I think when trust is broken very hard to get it back. You'll always have that thought at the back of your head.
What about for those women that don't know and their husband constantly fool around behind their back. I know someone like that and she still doesn't know. Now tell me once she finds out should she stay eventhough he begs her that he'll never do it again? I think not!
Yeah, that is why it is tricky. It really depends on the circumstances. Frankly, those women who are constantly are cheated on and everyone else knows but them I think they (conciously or unconciously) turn a blind eye on their partner's affair due to low self-esteem.
If you are a observant confident women with your stuff together and a good relationship to start with, I think you would notice the changes in your partner if he cheats on you. I think that if it was a first offence, one time thing and he comes clean right away I may consider forgiveness (going on the fact that he must be truly sorry and he didn't just confess cuz he was going to get caught anyway)
Ok yes there are some women that turn a blind eye and I know some one those too but I'm talking about the ones that don't know exactly how many encounters he's had. Women have a pretty good intuition but sometimes it's not followed. I guess one never knows unless you are in their shoes especially if he confesses.
I think when trust is broken very hard to get it back. You'll always have that thought at the back of your head.
What about for those women that don't know and their husband constantly fool around behind their back. I know someone like that and she still doesn't know. Now tell me once she finds out should she stay eventhough he begs her that he'll never do it again? I think not!
Yeah, that is why it is tricky. It really depends on the circumstances. Frankly, those women who are constantly are cheated on and everyone else knows but them I think they (conciously or unconciously) turn a blind eye on their partner's affair due to low self-esteem.
If you are a observant confident women with your stuff together and a good relationship to start with, I think you would notice the changes in your partner if he cheats on you. I think that if it was a first offence, one time thing and he comes clean right away I may consider forgiveness (going on the fact that he must be truly sorry and he didn't just confess cuz he was going to get caught anyway)
I think when trust is broken very hard to get it back. You'll always have that thought at the back of your head.
What about for those women that don't know and their husband constantly fool around behind their back. I know someone like that and she still doesn't know. Now tell me once she finds out should she stay eventhough he begs her that he'll never do it again? I think not!
Mmm... I guess it depends on the circumstances (married or not married, kids vs no kids, one time vs affair, kiss vs sex, lied or came clean right away, sober vs drunk.. etc). My initial reaction was "hell no I would not stay", but if you are married and you have so much invested in a relationship (emotionally AND financially) you cannot afford to think only about you and your pride. I believe at times forgiveness can trump pride.
If I did decided to stay, he woudl have tow rok fraeking hard to gain my trust again though. However, if that bridge can be rebuilt then I think the marriage would be stronger.
I won't give him a second chance. It would be very difficult to trust my husband/bf again. And I beleive that when that the fundation of any relationship (besides love) is trust and respect, when those two things fail, your relationship will go nowhere. Even with kids, he would be their father , but I respect myself to much to forget what he did, not only to me but to the whole "family".
Totally agree.
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I won't give him a second chance. It would be very difficult to trust my husband/bf again. And I beleive that when that the fundation of any relationship (besides love) is trust and respect, when those two things fail, your relationship will go nowhere. Even with kids, he would be their father , but I respect myself to much to forget what he did, not only to me but to the whole "family".
Recovering from Adultery, Forgiving your partner does not mean you will forget what happened.or does it? DUHHH - forgiving may be easier than forgetting.
can you stay with her or him after she cheated? HASTA LA VISTA, BABY! You may not forget, but with time you can forgive. UH HA Though when you are married, do you have to give it a chance? you don't HAVE to, but some people seem to be more inclined to do so. It takes a long time to even begin to trust again. If one's to lose trust like that, it would be very difficult to get it back - it would take a longggg time to rebuild it.
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I think if I gotten chaeted on while I'm dating or married with no children I can say it's a good 99.9% chance I wil NOT forgive or give second chance.
Now if I got kids......I think I will do anything in my power to keep my kids in a family environment for as much as I can. Not saying things will be great but it can be modified & put back on track. I think i can take the slap in my face, the disrespect, etc of my hubby haven chaeted on me...just for my kids!!!!!!!
Recovering from Adultery, Forgiving your partner does not mean you will forget what happened.or does it?
can you stay with her or him after she cheated? NO
You may not forget, but with time you can forgive. probably
Though when you are married, do you have to give it a chance? i would say no but when u r married is a diff story so not sure
It takes a long time to even begin to trust again. and that's the biggest problem once the trust is gone is very hard to get it back and it would just creat more problems.
Recovering from Adultery, Forgiving your partner does not mean you will forget what happened.or does it?
can you stay with her or him after she cheated? You may not forget, but with time you can forgive. Though when you are married, do you have to give it a chance? It takes a long time to even begin to trust again.
