Okay, I'll admit it -- a good voice can be irresistible.
Think of the smoke-laden sound of actress Demi Moore, the whispery sultriness of Marilyn Monroe, or the raspy quality of vocalist Stevie Nicks.
They all have something in common -- their voices drip with sexual suggestiveness.
Sure, most of us only ever sound that alluring when we're battling a vicious cough, but that doesn't mean we can't tap into our seductive pipes, find some suggestive words and well-chosen scenarios, and ignite another's sexual imagination.
Yes, I am talking about the "what are you wearing?" type of phone call.
One minute you're innocently chatting, then, next thing you know the conversation has turned to sex. Suddenly you're feeling randy.
So what if you're wearing flannel pyjamas and bunny slippers? He doesn't need to know that.
In his mind, you always answer the telephone wearing a pair of lacy thong undies or an eye-popping teddy. Yeah, right.
But, phone sex is all about getting the creative, fantasy juices flowing. "It's naughty and taboo," says a 40-year-old woman who admits to having had phone-sex sessions with a man she met through a chat line some years ago.
"It was just something spontaneous to perk things up a bit. We never met in person, but things got hot and heavy and the phone sex started. His voice was very seductive," she laughs.
Part of the turn-on was the same thing that eventually led to her ending their heated exchanges.
Building the anticipation:
After two months of heavy breathing, she knew their hour-long sessions were unlikely to unfold in the flesh. Plus she was eager to meet someone she could also head out on the town with. "That's all he wanted," she explains.
"He didn't want any other conversation, and the point of the chat line was to get to know someone."
However, not meeting face-to-face might've been for the best, says sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer, author of Sex for Dummies (Wiley Publishing).
"Although some people may give great phone, you may be sorely disappointed ... if you see them in the flesh," she writes.
However, Westheimer says mutually beneficial sex chats can be a terrific tool for faraway couples wanting to maintain some level of intimacy.
"Whispering sweet nothings -- or hot somethings -- into the phone ... can let you get up close and personal at any time of the day or night," she offers.
According to a Decima Research survey released earlier this year, when it comes to exchanging "oohs" and "ahhs" over the wires, Canucks aren't a shy bunch.
Phone sex by the numbers:
More than half admit to having engaged in intimate calls, and 43% said it's an important component for long-distance relationships.
There is a draw that's hard to deny, which may be why phone sex companies continue to survive despite the easy accessibility of online porn and the recent trend of text-message sex (the younger cousins of dirty-talk dialling). Hearing another's voice delivering your fantasies directly into your ear makes the phone stand out from the pack.
Conversations can be guided, narrated, or, for those using sex chat lines, it may be viewed as a safe place -- albeit a pricey one -- to explore fantasies and fetishes without carrying them out in reality.
Part of appeal is that there's little risk of shocking -- or being judged by the seasoned pro taking the call.
While you might think delving into dirty talk would be fun, before punching in your partner's digits, find out first whether it floats their boat. Do your research:
One woman found herself in the awkward position of "faking" it when a man she was dating started getting aroused during a late-night phone call.
"The whole phone sex thing turned me off," says the 31-year-old.
"I felt like a phone sex operator who wasn't getting paid. It felt cheap ... Why wouldn't you just watch porn?" she laughs.
By the time she realized phone sex wasn't for her, it was too late.
"I found the idea of this guy (getting all worked up) like some school kid gross," she says.
She did learn something, though. "Turns out though, it's as easy to fake phone sex as it is to fake an orgasm."
-- Edited by LGigolo at 13:02, 2007-10-09
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