that just had kids at an early age ........porque no se pusieron a pensar en estas cosas?

i ask this to all of my friends with kids .....none of them seems to come up with an answer...

not trying to stir up sh1t here...........just curious

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:17, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:21, 2008-10-02

We as people change, when you get married you don't expect to get divorced, life takes turns and sometimes at some point, what got you together is not there anymore, every action in your life has consequences and you decide how to solve them.

Divorces are not easy for anyone they have concequesces and you have to face them. You have toe option of stay in a loveless/bitter/miserable marriage but that will affect the little ones. Sometimes hard desicions are the best.

DannyC · Guru

godoo u brought up an interesting point

my question for u single dads and also for you single moms......why didnt u guys ever think of any of these consequences (having trouble to find a significant other down the road...baby father mama drama etc) before you decided to have children? .....unless some of you had been divorced..which changes the scenario in a way.......but to those of u that just had kids at an early age ........porque no se pusieron a pensar en estas cosas?

i ask this to all of my friends with kids .....none of them seem to come up with an answer...

not trying to stir up sh1t here...........just curious

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:17, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:21, 2008-10-02

-- Edited by DannyC at 15:25, 2008-10-02

God · Foro Master

Colombiana4Life wrote:
It may be easier for the woman, but majority of the guys out there are culicagados que solo quieren pasar el tiempo y que los terminen de criar. But heck, if that's what some of them want, whatever floats their boat.

OR, you get the other extreme of finding someone that may want to settle and stuff, but sometimes the woman is not necessarily in that frame of mind because she may just have come out of a long relationship, etc.

-- Edited by Colombiana4Life at 14:30, 2008-10-02

Believe it or not that happens to single dads too....sometimes you came across some girls all they want is to have fun...which I was totally cool with it...but again it was fling...